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ok im one of the moderators I but my question is i always type in caps except for some things and i know on the rules it says for always typing in caps well im so used it does this mean i will get banned? i really dont want to i like this advice website a lot and i want to help! thanks in advance ;] (link)
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WHEN YOU TYPE IN ALL CAPS IT LOOKS LIKE YOU'RE SCREAMING. WHICH IS VERY ANNOYING. SOME PEOPLE EVEN THINK THAT IT'S RUDE. SEE?
And since that's the rule here, you need to follow it - out of courtesy to your readers and fellow columnists.
To be honest, using the proper case, punctuation, grammar, and spelling is just like wearing a suit to a job interview; sure, you could show up in a ripped t-shirt, torn jeans, and sneakers. Heck, you could even show up stark naked.
But you're not going to get the job.
People come to this site with problems, some serious, some not-so-serious - but all of them care enough about their personal problem to ask strangers about it. You obviously *want* to give advice, or you wouldn't be here.
That implies that you want your advice to be taken seriously. If that's the case, you don't have to put on a suit; you can even type while you're naked. But you'll get more respect if you make the extra effort to present your advice properly.
Because if YOU don't respect your own writing, why should anyone else?
PS - As I typed this, I just saw that you'd made an addition closing this question. I've already typed so much, though, that I'll still post this, if you don't mind. I'd hate to waste the time I spent on this. :D
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Does anyone know where i can find the lyrics to "the end" by I-94? i looked on lyrics.com, azlyrics.com, and letssingit.com, and they dont have it. Please help, i'll rate 5's (link)
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Whenever you're looking for lyrics, start out on Google. If you know the song title, search for "lyrics" and the title, like so:
lyrics "the end"
In this case, because "the end" is such a common phrase, you could also throw in the group name, like so:
lyrics "the end" "I-94"
If you don't know the name of the song or group, but remember a fairly unique phrase from the song, search for that instead. I don't know that song, so I'll use another one in this example:
lyrics "with an oink-oink here"
You should be able to find the song you're looking for pretty easily.
By the way, watch out when you go to lyric sites. Some of them will try to infect your system with a virus or trojan. Make sure you have all of your adware and virus protection totally up-to-date, and update them at least every three days. I personally use Ad-Aware, Spybot Search & Destroy!, SpywareBlaster, and AntiVir - they're all free, and together they keep my system totally clean.
You might also click on Google's cached version of the lyrics, rather than on the lyric sites themselves. I think that Google automatically disables some of the worst stuff in their cached copies.
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i love a guy im still young but i cant get him out of my head its like a brocken old record player keeps playing the same peice of my life and i cant get over it .he was a great guy the man of my life but he cheeted on me ive already asked a question about it and all the people said i should dump him and i did but i dont know why but i know why my dad told me that if someone hit me in a relashionship if he hurt me hed kill him and i loved my dad for that but the guy did hurt me and i havent told my dad cause i know my dad will kick the crap put of him and i dont want that to happen because i do love him but thats not the problem i cant get over him the 1 i know yeah i dumped him but yes for a good reson i think im a slut ok a slut i still love jacob but im am now liking josh his best friend i brock up with jacob because i dumped him buthe said that he dumped me but the girl didnt know about use because we never told anyone causes hes popular and im not we would make out in the boiler room and that would be the end well jacob called that a relationship im not so sure but josh jacobs best friend is so diffrent hes quite and thinks for other people and himself last but if i still like one how can i like the other im a slut .i also go to a shrink because i have lo self asteem and my doctor says im getting better and i am when i was in the forth grade if anyone started at me i would cry and josh was always there to rub my shoulder but the first mistake was kissing jacob like a knife going through me but it was a drug i kept going down to the boiler room and i mostly did it cause i thought i would get popular but then i got to know jacob and well all he told me was lies it was a mistake i know that but i know jacob never liked me just wanted to do something to do wil'l skipping class and i was his toy but then i know that josh would never go out with me cause he walked into me and jacob one time cause he heard something i guess i dont know what to do i got ried of one guy which was the best thing i ever did but im having second thoughts and i like his friends how do i get over him and you know what thats not it jacob said i came on to him and that was a total lie he came on to me he said that i was the cheeter and he and the other one is still going out and jacob still looks at me like hey i remember you i went to the boiler room with you wanna come back and i look at him like what do you want but he gives me theese eyes of love and behind them i see josh so maybe im over jacob but to everyone im school im a slut cause i (this didnt happen but this is from jacobs point a veiw)
im a slut because i came one to a guy that is happily in a realationship forced him down do the boiler room and made out for a hour without him getting loose ha yeah i know i lil far feched ??!!! and to me im the trap but he doesnt get in troble if you think about like i have he cheated too but no one sees that !how do i show josh the other side of me the good side it under the pain of homileation ?
please help me im drowning in the water and have jacob and josh standing on my head .
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Your thoughts and behavior seem to be out of control. To be honest, the problems you're having are much too serious for an advice column; you clearly feel very badly about yourself, and seem to be having obsessive thoughts. I'm not a psychiatrist, but it's pretty clear that you need professional help.
Because right now you're hurting WAY too much, and you're WAY too down on yourself. You also seem to be getting into some pretty risky behavior. You shouldn't have to live that way.
You *don't* have to live that way.
I assume you've talked about all this to your therapist. If he's not helping enough, tell him so. It's important for him to know that. Ask him what more can be done to help you, because it's clear that you're feeling desperate.
If he can't help you, talk to your parents or primary care physician - or to your therapist himself - about finding a new doctor.
I'm reluctant to tell you that, because I'm just a guy writing advice on the internet, and I don't know anything about your relationship with your doctor. For example, I don't know if he's a psychiatrist, psychologist, or social worker. But in my own experience, not every doctor works for every patient. If you're not getting the help you need, you have to keep looking - because there ARE doctors who can help.
My advice (if you decide to change doctors) is to look for a psychiatrist, preferably in a relatively rich town or city area. It's sad but true that doctors in poor towns and areas tend to give worse care - that's not ALWAYS the case, but it often is. All too often "treat and street" is the standard of care for poorer patients throughout the US.
I recommend a psychiatrist because in addition to more advanced training, they're licensed to prescribe medication. Now, I don't KNOW that you need medication, but it IS a possibility from what you've said, and a psychiatrist will have that option.
Some other things I'd suggest:
Anyone who hits you or is emotionally abusive to you is someone who absolutely DOES NOT deserve to be with you. Period. Stay away from him - he's poison, as far as you're concerned.
That's easy for me to say. And I know that it will be much harder for you to do. But you need to try hard. And if you fail, you need to forgive yourself and try again.
It sounds to me as if you really need to take a break. You need to make your life *quieter*, less stressful. If you can, it would probably be good to take a break from dating, making out, sex, the whole thing. I think all that activity is stressing you out, and right now it's pretty clear that you're having a hard time coping.
I could also guess that all the making out etc. is your way of feeling better about yourself - your way of telling yourself that if boys want to be with you, you must be pretty special. The thing is, you've already found out that some boys will make out with you, and then respect you LESS. And they'll hurt you, to boot. You need to learn to appreciate yourself not just for your looks, but for who you are. That can take a lot of time and effort, but you really need to do it.
Of course, that's just a guess. I'm speculating beyond my expertise, since I don't know anything more about you and I'm not a therapist. So take that for what it's worth.
Another thing: try to be kinder to yourself. You keep saying "I'm a slut". I think you've been TOLD that, over and over, until it has been burned into your head. There's a little voice (maybe not so little) inside your head that keeps running you down to yourself. You need to listen for that voice, and when it tells you that you're a slut, shout "NO, I'M NOT!" in your head. Keep doing that, day after day, until it becomes a habit.
Perhaps I should explain that I don't really mean you actually hear a voice; that's schizophrenia, and nothing you wrote seems to indicate that you actually hear voices. I'm talking about your own thoughts, instead - you have a habit of thinking badly about yourself, and that's a habit you need to break.
And you really can do it. You don't have to suffer, the way that you are. But please make sure to get all the help that you can.
I wish you the best of luck.
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If i run for 30 minutes every day on a tred mill, how much might i lose by christmas?
also, does running on a tred mill give the same results of regular running? (link)
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There's really no way to tell how much weight you're going to lose, because there are too many other factors involved. For example, the following things could all make a big difference:
1. What you eat.
2. Your weight - the heavier you are, the more calories you burn when you run.
3. How fast you're running.
4. What the resistance or incline of the treadmill is.
5. What other exercises you do, if any.
6. Your metabolism - some people lose weight more quickly than others.
7. Your gender - boys tend to lose weight more rapidly than girls.
That said, here are some things you can do to lose weight and improve your health (assuming, of course, that you NEED to lose weight).
Make sure to eat plenty of fruits and vegetables. Drink LOTS of water. Cut down on sugar and fats. Exercise daily.
Mild weight-training every other day will tone up your muscles and give you a better shape. The new muscle tissue will burn fat even when you're not using it. Make sure to give your muscles every other day off from weight-training, to avoid hurting yourself.
Running on a treadmill gives approximately the same results as regular running. You may also want to consider using a cross-ramp training machine. Those are easier on your joints, since they reduce the impact of exercise. If you can find one that exercises your arms at the same time, you should get maximized results.
Cardiovascular exercise like running, swimming, walking, or biking revs up your metabolism, helping your body to burn fat more quickly even when you're sleeping. And you'll find that you have a lot more energy and can sleep better, too.
These are all healthy habits that will stay with you for life.
Buy you have to ENJOY your new habits - that's the key. If you can find a way to have fun eating more fruits and vegetables, and exercising, you're more likely to stick with it. Remember, none of this should be torture - if you're not enjoying it, change your routine to make it work for you.
Good luck!
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Hello. Well, when I make presentations at school or read a paper to the class, I always get nervous. I can't help it. I've tried everything: looking at the wall, looking at the people's noses, practicing a million times the night before, etc. My question is, are there any pills that help with that, or help with nervousness? If there are, are they expensive and do they actually really work? Please help soon because school is coming up. Thank you. (link)
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There are pills that treat social anxiety in some cases, but they require a prescription. And if you're only nervous when you're making a speech in public, you probably don't have social anxiety.
And you DEFINITELY don't want to try to take pills that haven't been prescribed to you. That's a really bad idea.
There's an old wives' tale that it helps to imagine that everyone in the audience is in their underwear (or naked), except for black socks, but I'm not sure if that really helps. It probably doesn't help everyone.
You might also try picking one person out of the audience - preferably a friend, preferably seated somewhere in the middle of the audience - and making your speech just to them. It's worth a try.
I can sympathize with your situation, because I had the same problem. I managed to overcome it by running very small events for groups of friends. From there, I moved to speaking publicly at events about my hobby. Now, I LOVE to speak in public, and I can entertain an audience on almost any subject with little to no prep time. But it took me years to get to that point.
There's an organization called Toastmasters which is for people who are nervous about speaking in public. Most of the members are probably older than you, but they've all gone through the same thing. They have meetings, and give each other a chance to practice their public speaking skills. You might want to check them out.
Here's their website: http://www.toastmasters.org/
I haven't tried them myself, by the way, but I know some people who have. They all seem to like it.
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me and my boyfriend want nicknames for each other but i can't think of any good nicknames for him i want it to be something different do u have any suggestions/ideas for nicknames that a girl could give a guy ? (link)
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You could call each other by your middle names, if you have them - that would be different!
Or take your two names - or two middle names - and merge them somehow (like "Bennifer", for example). Then you could call each other by that same name. You'd think that calling each other by the same name would be confusing, but it isn't - couples call each other "honey", for example, and they never get confused about who's talking to who.
Another possibility: use names from your favorite book, song, movie, or TV show.
Good luck!
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my boyfriend and I have been together for 7 months and we're both religious and waiting for marriage before we have sex. recently we've been really open and getting comfortable with eachother. we've been talking about sex a lot on the phone, not us doing it, just positions and what feels good. last weekend I jerked him off, and afterwards I got really upset. then yesterday we had dry sex. it was just like the real thing just with our pants on. After every time we do that stuff we promise eachother we won't do that again, but everytime we're in a bedroom it happens. Please help I'm so upset & disappointed in myself and it's so hard to not do these things with him cause I trust him so much. But we're only teenagers and I dont want to do it, plus its against my religion. He never forces me to do anything, I just do it... help =[ (link)
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Well, first of all, you two HAVE to stay out of bedrooms. :D
You need to set up barriers, you see. If self-control is a problem, you have to make sure that you're not tempted. That means thinking ahead, to times when you two will be alone and have the opportunity. And then you have to find ways to avoid those situations.
(If you do end up having sex, though, please be sure to do so SAFELY - which means, use birth control.)
And try not to feel too terrible about yourself in the meantime. You're both facing a level of temptation that many, many people cannot resist. It's not a failing of you as a person; it's your hormones, which are in overdrive. These urges are built in to your body to ensure that you will reproduce, and they're incredibly difficult to overcome. If you fail, don't be too hard on yourselves.
But it CAN be done. You have to use all of your willpower, and supplement that by being smart. Use your brain to avoid temptation, and you should be able to make it to your wedding day without giving in.
Good luck!
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My friend Jennifer and I have been good friends since 7th grade but our freshmen year we became really far apart. I got a boyfriend and she felt rejected. Well I tried to reconnect with her hear the last few months and now she has a boyfriend. I invite her places with me and she always comes up with rediculious excuses to not go. I invited her to a concert with me and she didn't go because her boyfriend came to her house. I never blew her off like this. We have our old conservations on the phone and talk at lest 2 hours every other day. I just dont know what to say or do. I want to go to the old ways. (link)
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Unfortunately life changes after you start dating. It changes more after you get married, and that's NOTHING compared to the changes after you have children. But I hope you don't have to worry about *that* for quite a while. :D
If you're still having two-hour conversations with her on the phone, it sounds like she misses you, too. Maybe you could arrange a double date for you two and your boyfriends. Something where you won't have to spend a lot of time making conversation; a movie, maybe. But if she keeps coming up with ridiculous reasons not to go, you have two options:
1. You could just flat-out ask her why she doesn't want to hang out with you (but try really hard to ask NICELY). She might get upset and feel that you're confronting her, though, which could jeopardize what's left of your friendship. So think carefully, and decide if risking what you have now is worth it.
2. You could also just give it time. She went through a bad time, I'm guessing, when you had a boyfriend and she didn't; that was probably pretty painful. You might want to give her a few months, or even longer. Keep talking on the phone with her, if you both still want to, and eventually you'll probably start hanging out again.
Good luck!
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Today i was just watching t.v and i felt something wet, and it was my breast and i checked it out and white stuff was coming out! what is this? PLz help! imscared (link)
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A clear discharge could be a sign of infection. You should certainly call your doctor or OB/GYN.
Good luck!
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Hello!
I have two questions.
1) I recently got two warts burned off the top of my hand. It left these two circles with a dark rim and a pinkish inside. My docotor gave me a bleaching product called Epiquin? I believe. Will these be scars for life? Anything else I can do?
2) Also, I got two more warts taken off my index finger but this time by using the agent that makes you blister. I believe it is called catharidim??? I got a little antsy and popped both blisters with a needle which I had burned with a lighter right before I used it (to sanitize). Now the blisters are gone but there is a raised pinkish sort of "harder" skin where the blisters where. Will these go away? I thought this treatment was not supposed to leave scars but will it scar because I used a needle and could have infected it? What to do???
THANKS SO MUCH! Im sick of having these ugly warts, then scars on my hands :-(
THANKS AGAIN (link)
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Some people scar more than others - for example, redheads tend to scar pretty badly - but in any case, scars from wart removal are very unlikely to last for the rest of your life.
It may take a few months for the scars to disappear, but they should be gone by the end of the year.
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i no a guy who waz raped by a 40 year old women
What do i tell my friend (link)
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There's a common misconception that men can't be raped. There's also a common misconception that men can't be raped by women.
Both are untrue.
What makes it tough is that a man who has been raped faces even more scorn and skepticism than a woman in the same situation!
Your friend needs support. Professional support. If you haven't been raped, you can't know how devastating it is.
Here's the website of a national rape victim support network:
http://www.rainn.org/
They also have a toll-free, 24-hour phone number: 1-800-656-4673.
The website also has some advice for friends of rape victims, so you might want to check it out for yourself.
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Does anyone know how much the Jenny Craig program costs all together? I go to her website and it says "Get 6 weeks of food for $36*.
(*-Plus the cost of food.)"
Does anyone know how much this actually costs?!?! anyone?
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Six weeks of Jenny Craig can run you about $600 for everything.
Meals are $65 a week, supplements are $4.50 a week, and you have to buy additional fruits and vegetables. It sounds as if they're offering a discount on membership, but you're almost certainly still looking at over $75 per week.
And remember, watch or read their ads carefully and you'll see the words "results not typical". Lots of people lose very little weight or no weight at all on programs like Jenny Craig. A few people lose a LOT of weight - they're the people that they put into the advertisements. But those people have great metabolisms, and would probably have lost weight using ANY program, or just a home program of sensible eating and exercise.
And that's your best choice in any case, unless you're really overweight (I'm talking 60 lbs. or more, for most people). By making sure to eat plenty of fruits and vegetables, drinking LOTS of water, cutting down on sugar and fats, and getting some exercise every day, you'll get better result than you're likely to get from Jenny Craig. And it will cost you a LOT less money, and you'll develop healthy habits that will stay with you for life.
You have to enjoy your new habits - that's the key. If you can find a way to have fun eating more fruits and vegetables, and exercising, you're more likely to stick with it. Remember, none of this should be torture! Walking is a fine exercise, and so is swimming. Mild weight-training will tone up your muscles and give you a better shape. Cardiovascular exercise (walking, running, jogging, swimming, biking, or aerobics) will rev up your metabolism, helping your body to burn fat more quickly even when you're sleeping! And you'll find that you have a lot more energy and can sleep better, too.
If you're severely overweight, speak to your doctor. S/he may recommend a medically-supervise liquid diet program, or even some form of stomach surgery. But unless you're grotesquely obese, that's really unlikely.
And please remember that stomach surgery is serious. Some people die from it every year, and if you've never had surgery, take my word for it: it's NOTHING like what they show on TV. On TV people go into surgery and within half an hour on the show they're awake and feeling fine. What they don't show you on TV is that even after minor surgery, you HURT. You KNOW your body has been cut open, and it hurts for quite a while. Medication can make that tolerable, but no one in their right mind would get surgery if they could get the same results by a healthy program of eating and exercise.
Good luck!
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Evangelism shakes up society: Yep, they nailed Jesus to a cross. Thank you Jesus for being the perfect example!
The Rich: Yes. Jesus said, “How hard it is for the rich to enter the kingdom of God.” Those riches that these people cling too will all fade away eventually and if Jesus wasn’t the center of their life, these people will perish with their riches.
Dieing for God: I can give you testimony upon testimony of how I KNOW (not think I know, but actually know) God’s will for my life and when I die, whether by natural means or killed because of my faith, I will be with Him forever. Only someone who has a relationship with God through His Son Jesus can understand this. You obvious have read the scripture, but your knowledge without relationship will not help you at all in the end.
Killing for God: There is a huge difference between dieing for ones faith in Jesus and killing like the terrorists do. The terrorists are fighting a spiritual battle with natural means. Their God is false and a lie. Satan is the father of lies.
Laws of the land: God's Word says to protect the innocent, that He knew us before we were born, and murder is a sin. Although the law of the land makes abortion legal, God’s law surpasses that and Christians have a moral responsibility to make that known.
There is a lot to merit living ones life before others and being an example before them; to lead them to the Word. Jesus’ life is my example and the scripture says to follow His example. Jesus did not sit back and just live His life. He confronted. He healed. He spoke-up. He taught. And He died. Why? Because He loves us.
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I've started this several times, in several different ways, only to erase what I've written and start over. The problem is, there isn't really a common ground for us to have a discussion on this topic.
I gave you the best answer I could, being clear that I am not a Christian, in part because I like to answer questions and also because I've studied the Bible and the history of religions - most particularly Christianity - quite a bit.
That said, I tried to make my answer as accurate and honest as I could. But please note that since I am not a Christian, I was giving you an outsider's viewpoint: my guess as to why so many Christians aren't particularly interested in actively proselytizing. I have a background in sociology and anthropology, among other things, and it's from that perspective that I was primarily answering.
When you get down to it, the truth is that faith is a matter of personal religious revelation - the product of an emotional experience. You KNOW God's will for your life, because you've had that personal religious experience. I, and many others, have not. So while you may be sure that He is the only way, there are others who just as firmly believe that their own way is true.
I can assure you that there are Jews, and Hindus, and Moslems, and Wiccans, and members of other faiths who are just as certain that they "know" the truth as you are. Some have died to prove their faith.
Yes, as I said, you don't believe that their "gods" are real. But they don't agree. They "know" that YOUR God is a false one. They've seen and spoken with Allah, or Shiva, or whoever, and believe with absolute faith.
And here I've run into trouble again. I might as well be writing to you in Swahili, because no matter what I say, I know that you won't believe me. You KNOW that your sect of Christianity is the only way, and that's that.
Nor am I going to try to persuade you otherwise! For one thing, I couldn't possibly succeed. For another, I don't WANT to change your mind. You are free to believe as you wish. You are even free to try to persuade others to believe as you do, as long as you respect their basic rights as citizens.
When you talk about dying for God, though, I will admit: I worry. History is filled with examples of terrible atrocities committed in the name of God - and even of Jesus - by people who KNEW the "truth".
But again, I know that I'm not going to convince you of that. And I don't really want to. So all I can do is wish you well, and ask you to consider that others who differ with your beliefs deserve the right to follow their own consciences without persecution.
Faith cannot be forced.
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a boy at my school likes me and i dont like him and hes like stooking me hes at my looker and in my class i keep telling him to leave me alone and he still calls and i dont even now where he got my number and my boyfriend thinks im cheeting on him with him i keep telling him im not but he doesnt belive me by a boy stocking me its ruining my reltionship and i love him what should i do (link)
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There are several things you need to do.
1. Tell your parents. They should go with you to talk to the principal.
2. If that doesn't help, make sure that your parents and the principal know that he's still bothering you. You'll probably need to go to the police. DON'T call 911, though, unless that boy is actually threatening you right then. Look up the main number for the local police station, and tell them you're being stalked. Laws about stalking are different from state to state, so the police will tell you what your options are. A restraining order is usually available.
But it almost certainly won't go that far. The principal should be able to get this matter settled for you.
Good luck, and be careful!
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there was this time that my boyfriend masturbated and semen did came of.. then he wiped his hands with his handkerchief.. then he fingered me.. do you think i could get pregnant with what happened? even if he wiped off the semen on his hands after masturbating? i need advice badly..
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The odds are incredibly small. Stranger things HAVE happened, but it's really, really unlikely; one in a million sounds like the right odds to me.
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about a month ago my boyfriend and I slept together. recently, i've noticed a ton of crazy things. my boobs are really soft and they hurt alot; my stomach randomly gets sharp pains in it or tingly type things, i have really bad headaches, i sleep more than usual and i kinda pee alot. i think i'm pregnant. my friend is buying me a test so i'll know tomorrow for sure. but is a month long enough that it will actually detect anything? please help. i'm 15 and im kinda lost at this whole situation. (link)
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From what you're saying, it's certainly very possible that you're pregnant. Those are definitely some of the symptoms.
If it happened a month ago, a home pregnancy test will be able to tell if you're pregnant. You'll need to read all the instructions carefully, and use the test correctly. If the results are positive, you should go to your OB/GYN or doctor for a confirming test immediately - although modern home tests are pretty reliable.
Your OB/GYN will be able to tell you what options you have.
If you're pregnant, and you choose to stay pregnant, there are a lot of things that you'll need to do. You should stop smoking, if you smoke, and give up alcohol, if you drink. Avoiding caffeine is also a very good idea. You'll need to take prenatal vitamins, too. Follow your OB/GYN's advice.
If you're NOT pregnant, it would be smart to take a lesson from this experience. ALWAYS practice safe sex: use condoms EVERY TIME, and read the instructions so that you're sure you're using them right. It would also be smart to use a second type of birth control, such as the Pill; talk to your OB/GYN to find out your options.
If you don't have an OB/GYN, you can get some useful information from Planned Parenthood online:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/pp2/portal/
They should be able to help you find a local OB/GYN or clinic.
Good luck!
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why are christians so afraid to share there faith! im a christian and im not afraid at all. why cant the "christians" who wont die for God stop calling themselves christians! (link)
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There are many different sects of Christianity, and not all agree with each other on how to interpret different passages in the Bible.
As a result, they don't all share the same understanding of how to proselytize.
In general, older, more established "mainstream" Christian sects tend to become more "respectable". Evangelizing, by its very nature, shakes society up; it rocks the boat. Sects which have become part of the social elite naturally resist disrupting the fabric of society.
It's like this. If a church has a lot of rich, socially-respected members, they don't want things to change too much. Change is risky when you have a lot; it's more likely that you could lose the good things that you have.
A poor church, on the other hand, has less to lose and more to gain by spreading the word and gaining more members.
Historically, there have been many churches that wouldn't WANT to convert a bunch of poor people - they wouldn't want those people to come to their church.
I should point out that this isn't true only of Christian churches; it's common for all sorts of religions, and for clubs and organizations, too.
Now, as for dying for God: that worries me. Because the truth is, people don't die for God; they die for what THEY THINK God wants. According to Christian theology (and in fairness I should note that I'm not a Christian, although I've read the Bible many times), human beings are imperfect. We're all flawed with the taint of Original Sin, and Christ was the only perfect human being. So when we are willing to die (or kill) for God, there's a very good chance that we will be WRONG.
The terrorists on 9/11 believed that they were dying for God. You, I'm sure, believe that they were wrong; that their god was a false one. You may be right. I'm not a Moslem, either, so I have no opinion on that.
The point is that human beings are flawed, and make mistakes; that's very clear, if you read the Bible. And your life is a gift from God. To sacrifice that life without being sure that you're doing what God wants you to do with it is wrong. Isn't it? And you can't really be sure.
The Bible is very large, and even people who've studied it all their lives can't always agree on what it all means. So I'd suggest studying it for yourself, and thinking (and praying) very hard about it.
You can certainly share the good word. But since you're living in a tolerant, pluralistic society, part of your resposibility as a member of that society is to allow others the right not to believe as you do. You cannot FORCE others to believe; it simply doesn't work.
And remember, Jesus commanded his followers to respect the laws of the land:
And Jesus answering said unto them, Render to Caesar the things that are Caesar's, and to God the things that are God's. (Mark 12:17)
I believe that the most effective evangelizing technique is to lead others to the Word by your own example, for the most part. Live the best life that you can, in service to others and to God, and those that witness your dedication will be inspired to follow your path.
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Do you think if you don't masturbate you dick gets bigger ? (link)
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Absolutely not. And masturbating doesn't cause blindness, or hair to grow out of the palms of your hands, or anything like that.
Just to be perfectly clear, there is NOTHING in the world that will cause your penis to become bigger than it would normally be. There are sleazy companies that will take your money and sell you pumps, or pills, or lotions (I know, I used to work for one of those companies for a little while, a long time ago), but NONE OF THOSE THINGS WORK.
But don't worry about size. The fact is that the average male is only about six inches long, and around four inches around when erect. That means that about half of all men are *shorter* than six inches! And yet almost all of them have no problem getting intimate with women, pleasing them sexually, and impregnating them.
I won't lie to you: some women do prefer larger men, the same way that some men prefer women with larger breasts. And size isn't TOTALLY irrelevant to pleasure; men with extremely small penises can have some difficulties pleasing a woman, it's true. But the HUGE majority of men have no problem with it. And even for men with unusually small penises, there are alternative ways to please a woman.
In any case, there's nothing you can do about it, and you'll probably end up being quite normal in size anyway. So don't worry about it.
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does anone know if walking backwards helps your butt get smaller? if it does how often and how long. no links plz
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Walking backwards, or sideways, is good exercise for the buttocks. But it's not likely to affect the size of your butt; unless you're thin as a post and work out like crazy, the size of your butt is due to fat more than muscle.
Working out the buttocks will tone them, and might change your shape a LITTLE bit, but it won't particularly burn the fat in your butt. Your body's chemistry determines where fat is going to be be, and no matter how much you work out a specific area, if you're burning fat your body won't take it from that area only - it will take it from all over your body.
You'd get better results from general cardiovascular exercise (running, swimming, biking), some moderate weight-training, and eating a healthy diet featuring a wide variety of vegetables and fruits.
There are a lot of silly miracle-cures that get passed around, particularly on the web. One day people say that eating nothing but pickles will help you lose weight, and the next day it's an all-red-meat diet. Or a new exercise, or something.
It's a good idea to be pretty skeptical when you hear about a miracle cure like that. It's usually not true. Obviously you were a little suspicious of this one, or you wouldn't have checked here. Good for you!
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My boyfriend & I haven't really talked about the subject of "love". We've known eachother a while & we were friends prior to dating & I think I love him. I know 13 is young so I'm not sure. Is there anyway to bring it up to him? Will it just come up in a conversation one day? There have been certain things he's said that leads to me thinking that. For example, we got into this big fight (just a few weeks ago ... yes, we were dating) & I said "Do you hate me?" and he said "no, the exact opposite... do you feel the same way?" and I said "ya." Does that sound like he was talking about love or just the common liking we have for eachother? (link)
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If he said "the exact opposite", then it sounds to me like he was talking about love. I think he loves you.
Now, 13 IS awfully young. On the other hand, even very old people like me aren't entirely sure what love is, to tell you the truth. So if he says he loves you, I wouldn't worry about it.
After all, "love" is just a word. It's a label people use for a feeling. But those feelings are probably different for every single person in the world. Don't confuse the label for the reality, and don't let worrying about the meaning of "love" take ONE SECOND away from enjoying the real thing.
If you're happy with him, BE happy. Enjoy every minute of it that you can, because every minute of it is precious.
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