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hi...if u got muscle on ur arms and shoulders an chest an have no abs couse the fat is hiding it if i run to lose the fat will my arms be the same size couse thatz what i want or will i go skinny on the arms from running thanks...
Running and other aerobic exercise will help you lose fat. What will be left is muscle... so you'll be able to see the definition in your arms and abs better.
Why are black people more commonly centered in the inner city, and why are white people more spread out among the suburbs?
After the Civil War, when slaves were given freedom, many former slaves moved north to find factory work in the large industrial cities. At the same time, a lot of poor immigrants were arriving from Europe, and also settled in the cities to find work. Parts of the city that were once inhabited by wealthy business owners (mostly white) turned into slums, so these families moved out of the city into the suburbs. In some cases, the children and grandchildren of the poor city dwellers were eventually able to afford the more expensive suburban homes. But many were caught in a cycle - working all the time to make ends meet left little time for education - and their descendants remained in the cities.
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I'm on the slim4life diet and have been for about a month. I keep cheating. It's making the weight loss slow down. I don't tell anyone I do but I am and I feel like I can't help it. Iv'e gotten a little better on self control but it's hard not to cheat. especally being a teenager and all my friends eat food like I want but can't have. I'm really trying my hardest not to cheat. Anyone have tips to stop eating off plan foods?
Well, this is going to sound a little crazy and disgusting, but... I once read about this idea in a diet magazine. If there's a certain type of food that you have a hard time passing up (pizza, for example, or chocolate)... imagine that food sitting in a toilet, covered in the most disgusting stuff that you can imagine that would be in a toilet. I guess the idea is to make that food so revolting that you won't want to eat it ever again. Kinda weird, I know... but maybe it will work for you?
I'm a 14 year old female. I am 5 foot 2, and I weigh a little over 130 pounds. I'm very concerned about my weight lately, because I'm not the thinnest person, and people deffinately notice. This summer, I'm really working on my image and toning up. Every night, I drink 2 tablespoons of apple cider vinegar, I do push-ups which I increase by 2 everyday [I'm on 14 right now.] I also do sit-ups[which I do depending on what I feel like.] I'm noticing a few results, and my health freak of a sister said that I looked thinner today. What else can I do? I want the quickest way to lose my weight, and tone up. I want to be at least down to 110 by the time school starts back up. I also want to lose my chest but I have no idea how to. I've tried squats, but I'm not sure how to do them right. I am also going to try step-ups. I really can't walk or run because I don't live in the safest kind of neighborhood, and my mother is a saftey nut. What can I do in the privacy of my room?
The exercises you're doing are great for toning up your body and building muscle, but the best way to shed pounds is through aerobic exercise; that is, something that gets your heart pumping and gets you sweating! Find something that you enjoy doing, and do it for 30 minutes every day. Jumproping is great, or you might try getting an aerobics video. If you like to dance, just turn on some music and dance in front of the mirror for half an hour every day. As for losing your chest... breasts are made up mostly of fat, and when you start to lose weight, that's often the first part of your body to start shrinking. You can't make your chest smaller than it's naturally meant to be, but getting your weight down should make some difference. Good luck, and keep up the good work!
Okay well I do gymnastics every monday and ever since i was little i LOVEDD it i always wanted to do it.. and right now i STINK! i wanna be able to do a back walkover SOOO badly but everytime i try i cant do it!!!! and i look on websites for tips and they basically all say start with one of ur legs in the air but whenver i do that i get scared and fall!! i really need better tips on how to do those.. also backhandsprings we are learning them in gymnsatics and im like the only one who cant do them! and im so upset i have no where to practice at my house. So i need tips for that too and were to practice.. PLEASE HELP!!
The first step to doing a back walkover is to have a good, strong bridge. In a good bridge, your arms should be straight, with your shoulders right over your hands (so there's a straight line from your hands to your shoulders). If you aren't flexible enough to get in that position yet, try this: standing with your back towards a wall, walk your hands down the wall to the floor. When your hands are on the floor (with your wrists touching the wall), press your armpits back and try to touch them to the wall.
Once you have a good bridge, the next step is doing a backbend on your own. Push your hips forward at the same time you stretch your shoulders waaaay back. Have someone spot you by supporting your back to keep you from going back too fast (if your hands hit the ground too fast, or at a bad angle, you could break a wrist).
Next step: kicking over. before you try kicking over, try rocking back and forth in your bridge, pushing your armpits back past your hands, and pushing your feet off the ground. You want to get as much power as you can pushing you back over your hands.
Once you have a really good backbend and kickover, it's pretty easy to do it with one foot pointed forward. Starting the walkover with one leg held up in front is the most advanced step.
Back Handsprings: You shouldn't try this on your own at home, but there is a good drill you can do to help you learn it faster. Standing at the end of your bed, jump backwards and land flat on your back on the bad, swinging your arms back and trying to go as far back as you can. This will help get your legs stronger for the jumping back part, and will also help your body get used to jumping back in the right direction.
Good luck!
well in cheerleading, therese all those jumps, how can i get good at them.
&get better at splits, like will stretching daily help?
To do good jumps, you need to develop strength and power in your legs. There are many exercises you can do to strengthen your legs, but the best one is simply jumping! Bend your knees and jump up as high as you can; land it, and do it again, 20 or 30 times in a row. (Be sure not to bounce into the jumps - land each one and then do another). The higher you can jump, the more time you'll have in the air to get your legs up into the position you want.
Besides jumping high, you also need power to snap your legs quickly into position. A good drill for toe touches: standing straight, kick one leg up at an angle, as high and as quickly as you can. Do 20 or 30 repetitions on each leg. Be sure your knee is pointing up to the ceiling, and not sideways toward the wall.
Stretching daily will definitely help you get your splits. Go down as far as you can and hold it for 5 minutes. Each minute, take a deep breath, and as you let it out, go down a little further. If you like to watch TV, you could do this every time a commercial comes on.
Okay, so my 'friends' were the best of friends a girl could ever have, in the beginning of the school year (long ass time ago) Then in the middle of the year things started to change. I didn't feel the love that friends are supposed to have for eachother (in a friend way). And they are constantly labeling me goth. And I am always the one that is made fun of. But then a girl named Haley started hanging out with us. At first it was all the same for me. But then they all started talking behind her back. I would NEVER join in on those conversations, I would defend her. Then one day me and Haley were still eating lunch, and they left. So when we are done we go find them. And they start bitching on how Haley should just leave, so she leaves and I go with her. And that is the start of our great friendship. I mean, it's like we are sisters. We constantly hang out. (of course it isn't just us isolating (sp?) ourselves, we hang out with MANY more people, but we are always together, no matter who we hang out with) And we always have something to talk about, anyways I haven't hung out with my other 'friends' for awhile. Then a few days ago, I hung out with them after school, and they kept saying 'Why are you hanging out with Haley, she is some goth freak, is that why you hang out with her? I hate Haley, just stop hanging out with her!' And I don't want to stop hanging out with her, but my 'friends' won't stop bugging me about it, I don't want to go back to the old ways with them making fun of me, and them being rude and labeling me. And I can't ditch Haley, what should I do??
well... I know a girl who hangs out with everyone - preps, jocks, goths, nerdy people, i mean *everyone*. she's not just "nice" to them, she actually hangs out them at different times. everyone likes her and she's one of the most popular girls at our school. unfortunately, most people don't have the confidence to do that. they're afraid that if they hang out with a certain type of person, they'll start to be labeled as a part of that group. so they stick with their own group and shun people from other groups. it sounds like that's the case with your friends - they're afraid that if they accept Haley, they'll be seen as "goth freaks" too. it's a shame, but it's actually very normal and there's probably nothing you can do about your friends' insecurity. the best you can do is sit down and have a talk with them, or write them a note. explain that while you realize they don't care for Haley, you see some qualities in her that you really like, and you're going to continue to be her friend. but that you also really value their friendship and hope that you can continue to be friends with them as well. that's really all you can do, because obviously you really like Haley and you don't want to lose her friendship. hopefully your other friends will be mature enough to understand. good luck!
me and my best friend started a friends with benefits relationship about a month before he broke up with his girlfriend, which i felt bad about but we have this very strong sexual attraction that has lasted for years and we can't break the habbit. ok so thats bad enough that he cheated but are people who are involved in friends with benefits relationships considered whores? just because we can screw with 'just a friend'. it's not like i'd screw anyone, i trust my best friend very much. would you think i was a whore?
I'm sorry, but yes; screwing around with someone who you're not in an exclusive relationship with is basically being a whore. Don't be fooled; "friends with benefits" is just a nice-sounding term people have made up to make acting like a slut not seem so bad. I know a lot of people do it, but that doesn't mean it's a good thing to do.
okay well i have this friend who had been my best friend fot the past 3 years now. 6 months ago she found herself a boyfriend who she has liked since 6th grade(3 years ago)in the beginning he was the better of her ex boyfriends but now he is a total jerk. all he wants to do is makeout and go to 2nd wherever they are. when she isn't around or not paying attention he makes these really annoying/hurtful comments either to me and my friends or to someone about someone else and i hate it. all of my friends and my best friends friends hate him and know where i am coming from. Jess(my bf) really likes him. i dont know if she likes HIM or the IDEA of having a boyfriend. we have been fighting so much with any little thing i say about him. when he is with her she forgets that my friends and i are there. her boyfriend bobby will randomly walk up to her while her and i are having a conversation and start making out with her. i have come to hate him and i cant stand to be around him. i have told jess all of this a ton of times but she claims she loves him. and her and i never get alone time. i just dont know what i should do because she likes him and knows i hate him and still no progress with anything is being made.(ex. trying to not forget im there) what should i do? ps sorry this is so long
There are two things going on here, so I'm going to address them separately:
Number one, your friend is going out with someone who is apparently not a real nice guy. You know she's gonna end up being hurt, and you're genuinely worried about her. Unfortunately, there's not a whole lot you can do about this. You've already told her what you think of him, but she's still crazy about him. As they say, love is blind. If you keep saying bad things about him (even though they may be true), she's only gonna get defensive and angry with you. She may accuse you of being jealous or meddlesome, because she's not ready to see the truth. She's gonna have to find out on her own what a jerk he is. And when she does, she's going to need her friends' shoulders to cry on. So just realize that and be there for her.
Number two: you're feeling rejected by your friend because she's ditched you for a boyfriend. (You'd probably feel this even if he was a great guy). This happens all the time! It's hard to learn how to balance friends and a boyfriend. Try not to take it as a personal rejection. Your friend still loves you and needs you, she's just to preoccupied to realize that you're feeling left out. Just tell her that you miss spending "girl time" with her and try to plan some shopping trips, sleepovers, etc. that don't include him. But keep this separate from the other issue (that he's a jerk).
okay well i have this friend who had been my best friend fot the past 3 years now. 6 months ago she found herself a boyfriend who she has liked since 6th grade(3 years ago)in the beginning he was the better of her ex boyfriends but now he is a total jerk. all he wants to do is makeout and go to 2nd wherever they are. when she isn't around or not paying attention he makes these really annoying/hurtful comments either to me and my friends or to someone about someone else and i hate it. all of my friends and my best friends friends hate him and know where i am coming from. Jess(my bf) really likes him. i dont know if she likes HIM or the IDEA of having a boyfriend. we have been fighting so much with any little thing i say about him. when he is with her she forgets that my friends and i are there. her boyfriend bobby will randomly walk up to her while her and i are having a conversation and start making out with her. i have come to hate him and i cant stand to be around him. i have told jess all of this a ton of times but she claims she loves him. and her and i never get alone time. i just dont know what i should do because she likes him and knows i hate him and still no progress with anything is being made.(ex. trying to not forget im there) what should i do? ps sorry this is so long
There are two things going on here, so I'm going to address them separately:
Number one, your friend is going out with someone who is apparently not a real nice guy. You know she's gonna end up being hurt, and you're genuinely worried about her. Unfortunately, there's not a whole lot you can do about this. You've already told her what you think of him, but she's still crazy about him. As they say, love is blind. If you keep saying bad things about him (even though they may be true), she's only gonna get defensive and angry with you. She may accuse you of being jealous or meddlesome, because she's not ready to see the truth. She's gonna have to find out on her own what a jerk he is. And when she does, she's going to need her friends' shoulders to cry on. So just realize that and be there for her.
Number two: you're feeling rejected by your friend because she's ditched you for a boyfriend. (You'd probably feel this even if he was a great guy). This happens all the time! It's hard to learn how to balance friends and a boyfriend. Try not to take it as a personal rejection. Your friend still loves you and needs you, she's just to preoccupied to realize that you're feeling left out. Just tell her that you miss spending "girl time" with her and try to plan some shopping trips, sleepovers, etc. that don't include him. But keep this separate from the other issue (that he's a jerk).
Alright, so i have problems opening up. I know my boyfriend gets frusterated sometimes because i'll be upset and not tell him whats wrong for a while. Its like i have a hard time saying whats on my mind while the time is right. I really do try and open up and communicate better but its something thats kind of hard for me, for some reason. Its like when I'm talking to him I dont tell him things that I should and then when I hang up I think of things I should have told him. Does anyone else have this problem or have any advice on how to work on communicating better? Thanks. (18/f)
I think a lot of girls do this. When something is bothering us, we keep it inside and just act mad or quiet, instead of coming out and saying what's wrong. I think it's because we're afraid our guy will think we're being silly or nagging or whiney, or that opening up will start a big fight. Or we think, "he should KNOW what's wrong! I shouldn't have to tell him!" But most of the time, guys honestly have no clue what's bothering us! And if we don't tell them, we aren't giving them the chance to correct the problem. If you find it hard to talk about a problem in person, try writing a note. Then you can take your time and word it exactly the way you want. You can start off by saying, "Something has been bothering me, and I thought it was better to let you know instead of keeping it inside, because I really care about you and don't want this to get in the way of our relationship." But whether you say it in person or in a note, it really is best to get things off your chest. Keeping it inside and acting angry or distant will not get it solved - it will just make things worse.
Im still a virgin and i was wondering to thoses who are no longer a virgin do you wish you were or are you glad you had sex cause i want to have sex but then again when getting married it would be alot more fun
well i wasnt a virgin when i got married, but my husband and i both wished we had waited so we would have something special to give each other. also, we had done pretty much everything before we got married, so on our wedding night, it was like "well, this isn't anything new." in fact, i think we both just fell asleep because we were so tired after the wedding!
everbody(even guys) keeps asking me who i like,but i actully dont like anyone....
how do i get them to stop asking without me having to find someone?
People love to be matchmakers! There may be someone who likes you, and your friends are trying to find out if you like them back, so they can get you together. If you aren't attracted to anyone just now, there's nothing you can do about it. You can't force yourself to like someone. But try not to get too irritated with your friends... they're just trying to "help"! When people ask you, just laugh it off and say "I *really* don't like anyone right now!"
A few nights ago me and my boyfriend for a little over a year went further sexually and he ending up eating me out.this was something i swore i would never do because i thought of it as repulsive. At first when he was asking i told him no but eventually i gave in.. after we were done i cried. I dont know why I cried.. i mean i love him and everything and it was my choice.. i dont know whats going on. I need help. why did I cry??
You cried because you did something you didn't want to do; you didn't enjoy it, and you felt bad about breaking your word to yourself (that you would never do it). You were also probably a little worried about your boyfriend being grossed out by it, since the thought of it grossed YOU out, and maybe worried that it might change his feelings toward you. (You shouldn't worry about that - he wanted to do it, and if he thought it was repulsive, he wouldn't have done it). Guys want to do that because they think the girl will enjoy it (they like getting blow jobs, so they figure girls will enjoy oral sex too). So i wouldn't worry about what your boyfriend thinks. But in the future, if there's something you really don't want to do, stick to your guns and don't do it.
my bf wants to eat me out & he told me that he was going to but i told him that i thinks its just kind of sick. Am i wrong? Dosnt it smell bad, especially if their down there? I just dont get why they would want to.
well, i've never really understood why a guy would want to do that, either. I suppose their thinking is "well, it feels good when she does it to me, so I want to give her the same pleasure." And if the girl enjoys it, that's great. I've had it done to me, but I couldn't enjoy it because I kept thinking "ewwww, isn't it gross for him?" But if the woman doesn't mind it and actually enjoys it, then it can make you both feel good. :]
what is giving head im so clueless how do you give it??? and what does you cherry pop mean is it just some weird way of saying having sex for the first time just wondering
Giving head is the same thing as a blow job, or "going down" on a guy: it means putting his penis in your mouth and massaging it with your lips and tongue until he has an orgasm. you can do the same thing with your hand, and then its called a hand job.
A "cherry" is another word for a hymen, a thin piece of skin over your vagina that gets torn (or "popped") the first time you have sex. Actually, many girls' hymens/cherries are torn before they've had sex, either from sports or strenuous exercise, using tampons, etc, and most of the time they don't even notice it. But whether the hymen is still there or not, people use the term "popped her cherry" to mean having sex for the first time.
14/f
I have never used a tampon before. I am too scared because i dont know what it feels like, or if i put it in the right spot, or even how to find the right spot. Please help
and thanks in advance
I know, it's kinda scary the first time you use one! And even though the tampons come with directions and diagrams, its still hard to figure out! Here's what I recommend: feel around there with your finger and kinda try to push around a bit until you get the idea of where the tampon will go. You can even use a mirror to take a look, but feeling with your finger is really even more helpful. I know, it might seem weird, but it's just your body and its really good to be familiar with it. Once you're ready... make sure you pick a day when your period is at its heaviest. That makes everything more slippery and it will be easier to put in. Get the smallest tampons you can find (there's a junior and lite size that's really thin). It sometimes helps to put a little vasaline on the tip of the applicator, to help it go in. Aim it for your tailbone, and wiggle & twist the tampon around until it goes in. The most important part, though, is to RELAX! If your muscles are tense, it will be harder to go in and it might hurt more. But if you are relaxed, it shouldn't hurt much at all. And after you've done it once or twice, it wont hurt at all. It's kind of a pain the first time you do it, but it is soooo worth it not having to wear some big ole diaper-like pad all the time!
I don't personally wear abercrombie or hollister, because i know longer like it. mostly because, loser people pushed me away from it. they told me that i was being a follower, and that i should get my own taste in fashion. well, that was my taste in fashion. i actually liked it. i wasn't just following the crowd. and now, that i dont shop there. im like lost, i never know where to go. and thats not fair, that they always bugged me about it. and i even see like, on here, where people say that if you buy that stuff, then you dont know what fashion is, and your not grown up because you cant get your own opinion on things. well isnt that kinda being judgemental? i mean, not everyone is just following the crowd. i dont understand why some people make such a big deal out of it. i mean, why cant people just wear whatver they want? its just clothing? why dont those people just care about themselves? and worry whats going on with them?
i honestly, dont get that. so if your one of those people who told people that people are followers who wear abercrombie, or whatver. just someone please explain this to me.
There are three types of people (fashion-wise):
1) People who want to wear what everyone else is wearing, because they want to fit in. They like the attention they get from being seen as part of the mainstream group.
2) People who rebel against what's in fashion, because they don't want to seem like followers. They like the attention they get from being "different."
3) People who wear whatever they want, and honestly don't care what anyone else thinks. They don't care if they get attention or not, they just wear whatever makes them happy.
There's nothing wrong with any of these people. They just have different motivations for chosing their clothes. Whatever your reasons for wearing, or not wearing, something, don't worry too much about it. Just do what makes you happy!
my boyfriend, i cheated on him. we have been in a relationship for little over a year, im going to make this short as possible. basically, we got into a fight [usually we resolve and what not] but these two boys were with me when they knew we were fighting. basically i hooked up with them bc i was mad at my bf. i cried the whole night regretting it. i then had to tell him; thats when everything was horrible. i told him, he wouldn't even talk to me, he just walked away while i cried because i truley regret it. he then cried after school because it finally hurt him so much. he even said i dont care if she cheated, i still love her. i dont know what to do, we've talked but things just aren't the same. i know i fucked up okay i just want everything to be okay between my boyfriend and i, we were best friends before together so yeah. how can we resolve this? ugh >:[
well, my boyfriend cheated on me, and admitted it and apoligized. he cried and begged me to forgive him and said it was the worst mistake he ever made. so i forgave him and gave him another chance. so my advice is coming from someone who has been in your boyfriend's place.
If he forgives you and takes you back, that is great. But keep in mind that forgiving you doesn't mean that things will go completely back the way they were. In the back of his mind, he is always going to be a little suspicious, wondering if you're going to do it again. And you really can't blame him. Just be sure not to ever give him a reason to think you're going to do it again. Don't hang around or even talk to the guys you cheated on him with... don't even mention their names to him, or he will think you have feelings for them.
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Okay me and my bf have been goin out for a year and bout six months. He has fingered me and went down on me before, but the problem is i havent done anything to him yet...besides just feel down his pants. We are goin to hang out tonight and i want to give him a hand job but i have this little scared streak in me to not do it. i know he wants me too but i'm just a little scared of what he will think. i dont know what to do. any advice helps!
He's not going to think anything except "wow, this is great!" If you're not sure you're doing it right, just ask him "does this feel good?" or you can even laugh a little and say "am i doing it right?" he's not going to think badly of you for not being an expert... he'll be more flattered that youre doing it for the first time with him. and if yhou're worried that he will think you're being slutty something, well he's already done pretty much the same thing to you, so you doing it to him isn't any different.