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I am straight to the point, My advice is given based on my opinions of what YOU write. I may not always tell you what you want to hear but I am not here to sugar coat shit.
I am honest, I am blunt, At times an asshole but one thing I can promise, I'll never lie.
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Is it possible to get a std if I've never had sex and neither of my parents have a std
Yes
You see, Some people are carriers. When we are carriers of a disease our bodies become immune.
Herpes for example is an STD, Cold sores are a form of herpes. We can contract STD with something as simple as kissing.
My girlfriend and I were dry humping. She usually wear shorts and underwear while I'm wearing jeans and underwear. I eventually ejaculated while she was sitting on me(we are both sitting at that time) and my jeans got wet. After that she missed her period for 3 months and we took a home pregnancy test and I was shocked when she told me the test was faint positive. It appeared around 6-10 minutes after she left it for bowel reasons but the reaction time given is 3 minutes. She told me she is not cheating on me. We took another test after 1 month and it's negative and another hpt 6 days after that negative and it also says negative. Now I am wondering if it is possible that sperm could travel through my underwear and jeans although i know it is wet going inside her(considering her shorts and underwear got a wet spot)? Do you think what happened is a false positive? her period doesn't arrived yet and it's already 4 months late. thanks for the answer.
Sperm cannot travel through clothing.
Likewise, It is possible stress related. Take 2 to be sure but No, You cannot get pregnant from dry humping. If she is indeed pregnant then it is because of another reason...
A delayed period can be caused from a number of things.
Depression, Stress, PCOS, Endometriosis, Medications, Birth Control, Poor diet and exercise, being over or under weight. Check with a doctor
I skipped mine for 8 months, Turns out I had PCOS.
We started off talking like every few days. Hung out a few times and texted eachother a lot. And he was obviously interested as I am. Well now I feel like he along with some other friends just quit talking to mw so much. Yeaterday he texted me and asked how work was going. I said it was alright and stuff and he didn't reply then he texted me a few hours later saying woo you get off in a hour. And that's it. Today he didn't text me at all. I texted him and said I hope he had a great day and no reply. I just don't understand why he's backing up all of a sudden. And just everyone else it seems at the same time.
There could be several issues here as I see this from different angles.
He may not be as interested in you as you think he is, Men that have interest in a woman tend to make them a daily priority. On the other hand, He may not be into texting as much as you. Most people would rather be approached in person then over a phone.
Bow reading further into the question, Is he possibly interested in someone eles? Maybe he sees you as a potential friend? It really sounds to me that he may just not ve interested in you in that way.
Were you always the one to ignitiate the conversation? Are you texting him too much?
If he always texted you, Then you should try talking to him and show him you are interested. If it was a mutual thing then I would back off and see if he comes too you. If not, Then he probably was never really interested to begin with.
Okay, I got contact allergic dermatitis from antibiotic ointment (and yes I've seen a doctor) and my foot got a lot of blisters and kind of one big blister that spreads over a lot of my foot. It no longer itches or anything and I didn't pop it but it drained on it's own. The thing is... it keeps filling back up. Any idea how long I should expect this thing to stick around or reccommendation to help it heal faster? I'm not going to do anything rash without talking to my dr first but I would like suggestions. Thanks!
This happens to my husband from time to time.
Make sure you wear socks that will help your feet breathe. Also, Try to make sure you keep your feet hydrated. Alveeno with menthol works well.
My husband works on trucks and often comes home with rashes and blitzers. Ugh!
Stay away from powder as well (we) found it seems to make your feet more dried out. When you get a chance let your feet air out. In the meantime drain the blitzer and apply bacitracin (if i spelt that right lol) :-)
My sister, who we'll call Morgan, is engaged to a guy who we'll call Mitchell. They've been dating since August of 2011 and in July of 2012, she told me she was certain she wanted to marry him. She always talked like you shouldn't think about marrying someone until you've been dating them for at least a couple years.
Before Mitchell, she dated a guy who we'll call Jordan for four years. When he dumped her, she was heart broken and took until she started dating Mitchell before she quit talking about being in love with him. My family and I hated Jordan and thought he was a hopeless, needy, obnoxious, controlling, free loading party boy, which Morgan says she sees now, but sometimes it seems like she's just trying to talk herself out of being in love with him.
There are certain things that I've taken as signs of her being in love with Jordan. For example, when they were dating, somehow she, my mom, and I got on the subject of baby names and she said that her favorite boy name was Hudson. A short time later, a group of us, including Morgan and Jordan were talking and Jordan claimed to have the greatest baby name ever, which was Hudson. I knew he came up with it because she has no identity of her own. She doesn't know how to choose something for herself, so it had to have been his idea. Since they broke up, she still loves the name Hudson and hasn't gotten to like her fiancee's favorite names, which may mean nothing, but she hasn't done anything like that before. Other than Hudson and one family name, it seems like she changes her favorite names every time she talks about them and always has.
Also, when Jordan's name came up the other day at lunch, she got really mad and stopped talking for the rest of the meal. Then, she started yelling at whoever brought his name up just for mentioning him. I can't imagine being like that about an ex boyfriend who I no longer had feelings for, especially if I was engaged.
Another thing that makes me feel that she's getting married for the wrong reasons is that Jordan and almost all of her friends are either married or getting married sometime soon. I'm worried she just wants to show Jordan that she's moved on and found someone to marry too, as well as that she doesn't want to be the last of her friends to get married. I think she's worried that she's getting too old not to be married and that she's always been way more in love with the thought of being in love and having a wedding than with the actual guy she chose to marry.
I don't really like Mitchell that much either. He's okay, but he seems to want her to do everything he wants to do rather than to come up with a compromise. Like I said, she has no identity so she'll do it, but will later resent him for it if their marriage fails. Then she'll be unhappy with the way her life turned out.
I'm worried she's going to screw up her life, or that one say I'll have a bunch of nieces and nephews who came from a broken home and act like my cousin who's from that kind of home. She got pregnant in college and wants another baby, but refuses to get married out of her anger at her parents failed marriage. Her dad is the kind of dad I imagine Mitcheel being if he and Morgan get divorced. One who's more interested in his step kids than his real ones.
What should I do?
I understand your concern but when it all comes to too, You must let your sister live her life.
As hard as it is, Morgan needs to learn from her mistakes in order to grow. Telling her how to live her her life will create anger and resentment. I do agree with you, One cannot truly love if we still love for someone eles. All you can do is love a d support her. If you wish you could express your concerns in a gentle way but just bare in mind, Her life. You just be there to catch her when she falls.
Hi there! I am a sophomore in high school and have a guy friend (let's call him K) that I've known since 7th grade. We didn't become good friends until last year, and this year we've become pretty close because we are involved in a lot of the same things.
I didn't think of him as anything more than a friend until this year. I thought I may have caught him very subtly flirting with me (he's pretty shy), and since I really liked him as a friend I started to try and see if I could see us together. I couldn't at first. But then, when my friend and I noticed him talking to this girl, we thought they would be really cute together, and kept talking about it/jokingly scheming on how to get those two together. Well, in the process, I started feeling a tiny bit jealous. It turns out he and the other girl really were just friends.
Then we started talking more as we got to know each other better through our school activities.
Now we text almost daily, usually about school stuff, but then it turns into chat. I think something is definitely there. Our eyes meet a lot, we joke around, and already have countless inside jokes. I'm really attracted to his smile and his blue eyes. :) I don't think he is "hot," in the conventional use of the word, but I am attracted to him. In addition, he's really smart, passionate, kind to everyone, a little shy, but pretty funny and easy to talk to. I told my best friend today that I kind of liked him and she got very excited and said we would be so cute. There is definitely something there. Today, I noticed him go out of his way to walk me to my car, telling everyone he needed to go that way too, but then he turned around.. :)
My concerns for our potential relationship are our friendship and our mutual friendships with others. We are both on a co-ed sports team with only 10 people who are all very close, so I'm concerned that dating him (and especially if it should end) might be awkward. He also asked one of my friends out on a date last year (she said no because she doesn't want to date in high school, although they remain very close friends), so there is another potential source of awkwardness. Another reason this concerns me is his formality in wanting to go out to restaurants and things on dates, which I have never really done before. Though the idea of a more mature relationship excites me, I'm also worried one of us will be uncomfortable or not know what to say or how to act. I'm also friends with his younger brother, I know his mom and dad from the sports events, and we have lots of mutual friends. While this might be a good thing, I am worried it could turn awkward.
I'm also not entirely sure if I even really like him or if my feelings stemmed from picturing us together, because the feelings I have are more sweet rather than a fiery crush.
Sorry this is long. Props to you if you really read it! I think writing it out has helped me at least a little bit in figuring it all out.
Basically, K and I have something going. I think our personalities mesh very well, and our chemistry is awesome. I see him as a great potential boyfriend, but am uncertain about getting over the uncomfortableness stage with him. What do you think? Do you think we are relationship material, or better off as friends? Is there anything I should say or do if we do end up dating, or if it should happen that I need to turn him down?
Thanks for your help!
I think this would probably make for a good relationship but do I think it will last forever? No.
I agree with everything you said and you two may even make a cute couple. But realistically, You can't think it terms of "will it work" It may work, It may not.
Someone once told me you can't live on "What If" Sometimes in order to know, We have to take risk. A good relationship is based on how much you both work at it, communicate and trust one another. You both are young, In high school abd still live at home. Again, Thus relationship may be an ideal for a few years ir so but it isn't forever.
So, I have a boyfriend who I really really love..But ive met this guy on facebook. He started to chat me up and persuaded me to sort of being slutty towards him..Its all been done through the chat..The thing is that i decided to go a little further..and I sent him a picture of me being naked..Ive been feeling miserable ever since..What was I thinking?? I decided not to talk to this guy anymore..please.I need some advice..Thanks!!
I hate to be the barrier of bad news, but that was a huge mistake.
Depending on your age, Sending nude or even partly nude photographs is considered child pornography.
Also, Santos is right, 9 times out of 10 that Facebook of his was a bullshit lie. If he talked you into sending a photo then sweetie, You aren't the only one...
As far as your photo goes, I hate to tell you that it is long gone . Once you send photos over the internet or a cellphone it stores hidden data, which means it is permanently stored on the hard drive despite whether or not it has been deleted. Sadly, There is a great possibility your photo was also leaked somewhere on the internet...
Basically all you can do now is hope you've learned a lesson and never ever do something like that again.
I was on Xbox and I met this random guy. He asked me for a picture of me, and I said no. Later, I told him I had to go and he said "Why do you have to go? It's only 3 where you are". Do you think he tracked me or something? Oh, and I deleted him and blocked him by the way.
Sounds like a creep
It's truly amazing how many people target xbox live to track down innocent kids. In fact it has become a pretty popular place over the years for twisted people to prey upon.
Anyone who acts creepy should be blocked and kept blocked!
14/f
I havent seen my best guy friend in over 5 months...
and last week i saw him for the first time again. I came to visit our old school(i trnsfered)
he literally ran to me and screamed my name. He ran so fast that when he hugged me we both fell on the floor. Then we got up.
"Omg i missed you so much. Howve you been? You look different."
Then we gave me a better hug when we got up and it was ssoooooo tight and big and it lasted for 10seconds.
anyways. He started playing with my hand. And he an di had the biggest smile we had ever seen on each others faces.He asked me if i made a new guy friend at my new school and i saw yes. Suddnely when i said that his smile disappeared and said "oh ive been replaced...."
And dropped my hand and walked away to his class.
What happened? Whats wrong? Was it something that i said?
Maybe he was jealous but why?
And i have to admit...
He has gotten very attractive.
But back to the point.... why did he just walk away?
I mean we havent seen or heard from each other in a while so why walk away like that.... :\
It is odd seeing you both haven't spoke in awhile but it sounds like he has feelings for you. Maybe you should try keeping in touch with him? He obviously cares.
okay so i am 15/f. sorry my story is LONG.
my bf and i had a very long fight 4 about 5 months. at first he stopped talking to me completely . he used to look at me in school. but whenever he had eye contact he used to pull his eyes away from me . i tried to talk but he kept away all the time. when i used to ask his friends where he is they always came up with an answer that he was in his football or basketball or he was just simply busy.
So that evening it was quite late , around 9 p.m. when i was returning home from my coaching. and i spotted him with MY CLASSMATE in the park in the shadow of a tree, quite close. i stopped to look and he suddenly saw me but , he didnot move away from her. i ran back home crying.
i was so depressed . i feel ill. when he could not spot me in school he came over to my house. i was unconscious and i woke up with his kiss on my lips.he said he was sorry and he wanted me back. i was so happy that i didnot want to bring that evening up and spoil the happiness.
so we got back to normal and, he made love to me. he even licked and fingered me and made me orgasm. we became tooo close and he said he loved me all the time.
but yesterday when he was making love to me, that girl came over to his home . so when he was busy talking to her in the hall i checked his cell. there were some texts like..."when can we meet?"...i am waiting...i want you so close ....are you busy tonight etc.
i dont want to think he is cheating me because he has made love to me and ... somehow i am connected to him from my body and soul. can any one tell me what is up with him?he has never brought up her name in front of me. am i overthinking?
Sorry to break it to you, He has feelings for someone eles.
Ok so I was at a grocery store and I had my hood on. An employee was like "Can I help you with something, sir?" And I turned around and he said "*Ahem* Ma'am. Sorry, I'm just tired".
I'm starting to think I look like a guy.. I had my hood on, but I have long-ish hair and it showed. I'm not really "grown" yet, so.. I'm a teen (Late bloomer.. Haha). Do you think he was really tired or he thought I was a guy?
You are over thinking it
I am sure he meant nothing by it, I wear hoodies all the time and I have been called sir a few times. Who cares?... It was an accident!
hi, i am searching the internet for help and thought i would at least let someone know what is going on in my life. i am 54 years old. my twin sister has mismanaged money left to us by my mother. she is now going to try to have me evicted from a home we own together based on any excuse she can find. i believe she is bipolar or schizophrenic. all of this started when she got married 12 yrs ago to a very narcissistic man. they have depleted my sisters and mines money instead of leaving it invested to draw interest to support 2 properties in our estate. they also took out a home equity loan which they need to get rid of in their lives. she is beyond manic. she visits me and destroys my life. she will not stay away. she is threatening to evict me and my 3 dogs if i do not sell the house. and she will start court proceedings and knows i have no money for an attorney. it is such a mess. overwhelming. i am so sad all day everyday and there is no reasoning with her. it has been one bad financial decision after another so she and her husband can live a lifestyle. she is on the edge and trying to give me her problems again. she is irrational. i cannot overstate this. she blames me for everything and i have had nothing to do with anything. my life is so off track. i am going thru my own menopause issues and i havent been well due to extreme anxiety and overwhelming depression. she knows that yet she keeps piling it on. she is the victim of mind control. others claim it she is the real deal. her husband is a phd and teaches or taught psychological warfare techniques in the military. he has complete control of her mind and can get her to do anything even destroy what took decades to accomplish. it is so overwhelming. i feel so alone in this world. i do have a friend who helps me as much as he can. i don't know what to do. i need to talk to someone about what to do. she will be visiting in a couple of weeks and will scream and rant at me. i dont want her here. i have told her we need to talk to a 3rd party but she will not do it. we are in crisis. i am so afraid for the future. please write back asap. i don't know where to turn.
Sometimes when we wabt to help ourselves we have to do what's best. If your sister is causing you misery then you will have to tell her she is no longer welcome at your house as long as she continues to cause problems. You may need to file a harassment complaint against her or have a restraining order placed on her and her husband.
Next, You get yourself into counseling where they can help you with depression and anxiety. Sometimes we have to cut people off in order to focus on our lives. The next time she visits tell her she is no longer welcome and to leave the property or the police will be called.
There's not much more to my question than what's in the title. My sister is getting married in June of 2014 and I'm thinking I might get married around that time as well. Like in August maybe. There's a reason why it may be important that I get married by that time, but I'm worried that people will think I just did it to steal my sister's thunder. Also, it's my dream to get married married in this church at the Grand Canyon, which I'm afraid people will think of as a real thunder stealing attempt. Also, I'd kind of like my own thunder. I don't get much at all. I got a tooth infection in February that was so bad I had to go to the emergency room and I liked it because it got me some attention. It's not a good enough reason to not get married when I plan to, but still. What do you think my sister and family will say?
From an outsiders point of view, This is a bit shallow.
From what you have wrote about liking the attention from a tooth infection, You imply your seeking the same attention by planning a wedding. If your sister is getting married in June 2014 I would think it'd be right to at least wait a bit.
Why would you want to plan so close to her wedding? Why are you so eagar to seek yourself attention by planning two months apart?
Maybe you have a more valid reason, either way if it's for seeking attention then you have the wrong idea here. You're time will come but to seek it so desperately gives wrong vibes.
my 21 year old sister has to go to jail for a year for a hit and run while driving under influence. She has to go next week. She told me she is going to run away so she doesn't have to go. This seems silly to me because I don't know where she will go but it looks like she might be serious. What can I say to talk her out of it, also should I tell someone? I am close to her and don't want to betray her you know. If I tell them what could they do?
Yes you should tell someone. Running away to avoid court can lead to a warrant for her arrest. Therefore she will actually end up getting into more trouble then if she went and faced her problems. Running away is digging herself a deep hole, It's not a smart move. You need to tell someone
13/F
So I'm in 7th, and I like this guy that's in 8th grade. He's so adorable and really nice, but school is ending in 2 weeks. He'll be going to high school and I won't be able to see him for a year - PLUS there will be a bunch of new girls there. What do I do? I really like him. I don't know him. He's smiled at me walking through the halls and stuff, but that's pretty much it. He's like all I think about... What do I do?
To be honest?
High school is a whole new world compared to middle school. Even if you both did date exactly how long do you expect it too last? You both will be in different schools, he will meet new people and so are you. You can like him, but realisticly it won't work.
I'm 18 years old, and I work part-time after school. A few months ago, this new guy came in. He's a bit older than I am, and really funny and very cute, and I immediately took a liking to him.
I didn't think he'd ever be interested, but we started talking and he's asked to hook up. I have a few concerns;
1. He's in his 20s, and I feel like hooking up to him is sex. I don't feel comfortable going all the way with someone that I'm not even dating.
2. I like his personality, and I worry that getting physically intimate will cause me to develop feelings for him.
3. I gained a lot of weight recently. I'm just barely overweight, and you can't really tell how big I am in clothes. If I were to take anything off, I'm sure he'd notice some... trouble areas...
So, what should I do?
Thanks :)
Why does everything have to be about sex? Just get to know him and take it slow. See if he is into YOU, not your body. "hooking up" a lot of times can mean sex yes, but do you really just want to be his booty call? Take it slow, Be his friend for awhile and get to know each other.
i am 18 year old boy . my gf is 17. i love her immensely and i have promised to marry her once i am financially strong.however every time i want to touch her , hold her hand or kiss her...she pushes me back and turns away.she does not even talk about sex!! when i asked she says that she loves me and she wants closeness but she is SHY??...i really love her a lot and it is 4 years now , and i want to make love to her. i can figure it out that she wants it too , i have gone through her diary secretly but she says that she is too shy to let me touch her private parts or kiss her??? however she agreed to make love soon. guys please give clues on how to approach to her once we are in bed so that she feels comfortable and it is easy for her to come out of her shyness. and also can anyone explain to me this psychology of girls???
She may be feeling insecure about herself rather then being shy. On the other hand reading what you wrote, It sounda like you are disrespecting how she feels. Clearly she is just not ready or comfortable. You are pressuring her, You are invading her privacy and you will eventually draw her away from you.
What is so hard to understand? She isn't comfortable with sex.
Respect her or find someone who wants the same thing.
Hi, so I have an Instagram. Recently, I was talking to this girl then a random girl just said I was bothering her.
We got into a conversation, then she said she'd hack me from her family. She also said they'd hurt me. When I ask her what she meant, she said they'd find me, get my number from the cops, etc.
I'm scared. What do I do?! She hacked my friend before. I'm so scared!
Sounds like someone you need to stop talking too and block. I wouldn't take her threats too seriously as if she has no proof she is just making an ass out of herself. She's just drama
I have been planning this for a while but there is just one problem... I dont know how to do it quick and permanet...If your lost then what im trying to say is ... I want to kill myself today and I need a suggestion on how to kill myself quick and permanet.
None of us here are not going to give you the answers you are looking for.
Please seek professional help.
My boyfriend and I had been dating pretty seriously for seven months or so; we are grad students, and in the stress of the end of the semester, he got very cranky for a few days and then said he wanted to take a break, and that he wasn't sure if he wanted to be together; but before the end of that conversation, he was crying and trying to take it back. We are in our 20s but he is a couple years younger than me, which caused some internal frustration for me sometimes (me wanting to settle down soon, him not even thinking about marriage yet etc). Anyway, I felt so very hurt after he said those things that I couldn't give him an answer about being back together or not. It has been a few weeks, and I suppose we are "seeing" each other. We were best friends, so it feels natural. The thing is, randomly enough, I seemed to have lost my feelings for him in the weeks since the break-talk (I have been crazy about him before this). So confused, any thoughts?
In my opinion a break is a temporary and can sometimes be a breakup.
A break is hurtful, It is even more hurtful when we are caught off guard by it.
You took a break, You lost your sense of security in the relationship and it pulled you away from him.
A breakup can either make two people stronger or, Tear them apart.
You mentioned he is a few years younger which leads me to believe he is a bit immature. Perhaps you have learned he is not right for you. Sometimes a break can make one realize their true feelings.