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I plan on getting my penis pierced on my 18th birthday. im 15 now, so i gotta while. i dont know WHYY i want to do this, but i think it'll deffinitely be an experience.

anyways. my questions are:

1. If you've had it done, do you regret it?
2. What are the odds of it getting infected?
3. How long must i have it pierced for it not to close up?

any other information would be appreciated. please do not refer me to google or another search engine as any search with the word penis or penile comes up to have some very disturbing links.

I am going to agree with ysgirl w/ her first statement. OUCH.

Haha, moving on.
Don't know about infection but I'm guessing that it will be more likely for it to get infected then other piercings. Keep it really clean and follow the piercer's instructions really carefully.

For it to not close up--I'm guessing that you're asking about the healing time. I'd say that it will take a pretty long time and again, the piercer will tell you. But regardless of how long you keep it in, it's going to close up if you keep the jewelry out. I pierced my lip & I had it in for the full healing time but it still closes up a little when I leave the thinger out for a while...then I'd have to semi-repierce it. So I'd suggest you follow the piercer's instruction very well, keep it in there an extra week after the healing period and if you're going to take the jewerly out, make sure it won't be for a long time because it hurts =X

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hey. 14/f. ok, well i really want to loose some weight. like 20-30 pounds or somethin like that. i've tried before, but i just can't seem to stick to it because of one reason. i'm worried that when i loose weight, there will be that gross left over skin. and even when i get older i wouldn't want to get lipo or anything. so will there be extra skin?? cause i would rather be somewhat fat then have all that extra gross skin just hanging there. lol. sorry, that was a little gross. anyways. i also have another question. what are some good foods that i can eat. i know fruit and stuff, but what else? and also, do those 100 clorie ( idk how to spell that) packs work?? please help with all of these questions!! thanks!!!! luv luv!

If you stick well with your diet and exercise, you shouldn't see much of saggy skin. Also, if you don't lose all those pounds drastically, it should cause in saggy skin. Maybe a little but not noticeably a lot.

For eating, you should stick with healthy things like fruits and veggies and water instead of soda and juices. Instead of white bread, eat whole wheat. Instead of milk, drink low fat milk. Erm, instead of chips, try eating fruits & veggies. Pick healthier choices--no junk food, mustard instead of mayo, no peanut butter, no butter.

And the 100 calorie snacks...they only have a little in there and you'll probably be tempted to eat more after one packet. So instead of that, grab an apple or some carrot sticks =)

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my boyfriend wants to go further with me (like him fingering me, and me giving him a hand job and stuff) but i dont no i jus would feel akward doing that and i dont no why...i already feel akward making out and i dont no why i do..could someone please help me.

**im 16/f

You feel awkward b/c you're uncomfortable b/c you're not ready. Tell him that you don't feel ready and you're uncomfortable doing it.

If he truly likes you for you, he'd understand. If he gets mad & breaks up with you, then he's not a good bf at all & you shoudn't be hung up on him.

anybryars. Just tell him that you're not ready and obviously he is so do whatever when YOU feel ready. Don't let him pressure you into doing anything you feel awkward doing.

=)

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15/F
so theres this boy.. he doesnt go to my school, but he doesnt live that far away..
neither of us can drive and lately the older kid who we are both friends with has been away so we have no way of getting to eachother..
im afraid that if we wait to long, it could be really akward or we might not like eachother anymore once we finally chill.
what should i do??

Keep talking to him through the means of an instant messenger program, email, myspace, and blah whether you can or can't meet him. Just keep in contact as often as you can.

If you're parents or older siblings aren't into the whole meeting a person outside of school type thing or you don't wanna tell them...sneak. Find a spot where you both can meet at--perhaps like at a mall or something. Ask your parents if you can go there and the same for this boy and you guys can meet together...hey, you're not lying ...

Haha--or get your friend's sister/brother/parents to drive you =)

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I was supposed to get my period on April 14th.
However, I THINK my boyfriend popped my cherry on the 12th when I was getting fingered. There was a little blood; but I felt no pain. I waited for my period to come but it didnt, and my boyfriend fingered me again on the 14th. Once again; there was blood, but not a flow like my period. Is that normal that it keeps bleeding? How will I know when its my actual period so I can use a tampon?

Well, periods are rpetty irregular so no one can really tell you a set time.

The reason you're bleeding maybe b/c he's fingering you maybe a little too much plus I'm guessing that this is your first times. Soo chillax and wear a pantyliner sp? in the meanwhile. And take a break from getting fingered.

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ok. so what happended to these singers/rappers? cause i don't hear anything about them anymore.
- Nelly (not Nelly Furtato, Nelly the rapper..lol)
- Usher
- Ashlee Simpson
i just don't hear about them anymore. and i really like them. are they just taking a break? or making new music or what? thanx so much!!

Well, they're probably taking a break or working on new music. I mean I didn't really hear much from SP for a while but bam! they came out with another album. haha, that sounded soo lame.

But just wait--they'll come out with new songs sooner or later =)

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i would really like to do a total body makeover by toning up amd eating right. but i just can't help myself. I have a tendency to just keep snacking. And i can never really get in the habit of working out everyday. I'm buying my own food, but i'll wnader into the kitchen and and just grab something. i'm defiantely not fat, but i really want to get into a health kick. how can i stop myslef from snacking all the time,and how get i get myself into a habit of regularly working out?? does anybody have any tips,or plans that i can follow? please help..
thanks in advance.

10 days. That's all you need to get into the habit of exercising correctly. Even if you don't want to exercise, drag yourself out of bed in the morning and exercise for 10 days straight.

As for the eating issue.
Limit junk food and all those not so healthy friendly food. Get healthy snacks [fruits, veggies, low fat yogurts] and store them in the most accessible place. Wash and cut up fruits & veggies into bite size one time snack thingers so you wouldn't dismiss it after the thought of having to wash and cut them. Turn off the kitchen lights at 8 pm. Don't eat in front of the tv [it makes you feel hungry--er]. try using salad plates instead of those big dinner plates. And erm, go out and have fun with your friends in a place where they don't sell much food!

Haha, good luck!

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Hi i was wondering what is the smallest size that a small condom will fit.Like how big do you have to be to fit in one.
Also,how long does it take for a guy to build all his sperm back and have a full orgasm/ejc. again?

Condom boxes should list the sizes and well, sizes. google it. I'm sure it will come up. go to trojan.com or something--condom brand company sites should have those things

And it depends for every guy. Some guys can orgasm after an hour of rest whereas another guy might need to rest a day.

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this is a really dumb question but if you steal a shirt from abercrombie, will you go to hell? or will anything bad happen to you? just wondering, thanks.

Stealing a shirt=shop lifting=some time in juvie or jail.

Stealing is a wrong doing & it will definitely hurt you when you weigh the goods you've done vs. the bads...but there is always confessions & prayers..

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i submitted this question once already but it like didn't go through so i fixed it up a bit..

alright well..

one of my friends has very strict parents. so they were looking at her search history and found her myspace. they also found mine.

i'm not aloud to have a myspace. my parents made it very clear that if i had one, i'd be in deep trouble. i wouldnt be allowed on the computer for a long time and when i am allowed to my parents would watch my every move. so on AIM, i cant talk to anyone about private stuff.

i deleted my account already but i dont know what to do. my friends dad said hes going to tell my parents. her dad is going to say he saw it a few days ago so there's no hiding that i actually did have one.

i really don't know what to do. i don't want to get in trouble and loose my computer rights. last resort would be to come clean but i don't want to have to do that. i need to get out of this situation. i really need help, and FAST!! please, does anyone have any advice?

thank you sooooooooooooooo much. you dont know how incredibly bad i need advice.

Delete your history...well you're friends anyways.

hmm, deleting your account was not a good idea--you should've deleted everything on your myspace page, changed your name to something bogus, and then deleted it since I believe it takes a while for it to be completely deleted.

Then if your friend's dad tells your parents, well say that you don't have one and they can check for themselves/her dad mistook someone else's for yours/your friend thought it'd be funny to make you one for a surprise.

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ugh! so my parents like found out that my school is
doing a "fundraiser" for poor kids & to donate like
random crap like school supplies. well they filled up a
whole fricken bag of CRAP and they expect me to
carry it to school and SORT EVERYTHING OUT
before homeroom (when i only have like 5 minutes to
unpack ANYWAY) to "help the poor." um. well i dont
want to do it. and i have no idea what to do. DO NOT
bother suggesting, "well you'll help the poor." i already
tried telling them that it's too much shit that i have to
fricken carry & they are like ohh whatever. and i'm not
happy. cause i don't wanna be like the only fricken
person standing there, SORTING OUT by supply like
rulers, colored pencils, etc a WHOLE barnes &
noble back of CRAP.

dont suggest
'forgetting' the bag either. my parents will 'remind'
me before i leave

PLEASE ADVICE?!

Just incase you re-read this!!!!!
Sort them out at home. Carry each pile in a different bag and dump them out in such a way. I'm sure you have a lot of unused bags. Or divide the stuff among your friends and have each of them take a certain amount so you're not overwhelmed with everything.

I think you're overreacting. I know that you don't want to hear ths but you're helping out the poor. The least you can do is spend a little time sorting things out. Plus, you don't have to sort them out right at school. Sort out the items at home and carry one sort each day. So that when you get to school, you can dump one type of things and just go...return the next day and dump off another type and go, etc.

divide it at home and plan when you're going to carry each type of whatever.

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does getting your cartilidge pierced hurt? does it hurt more than an eaerlobe piercing? and how long do you have to wait before you can take it out ? thank youu.

It definitely hurts more than getting your earlobe pierced. And the pain depends on how high your pain endurance is. I have a pretty high pain endurance level and when I got my lip piierced, it hurt slightly. But getting a cartilidge pierced will hurt more so I'd say it will hurt like crazy if you don't have much of a pain endurance level.

And I believe it's 4 weeks before it fully heals or whatever your piercer tells you =)

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Im 13/f and i know you really cant get a job at this age. And i really dont have anywhere to babysit. Im pretty shy. But does anyone have an idea on how i can make some extra money. Thanks in advance. :).

Babysitting
Cleaning
Pet sitting
Car washing
Pet washing
House sitting

Lemonade stand [hehe]

Raking leaves
Shoveling snow
Mowing lawns

Just little stuff.

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Im a guy 15 years old. What do you say to a girl that u just met? like i usually know wat to say and stuff, but shes kinda shy around new people. so wat would u like say. I dont know if i want a relationship or nething, but i want to talk to her

Well, I'm a girl and I'm pretty shy around new people I meet, especially if they're guys.

Break the ice at first by talking to her online [AIM, MSN, YIM, E-mail, MYSPACE]

Then have her friends and your friends and of course, the girl hang out one day & gradually get to know her. Joke around and loosen up the moood. If she's shy, she'll be greatful for any talk that will come up--just stay away from perverted things...haha

Have fun =)

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my boyfriend and i just started dating and he wants me to go to the movies with him and his freind and his freind's girlfreind but i dont know either of them. i dont wanna turn him down because that seems mean but i really dont wanna go with people i dont know!

please help!!!

Hey, chillax. Your bf will be there with you to keep you from getting into awkward silenceness with strangers, right?

You can tell your bf that you feel a tad bit uncomforatble being with people you don't know and you were wondering if he'd stay with you the whole time/go to the movies w/ you alone some other time.

Or just meet his friend & his gf ahead of time at school or something. I'm sure they're not bad and you'll be friends with them soon enough =)

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14/f
Ok on myspace ill have like a picture with a LITTLE cleavage showing and they would be like pull up your shirt , or slut or something like that. In reality they KNOW im not a slut or like that at all . However theres this girl and she was like wearing short shorts and the shortest belly shirt ever , practically naked and she put it on her myspace and every girls like AWWE YOU LOOK SO CUTE and stuff NO ONE said slut or anything like put on clothes. WHY is this??

if i put that picture there would be SO much rumors
but if she takes a naked picture it will be so "CUTE"


OH and the girl is the same age as me

Well, being practically naked is the normal thing for her whereas it's not normal for you to show some cleavage. The comments for her picture[s] are probably from all her friends & she might have even somehow deleted hateful comments. People who commented you are just jealous and stupid. Ignore their remarks. and if someone leaves a stupid comment like that next time, just ask them to look at that girls picture. Or better than anything---get rid of the picture!!!

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so i'm on this diet thing... well it's not really a diet because it's healthy and safe... so it's more of an eating plan...

I stay between 1500-1800 calories a day...

and well, i get all shaky and feel like i'm about to die or black out or something when I can't have my food that I actually want- whether it's junk food or just pasta or something...

and i know there have to be days when you just plain don't think about what you're eating.


How often can I have these days?

once a week? twice? once a month? i just don't know

It's not a healthy or safe diet if you're lacking the amount of calories you need to eat per day. I'm assuming you're a teenage girl and most teenage girls need 2000-2200 calories per day.

That doesn't mean to go fill up 500 calories with ice cream and 1000 with fast food and the other 500 with veggie. That means to fill up those calories with healthy food.

Also, don't forget to exercise. Food alone won't effect you much..

As for the shakiness...well you're not getting enough energy in your body--so it's not safe overall. Make sure you're eating high protien containing food!!!

As for those days...try to avoid them. If you allow yourself to do so one day, you're giving youself permission to do it everyday. So try and limit those to 1 a week and gradually work your wy up to 1 time a month.

The easiest thing to keep you on track is to get rid f all junk food & those nonhealthy chocolate chip bagle sorts & stock up on veggies, low fat yogurt, fruits, etc so you'll just grab those & not have to worry much =)

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if i'm like 5'6
how much do i have to weigh
to be a model? and dont say
that there are models that
are all weights please

It kind of all depends on what kind of modeling you're looking forward to and what age you are.
If you're in your teens, you should be around 120-130lbs. If you're serious about this and are modeling for serious designers, you're going to be have to be around 110-120lbs.

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14/f
does anybody know a good way to study for the taks test ?? and try to not to worry about it, cause i`m worryin` lik` crazy right now T.T

help please ?

Well, I don't know what a taks test is but...

Study a sufficient amount. Don't go overload. Take 5 minute breaks every 20min and 10 minute breaks every hour. Get a goodnight's rest. Eat lots of protein & bananas. Yes, bananas. They are good beta blockers--it's natural and healthy [Your body makes you pumped up and nervous b/c adreneline [sp?] kicks in. Beta blockers help keep your heart beat at a regular pace & maintain your calmness]. Do some yoga that morning. Read a book to get your mind off the test before the actual test begins.

Remember, if you get nervous, you're likely to make some mistakes. Breath in and breath out like a pregnant lady going into labor before you take the test and calm your self. Think of happy thoughts or random things like lotion =P

good luck!

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i fingered myself today and if felt like bumpy inside like tehre were ridges i didnt like it at all

And your question would be???
It's great that you don't like it.
No one is holding a gun to your head and making you masturbate. If you don't like it, don't do it.

This site is for questions, not for opinionated inputs.

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