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Being Hopeful
Hi! (this is kind of long...)
I'm 14, and most of my friends have dated or are dating. I feel like I stand out, almost like I will never be able to date. Whenever my friends talk about dating, I am happy for them, but I just think I'm never going to date, with hopelessness.
I have tried finding girls by being friends with them and then after a while, asking some of them if they have BFs. Some of them do, and most of them don't. I am still friends with them, but whenever I'd ask the ones without BFs if they'd like to do something together (almost like a date), they usually say "no" or "maybe not" or "sorry, I'm busy". I know they are either not ready or they just wouldn't want to date me. Sometimes I feel terrible or depressed about it, but other times, I get a strange feeling like I would want to stand out and not date.
My analogy on dating with comparison of my friends and me is that dating for my friends is like taking an airplane from ME to CA, but for me, it's like walking there and I can't find any other way to get there. I feel like I'm hopeless, like no matter how much I try, I'll never find a girl. :-( I am a very nice guy, at least that's what my friends say, but I'm not sure why I haven't been very successful. I just can't seem to figure it out.
If you have any advice, I'd be glad to hear what you have to say.
Thanks. :-)
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Maybe you're not ready or mature enough for a girlfriend. Girls want someone who wants to be with them. Hang in there. You'll find her. Good luck! Hope I helped!
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Hey...dont feel like your the only one out there wondering why their love life isnt so great..because LOTS of people are in your position, including me. i have some really pretty friends..and you would think they have all these wonderful guys wanting them..but thats not the case..a lot of the times its just immature idiots who just love their looks...meanwhile the one who is not so good looking (me) somehow had (this was couple years ago) the great relationship they would love to have.
you sound like a great guy...and you have manny years of dating and may girls to come in and out of your life..my advice is to stay positive..get out there..and meet lots of people! be yourself..meet new people..and your bound to find the right girl
i hope i helped out..
-melissa :)
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Just keep asking. There's plenty of girls that are in the same position as you! Maybe start asking the right girls, and just ask if they want to see a movie sometime. Oh and by right girls i mean girls that seem to be like interested in you, if you know what i mean. You don't want to ask a friend out if you're not sure she likes you because it'd just be so akward! Good luck!
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Maybe these girls are too shallow. Try changing your looks. send me a pic... cutewiththee333@yahoo.com
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For some girls it is really hard for them to open up to people. AND most just find guys "just friends" so if you want them to consider you as something else, Instead of being so nice try to be flirty and get them to remember you. But if a girl says no then dont get yourself about it. Girls are picky sometimes. you dont have to meet all of your friends standards to be happy... just be happy that you have friends that are girls that could some day blossom into a realtionship... thats pretty common for boy and girl friends one day end up dating. So keep your head up kid. Someone is out there for you and you will meet her soon enough. Good Luck
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you do sound really nice for a fourteen year old and theres a girl for everyone really but maybe your just not meant to date right now but i was like that till i turned thirteen "this year" i would date but just to be dating because all my friends were so i did to but all i can say is keep looking maybe youll find one you didnt expect like one of your friends or something hope i helped luv talktome224
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im 14 and i no how you feel im in the same situation but i try not to think about it i try to be happy with my self. some girls arent allowed to date at 14. you do sound like a really nice guy and you should try to have a good summer.
merle
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hey alright im 14 as well and think of it this way you only 14 you have plenty of time to date people thers some one out there for everyone i have a problem dating guys i lost my trust in them because ive been cheated on so many times and i easly for give and for get so if y ou want to talk some more my aim- badassash002 yahoo- bad_ass_ash_002 my cousin made up my screen names lol well i hoped i helped you out a little good luck Ashlee
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Most girls i know (Including myself), have standards, that we arn't allowed to date until we are 16, this maybe one of the things. I think you should just be patient, and most importantly dont' give up faith, you will find the one person you're supposed to be with, you arn't hopeless. Just keep trying and keep your head up
I hope I helped,
Ally
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