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My name is McKenzie and I'm a freshman at Reedley College, I love to help people out with problems and to write. I want to be a writer someday. I love to make friends. Ask any question and I'll attempt to answer it.

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Ok i like this dude we call Mouse. My "friend" Gail is totally obsessed with him and loves him to death and has for like 4 years. The thing is, they have never went out, and he can't stand her! he told me and all his friends earlier that he can't stand her cuz she tries to control who he likes and who he dates and she freaks out on anyone he likes or dates so that they get scared off. then he told me on the way home that he likes me and yea i defenitly like him ...a lot! and anyways, Gail said that she isn't going to stop me if i wanna go out with him and that she won't get mad at me. but Louann says that since Gail is my friend I shouldn't go out with Mouse. and that if I did go out with Mouse then she (Louann) would get mad at me and either hurt me or not talk to me (unless its yelling) ever again. but yea, i really really really really like Mouse.....how can i get Louann to accept that me and Mouse wanna go out???

Talk to her about it. She may understand if you just calmly explain it to her. If she doesn't understand, don't go out with him. You don't want to risk a friendship over some boy. Good luck! Hope I helped!

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Okay let me warn you this thing will be like 2000 characters, but let me start by saying i met this girl when i came to missouri to visit my grandma, we like eachother, well we love eachother, i dont feel like i could live wtihout her...we dated last year and broke up and then i tried for a year to get her back and finally did, however i found these questions asked on advicenators..about her ex..while we were going out:

*well my ex boyfriend is coming over tomarrow and i made him a scrapbook of all our memories cause i want him to know how much i still care about him! he has told me 3 times since we've been broken up he loves me and hes said he misses me all the time! but theres also another girl that he likes and im trying to pretty much win him over..but anyways..i was just wondering if you had any ideas on how i could do like a scavenger hunt kinda thing to lead him to it cause i want this to be special!!! please help asap! thanks!*

i knew her ex was coming over to get the scrapbook but she said that was it and that she didnt have feelings anymore and what not...but the most painful is the next one...

hey! well me and my ex boyfriend mike went out for 3 months..i know its not a long time but we talked and dated for like 4 months before that! well anyways we have been broken up for almost 6 months now and we both have went out with other people!i have always asked him if he liked me and if wed ever get back together..well he never would answer the whole like you question but he would always say i dunno if we will ever go back out cause i dont normally go out with ex gfs so i thought ok fine whatever! well i tried moving on ya know and i finally got to the point i thought i was over him! i even had him over like 4 weeks ago..i could kinda tell he had feelings for me cause he would keep asking me for a hug and hed like put his arm around me and he gave me a hickey and we had a total blast together..but it kinda felt like we were just friends so i thought well maybe i am over him but yet i still missed him! so i went on vacation and didnt really talk to him for 2 weeks..the day i get back he ims me and was talking to me and said he liked me so that kinda made me feel good but then i also realied that maybe i wasnt quite over him and he had also asked if he could come over next week so i thought sure! well so the next night we stayed up til 3:15 in the morning talking and he had said he still loved me and always had, he missed me, and itd be great if we eventually got back together but he didnt want that right now and he wanted to keep things slow for right now! then the next night it was a repeat we stayed up til 3:30 and he said he missed me and my picture was his background on his computer and what not! well then things just kinda seemed weird! i just had this feeling it wasnt gonna be a good day but i kinda tried letting it go past me and i wrote his xanga past memories and i told him i still loved him..so i guess that was a bad idea cause he totally flipped and was like omg i cant believe u did that , you know i dont like my friends knowing everything, blah blah blah! so i was like ok im sorry and i showed him how to get rid of it! so then he wouldnt say i love you but he said i miss ya and your pic is still on my background so i was like okay maybe things arent that bad! but he also told me he didnt know if he was going to come over next week now because i made him upset and he couldnt believe i would do that which seemed kinda weird to me! but the thing is i want him to come over cause i wanna see him and talk all of this out in person and i even made a scrap book of us cause i want him to realize how much i really do care! well then theres this girl melissa that has liked him for about a year now! well hes always told me they were just friends and things like that! and the other day i said something how hes always with girls and calls them hun and stuff and hes like i hate when your like this cause you always think i like these girls when really we are just close friends! and i want to trust him but its so hard! and then like today i read his xanga and melissa signed it saying i cant wait to watch fire works with you tomarrow and then it had this quote that was like seduce my body blah blah blah seduce my soul and ill always be yours! and im so clueless on what to think about that! i know they both use to like eachother and they went to a dance together after we broke up and all he ever tells me is they are just close friends but he is with her all the time! and i dont know what to think of it! i just dont know why he would sit there and say all of a sudden out of no where that he loved me and missed me when for 6 months he wouldnt say a word to me! PLEASE HELP ME!

sent while we were going out yet again, i love her with all my heart and i dont know what to do, i finally won her back and i dont want to let her go but i feel like its just a game and she is playing me. Should i keep her or let her go? any advice?

Just let her go. It sounds like you have other things on your mind besides her. Girls' hearts are VERY fragile and if you break that, she may never forgive you. Just stay friends with her and maybe things will get better. Good luck! Hope I helped!

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Hi! (this is kind of long...)

I'm 14, and most of my friends have dated or are dating. I feel like I stand out, almost like I will never be able to date. Whenever my friends talk about dating, I am happy for them, but I just think I'm never going to date, with hopelessness.

I have tried finding girls by being friends with them and then after a while, asking some of them if they have BFs. Some of them do, and most of them don't. I am still friends with them, but whenever I'd ask the ones without BFs if they'd like to do something together (almost like a date), they usually say "no" or "maybe not" or "sorry, I'm busy". I know they are either not ready or they just wouldn't want to date me. Sometimes I feel terrible or depressed about it, but other times, I get a strange feeling like I would want to stand out and not date.

My analogy on dating with comparison of my friends and me is that dating for my friends is like taking an airplane from ME to CA, but for me, it's like walking there and I can't find any other way to get there. I feel like I'm hopeless, like no matter how much I try, I'll never find a girl. :-( I am a very nice guy, at least that's what my friends say, but I'm not sure why I haven't been very successful. I just can't seem to figure it out.

If you have any advice, I'd be glad to hear what you have to say.

Thanks. :-)

Maybe you're not ready or mature enough for a girlfriend. Girls want someone who wants to be with them. Hang in there. You'll find her. Good luck! Hope I helped!

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Hey I'm going into 10th grade and decided that this yr. I want to work with my makeup and hair better than I did and I was wondering what are some good hairstyles for a girl who has thin hair (haha lucky me not lol) and it is wavy and down to my chest I also have no bangs. I've tried curling it with a small and bigger curling iron but it doesnt work, the curls dont stay well even with gel. Any other ideas other than how to get curls to stay are welcome too!

Also! I want to work on makeup, and I was wondering how do you apply like foundation and other coverup makeups. I want something that covers up my face minimally because I dont really have bad acne anymore but it isnt all away so something that does an good job?

THANKS for ANY help!!! Really.

To get curls to stay, maybe use curlers every night and they will look good in the morning. If you want your hair to stay curly, don't use a straightner. As for coverup, you only need a bit to cover scars and past acne and stuff on your face. Good luck! Hope I helped!

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okay how gross is this...
on dates with my bf while talking casually about what we've done before meeting each other (usually involving a rush to get out of bed) ect I always list down that I managed to brush my teeth and have a drink before leaving the house... him on the other hand spends his mornings on the computer or watching TV... he doesn't even BOTHER to brush his teeth or anything :S and he tells me this! can you be more of a turn off... ewwww... and once he got really mad at me for not wanting to kiss him but can you blame me!! how do I subtely get the message across to him that that is the biggest turn off like, ever :|
plus, I dunno, is this like a hint he can't be bothered? he's always dragging on about how he doesn't care about his appearance ect.. but after 3 months he's never even complimented how I look and I always try my best, blah...
Please help + opinions on this
xxx

Tell him gently. If he loves you, he'll understand and take better care of himself. Good luck! Hope I helped!

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this is for my bff, im trying to help him through this...14/m. well my gf & i have been together for almost 6 months. we rarely see each other because we are so busy & when we do, she ignores me or hangs out with everyone but me even if its my party. she doesnt hug me a whole lot either & we've never kissed. i was away from her & during that time i saw & hung out with my gal pal that i hadnt seen in about a year. she likes me a lot & she does more things than my gf does (she hugs me, thats it!) & gives me attention & really cares about me so i got to like her as more than a friend now. i was planning on breaking up with my gf but after i saw her again yesterday, i fell in love with her all over again. i had loved this girl for several years & this was my chance but then she doesnt treat me right & there are other girls out there who really do care about me. what should i do? my gf i have loved for a long time & the girl that likes me gave me a heart that can be easily broken.

*info on the ladies: the gf is a bit of a tease & needs the attitude adjustment thats long over-due but she can be ok at times.
the other girl is a lot like a gf the guy had that ended up being a huge mistake...shes a bit older, more experienced & she knows he's vunerable. she also likes almost every guy i can think of.
*parents view: mom used to be FOR the breaking up but since the other girl showed up (which she doesnt want him to get involved with) she wants them to stay together.
dad doesnt want him to do anything until school starts so no one knows why he broke up with his gf.
*the bffs view: the other girl isnt my favorite (i agree with the parents) & i dont want to be responsible for the break up...i got them together & i didnt know it would end up like this. the gf was my friend but now not only does he treat him like crap but shes mean to me too.

*PLEASE, ANYTHING WILL HELP! WE REALLY NEED YOU!*

As they say plenty of fish in the sea. I say dump her and go to the other girl. Maybe she'll show you the respect you deserve. Good luck! Hope I helped!

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Ok well at camp this summer, i had a boyfriend 3 years older then me. You know we would hold hands and stuff and kiss and everything but like everyonce in a while he would grab my boobs and my butt and i didnt really like it but i just threw it off. anyways when i got back home, guys were all calling me a slut, and theres this guy Diantrey, and now hes like all over me grabbin my slappin my ass grabing my boobs tryin to undo my bra and stuff its getting so annoyin. now its starting to spread around my neighbor hodd now people are tryin to like hook up with me say hey baby wanna come over to my hosue tonigh. anyways i've been puttin it off but now its startin to get to me. does anyone have any advice how i can stop all of this???

Don't lead them on. Guys will be guys. Just ignore them and move on in life. The rumors will stop soon enough. Good luck! Hope I helped!

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Ok, so me and my boyfriend have been GREAT... we have been goin out for 5 months and everything was the way I wanted it to be... except for two things... he always wants us to have some kind of sexual contact. He always wants to fingwer me and stuff... and he always wants me touching him. and up until I came back from France Our talkin relantionship was perfect. And now we fight all the time. I want so bad to break up with him but I keep thinkin what I would be without him and to me... I don't think I would be anything... What should I do?

Well it sounds like he's just with you for sexual contact. Dump him. You can do better than him. There's plenty of other guys out there and you'll find Mr. Right. Good luck! Hope I helped!

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Hello. Im in love. Soooo....Ive told two of my close guy friends that I like him (they are pretty good friends with "him" too) and I've been hanging out A LOT with "him" this summer. Both of my guy friends say I should tell him I like him and one of them says that we "radiate" and guessed we liked eachother before I got the chance to tell him that the me-liking-him part was true. I get strong feelings that he likes me back a lot but at the same time i get insecure that he doesnt with some of his actions.

So....Summary:
I dont know if I should tell this guy or not that I like him. Dont guys make the first move? I really want something to happen but Ive had my heart broken before and I dont really want that to happen again. If he liked me wouldnt he be doing something?
Ive been hanging out with him for about 3 months but the whole crush thing started about a month ago.
THANKS FOR YOUR HELP!!!! YOU GUYS ARE THE BEST!!!

Just spend time with him and when the time is right, maybe ask him. Usually guys make the first move but it's ok for girls too. Good luck! Hope I helped!

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ok I like this boy who is a year older than me...where neighboors and i really like him!! sometimes when my bff comes over we play soccer with him and his friend..how can I tell if he likes me? And should I ask him out? plaese help

You can usually tell if a guy likes you by his eye contact. If he stares at you constantly, he likes you. If he's distracted, he doesn't like you. Ask him to the movies or over to your house or bake him cookies. Who knows, Maybe he'lll be your boyfriend sooner than you thought. Good luck! Hope I helped!

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hi.im 21 years old.studying in university.im having a hard time in my life.i want to love and to be loved.i never had a boyfriend before.guys have asked me to be their girl but i dont see the sincerity in them.in fact friendship with boys never lasted long.im just another girl for boys.no one ever treated me special.i always feel left out.but i always laugh and make jokes as if im the most happiest person on earth!give me advice what should i do?

Let them get to know you. I think what the problem is you always push them away. What are you hiding? Let them get to know you and you won't feel so lonely. Good luck! Hope I helped!

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I have a boyfriend for about 3 months now. For the past 1 and 1/2 months I have realized I dont really like him anymore. Every time Im out I always check out and flirt with all the guys. The only reason I have been going out with him is because I have someone to go to the movies and someone who will spend their money on. Am I wrong? Should I break up with him and if so how would I do it?
I will rate high!!

You should dump him if you don't love him anymore. Don't do that to a guy. Wouldn't you want a guy to break up with you instead of checking out other girls behind your back? I don't think so. I say dump him but its your decision. Good luck! Hope I helped!

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im a teenage girl who truly hates her parents to death. They've both cheated on each other, and not just once. They dont think or care about me or my careless little 9 year old brother. They have me in the middle hoping i'll pick or protect one of them, and they've said no matter who i pick, i'll still lose one of them and wont get to see them ever again, but their both literally whores. Worst thing is, i suffer from severe depression, and i cut myself, sometimes to much and sometimes to deep, i've taken 2 overdoses, but have ended up getting the pills pumped out, i might as well kill myself, but i've decided to go 2 my home country, the Dominican Republic, to do high school over there, i no i shouldn't be trying to escape my problems, but it's better than commiting suicide, wat else can i do? Can someone please help? I dont think im a freak, just misunderstood. Please write back

Well it sounds like your in a tough situation. Have you tried talking to a counselor? That helped me when my grandmother died. Or I think they may have hotlines for divorced parents. Maybe look on the internet to see if you can find anything. Remember, your parents love you no matter what. Good luck! Hope I helped!

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Im gettign bracestommmorw! im scared ta death, cna anyine tell me whta goes on what do they do does it hurt stuf lie kthat pelase help

They may get irritated the first week or so. They give you wax to put on your braces if it gets unbearable. The process of braces depends on your teeth. If you like have buck teeth, it may take a few years. You'll be fine. Good luck! Hope I helped!

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I know this one girl, lets call her Natasha. Natasha goes to this high school that's pretty close to my high school so i see her pretty often. I really like her alot, but it seems like she never notices me. we met once but i don't think she remembers. She's always hanging around these other people i know who are also my friends. How am i gonna get her to notice me?

Just go up and talk to her. See if she remembers you. Girls LOVE to be noticed by guys. Trust me. Good luck! Hope I helped!

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my boyfrind cheated on me and wants me back should i take him back and worrie all my life to see if hes ganna cheat on me again or breack up i love him
my friends say its not the first time did itto me

Dump him. You deserve better than that scumbag. Good luck! Hope I helped!

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I'm 15 and my sister is 14 and she cuts herself. I just found out like 45 mins ago bc she left me a comment on my xanga saying she has a career she was looking into but she didnt know how much it paid and she wouldnt tell me what it was so I figured that maybe she searched it up on the search bar. When I checked the search bar history I found a bunch of stuff about "I cut myself" and "I cut myself and a friend wants me to stop" and such. Then, since it's late at night and she usually is in the basement at night, I tried to sneak downstairs but she caught me.
Well she started casually talking to me and asking me why I was downstairs and I looked at her arms and saw they were bloody and I almost started crying but then I mentioned how I found the articles and started asking her about it and she just smiled goofily and I looked at her arms and saw all these scars I saw before but never thought of as cutting herself just from cats. And I said "why would you do something so stupid, whos your friend" and she said "dont tell anyone, it doesnt matter, you used to cut yourself" (which I briefly cut my wrists for 3 months last fall, it was a dumb mistake and I even told her that I only did it because I thought it would make my problems go away but it never helped) and she just tried to play it off as a huge joke, and said dont tell anyone, its not a big deal. But it was! These weren't little puny cuts they werent to big but not puny! She said she doesnt tell ppl about them (xcept that friend) but thats why she wears hoodies all yr.

I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO! I want to tell my parents but I dont want her to get mad. I really want to tell my best friend but she's not online and I'm just confused. This is my baby sister and I dont want her hurting herself. I asked her why she was doing this to herself and she didnt have a clearcut response but argh.

Please help. I really need some guidance on this I'm very confused.

Tell your parents. That's the safest thing you can do. Cutting is EXTERMELY dangerous and could lead to suicide. Good luck! Hope I helped!

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I have a mol on my face and its really ugly.. how do i get rid of it or cover it up or at least make it less noticable??!!! ahhhh

Put some coverup on it. I don't think there's any other way to get rid of it other than surgery. Good luck! Hope I helped!

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Girls: Do you think it would be cute for a guy to ask before kissing a girl? Would you find that cute or weird?

Kinda wierd.

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my hair gets incredibly greasy easily cause i have oily skin. i was wondering what i could do to prevent this from happening cause i have camp for two weeks and it grosses me out

Wash it more often.

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