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My stepdad's a cheater
Okay so like 2 months ago my mom got married again to this man she knew from her home town. At first I did not like him because he was not my dad but he grew on me. One day after classes i went to meet my mom at work for lunch. I went straight home afterwards.When I got home I heard something like a man moaning. I Knew no one was supposed to be home becasue my stepdad was supposed to be at work. The moans became louder as I aproached my moms room. So I thought to myself I just had lunch with my mom. And she was at work how could she be two places at once? I came to the conclusion the my stepdad was having an affair. I got angry and decided to bust open the door and catch him in action. To my great surprise it was not a woman in bed but a man. I could not belive the image I saw. I screamed and shot the door. I could not belive it. My stepdad who is such a Monday night football guy and who usally does not care for gay people was having sex with a man. WHAT THE HELL IS GOING ON. He begged me to be quiet but I told my my mom anyway and what I can't belive is that she thiks that I made the entire thing up. She looked at me like i was crazy. She says that I never liked him in the first place (which is true) and that I would do anything to split them up. (not true). She cried all night none stop, she told me that I was breaking her heart how could i be so cruel. Our relationship is down the drain now. How do I get my Mom to see that I am not lying? Please help.
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these kind of things are so tough. its so hard to convince someone of something they dont want to believe especially when you have no solid proof of it. its like the harder you try to make them understand the more they think you are lying. tell your mom exactly what happened and tell her you would never lie to her or hurt her in anyway on purpose. tell her you want nothing but her to be happy but if she is being done wrong that you will not stand for it. sometimes only time can reveal the truth. hope it all gets better!
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tell your mom this: I love you and am not lying. When you finally wise up to what he's doing behing your back don't come cry to me because I wont be there. I'm a liar remember? Also bring this ? up on your screen with everybody's response to you and call her in the room to read it. She will be sorry fot not listening to you sooner. Man oh man she need's to call my mom lol she's going thru that shit now. Took her a long time to point out what everybody else already knew. Best of luck to you sweetie.
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eeewww thats nasty!!! tell your mom that you wouldnt lie to her about this kind of thing because you know how much she cares for him.
XO KALIE
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Say you're really into that and it makes you horney.
Then ask if you can watch him do it again....
But record the whole conversation and if he says yes then tape it and send it to your mom and when she sees you can spit in his face for being gay and for cheating.
Then you should take his wallet....
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Write down everything. Tell her how you came home opened the door and saw this going on sometimes it's easier to believe in writing. However, she probably is in denial and may not believe you. If she doesn't believe you confront your stepfather about it. Tell him that he is hurting everybody by hiding this. If he comes clean the relationship that was there before him would be saved- the one between you and your mom. If things get worse see if you can live with your dad (if he is alive...I'm sorry you didn't mention if he passed or if your parents were divorced), a different family member, or a friend. Time will solve this. Eventually, she will see what you are telling her.
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Just let the subject drop with your mom if you haven't already.
You have given her the information, she is probably in denial. Believe me though, she will remember it next time she feels something isn't right.
Don't be mad at her because she didn't believe you. She will find out the truth one of these days for herself.
Until something happens to make her see, she will probably not believe you. Don't change your story just to make her happy, just tell her you would rather just not talk about it any more.
Things have a way of working out, just hang in there. :)
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