So theres this girl who used to REALLY like my boyfriend. Once she told me she hated herself for letting him go and she will always have a place in her heart for him. Well My boyfriend and I have been together for 8 months and I know he has no feelings for her but it bugs me when she tries to talk all cute to him. The weird thing tho is that I want to be her friend. I talk to her alot and we plan on hanging out. I hate her when she talks to my boyfriend and I'm jelous of her for some odd reason but then I want to be her friend. Is that weird?
clarayow answered Wednesday November 22 2006, 12:22 am: You're just being a very nice person.
In fact, too nice for me.
You get soft with her when she's nice to you and pissed when she hitting on your bf. Should a good friend be doing that to you? I don't think so. She's not being nice by not sparing any thoughts for you. Why are you jealous of her? You're the one who's got the boy, not her.
I used to be like you. I had my fair share of having such girl friends and frankly speaking, I'm sick of having such bitches around me. Why do you still wanna cling on, for old time's sake or whatever, to her? You'd be happier with nicer and considerate friends around you.
BLONDShorty answered Tuesday November 21 2006, 11:33 pm: i don't think that its werid. strangely, i kind of have the same problem as you, accept backwards. you see, i've like this guy for years. but, he has a girlfriend. for some odd reason, i want to be her friend. maybe its because we feel that if we become closer
to this person, than we'll have more trust in them, and that we're lacking trust in them because they're with our man. lol. well, i don't think it's weird. good luck! xoxo [ BLONDShorty's advice column | Ask BLONDShorty A Question ]
DepthofHeart answered Tuesday November 21 2006, 11:30 pm: It's not weird at all to be jealous of her and want to be her friend. There was this guy iI really like but he had a girlfriend. I hated this girl so much and I was so jealous that he was going out with her, but at the same time I wanted to be her friend. You should try talking to this girl and telling her how you feel; and if she doesn't stop than maybe shes not a friend you want to have. Although you have to look at the situation from her prespective. What if your boyfriend broke up with you and a couple of months later had a new girlfriend and had no feelings for you whatsoever. How would you feel? [ DepthofHeart's advice column | Ask DepthofHeart A Question ]
AyumiHamasaki answered Tuesday November 21 2006, 10:20 pm: Its not weird at all! It's just that you and your friend are really close and when she tries to talk all cute with your boyfriend it bugs you because you feel like your in some competiton with her to see who wins the guys heart but its really not true! Talk to your friend and say that you don't like all this flirting with my boyfriend and please stop because it bugs be and I feel like I have to be in a competition with you.
t0xicParadiSe answered Tuesday November 21 2006, 10:00 pm: That's not exactly weird. Maybe you just want to get to know her. Maybe you're thinking that if the two of you become friends then she will realize for a fact that there is no chance with her and your boyfriend. Maybe you just want to show yourself that there is nothing to be jealous of by getting to know the girl better.
ductape_n_roses answered Tuesday November 21 2006, 9:12 pm: It's not all that weird. Well, I guess this isn't the same case but I have a girl that I know that used to go out with my biggest crush. Of course she didn't know about it but I was really jealous of her but still wanted to be really good friends with her.
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