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married man admitted to me he views porn
A married male friend of mine recently told me that although he finds a lot of the pornography out there offensive and that it made him sick; that he still struggled with it. Does this mean that he just admitted to me that he has a sex addiction? And also, does anyone else find it strange that he would be revealing this to me and not his wife?
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Many men(and women) enjoy watching porn. It's totally normal and doesn't imply that someone has a sex addiction. Many people feel guilty about it for various reasons, mostly upbringing. Although it is nothing to be ashamed of.
No, he wouldn't necessarily tell his wife..I have several married male friends who confide in me. We're close and they trust me, and sometimes will tell me things they're not yet comfortable telling their wives. You're friends. He trusts you. It's a good thing, lol.
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well, probably cuase he trusts you. i tell my close friends some things and not my other friends some things. I think if he told his wife she'd flip out. ya know what i mean? i hope this helps
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No, almost all guys look at porn. I do. I don't find myself to be perverted or abnormal. He's revealing it to you because he feels he can trust you. You're somebody he can confide in. He feels like his wife will think he's a perverted asshole if he tells her. He's gotta let it out some way, so he tells you.
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i've said it before and i will say it again...
GUYS ARE PERVERTED!!!! it may not be a sex addiction, but a PORN addiction
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I believe most, if not all guys struggle with porn addictions some time in their lives. I've always found it degrading and offensive, but I accept that a lot of people (not only men) like it and look at it often.
It is usually quite a harmless addiction, but have I read some case of some marriage that was ruined because the woman could never satisfy her husband the way pornstars do in films and thus he turned to watching porn rather than having sex with her. A lot of people don't realize that porn is simply fantasy and acting, and find their sex life unsatisfying because it is nothing like in the movies. It can cause a lot of jealousy issues and such.
I don't think he has a sex addiction, though. I'm sure he came to you as he wanted some advice on what to do and was afraid of how wife would react if he told her. He probably trusts you and wants your viewpoint on it all.
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Maybe he doesn't want to "insult" his wife because a lot of women get angry that the man they're sleeping with is watching porn all the time. since you're not with him, he probably wants some advice or just some kind of outlet to keep him on track. if you don't want him to talk to you about things like that, just tell him and he should get over it unless he has something else in mind. <3
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If its strange or not would depend on how good of friends you are. I don't see how its something one friend necessarily need know about another...unless he was maybe seeking some advice? His wife may know about already also, unless hes said different.
Just because a guy looks at porn, it doesn't make them a sex addict. I think a lot of perfectly normal guys will look at it. I don't think it is a problem unless they look at it constantly. Single men may look at it a bit more than a married guy but they will probably all look at some point in time.
If you are uncomfortable discussing it, then tell him so. That is about all you can do. :)
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