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Alright, I have one of those movie friendships. Everyone thinks my friend and I are going to fall in love, get together, get married one day and live happily ever after. I am a 16 year old girl as is he 16. We have been best friends for.. well, forever, since the first day of third grade. We had this little clique, me, him, and two boys that both had turned out to um, like boys. They had since moved away and it's just me and him left from that third grade class. We have our own friends but we are both close as well. Everyone thinks since we are so close, we're hiding a relationship, that we really like each other.

I just want to tell you a few things about our relationship and you can tell me if you believe everyone else or you think me and him are right in this.
My friend is really shy, he's an amazing guy and he would take a bullet for me but he doesn't talk a lot. Leading to low self esteem and hardly any confidence, I really have to watch what I say around him or I know he'll get kinda down about it but when he does I do whatever I can to make him happy, I give him little confidence boosts, I guess you could call them. On the off chance that I am having a bad day, he knows it and he asks, he won't make me tell him what's wrong, he won't push the subject (even though I always tell him anyway), I then apologize for dumping all of my problems on him and making him feel obligated to help me out and he always comes back with a remark similar to "you don't have to apologize, I want to know what's bothering you, I care." We talk all the time, we talk in school, at band practice, at fundraisers and when we aren't together, we text. We talk about a lot of random things and that's what I like about him, he can just be laid back, we don't have to talk about anything serious. We are both in the marching band at our school and everyday after practice, I give him crackers, the same kind everyday because he loves them. Every one said I'm like his mom. The first time I got silly bandz when the whole thing started at my school, I was talking to him about them and he said he doesn't like anything on his wrists, he likes nice and bare but when I put them on his desk and showed them to him, he picked one up and wore it until it broke a lot of months later. I have trouble in a class that he excels in so I text him and ask him if he can help me with the homework or the notes and he would ask me what exactly I needed and he would help me so much. His mom is quite fond of me, ever since we talked for a while at a band function. The last time I saw her, it was raining quite heavy and she told me to not get sick and stay bundled up. Lastly, my friend has such a passion for music, he writes songs and plays guitar. He plays his guitar for me when I'm sad but he doesn't sing for me. Ever. He said he can sing in front of his other friends and he sings at parties but he won't sing for me.

So, what do you think? Do you believe everyone else? I'd really appreciate your input. Thanks!

Matt: "Who do you believe? Who fucking cares."

Lady friend: "Why are you answering this? They probably will end up together."




Seriously though, silly bandz? My six year old campers love those. That's 16, without the 1.

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Soooo... one of my really good friends is a girl, she's a year younger. (I'm seventeen, she's sixteen). Well since she's younger, and a really good friend, I'm kinda protective of her. She's pretty much like my little sis. Yeah, she's hot but she's also like 5'4/100 lbs... Sooo mix her tiny body with juuust a pinch of alcohol and she's every guy's dream. A hot drunk girl. It really doesn't take much to get her wasted. See, I don't even approve of decent guys for her (what brother does??) but when we got out to parties and stuff and she's wasted and all these d-bags are tryin to get on her, I have to protect her. Which I don't mind too much, but I'm worried about her. That if I'm not there, some guys gonna take advantage of her. I've tried to tell her about this... tell her I'm concerned about her but she WANTS to hook up with guys... And nothing I say can get her to take it easy on the booze and be a little smarter with the boys. She's gonna get her self in trouble! And I just don't knwo what to do... She's my bestfriend but I don't OWN her ya know?? If she wants to get her drink on and hook up, I'm still gonna love her but I'm worried...

Hook up with her before anyone else gets the chance.

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what does that mean?

It means the person was being nice and should have removed the 'in relationships' portion.

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I am i gonna get pregnant if for da last three days my bf has been nuttin inside of me right after my period

yee homie i pretty sure u definitely could be aw shit

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ok so im a 17 year old female. I got my period bk in grade 9 and im going into grade 12. Well for the past couple of days my boobs are really sore. I dont know why, cause when i touch them they just feel really sore and the tissue around my boob is sore to touch to. It like right around my boob at the base where its hurts and the sides of my breasts. Any one know why this is? i think it could be cause they are growing, but im not sure. Any advice or answers would help me out alot. Does this mean i have cancer or something? im paranoid so tons of things are going through my mind. Thank you so much! Really appreicate it!

My lady friend says:

"It could either be that your period is coming up, or your female and that happens."

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so im 17 and my bf is 21 i thought i would end up having a happy life with hin but 4weeks ago he got arrested and he told me it was because he violated probation. even though he was locked up he called me every day and he asked me would i wait for him and i said i will because he is my future husband. so one day i wanted to see his mug shot so i googled his name and i found out the real reason why he was locked up was because he's a drug dealer.... now im feeling like i dont really know him any more and is this what i really want in my life. he dont know that i know the real reason why he's locked up im just waiting till he gets out to confront him. should i try to help him change or should i move on. i really dont want to leave him. i love him soooo much.

Are you high? Or do you have the mind of someone half your age? Or both?


This guy is a screw up. He will always be one. He's also pathetic for being 21 and dating a 17 year old, so you're clearly dating someone that's not high up on the development food chain. You should break up with him and date boys that are worrying about their SAT scores, not his cell-mates in the shower.

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Ok so I'm a 20yr old male that can't stop drinking soda what can I do. ???what other drink can I replace it with? ?? That taste as good I love orange soda,sprites, and Dr.pepper the most plz help any advice would be good
Thank you

My lady friend says:

"Trader Joes has the same sodas, but it's all natural. So in a way, it's healthier."


Also, you're 20 years old. You're not nine. And this isn't crack. If you want to stop, stop. You're not trying hard enough.

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20F.

So i'm not gonna get into detail or anything but last weekend I hooked up with this guy, whatever. Well now this week I have my period and we're all going to be partying tomorrow so before he tries fingering me or going down my pants how do I warn him that I have my period?? And will he be grossed out and not want to touch me or anything??

Anything will help :)

look g, i got the blood a'flowin' down below, kna' mean? yee. so just keep your limbs to your tims and don't try to go all moses on that shit, it won't work. believe me, i tried dawg.


Just let him play with your boobs as a consolation prize.


My lady friend says:

"Give him something in return."

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"Trust your heart if the seas catch fire, and live by love though the stars walk backwards."

What does this mean?

It means don't take acid.

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I'm meeting up with my bf and I'm gonna give Him handjob through his pants. When he cums it's like an explosion. So he gonna have sticky boxers. I was wondering how it could be made less messy. Also we arnt in a house so we he can't get cleaned up. What shall I do?

You should just skip the mess entirely and give him a blowjob. He'll appreciate it.

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why would a self described happily married woman,who recently had a child, flirt constantly and tease a single guy that she has known for a long time,,then complain to him constantly about her husband,hint at having sex with him,then refuse? Then,when the guy refuses all contact with her,she wants to pull him back in again? What sort of malady and neurosis is this?

Stay away. And listen to some Neurosis.


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b_B8ITIhiBk

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What do I do if a guy is about to kiss me for the first time???

Panic.

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My Boyfriend and I have been together for 6 months but we're talking for about 4 or 5 months.. Before turned 18 (just recently) we disscussed moving out together and getting our own place. I turned 18 a month after him and thats when i started really looking around for things we could afford, and now it seems like everytime i bring it up he always says i dont know or maybe.. Does he just not want to move out? I dont know what to do anymore..

He's not cool with it obviously, so stop bringing it up. Jesus Christ.

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my boyfriend wants to go down on me but i'm reluctant. i just think that area in general is disgusting and i don't see why he would want to. anyone wanna give me some insight? or any advice on what to do beforehand if i cave? thanks.

I'll just be straight up; whether or not you're "ready" does not make a difference, because I don't know you and thus don't care.


Before he comes over, bathe. And shave. And relax.

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how do you know you're only in love with the idea of being in love?

lately, ive been thinking about me and my boyfriend's relationship. it's great, i've never felt this way. i was in a serious relationship for a year before him so i'm familiar with some old feelings. but it's very different, and much deeper. i feel as if maybe i am in love, but then, what if it's just the idea? i don't think i was in love with my last boyfriend of a year, so this is very new to me.

since i've been thinking about it lately, hoping it's not just a honeymoon phase, i caught myself -- it might just be the idea. me and my boyfriend have been literally together for ten months, but involved in each other romantically for about three.

it might be that i am in love, or just the idea.

so how do you know the difference?

I don't know but I'm definitely in love with the idea of you being in love with the idea of being in love. Help! :(

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Okay, yes this is weird. But I want to see what people have to say about this. I do not claim to be psychic or have clairvoyance, but I have had a one too many ironic things happen to me. Of all those things, I have twice thought that a tree would fall and it did! Of course, this assumption was based on my observation but how in the world could my thoughts be so accurate?

First time was a year or so ago. I was walking around my property near a wooded area. I noticed a dead tree that looked rough and thought to myself "I better get away from that tree, there's no telling it could fall over any minute." It was a very large tree. Well, the very next day I was outside (not near the tree)...but that very tree fell over right before my eyes and it scaled a nearby powerline! I could not believe that had happened and I was just thinking about it the day before!

Well, that incident always seemed too ironic for me and I tried to shrug it off as just a coincidence. Until YESTERDAY. I was outside with my son in my neighbor's yard. They have a lot of trees in their front yard. I saw my son walking around the trees and he stopped and called to me "Mom! Look at this big tree! It's dead!" I told him he better come back away from that tree because it could fall over on him. That very evening, about 6 hours later, we drove by the house and the very same tree had fallen over! Roots and all! It was a big tree! And it fell in the same direction my son had been standing when he called to me to look at the tree. Now is that weird or what?

I have had other odd "clairvoyant" moments like that and I also have a really good sense at feeling how other people feel even if they don't say a word. Are some people just in tune with their surroundings like that or would you just say things like this are mere coincidence??

Sounds more like you have eyes and a working brain and can tell when a tree is old as shit. You then proceeded to get lucky two times. Or God was trying to kill your son. But probably the former.

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I'm 19 yrs old and my boyfriend is 23. We've been going out for over a year now and he has some "rules" that are just ridiculous but he seems to always justify them somehow and make it seem like whatever he does is okay. Like, he says certain lougnges he doesn't want me going to. He's made if im out late (AND my curfew se tby my parents is already 3 am so its not like im out past then anyway). He's allowed to go to the Jersey Shore with his friends if he's invited but if I say ok would i be able to go? He says no b/c im a girl and guys are everywhere. He went to Vegas with a few guy friends when we were going out for a few months at the time. Now my friend invited me to vegas in October and my bf flipped when I told him. I said "if you went, why cant i?" He said b.c its crazy and he didnt know it til he got there.. which is a lie and I told him that - its VEGAS! so then he tells me "you're 19, if you go, you're going single...worry about me and you going on vacation..not you and your friends." What should I do?

You should take his advice and go single to Las Vegas. Your boyfriend is a douche bag.

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okayyy. well this is a kind of long story but here goes. so theres this park in my town, a really big one with trails and lots of playgrounds scattered around with scattered fields and parking lots. So my boyfriend and I were driving back there one night and we parked pretty far in and starting making out... well it starts gettin a little heavy sooo we move to the back of his car and put down the seats. A car pulls up next to us but we dont hear or notice. Not until I look up and see three guys looking in the car window! My bf flies outta the car, super pissed. And I recognize one of the guys and notice that they go to a school near by and one of them (we'll call him brett) and i used to have a "thing". Well my bf wants to beat their asses but they just drove there to get high. My boyfriend already didn't like this guy, partly because we had history and partly becaue they got a little heated in a baseball game last season (our schools arre rival schools). But, I calmed him down and we left. well brett texts me the next day saying "hey baby, f*ck your boyfriend and come hang with me instead. ill give it to you like he cant ;)." and im pretty happy with my boyfriend, thank you. Well my boyfriend saw the text and got SUUUPER pissed. more pissed than he was the night before. Now he wants to fight this kid... I don't know what to do!! I've been trying for like three days to ask him not to but they have this summer ball scrimage agasinst brett's team and my bf plans on finding him after to "settle things". It's just a pick up game, so it has nothing to do with school so I don't think he can get into any trouble involving school but still! Even if he could, he'd still do it. And its so stupid! He can't do this and I can't talk him out of it! Please help!!! (I'm a fifteen year old girl and my boyfriend is seventeen)

Let him.

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i HATE alcohol but i love being drunk

is there any way to hide the taste?


chasers like soda and orange juice dont help

besides jello shots is there ANY way to get drunk without the taste of alchol?

Mixed drinks.

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13/f

Some friends from school told me that having sex will make your boobs grow. I have really small boobs and I hate it so I thought I would give it a try. I'm not sure I'm doing it right though. I just dunno but I want my boobs to be pretty big.

I had sex with 7 boys from my grade at school but nothing really changed for me and my boobs were still small. I was talking to my dad's friend on Facebook and he said he thought sex made breasts grow only if the girl had sex with a guy older than her. So, we ended up having sex, obv.

It just seems like this is taking foreverrr and I just want my barely A cups to go to like a DD. I know that's a big leap but it's what I WANT. After having sex w/my dad's friend I think they seem to be a little more full but not much.

I went on and posted some match ads online and there is 4 guys who say they want to do it with me so my boobs will grow. My first thinking is that if I do it with them all at once then my boobs will grow faster all at once. They're all up for it but I want to know if it will still work that way. I don't want to like have sex with them all together and then my boobs don't grow at all. Does anyone know if you have sex with more than 1 guy at a time if your boobs will still grow? They're all a lot older than me so that shouldn't be a prob.

((And before you start answering don't worry about me getting pregnant. I know the guy has to cum in you for this to work but I haven't started my period yet so I can't get pregnant anyways.))

Excellent question. Just stick a lid on the grammar and run with it from there, and you can produce something like this;


http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=566004

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