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Hi! I'm Miss. M, and I am here to give help to anyone that may need advice. To the highest extent of my capabalities, I'll try my best to find a solution to your problems.In addition, I just want to thank the people that have rated me. Thanks for the support. :) And Thanks For The Feedback :)
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I got a keyboard for my graduation present from my aunt and uncle. They knew I would love this gift and I do. I am still not very good and I have taken time away from the keyboard.. I am now starting up again. (I know it takes practice)
However, I also eventually want to learn guitar or bass. If I ask for say a guitar for Christmas or my birthday would this be a slap in the face to my aunt and uncle?
No, I don't think so, but you should take in consideration how expensive intruments can be. If your aunt and uncle are willing to buy you another instrument, then good for you :) but if they can't, you just have to understand them.
Try making it easier for them to purchase you an instrument. Research the intrument that your interested in and search for reasonable prices and good tone quality. Check out music stores online and tell your aunt and uncle where they can find the instrument your looking for, without having to spend a fortune.
I Hope my advice helps you :)
what does it mean if a boy who is a friend or an ex bf finds exuses to be around u like to come over and hang out? and if he always stares at your breast and likes to pick u up all the time and play with you hands.
He really likes you. It's up to you to decide if you really want to have more than a friendship with him.
20F.
So before things start getting all hot and heavy with a guy, I'd thought I'd be nice and warn them that I'm a virgin. Well ..no guy ever believes me! They're all like ..yeah right your lying! I don't believe that one bit.
It's not like I come off as a slut, I carry myself well but I think it's because how I look. I'm a pretty girl, I know guys are interested in me which probably doesn't do me well. I don't know how to feel about this, should I be pissed that no guy believes I'm a virgin? I don't know what to do about the situation I guess.
Don't let it bring you down. :) I mean, for women, guys most of the time don't know when to say the right thing.
As bad as it may sound, sadly...it's not unusual for the guy to be shocked or in disbelief. Nowadays, young groups are very involved in sexual activity and the majority of females are losing their Virginity by at least the age of 15 or maybe even sooner.
So yes, it should be considered a possibility for a man to blurt out something like that.
But don't be ashamed of your Virginity though...
Girl, you come down like an angel and then tell these guys, "I'm a Virgin," and that's something most women of your age can't do...without lying about it!
So you got the guy feeling like he won the lottery. Pretty and a Virgin? I won a million dollars? See how it's pretty heavy. Ofcourse, it's going to take the guy sometime to process. And while he's processing, he'll blurt out something like what you had stated. They'll be like "Hell, no! This ins't real!" Cuz what are the chances of that happening to them right...probably once in their life time. And guess what...You are one of those chances.
So next time you tell someone that you're a Virgin and they don't believe you, don't take it the wrong way. Actually, feel proud about it and tell him(in a playful, joking tone) "I know that it's hard for you to believe that I'm a walking miracle :P but if your not gonna take me seriously, then I'm just gonna give my goods to someone who deserves them." :P
Let's see what they have to say about that :)
ok so, i met these guys at the local pool with my friends. some of my friends go there all the time so they knew each other, there are 3 guys and one came up to me and said "you're too quiet" but im usually really fun to be around, i just ran out of things to talk about even though i dont know how thats possible lol. we talked about really random weird funny stuff like tan lines and strippers, teenage stuff haha but i don't know what to talk to him about?
Just be yourself. Talk about things you normally talk about. Ask him about some of his interests, hobbies that he may like. If you all get together for like a movie or something, ask him what movies he has seen, or which ones he really liked. Talk about music. Anything that may be general and start connecting from there, pointing out similar interests or different interests too.
Hope I Helped :)
17/f
I have a boyfriend. Let's get that out of the way.
I've been working with my coworker for about 2 months now. His last day is on Sunday and the last day I worked with him was a couple of days ago. Apparently we used to work together all the time, but then the main office wanted to split us up because we're "always together" or we're "always talking". He was caring when I was sick, he would always talk to me, and cheer me up. He even said he was going to make me food the next time I work with him, but in the end, he didn't. After my week of being sick, whenever we work together, we're always on the other sides of the stores, we don't talk. We just stand there. It's nothing like before. But whenever we talk, he would flirt. We would give each other hugs now and then but not all the time. I think he was just naturally nice because when he doesn't talk to me, he talks ALOT to other coworkers. He's the only guy at my work place (girl clothing store). He recently bought a cake for this other coworker for her birthday. Last time, he said he dated Caucasian girls but he wants to try Asian. Later on, he started appearing in my dreams. Like we're hugging and stuff (my boyfriend knows). It was really weird to me, so I told my boyfriend and him about it. Then my coworker said, "you had a dream about us kissing? o_o you seem to have alot of dreams about us. :P" Two nights ago he told me he liked my hugs, and that I fit right on his chest. Then that I was a cutie. Today, he doesn't talk to me as much, he seems to avoid whenever I talk to him. He deleted his comment that he sent me. I guess he doesn't wanna deal with anything towards me since I have a boyfriend and because he's moving to another city??
What is going on? Does he like me? And what's going on with his random actions?
Well, if he likes you or not, you shouldn't stress on thought about it, because you already have someone else that loves you.
Think about your boyfriend, don't think about him. It's not worth your time. You've already established your love-life elsewhere.
And yes, he might have gotten his feelings a little confused towards you.
And as for his sudden, change-of-ways, somebody might have casually made him realize that his behaviour with you was a little out of place. That's why he probably backed-off.
Then there's the fact that your taken already and it possibly created an uncomfortable situation for him.
This is just what I believe
I hope I helped you in some way :)
okayyy. well this is a kind of long story but here goes. so theres this park in my town, a really big one with trails and lots of playgrounds scattered around with scattered fields and parking lots. So my boyfriend and I were driving back there one night and we parked pretty far in and starting making out... well it starts gettin a little heavy sooo we move to the back of his car and put down the seats. A car pulls up next to us but we dont hear or notice. Not until I look up and see three guys looking in the car window! My bf flies outta the car, super pissed. And I recognize one of the guys and notice that they go to a school near by and one of them (we'll call him brett) and i used to have a "thing". Well my bf wants to beat their asses but they just drove there to get high. My boyfriend already didn't like this guy, partly because we had history and partly becaue they got a little heated in a baseball game last season (our schools arre rival schools). But, I calmed him down and we left. well brett texts me the next day saying "hey baby, f*ck your boyfriend and come hang with me instead. ill give it to you like he cant ;)." and im pretty happy with my boyfriend, thank you. Well my boyfriend saw the text and got SUUUPER pissed. more pissed than he was the night before. Now he wants to fight this kid... I don't know what to do!! I've been trying for like three days to ask him not to but they have this summer ball scrimage agasinst brett's team and my bf plans on finding him after to "settle things". It's just a pick up game, so it has nothing to do with school so I don't think he can get into any trouble involving school but still! Even if he could, he'd still do it. And its so stupid! He can't do this and I can't talk him out of it! Please help!!! (I'm a fifteen year old girl and my boyfriend is seventeen)
Well, I understand why your boyfriend would be angry at this other guy, and he's already had a resentment on him for a while.
I know you've probably already done your best just trying to convince your boyfriend that fighting is not the answer, but keep trying. Convince him not to stoop down to the other guy's level.
I'm not saying this is going to be an easy task. Cuz in your boyfriend's mind, he's probably just thinking: This guy defied me in sports and disrespected my girlfriend. Damn! I'm furious...
So I kinda feel bad for your boyfriend, cuz everytime he thinks about the sport he loves, it'll remind him of "Brett"
Everytime he thinks of you, it'll remind him of "Brett".
And after all, sports and his girlfriend are the 2 main things a guy usually thinks about.
So if, in any case you couldn't manage to convince your boyfriend to not beat "Brett" up,
(Man...I'm already strongly, disliking the name "Brett". Just the sound of it makes me think of what a jerk this guy is...even if the name is made up)
...Don't give him the silent-treatment. Or don't get upset at him, don't avoid him, or refuse to talk to him. Just let him know that you were worried about him and that you're glad he's ok. And just forget about the whole situation. Don't talk about it unless he's comfortable to bring it up. He wouldn't want to be reminded of "Brett" anymore.
I Hope my insight of things isn't too crazy
and that I've helped you in some way :)
Female. 15. 10th grade.
This is a story back from my years in the Jr. High (7th grade to 9th grade). People think my band director and I had a little bit of a strange relationship. I was close to him, everyone has their favorite teacher. He was mine. He was a sweetheart, he cared about his students but he was stern when he needed to be, he wasn't a pushover. I am now in the Sr. High band which is a lot more difficult due to competitions and all of the practices but one thing my Sr. High band director brings up a lot is how we weren't trained right in Jr. High, which makes me think of my Jr. High band director. I didn't really think much of the way we acted in Jr. High but looking back on it, our relationship was kinda strange. I guess I'll bullet some of the things that stood out to me.
-In seventh grade I didn't really care what I looked like, so I wore my hair up a lot. When I started wearing it down and making it look pretty like curling it, my teacher noticed and said I looked different, that it was nice.
-If I was late for a class, the teacher would tell me to hurry but they would always ask me to do things for them, I would wind up being late but they would never write me a pass because they warned me to hurry. So, I would walk to the band room and my band director would write them for me.
-If I wanted to skip a class like gym or something, he would excuse me from the class by telling the teacher I needed to practice my instrument, we had a concert coming up or something.
-One day at sectionals, it was me, my close friend and my band director. He sat next to me on the right and my friend sat next to me on the left, two seats over, so it was him-me-empty seat-her. I kept trying this part that I couldn't get down and once I finally got it, I was really excited so I was like "yea yea! woo!" and accidentally put my hand on his thigh, in excitement. I had no intention of making that like a sexual move, it just.. happened. He didn't look shocked nor move my hand, I moved it when I actually realized it was there.
-His office is right in the music suite hallway so he always keeps his door shut to keep the noise of the practicing instruments or chattering kids out. I would go into his office to talk with the door shut and the other kids would look in on us.
-He would know when something was wrong with me, because of the way I acted, I'm usually talkative and happy so he knows when something's up with me and he'd always ask.
-He always called me my full first and last name and I would always tell him he can just call me by my first name but he never did. So, one day I said that I am going to start calling him by his first name and I did sometimes and he didn't seem to mind, when we were with other kids, though, he would tell me that his name was Mr. ___
-Playing the instrument I do put me in the first row for concert band and I would talk A LOT because I sat next to one of my best friends and he would always scold us for talking but smile after. Then at the end of my last Jr. High year he said "sure is gonna be quiet without you.. I'll miss it."
-He had since had his first child when I left for the Sr. High and we had always joked that he was going to have a girl and name her after me and she's going to play the same instrument I do and he joked back he would put her up for adoption if she was ever as talkative as me and I said oh pfft, you love it & he would take a second and say "yea, I guess I do. Makes band more fun."
-He would be walking out of the band suite and I would be walking in, say hello to him and we'd stop in the hallway and talk for a few minutes.
-He let me sit in on his music classes (if you teach band or orchestra you also teach music class) and sit in on his study halls and play on his computer.
-My mom said a few times "if you had this relationship with any other teacher, I would be worried about this."
So? Be completely honest, just don't scold me or yell at me if you think we crossed the line. Do you think we passed the student teacher boundaries? Why do you think that we did or didn't? Maybe he just favored me.. do you think he kinda liked me? Thanks!
In a sense you did cross the boundaries, but it wasn't into somekind of romantic relationship. It was more like a father-daughter type of thing. And the whole thing about the hand on the leg was just an accident. He probably didn't call it to your attention because he didn't want to make you feel uncomfortable, or just make the whole situation more uncomfortable than what it already was.
I do believe that a director or teacher can play favorites, simply because they like the student. Sort of like when someone has friends and then they have best-friends. Your attention tends to be more focused on your best friends and you feel more comfortable with them than your regular friends.
Ofcourse, playing favorites may not be considered a good thing, on behalf of the instructor, because there's an unfair distrubution of attention or preference on the students.
And ofcourse, the teacher won't admit it. Sort of like a person won't admit to his/her regular friend that they prefer to hangout with their best-friend. Yeah cuz it would be kinda mean. :)
I hope you find my answer relative to your questions. :)
14 f
I will try to make this quick, because I don't want to take to much of your guy's time. Now I've been miserable for a while now, because of what people are saying about my boyfriend. I've been dating my boyfriend sense July, 5, 2010
Since you two already have a history together, and you probably know your boyfriend better than anyone else, try analyzing this issue within yourself. Think about it and consider the people you're getting this from. Are they people you know? Do you consider them trustworthy? Listen to what your boyfriend has to tell you. It is up to you to believe if he's being honest or not.
Don't judge him by what other people say about him. Judge him by what you know.
Hope my advice helps you :)
I've known this girl (Kylie) since I was a kid. She's nice and we're pretty close and I would have said we were best friends until a few days ago. The other day we were talking to our other group of friends about being best friends and asking who was their best friend in the group. I know, odd discussion probably. Anyways, Kylie says she use to be bestfriends with this other girl from another school but isn't any more because she went around her school bragging to people that she fingered Kylie when they had sleepovers. Kylie is like, "That's what best friends do though! OMG!" and went on about how the other girl was being cold and cruel and how it totally made her not want to be friends with the girl anymore.
Nobody in the group seemed to be freaked out about it. I know two girls in the group made out before but I never thought about this sort of thing happening because we're ALL straight. Is this normal? For best friends to finger each other? I've never done this...am I weird, missing something, or...? :\
Well maybe they were friends with priveleges or something because your friend, Kylie, was wrong when she generalized that all best friends finger themselves.
I guess that was just a secret between them and when it was let out, Kylie's defense was to say that it was perfectly normal.
So I think it's just a matter of how much involved you want to be with your friends because consequences like these are a possibility.
And if the other girls didn't freak about it, it's becuase they either already knew, they tried to seem cool with it to avoid any judgement, or they have little dirty secrets under the rug as well. :)
So it's o.k. to freak out :) and you're not weird. You just weren't aware that this girl you were considering to be your best friend, had been fingered by her ex-bestfriend?...
Nothing's wrong with you. Take Care :)
Well I look at porn almost every night. I think its wrong but I cannot stop, I tried to and my longest was a week without it. I think its killing my soul and making me a creep. I'm M/15 no gF. I've even tried blocking everything. I have been looking for a gF too. My friends say i'm desperate. I don't think I am because theres this girl I like & shes like the only one that I don't think of sexually & i think thats kind of good, but i think this addiction gives social problems too. And i feel my mind getting dirtier everday. I think I'll eventually grow out of it but what can I do to stop looking at it??? (And this addiction runs in my family but I don't like it) I have internet access on my PS3. Most of my friends have long stopped looking at it. I regret getting into it, free internet, snooping at friend's houses, my friend got introuble for bringing porn cards to school, we used to trade until people got introuble. & all their funny stories of getting cought & almost getting cought.
As weird as it may sound, I think your addiction may be quite normal cuz you're not the only guy that likes to look at porn. Remeber, you're in your puberty years. Your hormones are going crazy at that age. And you, yourself said that having a girlfriend helped you forget about porn. Maybe you just need a distraction of some sort cuz you took looking at porn like a personal hobby.
I believe that the only thing that would cause alarm, is if you had a girlfriend, but you preferred to look at porn than be with her. :)
take care :) and don't be so harsh on yourself
So at school there is this girl that I really like. There are no other girls like her. Toward the end of the year, I talked to her more but did not get to ask her out to somewhere. It is summer and I cannot stop thinking about her and I cannot wait until I see her. So for one month I am at a class prep program. This girl that I do not know starts talking to me and being nice, I kind of like her but she's not really my type. It is pretty obvious that she likes me. I am scared that If I really start liking her then I might forget about the girl at my school. I like both but the girl at my school I REALLY like. What should I do? As you can see my name TheLonelySoul, I don't get any attention from girls so I am not used to a girl coming to me and stuff. I am usually the one sitting alone listening to music and not talking. I am, M/15
I just have to say, be true to yourself.
If you start gaining stronger feelings for the girl at the prep program, don't give them up. Give yourself a chance with her and give her a chance to get to know you a little better.
If it's not like that because you still have stronger feelings for the other girl at school, then wait patiently until you see her in school again to tell her how you feel. And then I guess the rest is up to you. :)
Good Luck! :)
what are some songs about getting hurt again.
I finally started to open up to my friend after a bad break up..8 months later. this new guy made me feel good again..now's he ignoring me and i can't believe i even opened up to someone. i hate talking about feelings..so i need a song
"You Lost Me" by Christina Aguilera,
would probably interpret your current feelings perfectly.
There is also:
1. Try Sleeping with a Broken Heart by Alicia Keys
2. Every Little Bit Hurts by Alicia Keys
3. Not Today by Mary J. Blige
4. My Immortal by Evanescence (and try checking out other Evanescence songs)
I Wish You the Best and...
I Hope This Helps :)
i know this is kinda long but if you help me out thank you soo much.
18/f
so me and my ex broke up about 2 months ago (we dated 3 months). he just blew up at me and made me feel like shit so i said i don't need this and ended things with him. a few weeks later he messeged me telling me that he can't stop thinking about me and cried over me and really wants to get back with me and blahblah. i won't get back with him for a few reasons: 1. i can't forget the reason why we broke up and how miserable he made me feel. 2. he doesn't drive and he doesn't have a job so he never can afford to take me anywhere, i don't even think we've been on an actually date. and i have to drive EVERYWHERE 3. he's a year younger than me (i know this is a bad reason but i just feel that the maturity level is different) 4. i have a bad past about giving second chances to guys. i told him that i wouldn't get back with him because i rushed into a relationship with him too soon that i wasn't ready for. however, we've still been talking and hooking up, he's been alot better since we broke up, but i have a feeling he's the kind of guy that wants what he can't have. i like hooking up with him, like he's really cute and everything but i can't picture myself with him.
now i just met this guy at my friends party. he is everything i want in a relationship. he has a job, a license, a car, an amazing personality, athletic, he knows how to have a good time and i just think everything about him is attractive. i really want to date him but what do i tell my ex? i can always just stop talking to my ex but i like him as a friend and i wanna stay good friends so i don't wanna go down that path. soo any advice about this whole situation? thanks soo much
If you can't imagine yourself being with your ex in the future, then don't bother involving yourself in a romantic relationship with him anymore. Go ahead and give yourself a chance with the other guy, if he seems to be what you're looking for.
The only thing you have to tell your ex is that you want him in your life, but as a friend and nothing more.
You don't have to tell him that you met another guy to see what he would think, because that's like asking your ex for permission to move on, and you don't have to do that. Your life is yours and no one owns you.
If your ex does not want to have you as a friend then it's his loss, because you're ready to move on.
Hope My Advice Helps :)
I need upbeat songs to dance to that are appropriate for children! No LADY GAGA PLEASE!
How about Pon de Replay by Rihanna? :)
I have this problem where I live, there is no good guys here they are all rude, and mean and so on. Maybe its their maturity or something but I don't want anything to do with it. First off I know Im young and no I don't use the word love or throw it around nor am I joking, to me it's really serious. I have really good friends on the internet and we have talked for a while and we go on cam and laugh and what I find is I like guys who don't live here but far away. I really like this guy who lives in Ontario but I live in British Columbia.. Is it worth even talking to them, having a long distance relationship even ? Help, please.
-Katelynn xx 15 f
Well talking to them is fine. It's doing you and them no harm, but I think it's really up to you if you want to have a long distance relationship. Try asking yourself if you're okay with this and if the other person were to be okay with that arrangement too. If you decide you're okay with it, then I suggest you go for it. If not, then just keep any of your guy contacts as friends only.
Hope I Helped :)
Ok. So i just turned 13 this june and i am overweight but i am just a 36A . and i really want BOOBS!Bacause i am entering 8th grade and next year entering High school ! but i am wondering when i loose wieight will i grow boobs ? and also i have already had my period. and i am just about 5'5 HELP ! any advice ? (:
LOL You're barely going into puberity, just give it time. :) And I would really like to help you with this but there's no such thing as a magical potion to get your boobies bigger. :) Only surgery, but don't do that! You're just developing and breast implants or any surgery of that sort have always been risky.
One more thing, there's nothing wrong with having a small bust, and I just have to say this...
When I read your title, it reminded me of this movie I had seen with Drew Barrymore starring in it. I believe it was called "Riding In Cars With Boys." You should definately check that out. :) I'm pretty sure you'll like it.
Oh and remember: Your boobies are like beautiful little flowers, you must be patient for them to grow. You know, maybe a little bit of sunshine, love, and water will do. J.k. :P
Take Care and Much Love :)
He's in jail for 6-8 years!! Im waiting for him, well giving it a shot! BUT I have no Idea what i'm gonna talk to him about (other than how I've been and whats going on out here). Any Ideas??
Well, since you know him best, bring up the things he likes to talk about. You know, because when you're in jail you feel isolated and alone, and he's spending 6-8 years of his life in a CAGE like an animal. I don't know if you're allowed to send pictures along with the letters cuz you know the security system they have in those places is pretty high, but pictures would really help. He would be more aware of what's going on outside of his box. Just let him know of things so he won't be completely left out.
Hope I Helped :)
How can I act like a musician at school? I play guitar and piano but how can I show people? I'm not in band so I cant bring my guitar to school.
Acting out like a musician? I think this is the first time I hear this from someone. :) I suggest you don't put up an act of any sort, because the only way I imagine this is someone that might end up being irritating or annoying to other people. The reason for this, is that they'll see you like someone that is trying too hard to show off their musical talent or musicianship.
If you play guitar and piano just wait for it, they will know. Try getting involved with other people that play musical intruments. You know, like joining a garage band and starting from there, then moving up. Maybe offer yourself to play at little family dinner parties, or make videos and post them on the web.
I Hope My Advice Helps You :)
Hi, for starters I am a female of age 17. Over the past few months I think I have gone into depression. I am very unhappy with my life and I try to stay positive. I feel miserable, I was once such a strong girl. I am constantly brought down by another female, and I'm not the type of person to get involved in drama. I despise it, and the only reason why she brings me down is because she likes my ex boyfriend. Which kind of she was one of the reasons why I had to let go, because I can't deal with her flirting with him, etc. I have no one to talk to about feeling down because I don't want it to be just another guy story. I want to let go of all this baggage, but I can't because I am constantly talked about. My question here is what makes you happy? I need things to distract myself and not feel alone. I want genuine and positive people around me, a sense of support.
First of all, don't listen to what anyone has to say about you. Push all that negative talk aside, and as for the flirty girl, let her flirt all she wants. After all, that's all she can do. Don't take her as a threat. She can only hurt you as much as you let her.
To bring your mood up, I suggest hanging out with your friends, just have fun and act out crazy (in a healthy way :P ) And consider talking about your current problems to someone you consider close to you. This can really help you by letting out any harsh feelings you're building up inside. You'll feel their support and they might give you some helpful advice as well.
Take Care and I Hope My Advice Helps :)
i hate to say it but im horribly lovesick. i attract the wrong people.
the last relationship lasted a few months and ended in june, he was the severe mamas boy. the one before that was two years long and ended on my birthday in february, hes the sxe rocker but we fought to much. i went on a date a few days ago with a friend and he wont talk to me because i wouldnt go past kissing, drug addict. and my 'bestfriend' asked me out but hes bi and i couldnt picture us as more than friends but i broke his heart n never knew till he says he doesnt even wana stay friends, drug addict. then my crush asked me over but i couldnt make it either time, i told him i liked him n we dont talk anymore, college n an mma fighter.
-i want to forget guys and have fun with my girls but i dont have many girls, i fell for my guy friends and we got distant. to be honest im asked if im back in depression this hurts that much, i need someone to hold me and love me. day by day is a struggle with me, honestly im skinny and pretty and optimistic and called a flirt but latley i give up on appearance and going out. i deal with chronic pain and a brain tumor. i just want love to help forget, before i get into drinking and smoking again. how can i find and keep the right guy, im loosing my friends. any advice on this is appreciated! 16 female
Just don't look for love at the moment. Let love come to you cuz looking for a new love to forget your past relationships and to fix problems in your life that's...no, no, no. Just have fun with your girls. It doesn't matter how many you have, whether it's 1, 2, 3, or 4, they are friends...you'll find something fun to do and sometimes a smaller group is better so don't dismiss it. Let your love searching rest for the moment, but if you insist in looking for someone, look elsewhere not within your current group of guy friends. Try something new. :)
Good Luck and I Hope My Advice Helps You :)