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boyfriend wants to fight other guy!
okayyy. well this is a kind of long story but here goes. so theres this park in my town, a really big one with trails and lots of playgrounds scattered around with scattered fields and parking lots. So my boyfriend and I were driving back there one night and we parked pretty far in and starting making out... well it starts gettin a little heavy sooo we move to the back of his car and put down the seats. A car pulls up next to us but we dont hear or notice. Not until I look up and see three guys looking in the car window! My bf flies outta the car, super pissed. And I recognize one of the guys and notice that they go to a school near by and one of them (we'll call him brett) and i used to have a "thing". Well my bf wants to beat their asses but they just drove there to get high. My boyfriend already didn't like this guy, partly because we had history and partly becaue they got a little heated in a baseball game last season (our schools arre rival schools). But, I calmed him down and we left. well brett texts me the next day saying "hey baby, f*ck your boyfriend and come hang with me instead. ill give it to you like he cant ;)." and im pretty happy with my boyfriend, thank you. Well my boyfriend saw the text and got SUUUPER pissed. more pissed than he was the night before. Now he wants to fight this kid... I don't know what to do!! I've been trying for like three days to ask him not to but they have this summer ball scrimage agasinst brett's team and my bf plans on finding him after to "settle things". It's just a pick up game, so it has nothing to do with school so I don't think he can get into any trouble involving school but still! Even if he could, he'd still do it. And its so stupid! He can't do this and I can't talk him out of it! Please help!!! (I'm a fifteen year old girl and my boyfriend is seventeen)
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Well, I understand why your boyfriend would be angry at this other guy, and he's already had a resentment on him for a while.
I know you've probably already done your best just trying to convince your boyfriend that fighting is not the answer, but keep trying. Convince him not to stoop down to the other guy's level.
I'm not saying this is going to be an easy task. Cuz in your boyfriend's mind, he's probably just thinking: This guy defied me in sports and disrespected my girlfriend. Damn! I'm furious...
So I kinda feel bad for your boyfriend, cuz everytime he thinks about the sport he loves, it'll remind him of "Brett"
Everytime he thinks of you, it'll remind him of "Brett".
And after all, sports and his girlfriend are the 2 main things a guy usually thinks about.
So if, in any case you couldn't manage to convince your boyfriend to not beat "Brett" up,
(Man...I'm already strongly, disliking the name "Brett". Just the sound of it makes me think of what a jerk this guy is...even if the name is made up)
...Don't give him the silent-treatment. Or don't get upset at him, don't avoid him, or refuse to talk to him. Just let him know that you were worried about him and that you're glad he's ok. And just forget about the whole situation. Don't talk about it unless he's comfortable to bring it up. He wouldn't want to be reminded of "Brett" anymore.
I Hope my insight of things isn't too crazy
and that I've helped you in some way :)
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Let him.
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Boys can be stubborn and once they get something into their head they usually see it through. Just tell your boyfriend that you really dont want him to do it, it will cause alot more problems and he can get into alot of trouble for it. Imagine if Brett called the police or something.
Just tell your boyfriend to leave it, tell him that you love him and in no way would you go back to Brett. If he loved you and you told him not to do it then he shouldnt do it, for your sake aswell as his own.
I hope this helps hun x
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