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Nobody ever believes i'm a virgin..
20F.
So before things start getting all hot and heavy with a guy, I'd thought I'd be nice and warn them that I'm a virgin. Well ..no guy ever believes me! They're all like ..yeah right your lying! I don't believe that one bit.
It's not like I come off as a slut, I carry myself well but I think it's because how I look. I'm a pretty girl, I know guys are interested in me which probably doesn't do me well. I don't know how to feel about this, should I be pissed that no guy believes I'm a virgin? I don't know what to do about the situation I guess.
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That's absurd!...but you know why they don't believe you?...it's because ANY unattractive girl can get laid and I find, ESPECIALLY the unattractive ones, tend to be a bit easy. Guys are probably use to women 'using' their body because I think some girls who aren't very pretty get their confidence boosted by sleeping around or hopping into bed with a guy and thinking "Oh look this guy wants to sleep with me, I must be attractive/desirable...etc"...so if guys get use to unattractive girls sleeping with them, it's much more shocking for someone who's pretty to still be a virgin...but who cares...they're ignorant. You can CHOOSE to be more picky and selective because you're attractive, not like some desperate types who need to use their bodies to keep guys around.
Seriously if that was me, and they didn't believe me, I'd say "Okay see ya, I guess you will never find out now if I'm a still a virgin, because I only date people who believe my word"..Reject them first if they're going to be idiots. Lose your virginity to someone classy!
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Don't let it bring you down. :) I mean, for women, guys most of the time don't know when to say the right thing.
As bad as it may sound, sadly...it's not unusual for the guy to be shocked or in disbelief. Nowadays, young groups are very involved in sexual activity and the majority of females are losing their Virginity by at least the age of 15 or maybe even sooner.
So yes, it should be considered a possibility for a man to blurt out something like that.
But don't be ashamed of your Virginity though...
Girl, you come down like an angel and then tell these guys, "I'm a Virgin," and that's something most women of your age can't do...without lying about it!
So you got the guy feeling like he won the lottery. Pretty and a Virgin? I won a million dollars? See how it's pretty heavy. Ofcourse, it's going to take the guy sometime to process. And while he's processing, he'll blurt out something like what you had stated. They'll be like "Hell, no! This ins't real!" Cuz what are the chances of that happening to them right...probably once in their life time. And guess what...You are one of those chances.
So next time you tell someone that you're a Virgin and they don't believe you, don't take it the wrong way. Actually, feel proud about it and tell him(in a playful, joking tone) "I know that it's hard for you to believe that I'm a walking miracle :P but if your not gonna take me seriously, then I'm just gonna give my goods to someone who deserves them." :P
Let's see what they have to say about that :)
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you should take that as a compliment. that means you're too pretty to be a virgin. and they'll be like "what? no guy will be able to keep their hands off you?!"
but dont succumb to pressure. if staying a virgin is your decision, then stick to it and dont bring yourself to situation which may end up with you losing your virginity, for a lack of better words.
sometimes, it's not that you look, talk, or act slutty. even mature or experienced demeanor makes people think that you're no longer a virgin. or maybe you're really outgoing and not uptight around guys that makes them think that, yeah, you've had guy experience.
so next time you get caught in the 'i dont believe you're a virgin' situation, kindly push him away and tell him gently again, 'yes, i AM.'
if he's a decent guy, he will believe you.
good luck!
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people don't believe me either, its kinda annoying but whatever cause you know you are and thats all that matters right? if they don't believe you thats their problem.
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Guess what? People are gonna think what people are gonna think and there's nothing you can do about it. Why should you care? You know what's true, so screw them for trusting you so much that they can't even believe something that's actually NONE OF THEIR BUSINESS IN THE FIRST PLACE!? Ignore,ignore, and ignore their ignorance. You just keep smirking cos you know the truth: that they're ignorant and you're not! What do you do?
BLOW IT OFF; THEY'RE NOT WORTH IT!
And good for you for being a 20 yr old virgin; nothing whatsoever wrong with that!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
xxx Good luck, girlie,
Rhona
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You have to admit that a 20 year old virgin is rare these days. That is not to say there is anything wrong with your choice to remaining a virgin until you meet the right guy or until you marry. As for anyone who does not believe you it really depends on how they say it as to how you might want to respond; more on this in a moment.
To the guys who tell you are lying; I think you know where there interest lies and it is not with your intellect or any of your other abilities. Have them take you home immediately, or if they are at your home ask them to leave. These gentlemen, I use that word very loosely, are not interested in anything more than a quick bedroom romance. Once they have conquered they are ready to move on.
As for those gentleman who just find it hard to believe a 20 year old is still a virgin; you have several choices as to how to handle that situation. If the guy is respectful, you could be sincere and explain your reasons to him whatever they may be. If suspect that his questioning of you is insincere you can just say it is a choice you have made and leave it at that.
The reason for you remaining a virgin is really no one’s business then your own; unless of course it is one made out of fear. The fear of getting pregnant is not the fear I am thinking of. I’m thinking of irrational type fears that prevent you from having sex. You say you are pretty; you did not say you have a nice shape or great body. Could you fear having a guy see you naked? This would be an example of an unnatural fear. If you have an unnatural fear then I would suggest seeing a therapist to work through whatever this fear may be. Otherwise enjoy life and when you are ready, whenever your plan calls for you to have sex; follow your plan.
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I can't tell you why, but I can tell you that if they don't believe you, put any hot and heavy activities are on hold. Some guy who does not believe you, does not know you well enough to be with you. It also tells you that they have a fairly low opinion of you.
I'd say you have a pretty good jerk test working for you! Keep your standards high.
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