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my best guy friend left without saying goodbye..
14/f
I havent seen my best guy friend in over 5 months...
and last week i saw him for the first time again. I came to visit our old school(i trnsfered)
he literally ran to me and screamed my name. He ran so fast that when he hugged me we both fell on the floor. Then we got up.
"Omg i missed you so much. Howve you been? You look different."
Then we gave me a better hug when we got up and it was ssoooooo tight and big and it lasted for 10seconds.
anyways. He started playing with my hand. And he an di had the biggest smile we had ever seen on each others faces.He asked me if i made a new guy friend at my new school and i saw yes. Suddnely when i said that his smile disappeared and said "oh ive been replaced...."
And dropped my hand and walked away to his class.
What happened? Whats wrong? Was it something that i said?
Maybe he was jealous but why?
And i have to admit...
He has gotten very attractive.
But back to the point.... why did he just walk away?
I mean we havent seen or heard from each other in a while so why walk away like that.... :\
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That sure was some enthusiastic welcome he gave you. Sounds like he could possibly have been feeling more than just best friends with you all along, and just not able to convey that to you.
You'll have to ask him to find out. If it came to dating him and him being your sweetheart, versus the new guy friend, which would you prefer?
Theres a chance that in the 5 months away, he missed you so bad that he had hoped to ask you to be his girl once back thus the enthusiastic greeting followed by disappointment thinking he was replaced.
Think about it, girls sometimes have several best friends, like a small tight knit group of 3 or 4. I had that in high school. Do you ever hear of a gal having two male best friends? Not unless they are in a polyamorous relationship together and both guys ok with it. Basically extremely rare.
I don't think his disappointment was that you had another male friend to hang with, he is assuming it is something more perhaps like dating.
So, depending on what you want and also how much you really care about him, you need to go have a heart to heart talk. If you feel his statement is wrong, tell him so, that he has not been replaced. The guy is just a good friend same as he is. Find out if he is ready to take your best friend relationship up to the next level, and date. I cant think of any other reason for a guy to walk away disappointed.
You answered truthfully nothing wrong with that. You will learn as you grow up into adult hood that when asked point blank by a guy if you made a new guy friend, sometimes a safer response is, "Why do you ask?" Because then he would be put in spot to explain how he feels about you.
Or teasingly not answer and pose the same question back, "Answer this first, did you make a new best girl friend?" If he said he had not, then you could ask why and he is again put in the position of telling you why.
Just start him talking and find out what is behind his reaction if you value your friendship
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Well that's extremely weird and kinda immature of him. Anyways, if you want to know the real reason why he did that, you'll have to hear it from him. We can all make guesses but you'll never know what's going on.
Maybe he had a crush on you and got jealous that you found a new guy friend. If he was jealous over you getting a new friend..that's kinda weird even if he had a crush on you.
Maybe he seriously thought he was replaced and thought he was the only guy friend in your life.
Anyways, just talk to him and ask him why and see what he says.
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It is odd seeing you both haven't spoke in awhile but it sounds like he has feelings for you. Maybe you should try keeping in touch with him? He obviously cares.
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