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I am 17, f and am moving into college August 25th. My mom has been begging me to get a job for a while, I have tried to only be turned down every time because I am not 18. Well, she just filled out an application for a job in my hometown and expects me to travel home on weekends to work if I get the job. I told her I don't think I can handle getting used to college life that quick, get good grades, make new friends and travel to and fro to go to work on weekends and I even told her that I don't think I would be able to come home that much because I have to keep a 3.0 to be able to stay in my major, yet she still filled out the application.. herself. I can't come home to work on weekends, while trying to do reading work or writing a paper. . I even told her that I will look for a job sophomore year so I will at least be used to college life then or even wait til second semester at school to get a job on campus. Granted, I don't even know if I will get the job or not but she's so stuck on me getting a job that she went as far as filling out an application.. for ME. What do I do?
Okay the additional information you provided makes more sense of things.
It is not in the job description of a daughter, younger or older than her siblings, to be the peace maker or arbitrator in the family. For mom to try and force you to come home so as to not have to suffer verbal abuse from your brother, or worse is wrong.
Your mother has options. If your brother is being verbally abusive, he is an adult know. She is no longer responsible for his well being. She can tell him to keep a civil tongue in his head and give her the respect she is entitled to as his mother or the door is over their don't let it hit him in the ass as he leaves. A little tough love never hurt anyone.
If he is being physically abusive to her tat is called elder abuse and has stiff legal consequences. Yes he is her son but she does not have to take physical or mental abuse from him. If I were you and in the position you your mother is trying to put you in. I would tell him. Your an adult responsible for your actions. I'm not going to baby sit you, it is not my job. Give mom the respect she reserves or move out. Touch her improperly and I will call the police and let them handle it. Getting my education and making something out of myself is more important than keeping you out of jail.
Tell him this. IF he doesn't get it. Call the police and let them handle it. This is truly not a problem for a younger sister to handle. By using tough love you just may save your brother from a life a pain ans misery.
Good luck
Wow. There is probably more to this than what you are writing here but lets work with what you have written.
Mom was not rude to fill out the job application for you she was plain wrong. In some job applications for certain jobs by signing your name to the application she not only committed forgery she committed perjury as well.
I agree with you that traveling back and forth from College each weekend for work at home is wrong to expect of you or require of you. There are demands that College life will place on you that will preclude you coming home every weekend and not just the social life of college.
By trying to force this job on you your mother is trying to force some type of control over you and your college life and freedom. This is the real story here. Why does mom feel she needs to have you home every weekend. I don't believe it is to have you working. There is another underlying reason that you either are not aware of or have not written about.
The first thing you need to do is call the place where mom filled out the application and explain to them your mother filled out the application without your knowledge. That you are not looking for employment with them and thank them for any consideration they may have given your application.
Next if you are truly unaware of why your mom wants you home every weekend then this is something you need to find out. Your 17 and even though you will be away at college you are still legally under age and subject to your mother, controlling ways and rules. Job or no job she could still insist you come home every weekend. You need to know why.
Now when you turn 18 you are legally free of this control. I say legally free for if mom is controlling the tuition purse strings then she can exert some control over you through the manipulation of the money. That plus the old saying when your home for the summer; If you live under my roof, you live by my rules regardless of your age.
So after apologizing to the place of application for mom applying for you. The next thing is to have a serious talk with mom. IF mom has suddenly turned into something she has not been before by trying to control you more than before you need to nip this in the bud or it will only get worse as you both get older.
One day I was in the living room watching TV then all of a sudden out of the blue, I feel this weird pressure going in my ear. What is it, and what should I do.)
(I'm scarred!!)
None of us are doctors so we really can't say. There are a number of things that can cause this feeling. Many times it is a fleeting feeling and it goes away after a bit. Other times it will hang on for a time. When it does it can be anything from a clogged tube in your ear or a sinus condition. Many times these things clear with the help of over the counter medication. There is really nothing to be scared about until a doctor tells you differently.
I am going to assume you are a teenager so my advice is to tell mom or dad what is bothering you, which is what you should do any time your not feeling well. Whether the problem is with your ear or your toes or anywhere in between. As parents we are responsible for your well being.
As a parent I will get more mad at my children if they don't come to me when not feeling well then if they fake an illness to get out of going someplace they need to go or from doing something they need to do. This goes just as much for female reproductive systems complaints. Not Every pain you feel in your reproductive system has to do with sex and if you are still a virgin then it can't have anything to do with sex so come tell us if there is a problem. end of lecture.
Tell mom or dad about the pressure in your ear. Let them decide if you need to see a doctor. Frankly you probably at worst have an ear infection. Something you may have had plenty of as an infant.
14/f
Saturday night I was at my younger cousin's birthday party and after most everybody had left, some of my family were sitting out on the back patio on a couch. One of my uncles was sitting next to me and all of a sudden while he was drinking, he put his legs in my lap. I moved away a little and he ended up just resting his feet against my leg. I didn't think too much of it until he started rubbing his foot against my leg and started to pull my dress back a little. But I couldn't tell if it was done subconsciously or not. And then later, more people came out so we all had to squeeze together on the couch. He had his hand out behind my neck and kind of stroked my neck a little. Is this normal? I mean, I'm not really close to any of my uncles and none of them are as "hands on" (like putting arm in a hug) like he is. I feel kinda uncomfortable around him sometimes, even though I know that he loves my aunt and wouldn't do anything stupid or inappropriate to me. But I still have that weird little feeling in the back of my head. I honestly can't tell if it's bad or if I'm just being paranoid.
Being a huggy feely touchy type is one thing. Pushing your dress up your leg is something else altogether. If you want to chalk it up to his drinking that is up to you but I would go with your feeling that it was wrong of him to do so drunk or sober.
My Uncle, my mothers brother, really loved all his nieces and nephews. Whenever we saw him we could expect big hugs and kisses even in to our adult ages. This was normal for him and we all accepted it and looked forward to it. From what you have written you are not close to your Uncle and you do not have the touchy feely relationship my cousins and I had with my Uncle.
I would say you have every right to be upset and concerned with this event and want to make sure it doesn't happen again. I would suggest you say something to mom and dad about it. Let them know it made you feel uncomfortable and that you would not like it to happen again.
It is possible mom and dad will say something to the effect your Uncle was drunk and just let it go. If so you can do as they say and should it ever happen again scream in your loudest voice UNCLE BILL STOP TOUCHING ME.
The other thing you can do is call the following organization for advice. They are called RAINN which stands for Rape, Abuse, Incest, National Network. In a very technical sense by touching you in the manner he did without your permission, your Uncle abused you. Giving RAIN a call and speaking with one of their volunteers they can advise you how best to handle this situation and future situations should it happen again. Their number is:1-800-656-HOPE. This is a 24/7 hotline.
hello,am from iraq,i just wanna ask about having sex for the first time!! will i get hurt?
Being from Iraq you need to wait until you are married before you have sex. Your country has not yet progressed to the point where women have the same sexual freedom(s) women have in western countries.
On your wedding night when your husband first enters your vagina it will hurt for a moment when he ruptures your Hymen. If he is a large man, his penis, he will also be stretching your vagina some which will be uncomfortable until your vagina relaxes and stretches to accept him comfortably. If you husband is a loving man he will be gentle and you will be loved and he will be patient. The pain you feel will pass and the sex will be loving.
I'm going to be starting college this fall and have been comparing and pricing out laptops. I would love to get a macbook, but with everything that goes into it i can't afford it. Which laptops/laptop brand are most reliable?
I was looking at the HP intel core processor pavillion laptop, would this be a good choice?
I'm looking for something to of course have all the basics, i am undecided about my field of study and there is a possibility i may go into design. Something that would display photos clearly and be able to handle photo editing software. Also i would like to edit videos on here, as i edit both film ans photos. I am also checking into the ventilation of the system to make sure it won't overheat easily.
Any suggestions would be wonderful! Thanks :D
I have had nothing but Dell laptops and Desk tops without a bit of trouble. They offer most everything I have ever wanted when I've wanted one.
What I like most about Dell is when I need a computer I call them and talk with a sales tech to build what I want. When I say build what I want it is not that what I need requires a custom build. Generally I get a stock unit with additions and it ships with in a week.
Since I generally wear out a computer within 3 to 4 years and technology has passed me by as well, I take an in home service contract with the purchase. Then if anything does go wrong they come to me to fix it. Of all the computers I have bought in 20 years I have used the service contract once and had them do some software upgrades on line numerous times.
I want to know because im 17 and i in love with a girl but im a girl how do i ask her to have sex with me?please tell me
At 17 you should by now be well aware of your sexual identity. There is nothing wrong with being a lesbian. Your sexual make up is encoded in your DNA. You had no more choice in your sexual make up than the sex you were born as or the color of your eyes. So you have nothing to be embarrassed about. Embrace who you are and enjoy your life.
As to your friend. I would suggest that it might be appropriate to come out and tell her your a lesbian. Tell her that as your friend you wanted her to know so see didn't need to wonder or be concerned that you might come on to her. Also you are open to answering any questions she may have. Assure her, even though you want to have a sexual relationship with her,(you don't tell her that) that you will not try to seduce her.
If she is bi or a lesbian herself you have given her the opportunity to tell you and then the two of you can, if you both desire, to move forward into a sexual relationship.
If you value her friendship do not try to seduce her. Any furthering of the relationship into a sexual relationship has to be first on her terms after you come out to her.
im 9 years and want to know how to get him to touch my boobs im 100% sure i want to please tell me im in love pluse my boobs are big and sexy!!!!!so please help
First: At 9 years of age you should not even be thinking about boys and getting boys to touch your breasts. You should be playing with dolls and doing other 9 year old appropriate things.
Second: At nine years old boys in general still think girls are yucky. It will be at least 3 to 6 years before most boys are even into holding hands let a lone feeling a girls breast.
There will become a time when it will be appropriate to allow a boy to touch you in different places. That won't happen until you are older and more mature, in about 6 years or so.
Allowing boys to touch in places that shouldn't be will give you a reputation in school you will deeply regret.
Please re think seeking to get a boy to touch your breasts and talk to mom about this. You are way to young to be having these thoughts. They are probably they result of puberty and hormones which mom can help you deal with.
I really want to learn to be an actress to see if I want to pursue acting, can somebody give me some tips/advice or a book(or website) that teach me a bit about acting? BTW, I don't have much experience with acting.
You don't say how old you are so for the purpose of answering you I will assume you are still of high school age.
Start by joining the drama club in school. This is a great way to get some basic experience in acting. If your community has a local theater club you should talk with them as well and see if you can join them to get some experience.
You need to do this for if you want to get in to an acting school such as the New Your School of Drama and acting? You need to have some background to show them and to have built some skill level to build on with them. You will have audition to join the school.
After high school you will want to follow a dual course. If you are fortunate enough to audition for and be accepted to a good acting school that would be great. Plan on not being accept the first time you audition. Plan on going to college and majoring in Drama. Then after each year you can audition again for the acting school of your choice to show them how you have improved.
Hopefully you will gain acceptance and you then can build the career you are looking for.
Good luck.
Hi, I'm 19/f
my whole life, I have been to maybe 5 different churches, and for some reason, I just feel as if church isn't for me. I find it very boring.
I believe in God to the fullest, but sometimes I have my questions, and of course, everyone's answers are going to be different depending on their beliefs.
But within the 5 churches I have been too, I have got many different answers regarding the following question:
DO YOU HAVE TO BE BAPTISED TO GO TO HEAVEN?
I have heard, Yes, you do; and I have heard no you don't, as long as you believe you have a right into God's Kingdom.
Personally, I believe that IF God is as mightly and loving as others make him out to be, than shouldn't he know who believes in him, and who doesn't? Why does baptism give you the pass to Heaven? Why can't believing just be enough??
I have never been baptised, but I have been saved. I pray to God; not just when I want something, but to let him know that I appreciate the things he has given me, and letting me live another day.
Everyone tells me to 'read the bible' but personally, I don't want too. How did God write the bible when he didn't have anything to use? Idk where it came from, who really wrote it, or even if it is true.
Is it wrong for me to have all these questions and these doubts? Does that make me a non believer?
My father told me to talk to a priest, but honestly, I won't get a solid answer, and I feel as if I'll be wasting my time. No one knows the REAL truth about any of it.
Sometimes I question if there is a Heaven or a Hell. How do we really know if they are real; has anyone died and came back and said, 'Man, Heaven is amazing; or Hell is hot as fire!"
I feel so guilty questioning this- but I'm just curious.
SOrry for the length.
This question is going to get you a lot of different answers as religion is a very personal subject. If ever there is one subject that will start a heated conversation, even among friends it is religion.
I am what is called an Agnostic; someone that believes in a higher power, we will call that power a god for lack of a better term, but does not believe in organized religion. I was raised in a faith that does not believe in a heaven or hell so I really have no idea if there is such places.
My faith in organized religion was destroyed long ago when I was still a teenager. I see organized religion as a business with a profit and loss ledger. Yes, some churches, Mosques & Temples do to good work with in their communities helping the sick and the disadvantaged. On the whole though they are still a business. At least that is the way I see them.
I believe as a people we need a belief in a high power to exist to thank or to blame for whatever happens here on earth. To a certain extent I believe that this higher power is responsible for a lot that has unfolded for we as man are really are not capable of some of the things we have accomplished.
So to answer your question: You wish to believe in god and say you have been saved. That is your right and you find comfort in this. You don't need to read the Bible to believe or to have faith. Neither to my mind does one need to be Baptised I see that as mans not gods requirement.
As for their being a Heaven or hell. Frankly none of us will ever know for sure until we get to either one ourselves. When that happens their is no way to send a message back to say if it does exist. So belief is blind faith an option of your individual choosing.
Hi Dr,
I'm 30 years old I have a daughter of 4 years old. Now Im pregnent but as we donot need a child due to which I had contraceptive pill after intercourse but still Im pregnent and Im very much scared if I go for the second child will the child b healthy? Will there b any complication with the child?? Shall I go for the second child or not. Please advice me and its very urgent.
Shwetha
Your question does not read very well. What I believe you are asking is answered as follows.
First, We are not doctors and we cannot answer questions like this even if we were. This type of question requires a doctors examination so that you can be properly informed about the condition of your pregnancy.
If your asking if you should terminate your pregnancy because you took the plan B pill after intercourse and it did not work? Again this is a question for a qualified doctor to answer.
Whether or not to terminate a pregnancy is a very personal choice. One which you and possibly your spouse or significant other should make together. As to the pros and cons of abortion I am a pro choice supporter. It is your body, your choice.
i live in aurora colorado
You are not ready emotionally or physically for sex of any type. You may be going through puberty and having your period. That does not mean the rest of your reproductive system is ready for intercourse.
Sex is not a contact sport that you play at. Participating in sex without the proper precautions and proper, call it preparation, can have life long adverse effects on you, not the boy.
While being 12 is a long time ago for me. One of things I do remember is that for the majority of us the subject of sex was more talk than action. About 99% was talk and 1% was action. Of the 1% that was action few of us actually had intercourse with anyone. So don't trust what your friends are saying. Some of it or most of it is being said to get someone else to do it first.
Your virginity is the most precious gift you can give to someone and you can only give it once. I'm not saying you should save it for your wedding night, although that would be nice.
What I am saying is over the next 4 or 5 years as a normal teenage girl you will go through a number of boyfriends, this is normal. Save your virginity until your older and you find someone you will be in a long term loving relationship with. This may sound old school but trust me. You will feel better about yourself if you do and you will have a much better sexual relationship with him and anyone else who might come after him.
I am an 18 year female. Girl on girl action is so sexy and I've been thinking a lot about it lately. Basically, I want to fool around with another girl, but I don't want everyone to know. Also, I don't just wanna go up to random chick, hit on her and have her be totally straight. Craigslist ads are way too shady, so please don't suggest that. Any ideas on how to find a hookup?
Braiden is right, stay away from Craigslist you can only get hurt using that list and I think you will be more comfortable with a friend or a friend of a friend. You would be surprised with the number of people, especially women who may be bi or bi curious.
I'm not sure if it the fact that porn movies always have a lesbian scene or the fact that guys get really turned on watching two women go at it; it just seems more women are bi or bi curious then men.
I would suggest as Braiden has that you simply ask a friend if they know of anyone that is bi, bi curious or even a lesbian. If asked why you could simply say that you don't think you have ever met someone who is or you can say you have been wondering about bi sexuality and wanted to talk to someone who has tried it.
Frankly their is nothing wrong with bi sexuality. Whatever happens sexually between two consenting adults is no ones business but theirs. The operative word here is CONSENTING. As long as you both are consenting how cares what anyone else thinks.
I hit the iner side of my knee on my steps and im having trouble bending it all the way. I can walk and put weight on it with no pain but if I try to bend it to walk up or down steps there is pain. I can only bend it about half the way as normal. Its been over a week like this. Is there anything I can do at home? I have no haelth insurence and cant take time off work. what are the poosible things that could be wrong with my knee? thanx
We are not doctors even if we were we cannot diagnose something like this over the web. To make a proper diagnoses X rays are needed or even an MRI to see exactly what has been damaged.
One would think you would not do very much damage by just hitting you knee on the steps. Sometimes all it takes is hitting it in just the right place and you cause damage.
What I recommend is after work you go to your local hospital ER, they cannot turn you away for lack of ability to pay. They must treat you first. There are social programs out their that they can refer you to to assist with payment. The hospital social worker will assist with this. First things first you must be diagnosed and treated.
Don't let your pride get in the way of getting treatment for this injury. While you probably have not done anything serious to your knee it will take diagnostic tools to confirm that. Left untreated you'll never know for sure. If you have done something to your knee the sooner it is treated the better the outcome. In injured joint left untreated will cause you got problems as you get older so swallow your pride and go to a hospital ER and ask for help.
By the way if you do not want to accept medicaid most hospitals will set up an easy payment plan.
hi i asked a question called how to make a plush doll of singer not too long ago and i waited for an answer but there was no answer at all so can yall please answer it later thank you
I don't have an answer for this question that is why I didn't answer. If it was on the open forum and no one answered then then no one else has an answer either.
Unfortunately we do not always have the answer to all questions. I suggest you put the question on the open forum again. Not all advisers check the forum daily. Maybe someone will see it today or tomorrow and answer you. If after 3 days you don't get an answer then assume no one who saw your question had an answer for you.
My boss is a physician and is going thru a divorce. Very quickly he already has a girlfriend. I am his office manager and long time friend as I have worked for him for 20 years. All of a sudden his demeanor has changed drastically and I believe he is going to hire his girlfriend to work at the office. I see major problems with this but don't feel I can say anything to him as he is totally whipped with this female. I see big trouble coming. He has hinted that this woman is married and a doctor!!! He is treating the staff very harshly and rude. I don't have a large staff either. Should I just wait to see what happens? I am afraid for some of my staff and their positions. This woman sounds and acts like she is going to come in like a bulldozer. Aargh! What to do? What to say?
There is a lot more information needed to really answer this question. Information such as the reason(s) the doctor is getting a divorce.
Why? It sounds like the doctor is hurt and on the rebound. This women/doctor is giving him what he wants and or is missing or lost in his divorce. This is something that happens a lot in divorces and is not just something that happens to men only.
I'm fairly certain the doctor is not aware of the changes you have seen in him. If he is he may not know how to handle it or may not want to be hurt again by leaving this woman. If you are that close to him that you can say something to him such as: "I've noticed some changes in you that has the staff worried" and that "I am here for you if you want to talk." Then I would suggest doing so as it might be what he is looking for, someone to talk to.
Other information that I would like to see is. You say this other women is a doctor. Is he bringing her in as a partner in the practice? If so, if your the office administrator you should see the articles incorporating the practice. You should be able to see if the doctor is going to be screwed out of anything he has worked hard to put together. This would give you another reason to speak up. Also do you know if this women plan to divorce her husband?
It is information like this that would help me help you. Most important is that you try to speak up. It just may be that as you have observed she is riding roughshod over him and he is overwhelmed and needs someone to watch out and help him.
So I've been talking to this guy for about a year off & on. I'm 13 & a female. Yes I'm young, but my maturity level is VERY HIGH. The guy I've been talking to is everything I look for in a guy, he isn't like the others. But he is 15. Now remember you donot know me, but anyone that does knows I'm very mature for my age. & this guy I like he isn't asking anything from me. He's not a virgin, but he's only had sex ONE time. With someone he was with for awhile. Anyways, what is your opinion opon such a an age difference?
Dating is like everything else, it is a learned experience. While you may be very mature for you age maturity is no substitute for experience. While age may be just a number, at this time that number represents a big difference in experience.
If I was your dad and you came to me I would say you could not date this boy. You could remain friends, see him in school, talk to him on the phone and such. Though to go out on a date just the two of you, no.
While I don't know you, I do know 13 year old boys and girls or young adults if you prefer. At this age you have not yet learned the social skills needed to date. You learn these skills by going out on what I call group dates. This is where a group of you and your friends, boys and girls, go to the mall, the movies, bowling or what have you and hang out together. This may not seem like much to you or may seem lame; just and every day event. Though this is were and how social skills are learned.
This 15 year old boy has gone though, lets call this the training wheel stage, and is ready to try his wings. You have not and are not prepared to test your wings. That is what I as a parent would be concerned about you dating someone 2 years older; even taking sex out of the equation. As the father of the girl I will tell you that taking sex out of dating for my daughter is never out of the equation and something that I will always worry about until she is married. So will and does your father.
You can bring him home and introduce him to your parents. He may be the nicest guy on earth, still your parents and I will most likely say no to dating him. If you were 15 and he 17 then that is a different story. Most likely I would reluctantly allow you to date him.
For now thow my answer will be no and I suspect dads is or will be no as well.
I believe this is the second time you've written this questions. You can write us a third time if you wish. I don't think you will get any different answers, even from different advisers.
hi...i got married to this guy in 2011. now i know that he is bisexual... i came to know this by reading his messages in a gay community in his phone.i love him a lot... when i asked him he told me he was a bisexual , he is not involved with any guy after he got married , and he will be with me forever.i dont know if i can trust him or not. i hav't told this to my parents either as they would never get what bisexual is.
can bisexuals be loyal to a women... he says he had sexual relation with more than 50 guys. how can i trust him, he will not do it again.
now he wants me to get pregnant...please help me, i don't know have anyone to talk to.. i love him a lot, i feel like committing suicide nt able to decide what to do.please please please help me.
The first thing the two of you must do is be tested for STDs and HIV/AIDS. If he refuses to be tested then I can only advise that you be tested and not to have sex with him until he is tested. In fact I would suggest you move out. If he refuses to be tested that should answer the question of whether or not he is still having sex with men.
This is not something to commit suicide over, though it is something to get counseling over. Both individual counseling for you and marriage counseling for the two of you if you wish to save your marriage over this.
This is a pretty big secret to be kept from you. There is nothing wrong with either of you being bi-sexual or bi-sexuality. What is wrong here is that he kept it a secret from you and the number of bi-sexual relationships he has had.
While one could interpret this as speaking highly of his love for you and his fear of loosing you by keeping this a secrete. He has also endangered your health by not telling you, especially if he has not not been tested and has continued his bi-sexual relationships during your courtship and marriage.
I can't or won't tell you what to do with your marriage, it is not proper for me to do so. I believe you know what you should do and just want someone to tell you it is the proper thing to do.
In this case it probably is. By not telling you this in advance of your nuptials he has married you under false pretences. Which I believe, even in the Catholic Church, would be reason for an Annulment of the marriage. He have also placed you in great physical danger, which would be another reason to do what needs to be done. How can you love and trust someone who would do that to you.
I suggest the following: First thing tomorrow go to a clinic or your doctor and be tested. Take the day off from work if you can it is that important. Ask your doctor to do a complete physical and make sure you do not have any STDS and are free of the HIV/AIDS virus. You should tell your doctor what you found out. Your doctor is a great source of information and resource to help you through this time. The doctor also needs to know why he or she is treating/looking at married women for this. Don't be embarrassed you have nothing to be ashamed of as you have been duped by your husband.
Your doctor will probably give you some medication to help you settle your nerves as well as recommend a good talk therapist to you. You will need a good therapist to help you through this whatever you decide.
As I see it you have only two choices here. You either can move out and see a lawyer or stay with your husband and seek the help of a marriage counselor. This is something you have to decide. No one can make this choice for yourself.
Hey,
Okay so I'm soo fed up with my tummy. I have like a big muffin top and it used to be so flat :(
What's the best way of toning it up?Like some good exercises?
Thanks in advance.
Sometimes proper exercises are all that are needed. Many times all the exercise in the world will not help for the muscles have been spread and need to be surgically pulled back together. Hence the tummy tuck. This is generally caused by pregnancy
While the exercise needed to tone the muscle you are looking to tone are also good cardio exercise. I would not want you getting frustrated if you don't get the results you are looking for from your work outs. So I'm going to suggest you visit a doctor first to find out just what the problem is.
Will exercise alone give you the look you want or is a tummy tuck needed. If a tummy tuck is need there are some things you need to know.
1. This is considered generally cosmetic surgery and generally not covered by health insurance unless their is an underlying medical reason.
2. While any Surgeon could perform this operation you want a Plastic Surgeon that is Board Certified in Plastic Surgery. Here again any surgeon in most states can claim to be a Plastic Surgeon if they did a residency in Plastics. Surgeons who have done a fellowship in Plastics and successfully completed the other criteria and been accepted into the College of Plastic Surgeons. These Surgeons are the only ones who can list themselves as Board Certified.
3. The operation is painful and has a recovery period of several weeks during which you can't bend over or lift heavy objects. This would include young children and possibly infants.
I hope this helps
I need to know wot people think of rules in a relationship. I have this boyfriend with whom I got too many do's and dont's.
Well things like get home early in the evenings when out with friends (m talking 7 pm!)which is really early. Strictly no meeting up with Male friends unless my boyfriend is informed. Even if allowed to meet any, strict deadlines to get back home early. No talking to anybody after 10pm (be it anybody except family )family was made an exception on my request. No wearing shorts or sleeveless! though something i wud have loved in a store.Strictly no drinking when he is not around (he is in a different country). One of my best friend's happens to be a guy. my boyfriend never liked him since this friend cared a lot for me. So one more rule added- 'never talking to him again'!
Well all this i followed religiously until today where I got 2 days left for my birthday and my friends are planning a girls night out. so that means drinking involved. I tried asking my boyfriend if could have this party(strictly girls party) . But he says 'NO'! n also mentions its hurting to say 'no'. Last birthday he didnt let me receive phone calls! so i missed lot of people trying to wish me on my birthday. Later he justified saying he said that only when we were busy with something else. Is this healthy? peolpe say life is not a fairytale. is it true to this extent? what should I do?
The person is not a boyfriend he is a controller and abusive person should you two ever become a couple living in the same place. Controlling your every move, what you wear, who you see, who you talk to is mental abuse and it will get worse if you are together.
A boyfriend, even in long distance romances, is someone who cares for you, who will cherish the time he spends with you. Who will help you grow and experience life and you do the same for him.
Tell him his rules are too controlling, he's too controlling and this is not what you want from life. That he is not to have any more contact with you.
Go out with your friends and have a good time celebrating your birthday. But first go shopping and buy some clothes that you want to wear that night that you like and want to wear.
Unless you live in some Islamic country, which it doesn't sound like you do, you have certain rights to live your life as you see fit. No one, not a boyfriend or husband has the right to tell you how to live your life. As a married couple you live a life together. A 50/50 relationship where you try to find a medium point that satisfies both. In dating you look for that person who you can marry and have that 50/50 relationship with. What you have with this boy is a one way deal. This is not the life anyone should have. Tell him to come in to the 21st century, but to do it with someone else.
I need a new iPod. I want to buy An iPod touch. I need at least 16GB. But They only have the 4th gen. 8GB and 32GB for lower prices. I paid more for my 16GB Nano than what they are asking for for an 8GB touch. Not only that, but the major stores only want to sell newer generations and not the older ones. The price of the 32GB is almost as much as my laptop. Which has 223GB. It's ridiculous. I could save money and get about 7 times more memory if I just walk around holding my laptop. I don't need all those apps and whatnot. I just need an iPod touch with at least 16GB. And doing that is like buying a new laptop. Are there any major stores that sell older generations? They do not want you to save money so they stop selling older versions. And it's not like I'm looking for some ancient device that they stopped making 20 years ago. I'm just looking for something older than the current one.
You won't find older generation Ipod touch in any major store. I suggest you search the web for resellers who have bought up all the old inventory from these merchants to sell on the web.
I typed ipod touch 3g into my yahoo search engine and found that Wal-Mart had them available for their warehouse starting at $174.00 for the 8 GB. They say they have 32 & 64 Gb available.
http://www.walmart.com/search/search-ng.do?search_query=ipod+touch+3g