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My boyfriend calls me names and tells me I am all sorts of horrible things. I don't think that is acceptable in the slightest, but I guess I DO, because I'm still with him, right? I have this state of mind that I am not all of the bad things he tells me I am, unless I stay with him... then I feel as if I have become those awful things. Which makes me feel like I deserve to hear everything he has to dish out. Afterall, why should he respect me when I don't even respect myself? Isn't that true?
Thing is, I wouldn't stand for this behavior from anyone but him, and that is a fact I am sure of! I have never taken poor treatment of any degree in the past, and I come from what someone would call the "perfect" family whose parents have the "perfect" marriage. I was raised right. I was taught manners, and I know the importance of respect. So why am I still with him?
He really just has a poor attitude. He is only mean to me when he loses his cool, but he is everything I've ever dreamed of when his temper is straight. So our goods outweight our bads. But does that make his act okay? We are both in our early 20's, and we do not live together. We've been a couple for years, but he hasn't always been this way. I'm not afraid of him physically hurting me or my loved ones, but yet I still can't find the strength to leave. I feel like the most disgusting, pathetic excuse for a human being for admitting this, but..... I feel like I have nothing better to run to. I've grown up a lot over the past few years, and he's been there through everything. He is such a part of my life, that I feel too scared and flat out lazy to lose him only to take a step backwards.
Do you think I deserve this treatment for having not yet left? I feel like I have brought this all on myself. I have, haven't I? Because I am the only one who can stop it, and I haven't, correct? Can anybody help me with finding a train of thought to help myself gain the courage and self-respect it would take to break away from him? And stay away?
First of all whether you respect yourdelf or not you don't deserve to be dissrepected by anyone. I think your scared to leave him because you don't know what else or who else is out there. You're probabally afraid that if you leave him things will turn out even worse. It sounds like he's had a serious affect on your self confidence, which is not a good thing. Your boyfriend shouldn't make you feel bad about yourself, even if it is just a phase. If you have gotten to the point were you think he might hurt you physically you honestly need to talk to him or someone else. No matter what you think no one deserves to be scared to be with someone or scared of what would happen if they left them. Things can get better for you or they can get worse; you should really talk to your boyfriend if you havn't already. He might of done so many good things for you or helped you through all the hard times but that doesn't tip the scale. He still has done a lot of horrible things as you said. I hate to say this because he obviously means alot to you despite what he's done, but losing him may be the best thing you can do. No one deserves mental or physical abuse from anybody. You just need to be strong. You never know whats out their until you look. You might feel a sense of loss or regret, but in the end everything will work out, it has to right? No decision is a wrong decision. Every decision still moves you one step forward. I don't know if you believe in fate but if somethings meant to happen it will.
If there is anything else I can help you with don't be afraid to ask.
Good Luck & Stay Strong
-Jasmine
"you have more chins than a chinese phone book"
what does that mean? i heard it somewhere.. and idk.
It's a pun. Chin is a common name in China, and they're refering to some who is over weight when they say you have more chins.
We are doing these things in school where you have to write something and memorize it about someone who has passed away.
So I am doing Steve Irwin [ the croc hunter].. my question was, what were some of the things he'd always say while wrestling the crocs?
THanks
"Crickey!" (Steve Irwin - The Crocodile Hunter)
Mostly just that, but here are some quotes. Hope I helped - Jasmine
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When I talk to the camera, mate, it’s not like I’m talking to the camera, I’m talking to you because I want to whip you around and plunk you right there with me.
- Steve Irwin - The Crocodile Hunter
When the East Timor conflict broke out, when they gained independence, the militia killed a lot of East Timorese people. And their sacred totem is the crocodile. They
believe that their island is actually a solidified crocodile, so it has sacred status.
- Steve Irwin - The Crocodile Hunter
Where I live if someone gives you a hug it’s from the heart.
- Steve Irwin - The Crocodile Hunter
Yeah, for some reason parrots have to bite me. That’s their job. I don’t know why that is. They’ve nearly torn my nose off. I’ve had some really bad parrot bites.
- Steve Irwin - The Crocodile Hunter
Yeah, I think it’s an absolute disaster that Australia, the government, allowed kangaroo culling.
- Steve Irwin - The Crocodile Hunter
Yeah, I’m a thrill seeker, but crikey, education’s the most important thing.
- Steve Irwin - The Crocodile Hunter
“It is all about perceived danger. In front of that crocodile I was in complete control. Absolute and complete control. That is my profession.
- Steve Irwin - The Crocodile Hunter
You know, I’m Australian, and we have got the worst sense of humor. We are cruel to each other.
- Steve Irwin - The Crocodile Hunter
You know, you can touch a stick of dynamite, but if you touch a venomous snake it’ll turn around and bite you and kill you so fast it’s not even funny.
- Steve Irwin - The Crocodile Hunter
“I would be considered a bad parent if I didn’t teach my children to be crocodile savvy because they live here, they live in crocodile territory.” On the 2004 controversy in
which he was filmed holding his infant son while feeding a snapping crocodile:
- Steve Irwin - The Crocodile Hunter
“To hear people say that it was a publicity stunt, that I’m just like Michael Jackson, well, it just tears me up. It makes me sick to my stomach to be compared in that way.”
On the same incident.
- Steve Irwin - The Crocodile Hunter
ok well this story is kinda long so i apologize. anyways well this guy and i were getting along great together. it started in my art class when i didnt even know he existed but he was aware of me. he would try to talk to me and i would but i wouldnt be crazy about it. but then he started to grow on me. and i started to like him. so i would talk to him he would talk to me, he would tease me, play with me, walk to class with me, actually walk with me alot, stare at me, and he did this thing where he would always ask me to do favors for him and i would smile and kinda soft yell thing and said no and so he kept doing that and it would be like, "can you get my shoes or books?" ect and then one day in the lunch line he asked me for another favor and i thought maybe you should say yes and i said yes and he said nevrmind and im like what tell me and he told me he just wanted to see me mad. so this went on for a while untill one day all of a sudden he stopped talking to me. ignored me and everything. he walked with me to class but as we were walking it was just silence and we would always be talking about something. i would try to talk to him and hed ignore me and i didnt know what was up. so i tried to plan what i was gonna do with him everyday to try to get things back to normal but they didnt work. so i said i give up and gave up on him. and so i wanted to get over him really bad because i was feeling pain becuz i missed everything we would do. so i thougt the best thing to do was to get mad at him. so here and there he talks to me but i ignore him or talk in a mean tone. but today which kinda shocked me he started flirting with me a little bit. he was blocking me from going up the stairs and i was happy but i didnt show any smiling. my emotion was kinda like leave me alone i dont wanna be bothered with anyone right now. ok so here is the whole question. am i doing the right thing or should i start being nice to him letting this being a wake upcall telling me there is still hope? or should i keep being mean to him??? and why do you think he stopped all of this?? that someone heard my best friend and i talking and told him. and then if i should be nice to him how do i talk to him again?? thank you so much and sorry this letter was so wrong. thanks again:)
In the end it's up to you if you want to be nice to him or not. Guys are wierd. I think they mess with us and our heads just to mess with us! If you still have feelings for him then maybe you should be nice. Maybe something was going on in his life that caused him to act the way he did. Everyone has stuff going on in their lives. Maybe he was just out of it. If you really want to know ask.But you shouldn't be mean(You can play hard to get if you like)until you know what was actually going on with him. If you don't have feelings for him anymore you should atleast act civil, you still have classes with him right? But it's your decision.
I hope I helped & Good luck
-Jasmine
How can you tell if someone your dating is just in the relationship to get sex?
It's the little details you need to pay attention to. How he acts around you, does he call you or have pet names or a nickname for you. Do you guys talk alot or is your relationship more physical? What do you to do when yuor alone? Is he all over you in two seconds? Does he trust you with secrets?, or do things for you for know reason?There are differnt types of intamacy; it isn't just sex. If you want to find out faster if someones in a relationship for sex, just say that you don't think you should have sex for a while and see ow they react. If they break up with you I think it's safe to say what they wanted.
hey.. just a quick question..
ok ill put it in this prospective..
everytime i try to talk to my guy about 'serious' stuff, like how i feel about things, things in general, such as if hes upset me by saying or doing something without relising or just anything in general, he always goes all quiet and wierd. so now i just avoid talking to him about anything that might cause some conflict, i avoid confrentation basically. ive been with him for 7 months now, and i think were at the stage were i can tell him wat i think about things, how do i get him to open up, without me asking the questions first?
any help would be great. thanks
This may sound kind of confusing but maybe before you talk to him about the "seroius stuff" that comes up everytime he upsets you or hurts you by something he says, maybe you should talk to him how you feel about him acting the way he does everytime you do bring up what he does to upset you. Understand what i'm saying? You've been together for seven months, you should be able to tell him what your feeling without him going all incommunicado. Find out whats up with him. Don't avoid talking to him because that will just end up going very badly, trust me I know. Maybe you do need to be the one to ask questions first, so you can see things from his point of view. Maybe he just doesn't know how to act after you teel him these things. Guys can be really egotistical, they don't like to think that they can do anything wrong. Just talk to him and ask questions. Trying to avoid confrontation is not the best way to go. You should always be open in relationships!
I hope I helped & Good Luck!
-Jasmine
ok well theres this guy i work with and i thought he hated me because he never spoke to me, but turns out he has a crush on me...someone told me! and from then on it was kinda obvious. well the person who told me is like communicating between us , and she gave me his cell number and told me that he wants me to call him! but idunno i dont want to be the one to make the first move! you know? and hes the one who was intrested in me first so i think he should do something! what should i do....i want to talk to him, but not like that. Oh and the reason we cant talk at work is cause we're from different departments! thanks in advance
You should call him! If you don't want to make the first move and he doesn't want to make the first move, then nobody is going to make a move and if you wait to long then it'll be akward. Wait a couple of days and if he doesn't make the first move than call him. Just keep it casual. Ask him how he's been and talk about work or something like that. Now that he knows you may be intrested he might make his move.
Our class is getting ready for a spring trip to New York and today we picked the people we are rooming with. This girl I know, we'll call her Lucy, is one of the people I am rooming with. I used to be really close with her, but then we stopped talking. We starting hanging out again just this year. We signed up to room together with another one of my friends. Later, I find out that Lucy said I was annoying and she doesn't want to room with me because I'm "annoying," even though she has been acting like my friend the entire year. I think she's being very immature and two-faced. I want to confront her about this, but I don't want to get carried away and become immature myself. How can I talk to her about this rationally? Would it be reasonable to just blow her off and room with someone else and leave her all alone?
You should confront her about this. Although first you should ask her if she's really been saying stuff about you behind your back. Who told you this? And are you 100% sure it's true? First you should find out, and if it is true ask her about. Don't yell at her or get pissed off so if it's not true you've lost a friend and if it is true pick a new roomate, you don't need a friend you cant trust to be truthful to you.
Good Luck
-Jasmine
okay, i know this kid. he's 14/m. but he has WICKED bad acne. like its actually kind of gross. its all over his face, his back, etc. yeah. i feel bad that he has such bad acne, but he doesn't really seem to care. i used to be friends with him last year, but we kind of stopped talking cuz he found out i liked him (i'm female btw). i want to tell him about a germatologist to go to or some kind of acne product that will help him..but i'm not sure how to tell him without sounding rude.
i'm not trying to sound mean or harsh..but, i really would like to help him..
Everyone gets acne at some point in their life, some worse than others. I don't want to sound mean but it all comes down to this.: It's not your problem. You might want to help him but you'll probabally just end up embarassing him or making him feel bad about himself which i'm guessing you don't want to do. If he doesn't seem bothered by it or doesn't care you should leave the issue alone. However if he asks your advice or for help suggesting a dermatologist or some kind of acne product would be fine.
Hope I helped!
-Jasmine
This is the deal; I'm a prep.
Flat out, okay... but, in my school prep's are targeted. BIG TIME. Teachers make us write papers on how bad cliques are, and in class room meetings we disucuss the groups and every time people bring up prep and look at me. I have a certain group of friends and I sit with them, but i get along with almost anyone. Just beacuse someone has on all black and chains comming off their pants doesn't mean i hate them... I DONT ! BUT EVERYONE THINKS THAT?
Is anyone out there non-prep can you explain to me why people would assume that? they dont even know me.. and its not that im mean or stuck up in any way.
It's just typical stereotyping. Everyone judges and labels people, and your right preps are the most targeted.I guess it's because preps tend to form more cliques than other groups of people and they're usually the most noticed for some reason. Thet're always the ones being teased and made fun of. When people get an idea in their head how someone is they stick to it, even if it's not true. Everyone is entitled t their opinion. Some people may just make fun of a certain group because others are. Everyone has their own idea of what wrong and right is, but the teachers have no right to punish you for being in a certain group. Some preps are stuck-up and some aren't but people like to thing their all the same and stuck up. Just ignore them! People are gonna say that just because your a prep that automatically makes you a bitch. Try making friends outside your group,but you should just be patient and always be yourself so that when you meet new people and talk to people they will see you for who you really are and not just a prep.
I'd prefer a Christian's (Methodist if possible, but just Christian will do.) opinion since everyone has different beliefs.
I am completely afraid of death. I always think I'm going to die in the night or doing something. And of course, there's what happens after death. I dont just want to "end" but eternal life is overwhelming to me. I mean forever is so long!!!
I am also a Christian and I used to be afraid of death too, but if you're meant to live on you will and if your meant to die, God will take you whether or not your ready, because he has a better plan for you than the one you currently have. Eternal life may be overwhelming but it's a blessing and what else is there. No one lives forever. Death is just a milestone. Whatever happens in ones afterlife is greater than anyone can imagine. Or at least that's what i've always been taught. You should never be scared. If somethings meant to happen it will. God has a plan for everybody.
i really neeed your advice:
who do you pick? the person who first loved you? or the person you first loved?
If you don't love the person who loved you first you shouldn't feel oblidged to pick them. You shouldn't feel as if you owe them you heart. You have to ask yourself: Who do I love? Who do I want to be with. It's your choice not theirs, you just have to saty true to your heart. Just because you loved someone first that doesn't mean you'll always love them and it doesn't mean you love them the most. Things change. People change, and what you want changes. Good Luck!
ok well there this girl i really really like... but she got a b/f but thats really not the problem because shes not to close and about to break up eith him ...well i tlak to her all the time but she acts like she dont really like me and if she does i really dont see it ...hoever some of her friends and her b/f all told me she does so i really dont no who to believe cause i really like her but i ask her to snowball and she like wait till it gets closer cause i think she wants to go with another guy so what do i do cause i really just want her to be happy!! 17/m
If more than one person who hangs out with her says she likes you it's possible that that may be true. Or maybe she doesn't want to start a new relationship right after breaking up with her boyfriend, maybe she needs time to think. Also a lot of girls like playing hard to get.
So theres this girl who used to REALLY like my boyfriend. Once she told me she hated herself for letting him go and she will always have a place in her heart for him. Well My boyfriend and I have been together for 8 months and I know he has no feelings for her but it bugs me when she tries to talk all cute to him. The weird thing tho is that I want to be her friend. I talk to her alot and we plan on hanging out. I hate her when she talks to my boyfriend and I'm jelous of her for some odd reason but then I want to be her friend. Is that weird?
It's not weird at all to be jealous of her and want to be her friend. There was this guy iI really like but he had a girlfriend. I hated this girl so much and I was so jealous that he was going out with her, but at the same time I wanted to be her friend. You should try talking to this girl and telling her how you feel; and if she doesn't stop than maybe shes not a friend you want to have. Although you have to look at the situation from her prespective. What if your boyfriend broke up with you and a couple of months later had a new girlfriend and had no feelings for you whatsoever. How would you feel?
I know no one can really tell me what to do. Its a "my choice" kinda of thing, but I need input.
I have a boyfriend and we'll call him Tom. Tom when we first started to go out, was nice to me and treated like a princess. Now that we have been together for a longer time, hes not. Tom behind my back to my friends calls me a bxtch, whore, slut, dumbaxs & anything else you can think of. Tom will tell my friends that they can't talk to me anymore, so now I'm down to like 5 friends when I use to had alot. He hung up on me last night on the phone and then today when I said something to him about it, he was all nice to me again.
What's the deal ? Should I break up with him ? I kind of want to, but I dont want to hurt him. I know me being happy is important but I shouldn't go around hurting his feelings should I ? ANY advice would help me alot. So thanks.
Some guys just act nice to get what they want, or get the girl they want. When they have her they'll just stop caring even though you their girlfriend, maybe thats how your boyfriend is? No one can tell you to break up with your boyfriend. You should do what feels right to you. If you don't think whats happening between you two will change then maybe you should break up with him, but before you do you should talk to him and tell him how you feel.
Well I met this guy at the dog park. He's incredible, and we totally hit it off. Then, this afternoon, we made plans to meet again, and we did, and though we didn't talk as much (there were other people there we were talking to) I had an incredible time. He's one of my myspace friends, should I message him and tell him I had fun, or would that be wierd? Should I wait a while? How long should I wait to see if he wants to hang out again?
Also I'm 18 and he's 24, do you think he'll think I'm too young? Ah this is so crazy I'm so infatuated with him.
First off I don't think your to young, it's legal isn't it? My friend is 15 and shes hoing out with a guy who's 25. Also you should message him, and see when he wants to hang out again. I you wait to long he might get the wrong idea and think you don't like him.
i had sex for my first time on friday night.
it went good, although we didnt use a condom, he asked me where he should jizz and i gave him a towel then he stuck it back in..
could i be pregnant?
It's nearly impossible to get pregnant your first time having sex. All the same you should still take a test after about two or three weeks, but test you find in a drug store or any other store aren't always accurate.
Ok so here's the deal I was with my boyfriend for the first time yesterday. I really like him and we spent time together we talked and cuddled but nothing else. I really didn't feel confterable when he was hugging me. I know I love him but I don't know what's wrong. I didn't want him too hug me at all yesterday. What's wrong??. Any advice would be useful thanks!
When you start spending time with him, you will probally get used to being with him, new relationships are always akward in the beginning because your not used to being around the person and you may not be comfortable around them yet. So I honestly don't think anything is wrong, unless after getting to know him better you still have that feeling.
Dear advicenators. I'm 15/m and in highschool. Theres this girl that I've liked for about a year now. We werent really going out but i made it really obvious that I liked her. I would give her stares and friendly smiles and linger around to wait for her to get out of her classes so I could walk her to her next class. I told her how i felt one day and we were on the verge of a relationship for about 4 weeks. I held her hand when we walked and bought her roses. She was my homecoming date but I never really asked her out. This one friday after school she out of the blue came up to me and told me she didn't think this was gonna work out. I was devastated and its been about a month now and I cant get her out of my head. I keep finding myself glancing over at her direction and wanting her to just look back at me for a second but she wont. I want her attention so badly that any kind of attention from her would satisfy me. I dont know what to do.. she seems to like another guy now, and you can probabally tell i'm the jealous type of person. but ya know, if shes happy its better off that way right? and now for the question, sorry for making this so long. Is there something wrong with me? What did I do wrong? and should I try to move on?
serious answers only please, Thanks in advance.
It may be hard to like a girl who doesn't like you, but if you really like her you should be happy that she's happy even though ou still want to be with her. The best thing to do is move on, you can't just sit around waiting for yourself to stop liking her because it wont happen. Life is to short for regret. Don't keep tryng to figure out what went wrong, because life goes on.
there is this boy at my school who really likes me. and alot of people keep coming up to me and asking me do i go out with him. the problem is that one of my friends told me that he has a girlfriend. what i don't understand is how he has a girlfriend and flirts with me everyday?!! my friend said that she would ask him if he broke up with her, but she never got the chance. i was wondering if i should just back off before i know if he still has a girlfriend? because i'm not trying to fight over some boy who is coming on to me.
I think it's okay to flirt with him, but you should find out if he has a girlfriend before you consider going out with him. Or else your gonna have one one pissed off girlfriend. Also he may not be exclusive with this girl, he may be dating different girls.