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the EX issue
i never ever had a boyfriend before, i just welcome some suitors and that's it. But when this guy came along, i thought of giving him a chance and finally, we're dating. But the worst thing had happened, we broke up after 4 months and he admitted to me straight up that he had a fling with someone else. he had a lot of exes and one of our friends told me that he can easily change his present girl to a new girl in just 2 weeks or less... before i met him, i was told that he's really a playboy but when we're together, he changed BIG TIME! i felt it. but how come he had still the guts to cheat on me? He told me, that i was the only one who really changed him and that he felt true love.. but how come it was that easy for him to give me up??
and it's been 2 months now, he still has no girlfriend to replace me... why is that??
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Well there is a possibility that he may have felt for you. However he is use to of having flings or changing girlfriends quite oftenly. I understand that it is hard to let go of some one after having invest time and emotions but you can't take the risk to pull yourself through dirt. You need to ask him why did he cheat?Don't forgive him so easliy without any thorough evalution and with an assurance that he will never repeat his mistake. I suggest you give it sometime to yourself, Do u really want to be with him, is it worth the fight ? I hope you come to a positive decision.
Good luck !
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It's completely normal to be asking yourself all these questions after a break up. You're obviously hurting and that's to be expected. It's also normal to be wondering what everything he is doing means and whether or not there is a chance of getting back together. What you need to remember, no matter what, is that he cheated on you. While some cheats do change their behaviour, some will do it again and again and this guy sounds like one of those people.
I'm sure that at the time, he did think he loved you but you have to remember that what he did was wrong. I doubt even he could say why he did it and although it's hard, you need to stop dwelling on it. I know how hard it is to get over someone - especially a first love - but you will eventually. For now, you just need to keep away from him and immerse yourself in the things you enjoy. Spend lots of time with friends and family because keeping busy really does help. Whatever you do, don't make the mistake of trying to be his friend. It's true that many ex's do become friends but this takes time and you both need to be over it before you do.
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the truth is, no one knows why guys are like this. the same thing happened to me basically, and before that, the guy was telling me he loved me and that he'd never break up with me EVER. this happens all the time. guys are impossibly immature, and thats just the way it is. guys always mature a LOT slower than girls. they always have. most of the time, whats going through their minds is either sex, or nothing at all.
im so sorry this had to happen to you, but he just wasnt the right one. you need to look around. usually, the less outgoing types, more artistic and such, are the better ones. i found myself a boyfriend a few months after that last ex, and neither of us have moved on for a long time. maybe talk to this guy and ask him what his deal was. demand an answer from him, and if he doesnt have the decency(sp) to answer you, then forget him. he wasnt worth it to begin with.
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