My boyfriend and I are completely sexually active and have been for awhile. I can always completely please him but he has never given me an orgasm. I've gotten close before when he's fingered me but then the feeling just stopped. The stuff he does feels really good so I can't understand why I don't orgasm. Are there any suggestions to help me? My boyfriend and I were both really unexperienced when we started going out so maybe there's something that he needs to be doing and we just don't know about it. Any suggestions would be appreciated!
I have to disagree with Jack on this one. Saying that 'most women can't' is incorrect, and it wouldn't make much of a difference if you were married or not.
Everyone is different, it's true that many women do find it difficult to achieve orgasm through penetrative sex, trying different positions can remedy this. However, it's much easier and often more pleasurable through other methods. You're both inexperienced so it's normal to have this problem. If you feel comfortable doing so, try and work out for yourself what feels good and show your boyfriend. You don't need to give him a full frontal show, just gently guide his hand to the right places. Just keep trying, it's really a case of trial and error. The key is to relax, if you're all tense and focussing too much on the end result then the chances are you won't get it. You're not abnormal and you have nothing to worry about.
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Okay, I'm on the pill but lets just say that i'm not so good about taking them at the same time everyday, i always take it between 7-10am though. So, i got done with this last pack and when it was time for my period... nothing... next day.... nothing. What does that mean? Could i be pregnant? my pack only has four pills for the days when your supposed to have your period so if it never starts do i just start my next pack? If i am pregnant couldn't that be really bad for a baby? Bottom line is I really don't want to be pregnant.
As long as you're taking them roughly around the same time each day then it's fine. The Pill is very effective, as long as you are taking it properly, you should be fine. It's normal to miss a period, especially when you first start taking them. Just start your next pack as normal. I find that my period doesn't come until three days before I start my next pack.
You probbaly aren't pregnant, but if you're still worried then it would be a good idea to go to your doctor.
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i am doing a how to essay for college but i cant write first this, second that and etc. i want to write about how to avoid a fight, the steps. and if your already in a fight, steps to resolve it. thank you!
I can't tell how to write the essay because unfortunately, we cannot do your homework for you.
However, without bragging, I do happen to be pretty good when it comes to essay writing so I'll give you a few tips.
Before you even begin writing the essay, make a plan. It doesn't have to be detailed, just set out how you're going to write your essay. On your plan you should inclde your introduction, three or four main points (more or less depending on how much information you need to include) and a conclusion. For each point, briefly note down the main things you need to include. Having a plan will ensure that you know what you're doing and don't end up rambling or going off the point. Before you start writing your essay, read through your plan and ensure that it flows correctly. Make sure that your points make sense when put together and don't jump dramatically between topics.
Starting your essay with an introduction is very important. It doesn't need to be really long or detailed, just lay out what you're going to do in your essay. For example, if you were to write an essay about dance, your introduction could start something like this: 'Dance has been a feature in almost all cultures across the world since the dawn of time...' You should then go on to explain what your essay is about etc.
If the title of your essay is a question, it is always good to try and briefly answer it in your introduction and stating your personal opinion if necessary.
Good ways to start off your first paragraph after your introduction are 'First and most importantly...', 'Primarily...', 'First and foremost...' etc. As your essay is about fighting, I would suggest that your first point is 'avoiding a fight'. These can also be used for the steps of the fight. Other sentence starters useful to this section could be 'Now, one would need to...', 'Secondly...', 'Next, one could...' etc.
The same techniques can also be used for your 'steps to resolve it' section. I think you'll find that once you've finished your first point, you'll find that the rest comes alot easier to you.
An essay should always be ended by a conclusion. In your conclusion it is good to summarise the points in your essay, say what you have discovered, state your personal opinion if necessary and answer any questions that arose in the title or the content.
Once you've written your essay, read through it and correct any mistakes you may have made when writing it. You may find it helpful to have a friend read it in case there are any mistakes you may not have noticed. Your teacher may also be able to have a look at it before you officially hand it in, and give you some pointers if necessary.
Good luck.
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i never ever had a boyfriend before, i just welcome some suitors and that's it. But when this guy came along, i thought of giving him a chance and finally, we're dating. But the worst thing had happened, we broke up after 4 months and he admitted to me straight up that he had a fling with someone else. he had a lot of exes and one of our friends told me that he can easily change his present girl to a new girl in just 2 weeks or less... before i met him, i was told that he's really a playboy but when we're together, he changed BIG TIME! i felt it. but how come he had still the guts to cheat on me? He told me, that i was the only one who really changed him and that he felt true love.. but how come it was that easy for him to give me up??
and it's been 2 months now, he still has no girlfriend to replace me... why is that??
It's completely normal to be asking yourself all these questions after a break up. You're obviously hurting and that's to be expected. It's also normal to be wondering what everything he is doing means and whether or not there is a chance of getting back together. What you need to remember, no matter what, is that he cheated on you. While some cheats do change their behaviour, some will do it again and again and this guy sounds like one of those people.
I'm sure that at the time, he did think he loved you but you have to remember that what he did was wrong. I doubt even he could say why he did it and although it's hard, you need to stop dwelling on it. I know how hard it is to get over someone - especially a first love - but you will eventually. For now, you just need to keep away from him and immerse yourself in the things you enjoy. Spend lots of time with friends and family because keeping busy really does help. Whatever you do, don't make the mistake of trying to be his friend. It's true that many ex's do become friends but this takes time and you both need to be over it before you do.
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alright im 17 years old, 5'3 and i weigh 118 pounds. i am not overweight but i have some extra fat! i have gained 8 pounds since summer and i want to get back down to 110 and have my beach body again! i plan on working out 30 minutes a day, and losing around a pound to 2 pounds a week. about how many calories should i be eating a day to lose this?
For one, you are the same weight and age as me and three inches taller...so if you think you're too fat then I must be worse.
As you only want to lose a small amount of weight, I don't think you need to be worrying about calorie control, especially if you're working out daily. Just stick to a healthy diet which incorporates all the major food groups. You should be eating around 1500-2000 calories a day.
So long as you are getting regular exercise and not eating a lot of junk food, you should lose that weight in no time.
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like i had really dry lips and then like i bit them and i bit the skin off too much of one area and now like that part of my lip is like all swollen and has like a scab on it.
any ideas what i could do to make it go away?
Dry lips are really common in the winter months as the cold air dries them out, making them sore and crusty, especially if you bite them. Luckily they are equally easy to treat with a good lipbalm such as Carmex, Blistex or even Vaseline. You might find it helpful to ask someone who works at the store what is best to use. If you use it a few times a day and avoid biting your lips in future, they should clear up.
For future reference, a good tip for treating dry lips once they are less sore is by coating them in Vaseline every night then gently buffing them with an old soft bristled toothbrush before adding more Vaseline. The toothbrush gets rid of the dry, flakey skin and the Vaseline moisturises your lips, leaving them soft and smooth.
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f/14 on valentine my friend chelsea heard about party from one of her brothers friend so we decide to go so we both snuck out. Well there was lot of older guys there and they were drinkin. she freaked out about that and left. so talk with this guys and had a few drinks. some how i end up in bedroom with them. they all had sex with me. does that make me a slut
I don't like to use words such as 'slut' but I think you know what you did was stupid and dangerous. Not only were you drinking underage, you also had sex illegally as you are under the age of consent. If these guys were over the age of consent for your country, (16 if you live in the UK, 18 for most of the US) then they have broken the law.
I suggest you go to your local sexual health clinic or doctor and have a pregnancy test and an STD test, as even if you used contraception, there is still a chance of pregnancy and definitely still a chance of STD's. You may also want to talk to a counciller, perhaps at school or elsewhere if you don't feel comfortable with that.
In future, if you do drink, then please be careful when doing so because this situation is only too common. If possible try to avoid alcohol altogether until you are legally allowed to drink. Learn from this mistake and always stick with friends when at parties with strangers in future.
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i'm the girl who asked the question about the cat but i guess i didn't explain it right because no one answered it right. my mom already knows about the cat. he lives outside, and my mom is okay with that, she just won't let me bring him in. i want to sneak him in through my window at night and let him sleep in my room since it's so cold at night. maybe that explains it better.
Sneaking him in without your mother's consent is not a good idea. If you do it once, you will have to do it every night and then the cat will become attached to you. You will have to buy food, a litter tray and all the other equipment needed to look after a cat. Your mother is probably not stupid, she will start to notice. I would suggest that you asked her if you could take the cat to an animal shelter, where he would be properly looked after and treated for any illnesses he may have.
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why did james blunt write 1973 if he was born in 1974?
I don't think the song is intended to be about him in real life, it's more of a fantasy. According to Wikipedia, he was inspired to write it by the club scene in Ibiza. I wouldn't take it to heart too much.
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okay my problem is i masturbate but i masturbate with a little back massager thing that vibrates on my clitoris. and im really worried because things have been going quickly with this guy and not only him but ive been in many situations where a guy wanted to finger me but i said no because i was worried i wouldnt be able to orgasm for it. basically im just worried, idk if i would orgasm from just fingering inside.
I'd like to begin by correcting whoever said that most girls don't orgasm as that isn't entirely true. Many females do find it difficult to orgasm from vaginal stimulation alone (and by this I mean just going inside). However, it is likely that you will be able to achieve a clitoral orgasm, especially when you masturbate. You should only ever do something you feel comfortable with and it's absolutely fine to tell him if what does and doesn't feel good. The most important thing to remember is to relax and only do what you feel comfortable with.
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I think Im over him but Im not sure... Somedays I can't stop thinking about him.. Somedays I don't think about him.. How do I knw If I am REALLY over him??
I have a new boyfriend who I love very much but I still think about my ex alot. I think it's normal, especially if this person was your first love. When we first broke up, I used to obsess over him and think about him in a romantic sense. Obviously I don't think about him like that anymore, but he was a very big part of my life for a significent amount of time and it's impossible to just forget someone ever existed. It does get easier over time, I promise that one day you'll think about him and realise you don't miss him anymore.
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15/f
Well me and this guy ive been going out with for 3 months already had sex for the first time after the 3rd week . Is that too soon?
In my personal opinion, I think that if you are completely ready and comfortable with your partner then there is no 'set time' when you should or shouldn't have sex.
Having said that, you are underage and you're asking this question in the first place which to me signals that you weren't ready.
If you don't feel comfortable continuing to sleep with your boyfriend, then don't be afraid to say no. If he cares about you he will respect your decision. If you do decide to do it again, please make sure that you are careful and use contraception.
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Okay, so my lips have been abnormally dry. The like inside of them like not yet my mouth but the end of my lip is all raw. They hurt really bad so i've been putting on chapstick like 24/7. I have to put a lot on for the burning to stop. Now there are like lots of tiny bumps on my lips and i don't know if somethings wrong. Does anyone know? By the way the chapstick i use has never done this before and i use it all the time. I resently got a new one so i don't htink that its old.
THanks a ton!
It is normal in the Winter months to have dry lips, but the fact that yours are raw and now have bumps on could be a cause for concern. It's impossible for us to diagnose you here so I'd definitely advise visiting your doctor, who will be able to tell you what the problem is and prescribe you any special treatment you may need.
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alright..soo iam 16 iam going to be 17 soon and i really dont want to have sex. like i think my age is wayyy too young to even be thinking about it. but all the guys my age or older already expect it. i really dont know what to do, cause you can never really find decent guys anymore that will wait. and if you tell them you dont want to have sex they will either keep pushing you or just leave you right then and there...i dont really know what to do, and i DONT want to have sex expecially not yet.
Just because you turn a certain age, does not mean you have to start having sex. You're being very smart by admitting that you're not ready for it and being clear on the fact that you don't want to.
I know it seems like all guys are out for one thing but it really isn't true. I think you'll find alot of guys are just as unready for sex as you. If you're with someone who is pressuring you into sex, then he is not the type of person you deserve to be with.
No one should be in a relationship with someone who only wants them for one thing. If you are with a loving person who has respect for you and your morals, even if he is ready for sex, then he will wait for you without trying to pressure or blackmail you into it.
Stick to your morals, get rid of people who don't show you the respect you deserve and you'll be fine.
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I had sex about 3 weeks ago on my period & we didn't use a condom!
Whats the possiblity of me being pregnant?
I've had sex with him before without a condom & never got pregnant!
It doesn't matter if you've been lucky before, whenever you have sex without contraception there is a risk of you becoming pregnant. Just because you were on your period does not mean you won't get pregnant, you can get pregnant at any time of the month but sometimes your chances will be higher or lower.
I suggest you take a pregnancy test to find out for certain. In future, please use some form of protection to avoid this happening again.
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well im 13,female,i just lost my virginity..i just wanted to kno the kinds of changes will happen to my body.?
You shouldn't have any real changes to your body, although you may experience a little soreness and bleeding for a couple of days. Obviously if you didn't use contraception there is a risk of you becoming pregnant (and contracting an STI if you didn't use a condom) so make sure that you are practising safe sex. If you think that there is a risk that you are pregnant or have caught something, then make sure you take a test or contact your doctor as soon as possible.
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I am going on my first date with a wonderful guy soon and I want to know what to expect. I want to make a good impression on our first date together, which may involve kissing. I'm not really sure about some things regarding the appropriate time to kiss on a date.
Should I kiss a guy at the end of our first date if it went well or should I wait a few dates? What is appropriate? I don't want to come off as pushy or easy, and I want to make sure chemistry is there on his side too without asking him. How will I know it's the right time to kiss on a date?
You'll probably find that the kiss will come naturally if and when the time is right. It might turn out that he doesn't want to kiss on the first date, and that's fine. It's up to you whether or not you decide to - but obviously it's not advisable to go much further than just kissing.
You will probably be able to tell if the chemistry is there by the end of the date and I think this is probably the most appropriate time to kiss if you plan to. When you say goodbye, thank him for the date, lean in and give him a short and sweet kiss. If for whatever reason this doesn't seem appropriate, maybe opt for the cheek or a quick peck on the lips.
Remember that you don't have to do anything if you don't want to - if he turns out to be less wonderful that you thought, don't be afraid to say no if he tries to kiss you. Also bear in mind that he's probably just as nervous as you and is likely to be going through the same worries.
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Okay, so recently i was at a party and got really drunk. I remember certain parts of the night but a lot of it i have no recollection of. I know i remember hooking up with some guy but I'm scared that we might have had sex, without me knowing/being able to remember. I also remember leaving the party, but barely. I guess I was between an unconscious/conscious state throughout the time.
My question is, do you think I would know if I had sex? and What are some signs or clues that could help me know?
Thank you
-paige w.
Unfortunately, this is an increasingly common situation among teenagers. I know plenty of people, including myself, who this has happened to. Although it is unlikely that you would completely forget having sex with him, you shouldn't totally rule it out.
The first thing to do would be to ask him what happened. If this isn't an option or he can't remember either, then more obvious symptoms include soreness and bleeding - although I suspect you would have mentioned this if you had them.
If you have strong suspicions that you did have sex, then you might like to get an STD test - and a pregnancy test if you skip a period.
Personally, after one too many drunken nights where I did too much that I regret, I decided to go totally straight edge. I know I can't tell you not to drink because it's unlikely that you never will again but please learn from this and be more careful in future.
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this might sound really stupid but how do you know when your in love? i really really really like my boyfriend but i wouldn't wanna say i love you if i didnt mean it...thing is, we've only been dating for like 3 weeks, for anyone in a relationship how long did it take before you said 'i love you' please dont tell me "you'll know when your in love" cause that doesnt really help...tell me anything about your relationships...thankss.
Firstly, as much as I respect his advice (and I really don't mean to criticise him), I really have to disagree with what CuxMiBeckNow7 said about it not being said for at least two years. Studies show that on average, people fall in love around six times in their lifetimes so logically, your first love will be in your teenage years.
I'm nearing 17 years old and I've been in love once. I knew I was in love with him after just a few weeks. It makes me angry when people tell me that I wasn't, because I know that I was. Even though we aren't together anymore, I don't doubt that the emotion I felt was love. I can pinpoint the exact moment it happened, right down to what song was on the stereo at the time. For me it was an incredibly overwhelming rush of emotions, although I can't speak for everyone.
As you will have gathered from the answers you recieved to this question, everyone's experience of love is different. Give yourself some time for your relationship and feelings to develop. You might find that you fall in love with your boyfriend next week but you might find that it never happens with him. None of us can tell you how you will know because (and I know you didn't want to hear this) you really do just know. It's indescribable and it's personal to everyone.
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Okay so I work at Subway and have for about three weeks. Lately people have been really mean to me: I was never trained in much except making sandwhiches and so this one girl whose my age sighes heavily every time i need her help and makes nasty comments about how mad she gets with me, talks about me to everyone, and is unfair with me more then anyone else. Now two other workers are talking about me, when they think I can't hear, and i got a knife flung at me for apparently just ' standing there' when there was a bunch of people in line. There is only two people who are nice to me at all, people who don't stop talking as soon as i walk into the room. I've been treated terribly by almost every single person there and feel like quiting because their driving me out. Am i over reacting or does this sound reasonable?
This is definitely not an overreaction. You are being bullied. Bullying is not just exclusive to classrooms and you are not alone, take a look at these statistics from Wikipedia:
'Statistics from the Waitt Institute for Violence Prevention show that one in three employees personally experiences bullying at some point in their working lives. At any given time, 1 out of every 10 employees is a target of workplace bullying. Nearly half of all American workers (49%) have been affected by workplace bullying, either being a target themselves or having witnessed abusive behavior against a co-worker.'
Isn't that unbelievable?
These people have no right to treat you like this and their behaviour is unacceptable. Bullying is never okay, no matter what your age or where you are. Make sure your parents know what is going on, having people on your side will make you feel less alone.
I suggest you go straight to your manager to let him/her know what is going on in their establishment. If he/she is actually one of the bullies, then contact your area manager or write directly to the company. It is unlikely that the bosses of a company as big as Subway will accept this behaviour and allow it to continue as it makes them look bad.
It is likely that they will have procedures for incidents like this, so don't suffer in silence.
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