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Cutting Sister
I'm 15 and my sister is 14 and she cuts herself. I just found out like 45 mins ago bc she left me a comment on my xanga saying she has a career she was looking into but she didnt know how much it paid and she wouldnt tell me what it was so I figured that maybe she searched it up on the search bar. When I checked the search bar history I found a bunch of stuff about "I cut myself" and "I cut myself and a friend wants me to stop" and such. Then, since it's late at night and she usually is in the basement at night, I tried to sneak downstairs but she caught me.
Well she started casually talking to me and asking me why I was downstairs and I looked at her arms and saw they were bloody and I almost started crying but then I mentioned how I found the articles and started asking her about it and she just smiled goofily and I looked at her arms and saw all these scars I saw before but never thought of as cutting herself just from cats. And I said "why would you do something so stupid, whos your friend" and she said "dont tell anyone, it doesnt matter, you used to cut yourself" (which I briefly cut my wrists for 3 months last fall, it was a dumb mistake and I even told her that I only did it because I thought it would make my problems go away but it never helped) and she just tried to play it off as a huge joke, and said dont tell anyone, its not a big deal. But it was! These weren't little puny cuts they werent to big but not puny! She said she doesnt tell ppl about them (xcept that friend) but thats why she wears hoodies all yr.
I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO! I want to tell my parents but I dont want her to get mad. I really want to tell my best friend but she's not online and I'm just confused. This is my baby sister and I dont want her hurting herself. I asked her why she was doing this to herself and she didnt have a clearcut response but argh.
Please help. I really need some guidance on this I'm very confused.
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Tell your parents. That is the only answer. She needs to go to a hospital and get help. That's the only way. Yes you cut yourself, but you stopped. She might get mad, but she will thank you for it. Don't tell anyone but your parents. Don't tell her your telling, and tell your parents your concern about her knowing you said it. Try to get them to catch her, it'll be easier. You're doing the right thing, don't worry. My friend used to cut, and I sent him to the hospital. He's better now. When she goes, don't be surprised if she relapses. It'll all be okay, but alert your parents ASAP, don't linger. E-mail me of how it goes.
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Tell your parents. That's the safest thing you can do. Cutting is EXTERMELY dangerous and could lead to suicide. Good luck! Hope I helped!
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ok first you did the right thing i understand how you almost feel confused. i know you dont want to be a tattle tale but this is serrious she could get very hurt. your older you should be the one to tell her right from wrong i think you shud tell your parents so she can get help. This is really scarry but you cant just watch her do it like in a movie you need to stop her think of what would happen if you didnt.
good luck! i hope i helped
-haley-
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TELL YOUR PARENTS. You have to. Cutting is dangerous and she's your little sister. You have to protect her.
take it from me baby
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As much as you care about your sister, you need to respect her feelings. If she wanted your parents to know, she would've told them herself. It's not your place to tell them. The best thing you can do for her is support her and help her through this. That's what my older sister did for me...
Good luck. <3
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i think you should tell your parents...i wouldnt care if she got mad at me because she's hurting herself and she might get worse and might start hurting herself more or something....sry if i worried you but its true....hope i helped bii
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omg.. i hate it when people cut their selfs... its grose!.. tell your parents.. i know its ratting her out but .. you dont want her to get hurt.. and she will furgive You in the long run.. or just keep a eye on her..
something
just dont let her cut her self.. if u see her cutting her self.. yell at her.. make sure shes not doing it !
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She must realize she has some kind of problem with it because she has been running searches on it. You need to talk to her seriously about it, get her to stop because even just a little bit of cutting can lead to worse things. Talk to her, you can try and relate to maybe why she is cutting because you said yourself briefly that you had cut prieviously. But talk to her and find out whats wrong so then you can try and stop her. I wouldn't tell your parents or anyone else unless if she continues to cut and you couldn't do anything to stop her through talking to her. Just be there for her and try to find out whats wrong because then you can find why she is doing it and find a solution to it. I hope you are able to get through to her and help her stop and hope this advice helps.
-Ryan
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Since she was doing research on cutting, I would take that as her realizing that she does have a problem and admitting she needs help. Tell your parents immediately what's going on so they can get her the help before she seriously harms herself. She may get mad at you now but she'll get over it once she realizes you saved her from herself.
You can also call 1-800-DONT-CUT. The number is toll free. It's an information line on self-abuse that offers referalls to support groups around the country.
A good information source on self-injury can be found at the following site. I think you'll find the family/friend section helpful.
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Good luck. I wish you and your sister the best.
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Tell your parents or another adult you trust /immediately/, cutting is serious and can be a sign of other emotional problems, like depression. Your sister might be mad at you for a little while, but in the long run, she will thank you for what you did, because it would forestall any further cutting or more serious action. Then, talk to your sister directly again, tell her what a bad mistake cutting was for you, and tell her that she needs to find healthy ways to deal with her stress and problems. Assure her that you're always there for her and that it scares you that she would hurt herself, and make sure you tell her that you'll help her with whatever she's going through.
It's good of you to ask for advice first, and you seem like you would handle this just fine. And since you have a good relationship with your sister, she will listen to you as a sister and mentor.
Good luck, I hope it works out for you.
Love,
~Nevaeh
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Your sister must have some reason for hurting herself and her body. She might just want to know how you felt for those months you did. I wouldn't tell your parents just yet, just try to talk to her give her the most support you could give a little sister. I know if my baby sister ever got herself I would stick by her 100% of the way until the problem stopped. Just give her as much love and support as you can.
hope i helped
Simply_Jess
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