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Enough guilt.
So me and my mom are pretty close. We talk about anything to eachother. but it seems like once a month we fight. Everything thats been bugging her builds up until she blows up on me for the stupidest thing. She'll start pulling major guilt trips. Whenever I tell her how I feel and what she does she just gets even more mad. I can never talk to her. She talks about how her life is stressful and all the things shes going through and how her life sucks and she wants to kill herself. Well what am I supposed to do in that situation? She ends up making me feel like I'm a bad daughter and I don't appreciate anything she does. I tell her thank you all the time. Once she said thank you wasn't enough. It drives me crazy. Sometimes she gets so bad she'll start pushing me around all just because I tell her she shouldnt try to make me feel guilty for things that i cant help and things that arent my problem.It will be like that for a few hours and then she acts like shes fine. I think she has a problem. She denies it.
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it sound like your mother is using you to vent off her frustration with the rest of her life. i dont condone this behavior but i certainly understand it. She may not have anyone else to vent to. Try to be understanding especially when she goes on about things you can do nothing about. try to be the bigger person and realize that parents needs parenting too sometimes. if it only happens once a month or so try to recognize the signs of when its going to happen so you can be on your best behavior when it happens cause that will help alleviate the pressure your mom is feeling. If you lines of communication are open like you say, try to suggest she get some outside help (like therapy)but i would only suggest it when she is in a good mood though and you can calmly relate to her how much her outbursts are upsetting you.
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