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How do I handle this immature person?
Our class is getting ready for a spring trip to New York and today we picked the people we are rooming with. This girl I know, we'll call her Lucy, is one of the people I am rooming with. I used to be really close with her, but then we stopped talking. We starting hanging out again just this year. We signed up to room together with another one of my friends. Later, I find out that Lucy said I was annoying and she doesn't want to room with me because I'm "annoying," even though she has been acting like my friend the entire year. I think she's being very immature and two-faced. I want to confront her about this, but I don't want to get carried away and become immature myself. How can I talk to her about this rationally? Would it be reasonable to just blow her off and room with someone else and leave her all alone?
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You should confront her about this. Although first you should ask her if she's really been saying stuff about you behind your back. Who told you this? And are you 100% sure it's true? First you should find out, and if it is true ask her about. Don't yell at her or get pissed off so if it's not true you've lost a friend and if it is true pick a new roomate, you don't need a friend you cant trust to be truthful to you.
Good Luck
-Jasmine
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Are you sure you can even trust the source that told you what Lucy supposedly said? Is it possible that it was gossip, or that that person had reason to want to cause a rift between you two?
If I were you, and I'm not, I would approach Lucy, with no expectations. Tell her that you know you haven't really been close lately but that you're looking forward to the trip and you're sure you two can get along--something like that. No need to drag in something she supposedly said, especially when it could have been in the heat of the moment.
If she's not receptive to your casual comments, then it's time to consider rooming elsewhere. Just make sure not to sound accusatory. Go in with an open mind and assume that what you were told was WRONG. That way she won't feel attacked and is much less likely to be offended or defensive.
Good luck.
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yeah either blow her off and room with someone else, or if you end up having to room with her... act like you don't care. Spend all of your time with other friends and ignore her.
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Oooh, if there's one thing I know about, it's bitches. And you're dealing with one (there was no need to mention that, sorry, since you probably knew that already). Of course you confront her! She'll be a very easy person to combat, as all two-faced people are. You have to face this girl and say, "I heard you called me annoying behind my back, and it surprised me because you were acting all sweet with me, and you're calling me annoying? Don't deny it, because it'll only show me you're a coward. Well, I'd like you to tell me your opinion in my face, and I'll return you the favor. Unles you're afraid to. In that case, just don't say anything at all." Don't go to another room. This way she'll spend the trip silently being frightened by you, as you hang with your friends.
If you don't want to be like that, just talk to her calmly about it. Tell her you heard you heard that you said bad stuff about you behind your back, and that you'd like for her to just leave you alone. But be firm about it, don't be a softie and go, "Just don't do it again, okay?" because you have to show her that you won't stand for it. Then change rooms so you won't have to deal with Lucy.
xoxo
-Jenny C ♥
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Well it wont be immature if you are talking to her but dont make it into a drama play. If you just talk to her calmy then it wont be immature. Depending on what she tells you, if shes admits it and says she sorry then you can stay her roommate. IF you denies it and gets all rude about it then ditch her. That may not be the greatest advice but that is what i will do.
-Krazy
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