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How can I protect my gal friend (not gf haha) from d bags??
Soooo... one of my really good friends is a girl, she's a year younger. (I'm seventeen, she's sixteen). Well since she's younger, and a really good friend, I'm kinda protective of her. She's pretty much like my little sis. Yeah, she's hot but she's also like 5'4/100 lbs... Sooo mix her tiny body with juuust a pinch of alcohol and she's every guy's dream. A hot drunk girl. It really doesn't take much to get her wasted. See, I don't even approve of decent guys for her (what brother does??) but when we got out to parties and stuff and she's wasted and all these d-bags are tryin to get on her, I have to protect her. Which I don't mind too much, but I'm worried about her. That if I'm not there, some guys gonna take advantage of her. I've tried to tell her about this... tell her I'm concerned about her but she WANTS to hook up with guys... And nothing I say can get her to take it easy on the booze and be a little smarter with the boys. She's gonna get her self in trouble! And I just don't knwo what to do... She's my bestfriend but I don't OWN her ya know?? If she wants to get her drink on and hook up, I'm still gonna love her but I'm worried...
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sorry, its her life. i actually have a little sis so I know what its like. The only way she'll realise if she wakes up one morning next to one of these d bags and realises how serious she has to watch her alco intake. Your right you can't protect her for all of her life. Let her do it , plenty of young women like her do the same and have no one to watch out for them. its great your helping her and being a good 'bro' but yknow ' you live and learn'. She has to learn for herself. Kepp interfearing and she'll cut you out completely and she'll need you to sort out any future d bags that break her heart. I know she could get an STI or anything, but thats just life, she's gotta do it sometime let her learn and then trust me if it all comes crumbling down. be there for suppourt, but she has her own life and she has to learn alone. GOOD LUCK X
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You've answered your own question.
If she wants to get drunk and hook up with people then there isn't alot you can do about it. Let her know you think it's a bad idea but don't try and bully her into changing her mind or she'll mistake your overprotective behaviour as possessive and controlling.
I'm sure eventually she'll get this out of her system but for now, you'll just have to be there to pick up the pieces if it goes wrong.
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Aww first of all that's really awesome that you look after her!!!
Good on you, your an awesome friend!
The fact is I think she might just need to get this out of her system. She'll realise it's not as great as she thought it was anyway.
All you can really do is keep being an awesome friend and support and comfort her when she makes mistakes. I now that sucks, but its really all you can do without pushing her away
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Hook up with her before anyone else gets the chance.
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every person needs to make their own mistakes and learn their own lessons, and the only thing you can do is support her decisions and be her shoulder to cry on if she gets hurt.
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