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hey.. just a quick question..
ok ill put it in this prospective..
everytime i try to talk to my guy about 'serious' stuff, like how i feel about things, things in general, such as if hes upset me by saying or doing something without relising or just anything in general, he always goes all quiet and wierd. so now i just avoid talking to him about anything that might cause some conflict, i avoid confrentation basically. ive been with him for 7 months now, and i think were at the stage were i can tell him wat i think about things, how do i get him to open up, without me asking the questions first?
any help would be great. thanks
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This may sound kind of confusing but maybe before you talk to him about the "seroius stuff" that comes up everytime he upsets you or hurts you by something he says, maybe you should talk to him how you feel about him acting the way he does everytime you do bring up what he does to upset you. Understand what i'm saying? You've been together for seven months, you should be able to tell him what your feeling without him going all incommunicado. Find out whats up with him. Don't avoid talking to him because that will just end up going very badly, trust me I know. Maybe you do need to be the one to ask questions first, so you can see things from his point of view. Maybe he just doesn't know how to act after you teel him these things. Guys can be really egotistical, they don't like to think that they can do anything wrong. Just talk to him and ask questions. Trying to avoid confrontation is not the best way to go. You should always be open in relationships!
I hope I helped & Good Luck!
-Jasmine
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it's important for a relationship to include open communication. he needs to know that if something's bothering you, he needs to communicate with you and compromise, or else no one wins, it just gets worse. you're not doing anything wrong. just talk to him about your commnication. hope this helps
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I say you need to confront him about the whole thing right away. 7 months is a long time and there is no reason for him to not listen to you. If he's not willing to work these things out with you, maybe you need to consider some time apart. The relationship will never work if you two can't talk to each other. I understand you don't want to upset him or anything, I've been in that situation before, but in the end, if you don't confront him about how you are feeling, it will only get worse.
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