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my boyfriends rules..
I'm 19 yrs old and my boyfriend is 23. We've been going out for over a year now and he has some "rules" that are just ridiculous but he seems to always justify them somehow and make it seem like whatever he does is okay. Like, he says certain lougnges he doesn't want me going to. He's made if im out late (AND my curfew se tby my parents is already 3 am so its not like im out past then anyway). He's allowed to go to the Jersey Shore with his friends if he's invited but if I say ok would i be able to go? He says no b/c im a girl and guys are everywhere. He went to Vegas with a few guy friends when we were going out for a few months at the time. Now my friend invited me to vegas in October and my bf flipped when I told him. I said "if you went, why cant i?" He said b.c its crazy and he didnt know it til he got there.. which is a lie and I told him that - its VEGAS! so then he tells me "you're 19, if you go, you're going single...worry about me and you going on vacation..not you and your friends." What should I do?
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Seconding, thirding the break up advice.
He's an insecure little douche. He's controlling you in order that he feels less threatened because he knows he's a douche and he knows you'll eventually get sick of his routine like everyone else has.
Tell him why you're leaving him. "I'm not being controlled, and if you think you have a right to treat a girlfriend this way guess what! I'm no longer your girlfriend"
And stick to it. If you get back with him, he will pretend for a few weeks/months until you're attached again and it'll be right back where you started. Guys like this don't learn until several girls have left them over it. One is never enough, two rarely does the trick either, so leave and hopefully it'll be a first step towards him realizing what he's doing and stopping it for the next girl.
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Break up with him. He's setting double standards and is being a complete asshole. You can go to Vegas if you want, and you can go the shore if you want. Unless he is your parent, he has no business to tell you what you can & cannot do.
Kick him to the curb.
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You should take his advice and go single to Las Vegas. Your boyfriend is a douche bag.
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he sounds more like a parent then a boyfriend dont you wanna do what you want there are limits on telling your boyfrriend or girlfriend what to do like i dont think its right you go out to hang with guys or girls could you not thats ok but telling you you can go to vegas stay out late go here or there without letting him know is outragious you need to talk to him that him telling you what to do like that is pushing you away hes more of a control freak or a parent then a boyfriend and you can do what you want when you want within reason just like he does honey your no different if he does what he wants so can you and if he doesnt like then tell him to piss off! have fun your young and worrying on what you need to do to get your way is NOT hard its simple break up with him if talking to him about it doesnt work! good luck be strong i hope everything works out the way you want it to.
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