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Okay so like 2 months ago my mom got married again to this man she knew from her home town. At first I did not like him because he was not my dad but he grew on me. One day after classes i went to meet my mom at work for lunch. I went straight home afterwards.When I got home I heard something like a man moaning. I Knew no one was supposed to be home becasue my stepdad was supposed to be at work. The moans became louder as I aproached my moms room. So I thought to myself I just had lunch with my mom. And she was at work how could she be two places at once? I came to the conclusion the my stepdad was having an affair. I got angry and decided to bust open the door and catch him in action. To my great surprise it was not a woman in bed but a man. I could not belive the image I saw. I screamed and shot the door. I could not belive it. My stepdad who is such a Monday night football guy and who usally does not care for gay people was having sex with a man. WHAT THE HELL IS GOING ON. He begged me to be quiet but I told my my mom anyway and what I can't belive is that she thiks that I made the entire thing up. She looked at me like i was crazy. She says that I never liked him in the first place (which is true) and that I would do anything to split them up. (not true). She cried all night none stop, she told me that I was breaking her heart how could i be so cruel. Our relationship is down the drain now. How do I get my Mom to see that I am not lying? Please help. (link)
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Just let the subject drop with your mom if you haven't already.
You have given her the information, she is probably in denial. Believe me though, she will remember it next time she feels something isn't right.
Don't be mad at her because she didn't believe you. She will find out the truth one of these days for herself.
Until something happens to make her see, she will probably not believe you. Don't change your story just to make her happy, just tell her you would rather just not talk about it any more.
Things have a way of working out, just hang in there. :)
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i had a check up at the doctos today and he checked my thyroid gland and said that it enlarges during puberty and he told me to get blood test to make sure nothings wrong. do you think this is gonna be a problem or anything? (link)
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Mine just doesn't work at all. I have a hypothyroid I don't know if it was ever enlarged or not.
There are two kinds of thyroid problems, Either hyperthyroid or hypothyroid. Hyper it works to much, hypo not enough.
They will just take some blood. Its called a TSH test. If something is not working right they will put you on pills that you have to take everyday for the rest of your life.
When they first put you on them they will give you a low dosage and make you take them for about 6 weeks or so. They will then check your blood again. If it is within normal ranges you will stay on that dose. If it isn't they will raise the dose and check you again in another 6 weeks or so.
Sooner or later they get it just right and you will only need to check it every year or so. It does change now and then. Mine is being goofy at the moment!
You'll probably know when it needs checked again. My muscles get to aching (especially in my neck and shoulders). You get tired easy ...they'll tell you all that. If they don't just send me a note and I will give you a website to check into.
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My boyfriend is constantly trying to tease me. He'll show me his underwear, say kinky things to me, and try to get me in "the mood". It didnt bother me a whole lot, but I got the idea that he wanted a lot of this in return. So I started giving it to him. Only he responded by saying that I was no longer his innocent girlfriend, how I've changed, and how surprised he is at me. He seemed so dissapointed. This type of thing keeps happening. I'll show him what I think is a great picture of me and he'll somehow suggest that I have low selfesteem and I should realise how beautiful I am. I dont get it? Should he be the only one in our realtionship who acts this way? Did I go too far? I rate. (link)
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I wish I knew how old he was!
I don't know why he would think there was something wrong with you for doing the same things he does. Maybe you should ask him how his self esteem is next time he does it.
Might create an interesting conversation on the subject. Then ask him why the double standard.
If you're comfortable acting the way he does, then you didn't go to far. I think maybe he just doesn't realize how much he does it himself.
Have a talk with him. :)
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Hi, ok well there's this one girl. and all the guys like her. shes one of my best friends, but i wanna be more than friends. i wanan sk her out but i dont wanna get put down or let it ruin our friendship. (link)
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If shes already one of your best friends you have a head start. Talk to her about it and see how she feels.
There is no reason it should ruin your friendship. So long as you talk your feelings over all time you will be able to tell if one or the other of you are beginning to have a problem dating each other. If it should happen, then you have to agree to let the other go with no hard feelings.
Go and talk to her, you won't know how she feels until you do. Good luck! :)
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yeah...i did that because i know he reads it...but i changed it a little so he wouldn't think it was me, but i kept the main idea, just small details to throw him off. :-\ (link)
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I hope it works for you! :)
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my boyfriend and i have been going out for a little under a year. i love him so much and care about him and i found out that he's been doing something i dont really approve of. but its not what hes doing that upsets and worries me, its that he's been lying to me about it, and then said he's never lied to me. i dont know if i can trust him anymore. i dont want him doing what hes doing, but if he's going to i want to know about it because i dont like being lied to. i want to talk to him but i have no idea what to say? any ideas? i really care about him and love him and don't want anything to happen to him. :-\ (link)
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Trust is very important in a relationship, as you know.
Why not try writing down what you feel about it and just give it to him to read? After he reads it then you can discuss it.
Be sure and tell him how important honesty is in a relationship. Tell him how you are concerned about what might happen should he get caught.
Let him know you don't approve, but would rather know about it. And let him know why you don't approve too. Tell him how you feel about him.
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ok well this guy stares at me alot(ALOT),showsoff infront of me..and doesnt talk to girls other thenme...talked to me once but never did again...but still stares...does he like me?
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Sounds like hes trying to get your attention for some reason. I think he probably likes you. Smile at him a lot and see if he will talk to you. :)
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What are some REALLY good tips on flirting? Like I want to start to make my boyfriend really interested in me. Like I already know he likes me but i want him to show he likes me. So I need tips on flirting and stuff like that. Thanks in advance! =) (link)
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Flirting tips coming right up! :)
Flirt tips…http://www.lovingyou.com/content/advice/dating/content.shtml?ART=5flirtingtips
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hey peeps i was just wondering what you think... should a girl tell her b/f if she is taking pregnancy pills?? xoxo i'll rate good for good answers! thanx (link)
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Only if asked. I wouldn't just volunteer the information. :)
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okay i am 19 years old i am not a virgin and ive been going around with this guy for 2 weeks hes 16 and hes a virgin well was on new years he asked me if i wanted to do it and he had protection so he wanted me to be on top which i hate and in the beginning it just hurt me i think because i wasnt wet enough but after it didnt hurt so bad but i was enjoying it and he finished really fast i was bummed out but i just understood cuz it was his first time but my question is why wasnt i enjoying it i mean i want to what can i do? or what can i tell him to do (link)
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You will have to tell him what you like.
The majority of young men just don't have the ability to spend a great deal of time on the act itself. It is not their fault, control is a learned thing and they don't have the experience yet.
Spend more time on the forplay and show him how. If you have questions about it check this web site.
http://enh.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sexual_intercourse
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Ok guys, Im somewhat at a loss. Most questions on this website tend to be at least somewhat mundane. Stuff that, while it could be very important to the poster, isnt life threatening or seriously life altering.
However, every once in a while, we come to the ones that ask a question about something where they stand to screw either their own, someone elses, or both lives.
Case in point, Ive just answered the second question from a girl who is 16 and wants to get pregnant when shes single, living at home, and basically incapable of supporting herself, much less a baby.
Now, this is not the only example, just a very recent one. Worst of all, many of the questioners in these cases are completely opposed to opposing points of view. They are determined that theirs is the right course of action, and are determined to screw themselves and others in the process.
So, my question to the masses, is does anyone know how to get through to idiots like this? Does anyone even think its possible? Im asking mostly those 18 and up, anyone can respond but Im looking for viewpoints from people who are at least looking back at the high school perspective, not in the throes of it.
Thanks, and sorry for length.
-The Spirit Fox (link)
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As one who has been there and done that at age 17 I can tell you it is possible but not fun nor is it easy. It is not something I would recommend to anyone. Ever. My pregnancy was not done on purpose either. It was just one of those accidents of ignorance at the time.
I was lucky enough to marry my baby's father(16). I am lucky I am still married and I know it isn't the way things usually work out.
He couldn't even get a decent job until he was 18. We didn't rely on our parents at the time at all. We had a baby a black and white TV that you had to change channels with a screw driver. 1 table 1 chair, 1 bed and a crib. One truck to drive that the door would fly open when you turned corners. I know you think I'm kidding but I am not. Its funny now it wasn't then.
The cost is horrible. Try eating cream of wheat with jelly in it for days at a time so you can buy formula and diapers and pay bills.
I don't write this to be felt sorry for...please don't think that. This is not even the tip of the iceberg of the things you deal with.
Friends go on with their lives. School, parties etc. You don't. You have a child to raise and bills to pay. They may visit for a couple of months and then they are history. They don't have time for the shit you have to deal with.
The reason I am writing this is to make a point. I have told girls this and they just do not listen. I too get frustrated about this subject to the point of wanting to pull my hair out. If this doesn't get them thinking just what will? I would sure like to know.
I've told them you have to have a good car to go to work, you have to have tires and insurance and tags. You have to have electricity and rent, gas and water. Diapers and formula, clothes. Medical bills out the wazoo if things go normally. Triple plus if they don't. Under age 20 is considered high risk pregnancy so you tack on extra medical bills for that alone.
God forbid the car breaks down.
My son turned out great. I don't know how he did he had it rough too. He was lucky to have had two parents who cared. That's all he had. That doesn't make it okay. Nobody should purposely do that to themselves or an innocent child. Because the fact is my case was rare. Most won't marry the father. If they do it won't last. Their poor parents will carry the load which is unfair to them. They won't have an education and they won't get a good job. Times have changed for the worse since then.
PLEASE LISTEN PEOPLE!!! IF THE GIRLS WON'T THEN PLEASE YOU BOYS LISTEN!!
I'm sorry I got to ranting. Your question is a good one. I don't have an answer for you. I sure wish I did. I wish I had one they would listen to. One that would sink in.
I will give it up and jump off the soapbox now. :)
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I have kind of an odd question. My friend told me that if you listen to Stairway to Heaven backwards, its satanic messages. I was skeptical and my parents told me it wasnt true. I had so many nightmares that night, thinking about what it sounded like, that when I woke up this morning, I turned on my computer and tried to find any and every piece of info I could about "backmasking" or listening to songs in reverse to hear satanic messages. I was really scared, but interested. It was all I thought about the WHOLE day, and Im not even kidding. Im afraid because I cant get the song Stairway to Heaven backwards which is "Oh My sweet Satan" and things like that out of my head! what do i do?! And also, is it REAL? Please somebody give me more information about backmasking. Ive looked up every google site on it. But, I want someone to give it to me in their own words. I will give everyone a 5 who has a good answer! (link)
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People can hear anything they get it in their heads to hear.
I personally own all of Led Zeppelins albums and have for years....before you were even born! Nothing bad has happened to me because of listening to Stairway to Heaven, which is a very good song.
Don't listen to all the back-masking crap. The technology for listening to songs backwards just wasn't readily available when the song was written and recorded. Doesn't make much sense to write something nobody could even hear at the time. :)
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Hi! I just finished my shift at my job today. This married lady that I work with is trying to set me up with a guy that knows her husband. They met him at a New Years party and he asked her if she knew any cute, nice girls from her work that would want to go out with him She said he is 32 and owns his own computer business. She said he is a really nice guy and wants to date a nice girl who has no kids. He's had problems with on line dating (and so have I)
I am 28 and have never been married or have had children. I told her I am quite shy and havent dated anyone in a long time. She said he is shy too. She is going to phone him and we (me, this guy, her and her huband) are going to meet for coffee.
Do you think he sounds like a nice guy that won't just try to sleep with me?
I rate high!
thanks
p.s it was my new years resolution to get a bf this year! (link)
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I don't think it would hurt at all to meet the guy. Who knows he may be just what you are looking for.
Its good you will be with another couple. If it doesn't work out it doesn't but I would sure give him a look see! :)
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You see i am a straight A student but for my mid-quarter progress report i got 3 A's and 3 B's. I get $20 if i get straight A's on my quarter report card which isn't too far away. How can I boost my grade up so I can get all A's???
-Gossip_Girl (link)
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You must do a pretty good job of studying already if you get a lot of A's!
Just take the work you are getting B's in and study it a little extra hard. Maybe ask the teacher for some practice work to take home and work on OR see if you can get extra credit somehow. Talk to your teacher, bet he/she can be of some help. :)
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I'm a 27 year old female.For the first time in a long while I'm actually happy to be single. I have my own appartment and a part time job, and was thinking that if I was dating someone I probably couldnt affort to have all the nice things like movies, cd's, and nice furniture, because I would be spending it on my bf. I was also thinking how nice it is not to have the responsiblility of looking after children. A lot of the ladies I work with at the store have kids and they are always so stressed out. I have it made- I only answer to myself and can come and go as I please. The money I make is spent on myself and doesnt go to pay for anyone else.
I am selfish for feeling like this? And is it just I phase? I want to have a family SOMEDAY, just not now. I'm having too much fun!! (link)
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If you are happy then you aren't doing a thing wrong!
When you are ready for a family or the right guy happens along you can deal with all that. Right now if you are happy being single...hey, keep it up! :)
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I have a long distance relationship with my bf. He had to move away for a job in an oil rig camp. He can't email me because his internet hasnt been connected yet. So the only way we can contact each other is by phone.
Well since he moved 2 months ago he hasn't phoned me once. I phoned him on Xmas day(I just happened to catch him on his break) and he was being pleasant and said he'd phone me on New Years Eve. I never got a call. I know he works crazy hours and probably can't get a hold of me. I also work but only part time.
He told me also to never phone him before 6. He has a cell phone.
I'm getting really sick of this whole long distance thing. I also think he should be phoning me more than say, once every 2 months.
Should I cut this dead and try to find a local boy? And if he really loved me wouldnt he be contacting me more? (link)
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If you are unhappy in the relationship then you should get out of it.
Chances are it is not going to change much.
Working oil rigs is working VERY long days. VERY hard work. When the day is done I would imagine the guys are thinking of nothing but sleep.
So, while I really don't think he is deliberately ignoring you or treating you badly, it may just not be the life for you. :)
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If some guy says you're both dating, but not officially going out [boyfriend/girlfriend], then does that mean you're single or taken? (link)
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It means your single.
You may date occasionally but unless it is an exclusive relationship either of you are free to date other people as well as each other. :)
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OK, see I'm going out with this guy...and he's really really sweet and nice and everything, he's what I think every girl would want. BUT the only thing is...he's not good looking....at all I guess...he's not like the ugliest person on earth...but he's just not cute at all. And like I'm afraid people at my school will make fun of me, because you know, Blue Valley..think about it..girls here..we judge...what do I do? Do I dump the guy? or do I keep on going out with this guy and ignore everything?
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If you really like the guy...how he treats you, how he makes you feel etc. then continue to date him and have a great experience. Live your life your own way and don't live by what others think
are important qualities for a person to have in order to be a part of your life.
Or do just the opposite and risk being miserable.
Not every good person is pretty or cute.
Not every pretty and cute person is good either. A person perceived as great looking at first glance can get darn ugly when their personality is revealed. No offense intended but sounds like you go to school with plenty of ugly people as far as personality goes. :)
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i have a sore throat, i have these sores on my tongue and my gums are red and are like taking over my teeth. litterally. is this normal because my gums kinda hurt and its just plain scary.. can someone tell me whats wrong ? (link)
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I couldn't even begin to tell you what the problem is but something isn't right.
You probably should go to the dentist or even a regular doctor and see what is going on. Mouth problems can be really painful so don't let it get worse. :)
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13/m. I'm sorry if this is kind of long. you see, I have this sort-of friend: she's in all of my classes except for one, so we talk a lot. She makes fun of me sometimes, but I really don't think she means it, because things are regular again by next period. I kind of like her, but not really. And the acts as though she likes me sometimes. But, I really don't want anything to happen between us, since I've already made my New Year's resolution to get this one particular girl to like me.
So anyway, that girl, let's call her Jane, her mom died two weeks ago. I've never had to sit through a death before---I'm lucky enough that nobody in my family has ever died. And the only time anyone's parent has died other than Jane's is in 2nd grade, when I couldn't really grasp the meaning of death.
In all our classes two weeks ago, we were just talking about death and stuff. It was really depressing. In one class, things got so deep that half the class was crying. I myself was in tears, as I nearly am recalling this. But not because I knew and missed Jane's mother. Not because it reminded me of a dead relative that I had. Because I could finally grasp the meaning of death.
So, everyone's really depressed now, and she got to miss school two weeks ago the whole week---I would want to, if my parents had died. She's coming back on Tuesday, when vacation ends. One Thursday and Friday, all her teachers---which meant all my teachers except for one---received e-mails from her dad saying that we shouldn't talk about this "event" unless Jane brings it up first. But me, I'm a really shy person, and not having experience with anything like this, I'm probably gonna feel really awkward talking to her. I won't know what to say. I'm sure of it, it happens to me all the time. Whenever something goes wrong with anybody, I never know what to say. I don't really want to say anything like "we're right behind you" or "we got your back", because however true it may be, it may or may not give the impression that I like her.
So, I guess the whole point I'm trying to make here is that I'd feel awkward talking to her. I could've just said "i have a sort of frend whos mom died what to i do" but I feel that I can get a more personal answer if you have some background information. I will probably rate you. Smartasses get reported. Thank you, school starts again on Tuesday!!! (link)
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I think Jane will need all the friends she can get to help her get her life back as normal as it can get without her mom.
You can be friends with a girl and not want to be her boyfriend. I think if you do like this girl then you should be able to be her friend without her getting the wrong idea.
Maybe once things are back to normal she can even help you achieve your goals with the girl you DO want to be your girlfriend. Girls can be pretty good at giving you advice now and then. :)
If she brings up the subject of her mom, just tell her you heard and really feel bad about it. If she wants to talk about it then don't back away from it. She will mostly just want someone to listen anyway. You won't say the wrong thing. Just don't hold back for fear she will take it the wrong way. You can't just not be friends with other girls because you have your heart set on another...that's ignoring a good deal of the population. :)
Good luck to you.
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