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i cheated on him.
my boyfriend, i cheated on him. we have been in a relationship for little over a year, im going to make this short as possible. basically, we got into a fight [usually we resolve and what not] but these two boys were with me when they knew we were fighting. basically i hooked up with them bc i was mad at my bf. i cried the whole night regretting it. i then had to tell him; thats when everything was horrible. i told him, he wouldn't even talk to me, he just walked away while i cried because i truley regret it. he then cried after school because it finally hurt him so much. he even said i dont care if she cheated, i still love her. i dont know what to do, we've talked but things just aren't the same. i know i fucked up okay i just want everything to be okay between my boyfriend and i, we were best friends before together so yeah. how can we resolve this? ugh >:[
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well, my boyfriend cheated on me, and admitted it and apoligized. he cried and begged me to forgive him and said it was the worst mistake he ever made. so i forgave him and gave him another chance. so my advice is coming from someone who has been in your boyfriend's place.
If he forgives you and takes you back, that is great. But keep in mind that forgiving you doesn't mean that things will go completely back the way they were. In the back of his mind, he is always going to be a little suspicious, wondering if you're going to do it again. And you really can't blame him. Just be sure not to ever give him a reason to think you're going to do it again. Don't hang around or even talk to the guys you cheated on him with... don't even mention their names to him, or he will think you have feelings for them.
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I'm proud of you for telling your boyfriend you cheated. You'll find that in the long run, your boyfriend will trust you more because you admitted your mistake and you didn't lie to him. Admitting that to him must have been really hard. It means you really do want to fix things.
Cheating is the hardest thing to get over in any relationship, but IT IS NOT impossible. Your boyfriend obviously still really loves you. You need to do something major to get him to forgive you. Write him a letter explaining how sorry you are and how much you wish he'd forgive you. Explain to him how you really feel. Hand him the letter in person.
At the end of the letter, put something like "if you're willing to work this out with me, call me."
Then set up a nice evening for the two of you. Have a picnic at the park or go out to dinner. While you're eating, the two of you can decide where to go next i.e. if you want to continue the relationship, be friends with benefits, etc. Next, the both of you need to discuss positive ways in order to get through the fights you two can and will encounter in the future. Then you need to discuss ways of letting out your anger in positive ways (such as writing it down, going for a run, listening to music, etc.).
Whenever my boyfriend and I get into arguments, we both do our best to stay calm and we give each other a minute to express their side of the argument without interruption. We take the time to try and understand the other person's point of view without resorting to name-calling. If we can't reach an agreement, we just dismiss it to avoid further conflict. Does this method work 100% of the time? No. But keeping these tips in mind does help us to stay calm.
Another thing to keep in mind when you two get into fights is this: STOP and ask yourself, "Is this really going to make a difference in one year? Is this worth risking my relationship over?" You'll find that in most cases, the things you argue over really aren't such a big deal after all.
I really hope the two of you can work things out. I'm sure with good communication you can have a healthy relationship again.
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Cheating always hurts those involved and sometimes the pain and mistrust caused by cheating can last a while. Just imagine how you would feel if after the argument he would have hooked up with someone you would be devastated right? The best thing to do is put yourself in his place.You can try to talk to him but if he won't talk to you just wait until he cools down trying to talk to him while he is upset will only make matters worse. Perhaps you can catch him alone in a few days and try to talk to him. Make sure you let him know that you are sorry and have learned from your mistake and will not do it again. Don't try to push the blame on him with things like "well you started the argument" or "it's your fault I cheated" trust me this will not work.I am sorry to say it will take a little while for him to start trusting you again.You will have to earn his trust all over again. If you have been in a relationship for over a year it must be something worth trying to get back together so just give it a little time ok. Next time please think before you react the argument you have will be over tommorrow but the pain from what you say or do will last much longer Good Luck :-)
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Of course things aren't the same. They doubtfully will be for a long time. You broke his trust, and it will take you a long time to gain it back.
Just have patience, and don't give him any reason to feel he needs to mistrust you.
Everything will be ok between you guys in due time.
The old saying is true- 'time heals all wounds'.
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