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my modeling manager wants me to be in the magazine MAXIM. i am 14, do you think this is weird?
he says its good for exposure since i am just starting. (link)
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Good exposure is right! Maxim is a men's magazine and most of the models are barely dressed.
Since you are under 18 I don't think it would be appropriate. I'd consider finding a manager who is a little smarter than the one you currently have. :)
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A married male friend of mine recently told me that although he finds a lot of the pornography out there offensive and that it made him sick; that he still struggled with it. Does this mean that he just admitted to me that he has a sex addiction? And also, does anyone else find it strange that he would be revealing this to me and not his wife? (link)
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If its strange or not would depend on how good of friends you are. I don't see how its something one friend necessarily need know about another...unless he was maybe seeking some advice? His wife may know about already also, unless hes said different.
Just because a guy looks at porn, it doesn't make them a sex addict. I think a lot of perfectly normal guys will look at it. I don't think it is a problem unless they look at it constantly. Single men may look at it a bit more than a married guy but they will probably all look at some point in time.
If you are uncomfortable discussing it, then tell him so. That is about all you can do. :)
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I have had a thing for this guy, Brad, for a couple weeks now which was when I first met him. We hang out almost every weekend now. Anyway, Yesterday we went bowling and I brought my friends Ria & Anne with me. We had a good time then after, Brad's friend who came with us said that they all thought Anne was hott. then Brad said he likes her & he wants to hang with her sometime. I really want him for myself & I can't diss Anne b/c we're still mending things we fought about fo the past couple months. (it was all over how she treated my best friend when they were dating). Anne doesn't want to go out with him since she barely knows him but i think she kind of likes him but just doesn't want to hurt me. what do I say to Brad when he won't stop asking me about her? Should I flat out tell him I like him? I used to be the person he wanted to hang out with as friends & now he likes my friend. What should I do without sounding like a bitch? thanks. (link)
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I don't see any reason you can't tell him. He may just want to be friends but you'll never know until you ask.
If he prefers Anne though, there isn't a lot you can do about it. It really wouldn't be her fault.
Talk to him and see what he says. :)
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Im new here so I dont know if u know what i am talking about but you responded to my question about my brother. He does leave the house rarely, mainly to go with his friend. He doesnt go to school or have a job. He did go to a trade school to learn to work on computers and completed it but wont work on them now. As for my mom telling him to get help or get out its a very sensitive subject, we are afraid of him trying to hurt himself. Its a nightmare, and Im scared for him more than anything. Im afraid if something happens, I will never be able to forgive myself for being able to do more. I just dont know what to do. (link)
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He sounds like he could be depressed among other things. I am not a doctor but have worked in medical field for a long time. You know he needs help...its just a matter of getting it for him. His age makes it kind of tough though.
If he EVER does anything that makes you or mom (pass it on to her since she is with him most often) think that he may harm himself...you can have him committed for a psych evaluation for 24 hours. Its tough to do but since he is not under 18 its the only way to do it against his wishes.
The hospital then has 24 hrs to decide if he is suicidal. If they believe he is, then mom can get a court order to have him admitted for treatment against his wishes.
Help is out there for him. It is really hard ( as you know!) to get someone who is so far into depression to realize that though.
Here is a good site that has some signs and symptoms of depression.
http://www.clinical-depression.co.uk/Depression_Information/symptoms.htm
There is more to read on the site too. But, this is a good starting point. See if any of these things look familiar.
Here is a site on involuntary commitment. Hopefully you won't need it...but its best to be informed.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Involuntary_commitment
I do hope you have luck in helping your brother. All you can do is try. If help isn't accepted then it isn't your fault at all.
If you ever just need to talk, feel free to drop me a line. I tend to be a night owl so you never know when I will answer! I am on a lot.
Good Luck. :)
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what exactly is a BMI? (link)
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Body mass index, a measurement of ideal weight range. :)
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Last night I had to spend the night with my sister. She is married and already has children. So while she was taking a bath I was looking on her phone and found Text messages that where from her husband (he has a driving job) and one said, "Talk Dirty To Me." and another one said, "Wouldn't you like to be licked all over?". I was so shocked. I mean I would have never thought of him acting like that. So I put the phone down and I just couldn't read anymore. I still feel shocked and horriable. I know she is married and has a right to do what she wants,and I shouldn't have been looking on her phone and nowI just don't know what to do. Any Ideas?? (She is 29, he is 30) (link)
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You shouldn't be shocked! Embarrassed maybe for reading someones personal messages! :)
You don't do anything about it. Whats to do? They are two grown married people who, by the way evidently love each other and get along very well.
Just don't read their messages anymore. :)
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my moms bf irritates the HELL out of me, like you have no idea. one time after i was getting over a fever we were going out my mom was like "do you want to take your coat" and im like "no im fine" and hes like "even IM taking my coat" and im like "okay..." and he's like "fine, stay sick if you want, i dont care" and i seriously wanted to backhand him. like, he doesnt even DO anything for me when im sick so why should i give a shit weather he "cares" if im sick or not. i dont think he was intentionally trying to be so bitchy but he seriously does that all the time and, to me, i dont see him as someone that has any authority over me since they've only been dating for 5 months or so. he lays it on too thick with my mom always saying "omg your such a good cook blah blah balh" allllll the time and i feel like i never get to hang out with her. i mean, obviously i have friends i hang out with a stuff, but it feels like i never get to see her anymore unless hes not there.
oh and he moved in with us.
joy joy.
sorry this was long but does anyone have any ideas of how i can talk to my mom about it??
thanks (link)
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I don't think its asking to much of mom to tell her you would like some private time with her.
Just tell her you miss doing things with her and would like it if you could have a day or evening each week where just the two of you do something together.
As for her boyfriend, hes moved in so she must be serious about him. Good or bad for her sake you have to try and get along with him. It sounds like he may be trying...even if he isn't good at it.
Be happy for your mom. It sounds like he compliments her a lot and really cares about her.
That's hard to find these days!
Talk to mom and I'll bet you two can work something out. If you want to, include the boyfriend in your discussion. You never know, he may be helpful. :)
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ok thanks guys for all your advice! i am really taking it to heart. well scott gets out of rehab monday and comes home....and i am supposed to vist him tuesday at work...i love him so much but i want him to get better, off drugs and get his life together and i think i just need to be his friend for right now but i dont want to break up with him but i dont want to hold him back becasuse of my own selfish reassons...i love him so much and i just want whats best for him. he tells me he loves me too but someone said if he really loved you then he would want to stay away from drugs and rehab and want to not go back so he would be with you hes putting drugs befor you and i've been thinking about that ever since she said that i dont know what to do please help me asap! thanks love you all xox (link)
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That is true to a certain extent.
However, people who have a problem with drugs cannot always control what they may want to do. That pull to do drugs is bigger than the both of you.
Hopefully, the rehab sticks this time (average is 3 times). Encourage him to go to a group like narc-anon or something, they will be a big help to him staying straight.
Good luck to you both. :)
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I just want some opinions on this:
Do you think it's wrong to let your boyfriend go to a strip club?
I personally think it is wrong, but then I see some girlfriends even go with their boyfriends to stripclubs!! I just don't get it. How could you let your boyfriend get turned on by another woman? ..or let alone get a sexy lap dance by another woman? I personally think that can even lead to the thought of cheating.
What do you guys think? I am 18 and my boyfriend is 17 and he will be 18 next month. I don't know whether to never let him go to a strip club(since that is a common thing for men to try out at least once in their lives) or to let him try it out. I am really uncomfortable with that idea. (link)
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If you trust the guy let him go and see what its like. So long as it doesn't become something he has to do every single weekend, the occasional night out with the boys won't do any harm.
I can't say that I "approve" of strip joints but they have been around for ages. I definitely do not approve of any touching or lap dances. So, if you can get him to agree to just watching that would be a plus.
It is definitely something to discuss with him. Let him know what your feelings about it are. :)
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Warning ahead of time, this will be long.
I am 22 years old. My brother is 21. He still lives at home with our mother and I am out on my own in another city and going to college. Things were o.k. between us (somewhat fizzling but still ok) until I moved out, which was this past October. My friend is also his friend and he told her that he thinks I should not be allowed back at the house ever again. Every time I have visited, he locks himself in his room and turns off the light and will not come out to eat or use the bathroom or anything because I am there. My mom and I were having a good time once when I was visiting and when I left he put her through a guilt trip saying how could she just ignore him and have such a good time with me when he was literally sick because I was there, but he wont even answer his door because I am there for anyone.
I am beating myself up trying to figure this out but here is what I know. First of all, I have always been good to my brother and treated him well. I am actually the reason he is friends with my friend. My dad, on the other hand, has sort of ignored him through his childhood, although my mom and dad divorced when he was 10. My dad has payed some of my bills to help me get through school. While he was paying them, my brother asked him for money a couple of times and was turned down because "he didnt have enough". But he has given him money as well. My brother said to me "I think sometimes he cant give me money because he is helping u." I feel especially guilty about this now but I would have to quit school in order to live! I would have to give up my dreams. I think that dad owes it to us both to give us both money but that is a different story. And I told mom to tell him (he wont talk to me) that I would end my relationship with dad for him and he said "what does that have to do with anything?" But then he said it is because of dad in a way. But he also says the whole family abuses him, which is absolutely not true. He says he would be happy to leave and not know any one of us ever again, including mom, who has been nothing but good to him his whole life, who has tried to make things fair for him, who has worried every day for him.
He left with his friend on thanksgiving and didnt spend it with us. He locked himself in his room on Christmas and didnt open his presents for days.
I wrote him a letter trying to reconcile (though I dont know what happened between us). To summarize, I told him how much I cared and worried about him and he could write back saying anything he wanted and I promised not to get mad. I just wanted to know why he hates me. Well, I didnt have his email address so the friend who is both mine and his friend sent it to him, and here was his response:
Okay, you know what? I'm really quite upset at the moment. You have absolutely no business trying to play mediator between Amber and I, regardless of whatever relationship you have with either of us. You know quite well that I want to put all of this behind me, and how much pain I've dealt with in-between. You know how hard I've searched for the motivation to fight my adversity long enough to get the hell out of this miserable hell-hole. However, suddenly trying to bring her back into the picture certainly won't help, and you had no business trying to involve yourself. I don't care what you say about it, either -- you were involving yourself the moment you agreed to send that message, which I won't bother to read. The mere notion that you feel I owe it to Amber to read that message makes your position in all of this quite clear. Don't pretend to be neutral about it -- that won't absolve you of your involvement in this. Not in my eyes...
Moreover, she has no business trying to contact me. She and I have no relationship and, for that matter, anything which could be reconciled. That should have been apparent enough. Regardless of sharing the same blood, it does not matter; I would readily put my entire family out of my life, rather than be forced into suffering by their ongoing nonsense. I don't care what anybody says -- there is no excuse for what I deal with. My family is far, FAR lost to me, and I have no hope of ever reaching out to them. I want to move on, and be done with this for good.
Lastly, I expect you to turn right around and judge me for being such a thoughtless bastard, as you can't stand the thought of me turning my back on my own family. Well, I don't owe any of them shit. Quite frankly, you don't know what goes on in my life, and the years of abuse which I've had to endure from practically everybody. I suggest that you stay far away from this issue, and let me get on with my life in peace. Don't try to convince yourself that this is something which it is not, either. I'm telling you here and now what it is -- abuse. There is no other name for it. I have taken my stand against it, and if Amber can't accept to acknowledge the truth, then she would be better off covering her ears and eyes and living in delusional sollitude.
Let me make something clear: It's over with. Please, leave it alone and do not involve yourself any further. I would prefer never to revisit any of this again.
That was his response to her, not me. He would not even read what I said.
I know I havent been a perfect sister, but he hasnt been a perfect brother either, and I would never expect that of him. I have never, never abused him or his emotions in any way. I have always cared about him very much, and I have always wanted what is best for him. I still do, but part of me is so angry that he couldnt care the same way back. If you need me to tell u anything else, just ask. I am trying to make this short as possible for your sake. I desperately need advice. He wont talk to me and wont read my letters. I dont know what to do. Im afraid the longer this goes on, the worse things will be. (link)
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I have to agree with storageanddisposal, I doubt anyone here is going to be able to help you very much.
Your brother has some sort of mental issues that need treated by a professional. I really doubt there is anything you, your mom or friend can do anything about on your own.
You do need to be told that none of this is your fault. Your dad paying for college really is not the issue I don't think.
Does he go to school? Have a job? Does he leave the house at all? Could he be into taking some sort of drugs? So many questions unanswered to be of a lot of help.
I encourage you to have your mom try and get him some sort of help. If nothing else a regular old family doctor can refer him to someplace that would help.
She may (due to his being 21), have to resort to telling him get help or get out. There does come a point when he will have to help himself or find his own way in this world. His actions are already having a negative affect on you and probably even more so, your mom.
So, all you can do at this point is encourage him to get help. Use whatever means you can...including dad. If he refuses then you really can't help him.
Good luck. :)
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Im a guy, me and my girlfriend of 3 years broke up(she broke up with me, said she needed some time off)...anyways its been over 2 months and all I do is think about her, i miss her so much, and even though we still hang out and talk on the phone, i feel alone. I wonder if maybe i should go and date other girls because i seriously can no longer take the emptiness in my heart, i love her so much and wanna be back with her, however, i dont know exactly what plans she has. I have asked her if she sees us getting back together and her answer is always the same " i cannot answer that, cause i dont know?"
What am i supossed to do here, in one hand i love her and miss her so much, and i can continue feeling empty while waiting for her to come back to me, but on the other hand, i dont know if we will ever get back together, so maybe im getting my hopes up too high, all i know is that the emptiness and despair i feel everyday cannot be good for my health, what should i do? (link)
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You can't spend you life waiting around for her to decide your future for you. Go out and find yourself a girl who wants to spend time with you.
You may get back together sometime in the future or you may find someone even better. She had her shot...time to give someone else a chance to make you happy!
Good luck. :)
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This is really embarassing, but I've had worms for a number of years and when I was younger I took the medication but it didn't help and I still had it. I estimate I've had it for about 8 years, maybe longer. Its never really had an effect on me, except being very itchy. I'm started to worry that it will cause long-term health effects on me. I'm too scared to tell my mother as its pretty gross.. is there anything at all I can do? Should I not be worried?
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You need to go to the doctor and get it taken care of. If one medication doesn't work they will try another one.
They can lead to other health problems if not taken care of.
If you don't get them taken care of they will spread to other family members.
Don't be embarrassed to tell your mom about it. Go get it taken care of.
Here is a good article to read.
http://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/ency/article/001152.htm
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I haven't been with my boyfriend that long, but my parents haven't really met him before. They'd like to get to know him, but he doesn't seem to keen on the idea.
I'm having iffy thoughts too - like, I don't doubt that my parents would love him, but they kind of embarrass me on different levels...lol.
But on the other hand I kind of want them to meet him and see what they think. On another hand, I want them to meet him so they'll shut up about wanting to meet him.
I apparently have three hands...^^
My parents wanna take us to dinner, and just like, talk. I have a good relationship with them. I listen to their opinion and go and do whatever I want anyway. They've learned to live with it.
Anyway, do you think I should go with the request and try to convince my guy to come to dinner, or should I just leave it be for now? (link)
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Hes nervous about it but I'll bet you can talk him into going.
It sounds like you get along great with your parents. If they have any particular thing you feel they may embarrass you with...let him know ahead of time!
I don't see any reason why it can't be a nice evening for all of you. Your parents just want to know you have a nice guy.
Talk to him and see if you can't get him to go along. :)
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What does it mean "to make woopie"
I was reading a poem my mom wrote after her baby shower. Is this some old expression about sex? (link)
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Yes. It means to have sex. I guess it is an "old"
slang. :)
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Whats a beta?
And not the fish kind! (link)
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Here is what answers.com says:
beta
Used in software publishing, "beta" is the name given to a pre-release version of a software product. This beta version is used for testing purposes, is often problematic and thus only available to specific users who are encouraged to provide feedback for improvement. Beta versions are commonly found on company websites and can be downloaded. Many include expiration dates to eliminate proliferation of flawed software.
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What are the symptoms of anxiety disorder? Does anyone here have it? (link)
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I don't have it but, here is a site where you can find the symptoms. :)
http://psychcentral.com/disorders/sx24.htm
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me and my best friend arent talking and recently ive been getting im's and texts saying how my lifes soon gonna be a living hell and im gonna have no friends and that thres gonna be nasty rumors .. should i tell someone like a teacher that i trust? or should i try to work it out myself?please help! (link)
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Tell someone. Don't keep these kinds of things to yourself. The person doing it needs to be made to stop it. :)
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alright heres the deal.. i like my best friend.. and he still likes me even though he has a girlfriend.. he cheated on her 3 time and he always says "i love you and if we were going out i woudln't cheat on you" and stuff and i don't know if i shoudl still like him or if i shoudl move on.. he's also always rubbing it in that he's going out with this chick to make me jealous.. and i don't get jealous..
additionally, when i like someone other than him.. he gets completly jealous and starts flipping on me and telling me that i'm an idiot because the guy is gay.. when first off he doesn't even know him.. i told him plently of times that if he woudln't be with his girlfriend i woudl be with him.. but he continues to go out with her.. and i feel really bad
should i get over him or whatnot? i will rate a 5 for any thought (link)
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I don't think he's make a very good boyfriend.
Stay friends. The "I wouldn't cheat on you" line is just that. Besides if he cared so much he would be dating you in the first place. Hes stringing you along as an emergency back up...forget the idea and find someone who will treat you nice.
As for him getting jealous of your boyfriends...just let him. If he wanted you hes had plenty of opportunity to break up with his current and ask you out. Forget having him as a boyfriend...at least until he is older and maybe more mature. :)
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Tommorrow is the school dance. I really want to dance with the guy I like. At the last dance we really hit it off and spent a ton of time together because we're already great friends. The thing is I want to be more. How should I act? I kinda want him to ask me to dance but if I have to ask him I will. (link)
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Ask him! Don't be shy. If he doesn't ask you then pick a slow one and go for it!
Good luck. :)
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my friend didnt know how to make out n like use her tongue n stuff......so she like did it with her dog i guess
is it just me or is that a lil weird?
she told me she did it tho so she wouldnt look stupid when she does it with a guy fer the 1st time (link)
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That's more than just a little weird. That's downright gross! LOL
I doubt it will be quite the same as kissing her boyfriend. I can't say for sure because I have never made out with a dog before but...eww, okay kiddies. :)
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