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I'm a one of a kind kinda woman, that much is true. My life experiences are amazing; my lessons have been many and many more to come! I've lived about 28 lives, and have acclimated to each one of them; so I'm a bit of a gypsy; able to be one of the locals whenever I land somewhere. I've had alot of pain in my life and alot of lessons have been learned; that's why I'd be a VERY GOOD PERSON TO LISTEN TO: I know........alot. I hate it when people suffer; I'll listen to anything and everything you have to say and you may ask me anything you'd like. Rhona xxxx
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I am turning 14 in January and I really need birthday party ideas. I was thinking of a beach party, but the beaches in California here will be too cold. I am planning on inviting both girls & guys.
And please, NO sleepover suggestions!
And suggestions for kids 15-17 can work too(:
Happy Birthday!
Why don't you find a nice fire pit down at the beach and have your party from around sunset to nine on the beach w/a great fire, food, FUN!
Bundle up and don't forget the s'mores!
Have fun!
Rhona xx
20 ..female.
I'm beginning to be quite confused about most guys being turned on about a girl being a virgin.
In my mind, a guy would be turned off because you're not experienced. And everyone says, a guy would looove to take a virginity from a girl but I would see it the exact opposite. Wouldn't a guy be afraid to take a girls virginity because he would think the girl would then become attached, and maybe even annoying/obsessive? That is, if he's not you're boyfriend.
I don't know maybe I look at it wrong. But everytime I tell a guy i'm a virgin i'm always thinking they're like .. "this girl can't get any?" or she's not experienced ..definitely doesn't know what shes doing. And i'm a pretty girl, comfortable with my body so yes i've had so many opportunities to do it, just not going to. Just things like that and feeling like it ruins everything. But people tell me most of the time its a turn on for guys.
Can someone please help explain this to me!?
Here, it's really simple.
Guys want one thing: sex. it is a natural fact and it's always always on their minds. Always.
So don;t 'give it away' when it's really a virtue to be proud of. (cos it's way funner for boyz than girlz) plus any girl could becme attached, annoying and miserably a pain in the ass BECAUSE OF ANYTHING.
You are a virgin. You won't always be. It'll happen and the more it happens, the less you'll want it- maybe not. Not till later :}}}
When you tell a guy you're a virgin, you're starting a conversation that's not necessary, it's your virginity and nobody else's business.
xx rhona
i posted a question on here recently about liking it when my boyfriend slaps me, bites me, smacks me, etc. we only started doing stuff like this the other day, and only when i ask him to.
but today something happened that kind of threw me off guard and worried me a bit. see, he's the type who doesnt believe in using "unnatural" drugs. like, anything that isn't weed or shrooms. (he's made it quite clear that if i do anything other than those two substances, he'll leave me) but today i was trying to be honest with him and told him about some experimenting that i contributed in with one of my friends several months ago. after i told him he slapped me. it didnt harm me, but i was still shocked. i hadn't asked him to, and he's never been the type to hit me when he's angry. he felt horrible and apologized when he noticed that i didn't like it.
i forgave him but it got me to thinking; since i've told him that i get off from being slapped, i'm concerned that maybe this will give him permission to slap me even when i don't ask for it. i only ask to be slapped, obviously, when i'm in "the mood". i'm sure he knows that, but i also think i should talk to him about it. since the non-consentual hitting has only happened once, should i not be concerned?
I'm concerned. I had a similar situation with an ex-bf and it accelerated from consentual to me being his punching bag. I'm a smart girl, stayed away from him for a month; decided that the year we'd been together was a waste. When he showed up in a month with flowers, gifts and tears, he said, "I'm so sorry; it will never happen again"
(translation: you've brought out the controlling asshole in me and now you're in big trouble). That was oh so true. I had to 'run away' to college several states away and he'd turned into a maniac; trying to find me, completely against his nature. Or was it?
Your bf is controlling you, too. If he weren't, he wouldn't have forbidden you to experiment, would have wanted you to experience different things, people and situations, but NO! You were to obey his rules- OTHERWISE HE WOULDN'T HAVE SLAPPED YOU!!!!!
Then he felt bad because you 'didn't like it'???????? You'd just confessed something to him that he didn't like and his reaction was to SLAP (punish) you. He was angry. He didn't slap you for fun. He slapped you because he's overstepped the boundary; and the boundary is in bed- nowhere else, and never as retaliation against a RULE! Screw his rules and screw HIM for reacting with anger by slapping you when he KNEW he was doing it out of anger; then pretending that he was shocked that you weren't THRILLED about it~!
Everything starts by 'happening once'. It's also a clever way for women to deny that they're with a batterer. You can either take a chance and talk to him and MAYBE it was just an 'accident', but it just doesn't add up. Take a good look at it and whatever you do; when you speak to him, understand that HE BELIEVES what he's saying, "It won't happen again." Trust me; that's as sincere as he's going to be in that moment, but it's the future behavior that's going to tell you whether you should or shouldn't have 'been concerned'.
You NEED to be concerned, girlfriend, that was WRONG. 1x or 10000x- it's WRONG.
Watch yourself; let me know if this helps- I really am concerned!
xx rhona
my friends and i are doing a "secret santa" gift exchange, but we're buying each other stuff for college. my friend that i'm buying for is going to the same college as me, but i'm living there and she's commuting. we always joke about how she's going to live in my dorm room and things like that. the price range is $10-15. any ideas on what i can get her? i'm including a picture frame and a camera case she wanted.
Any chance you could get a photo taken of the two of you? Like just have another friend pretend to be out shooting pix then runs into you 2 and you guys take a bunch of pix together; silly, serious, funky, you know what I'm talkin about. Then the friend/photog will move on and later you get the photos emailed to you by your mystery friend and either make a 'girlfriend' collage on Picasa, or a really good pic of the 2 of you that would fit in the frame you got. I think it's the thoughtfulness that's the real gift; pay your photog $10 for going along with the scheme, then buy her $5 worth of CHOCOLATE!!!!!!!!!!!!! yum! She'll love it!
What do you think?
xx Rhona
Thank you so much for responding to me:)
I am giving myself a little time away from the young lady. I think it is just best. I am confused, yes, we have all been there.
When my mother passed away, I was sixteen. It did not hit me until I was eighteen years old. My mother never played a major role in my life. I knew a time was coming, where it was all going to hit me at once and it did a little over a year ago. I really started realizing that my mother was no where to be found. When it hit me, I hit rock bottom. I stopped chasing my dreams and I stopped everything at that point of time.
Now, I am about to leave across United States and attend college, made the cheerleading team, and I received a full ride scholarship.
I am confused but at the same time, I need to understand that time will only tell. This is the time in my life where I need a mother most. Help me get ready for college and watch me leave the nest. But..No she is no where around. I am assuming this is the time where I take the world on by myself.
xoxo
Hi,
I wish I knew your name because I feel like I know you. Actually, I feel as though you're alot like me. Our situations are sort of similar, though I'm def not 19 anymore....but I was! And I had two parents in Chicago growing up; my mom mostly criticized and kept a close eye on me (she wasn't the best mom, sorry to say and did alot of damage to me-her oldest kid and only daughter). So they shipped me off mid-year from freezing Chicago to Central Florida to go to school; alone.
A month or so later I started getting phone calls from "home". my brother crying to me, saying Mom and Dad were getting a divorce (I tried to reassure him but..) then friends calling wanting to know why we had a FOR SALE sign in front of our family house. Talk about confused! It was true, though, I finally got my mother to tell me that my father just walked out on her and my two brothers, 17 and 12...he's fallen in love with someone else and moved downtown with her. It was devastating, blah, blah, and yet I was a college student; and college students want to have one thing: FUN! I could deny the truth by being a college kid, but when summer came, my mother had moved to CA with the boys and "I assumed that this was the time where I take the world on by myself."
But that wasn't exactly the truth. I knew I had to go through the motions and put one foot in front of the other, but I was deathly afraid for the semester to end: everyone would leave for the summer and I was going to have to find an apartment for myself in this tiny town; with nobody I knew. To make things worse (or better, as I discovered later), I'd fallen in love with Bradley- from Nassau, Bahamas. We were madly in love but he had a student visa and had to go home for the summer.
I REALLY CAME UNGLUED WHEN I REALIZED I WAS ALL ALONE; not just in that apartment, but my entire family had been shattered and I was so far away I was helpless. We were all so hurt that nobody could help the other person- it was so painful- and I can now officially tell you that it's only through pain that we LEARN OUR GREATEST LESSONS AND GAIN OUR GREATEST QUALITIES. I've learned that you either stay in pain, or you look for a way to make the pain worthwhile in your life.
So that's the story of MY 19 year old college experience, and I hope you can see that I MADE IT. I'm still here and sending my own children off to college; something I'm willing to do with you. Sounds a little crazy? Well, I'm a little crazy. Just ask my 19 yr. old William, or my 18 year old Paige! Last year I did the whole mother thing sending William 3 hours away to school and it was TYPICAL MOTHER BEHAVIOR. At home I cried and cried; then I got used to it. My daughter is going to be a nurse, so she got an apt. closeby and will attend a college here. Where's here? I'm in Sarasota, FL, and if you're moving across country, tell me: EAST OR WEST? (by the way, my Will got a full ride, too- good for you guys!!!!).
So tell me what school, etc.........you never know.
My email address is rhonapage@comcast.net. I'm an easy person to talk to, so TALK TO ME! You aren't alone girlfriend; you've got ME! And I'll be happier than happy to take on the role of your PC Mom......if you'll let me. We'll talk by email and then by phone; you're a smart one, so I'm not worried about you, but I think you have alot on your mind that you mind need to purge. Purge away, sweetie, that's what I'm best at: UNDERSTANDING AND BEING COMPASSIONATE. I have tons of faith; and I, too, am starting a new phase in my life (so hard!), but I accepted I was going to have to take on the world; but not by myself! More about that later.
For now; just write me and tell me about your school and stuff, if you want, and in the next couple of weeks before you leave, I can be there for you to help you have that 'special someone' to call whenever you feel blue. Truth? I think you'll be blue for about 20 minutes; then you'll be Homecoming Queen. Life moves fast; stay in the moment and be very aware of that one moment; it's all you have. Enjoy it.
xxx Rhona
I im 12 and i have all the symptoms that im gonna start my first period but i haven't! please help me.
THANK YOUR LUCKY STARS, GIRLFRIEND!!!!!!!!!!
HALLELUJAH! Mine is gone and over with and screw that nonsense!! Only a woman could handle the RADICAL RAGING HORMONES that storm in like paratroopers; prepared to ruin your LIFE, so be careful what you wish for, babe, try to believe that once it comes- it's yours for about 40 years, yeah, isn't that something to wish for!
:)
sorry
one day you'll comprendo- and i'm not bashing you, I'm bashing Aunt Flo :P
xx
rhona
Hello, my name is Avalon Hendricks and I am nineteen years old. About a month ago, I visited a dating website and I came across a beautiful girl. I was never attracted to females nor did I ever doubt my sexuality. We have not met yet, since I am leaving to college in a week, I will have to meet her when I come back home.
I lost my mother when I was sixteen years old. She died at a very young age. When I was less then a year old, she left her children and decided drugs were way too important.
Growing up, I always looked up to olderly women, my teachers etc. I was craving for a mother figure, someone that can give me motherly advice and be there for me. Now, I am really interested in this girl. She is 23 and she is very unique. I have been trying to get to know her through text messaging but it is like pulling teeth to get her to open up to me. I am falling head over heals for her. I need some help. I don't know if I am really a lesbian, or I am in search for a mother figure in my life?
You're wiser than your age if you already know that there could be another dimension to your relationship with this Unique woman. Feeling a different kind of love for her isn't unusual, since you crave a mother, and loving 'mothers' as you do, you question your sexual preferences. First you'd better look at how things were when your mother died, how you felt about her and whether she had a good or bad influence on you; regardless, it's hard as hell.
If you're over-texting her, then try to back off and give yourself some space to open up to lots of women who are older and who you could consider 'motherlike'. It's a great feeling. I'll be your mother- my kids are 18 and 19. I'm still 17. But! A good mother!
Take some time to make the space in your head and your heart to figure out at least A LITTLE bit about yourself; something you have to do alone. Pain has a way of forcing you to learn and learn and learn.
Let things happen in their own time; don't crowd time.
You'll be okay; you sound fine, and whatever you discover about yourself IS PERFECTLY FINE.
Hang in, honey
rhona xx
i have very big boobs and im thin with wide hips.
i was so into being model (kate moss) skinny that i totally resented my breast and my body and i treid to be as skinny as possiable.
i finally realized how blessed i am to have such a curvy body with REAL breast and skinny legs but im not toned.
how do i master my curves ?
i love how black women have HUGE boobs and thick thighs with tiny waist. how do i get that?
First of all, I'm so glad that you came to terms with the fact that your body is beautiful and it's YOURS, and women are supposed to be curvy~! I def realize what it's like to want to be that skinny model, but why? If you wanted to be her, then you would and wouldn't be so confused.
You seem to have a healthy outlook on your body and even know what you'd like to transform it into. And I swear I know you know the answer to this one.
If you want more junk in da trunk, put on ankle weights and get down on the floor and work it! Target your areas, do the exercises designed for that area, and that's where you'll get results!
Do I exercise? Hell no, I cannot seem to drop the Mom lbs. and it's not terrible but everyone should work out; for their whole health. I found a club today for $10 a Month; and it's called $10 a Month. A new facility with all the bells and whistles; so we'll see if I can get those Tina Turner legs I JUST KNOW I could have if I worked on it! She's in her 70's!
Just be healthy,take your time,learn from a trainer so you do the exercise right, and if you're young, you'll see results immediately. After 40, lotsa luck, so go for it get yourself that bad donk and tiny waist and master that curvaceous blessing called your body.
xx good luck; let me know!
Rhona
Hey guys, I'm a 19 year old female and my boyfriend is 21. We have been together for four year in September.. Everyone around us is getting engaged and we have been together longer than anyone of them. I dont know if im jealous or worried. I have said to him I want to be engaged, he said no. It makes me feel like he doesnt love me that much to marry me. He says he wants to marry me but wants to wait. I want a big wedding, huge dress ect.. I understand to wait for the wedding, but why cant we be engaged? He says he wants to be able to buy me a huge ring and make sure its beautiful, but I dont want/need that right now, just a small right so show hes mine.. Because of this I have decided to go away to school in the fall. Maybe to test to see if he is my "one" or just to clear my head and enjoy being 19.. Im not sure. What are your intakes of this? Am i right to feel "not loved" or do you all agree with him?
Girlfriend,
Get out of town and go to SCHOOL. Forget how you feel unloved because he's not into marriage at 21 and you are at 19. He's not SUPPOSED TO BE INTERESTED in marriage now; not yet. He just became a MAN for God's sake. I guarantee you, my friend, EVERY time you say or do or LOOK anything that resembles marriage, you're seriously pushing him away from you.
If you don't believe me, ask your brother or some other guy friend; you seriously need to back off and WORK ON YOUR LIFE while he does the same. Have your big wedding, just follow the right steps to get there, and simply take your 'wants' your 'lifelong dream' and ZIP IT~!! He knows what you want, so use self-control 100% of the time, otherwise get ready for a shocking heartache.
Good luck.
100% focus on YOU and no marriage talkk EVER~~~~~~~~
!!!!!!!!!!
XX RHONA
Males, what do you think when a female is in the pit?
My guess is that they think they can cop a free feel-----and God knows, THEY DO!
It's just a guess, though. What do YOU think?
xx Rhona
why would a self described happily married woman,who recently had a child, flirt constantly and tease a single guy that she has known for a long time,,then complain to him constantly about her husband,hint at having sex with him,then refuse? Then,when the guy refuses all contact with her,she wants to pull him back in again? What sort of malady and neurosis is this?
I totally agree with Witty User...........women want attention and will try to get it at all costs!
xx Rhona
OMG I totally can't remember when the Shark Week shows is suppose to be on Discovery Channel (I think it is that channel). I remember seeing the commercials and my friends talking about it but I can't remember if it was this week or next. When is Shark Week on? The times and hours, I mean? And will they do any reruns if I miss a show? THANK YOU
In the US it started on Sunday night past. It starts at 9 on the Discovery channel.
xxRhona
Ok, so my mum stopped smoking "trees" for a few months. She hasn't been doing it. She is going for a new job. She said she would not smoke even after the test. She took the test. Tonight It is late and I walk past the hall, a breeze rolls through, I cought a scent of "Trees". So I go to the back room, It gets stronger. She is not holding anything but I see the "thing" in the ash tray. I felt like saying something but acted as if I didn't notice. Now I'm really angry, she talked all this krap about how shw wouldn't start again. Now I hope when she gets this job, that she doesn't spend money on it. If she does I'll throw it out when she isn't around. I don't see any reason for me to get in trouble. Her last job she spent money on the same thing and it pisses me the Fu** off when I do well in school. And when I barely get Sh** for christmas they say, "Oh it's the economy", Bullshit theyr'e too busy burning money. I have poor friends whohave more than me. What should I do? and if possible can anyone tell me the average amount of money wasted on "trees" & "snow"? What can I do? I feel like mad now.
Ask her what's more important; a job that pays money, or YOU. Just talk to her and tell her she's being a hypocrite AND is playing with fire, since you never know when you're going to be re-tested........
Speaking in dollars and cents; trees can cost anywhere from $20 to $100+, depending on the amount and how much is used..........as for snow; IT'S $$$$$$$$$$$ and it's STUPID SH!T since it changes a person's behavior, and is DEF not worth the chance of getting 'popped' (caught) during the purchase. She's being selfish; tell her that; she'll deny it but you're smart; tell her everything you just wrote i your question. I'd be pissed right off, as well~~~!!! You have a voice and a say-so in what happens in your family, so don't be afraid to use it. By the way; you're not the only 'kid' who's parents do this; our generation somehow never stopped.....you'd be surprised~
Good Luck, Honey,
xx Rhona
Hey, I'm a little confused about this... It's never happened before. The past few days when I'm laying down, or about to(like in the process of laying down, around the halfway point) I've been getting this weird falling sensation. It's actually kind of extreme, and feels like I'm falling a long distance at maximum velocity.
What could this be? Could it just be because I've been exhausted? Thanks.
Yesterday I was forced to walk 4 miles (IN FLORIDA!!!!) before I could get to a friggin pay phone *I left my cell- which is brand new and I forgot I had one* derp- at home. I was soaking wet with sweat, my face was beet red, and I thought I'd pass out. But my b/f came to retrieve me and he looked at this soggy mess *me* and was very concerned. I went home, showered, then laid down in bed and whoooooooooooosh.........I was falling falling falling. Heat Exhaustion.
The only other times I;ve felt that is when I had a concussion and one time when I was hypnotised. Weirdest feeling in the world!
Exhaustion is, well, exhausting, so I think your body was just reacting to that. IF IT CONTINUES....... go check w/your doc. It's not normal, but don't think it's horrible in any way.
Hang tough!
xx Rhona
hi, i want to go to niagara falls. all the nice hotels and stuff are on the canadian side though. i dont have a passport and dont want to pay all that money to go there for a couple days. is there some type of temporary thing to get for just a couple days to get in?
going from the us to canada
Hi,
At first I didn't think you needed a passport, but then found this link:
http://gocanada.about.com/od/canadatraveloverview/qt/uscitizenborder.htm
It seems to have all the information you're looking for!
PS. Not a bad idea to have a passport anyway.....helps w/ID. :)
Have fun!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :))))))))))))))))))
xx Rhona
how do you charge your physical body with energy
You exercise like a wild person; you'll have energy galore!
Or lotsa coffee...........but I recommend the exercise! You'll feel like a new, more confident hottie!!!!
xx Rhona
am going to start college in the fall and am going to dorm there. i was wondering if i can go and visit my family every day, will they let me?. am going to be in umass lowell.
You might think you want to visit your parents every day, but once you get into the college routine, you're gonna love it and though you'll miss your family, IT'S NECESSARY so that you can grow and become independent. It hurts, but so does EVERYTHING that teaches us lessons, remember that. Pain=lessons learned.
It's a monumental move forward in your life; try to embrace it, read about how you (and your parents!) are going to feel, and take it from a mom whose son left for college last year and whose daughter is leaving this August for college: Mom's gonna be home crying while you're in your dorm crying but neither of you will cry for long since you;ll both get used to it. Go honme for holidays and ENJOY YOUR FAM; butin the meantime, STUDY STUDY STUDY and go home w/good grades and you'll be a hero!
Good luck sweetie. Being scared is normal, but it's time for you to rely on YOU. Whatever doesn't kill you, friend, will make you stronger. Be TOUGH; you can do it!!!!!!!!!
xxRhona
I am a girl weighing about 130lbs. I smoked weed two days ago and only took like three or four hits. I have a very fast metabolism because I can eat a lot of stuff and not get fat fast. I drink lots of water every day.
I am trying to get a job and Walmarts called me today and said to come in for a pee drug test.
How long does it take weed to get out of your system?
Since you smoked so little, and since you're drinking water, I suggest you drink another 2 8 oz. glasses of water (too much water and they can tell), and I'm quite sure you'll be fine. I've got a daughter who went through the same thing a couple of years ago with K-Mart, and she passed with flying colors.
It usually takes a month to get rid of it. But if you go to a pipe shop and ask if they have anything to get the toxins out of your body FAST, they'll know what you're talking about and will sell it to you. JUST DO NOT EVER EVER SAY ANYTHING ABOUT DRUGS IN A HEAD SHOP; not even a joke. they'll kick you right out on your ass.
I do NOT believe in drug testing. Friggin idiots go out and get so drunk at night that they're still drunk in the morning, so wtf? Like pot's a big deal..............
Good Luck landing that job, friend!
xx Rhona
I was reading about some different exercise techniques because I want to lose some pounds. This one place was talking about doing CRUNCHES. From the diagram, it looked kind of like a sit-up to me. Are they the same thing or...? What's the difference between a crunch and a sit up? Thanks.
First I have to say that they're both equally as excruciating, but that's how they're designed to feel.
For both exercises you lay on your back on the floor. For situps, it's easier to have someone holding your feet so that they don't fly up. From there you just use your abdominal muscles as pull your whole self up to your knees, then back down.
For crunches, the first thing to remember is to keep the small of your back pinned against the floor; you sort of pivot your pelvis up a bit so you can't fit your hand between your back and the floor. Put your hands on the back of your head, elbows spread out, then pretend there's a string on your solar plexis and just raise up your head and shoulders toward the ceiling. Doesn't hurt? Do about 50 and FEEL THE BURN. I think crunches are better; less chance of hurting yourself doing situps and a great burn from the crunches, which strengthens your core.
Are you trying to make me feel guilty or something? :0
xx Rhona
I woke up on a sunday and saw my dog's face so big that her head is big and puffy and her eyes have gotten smaller. She is actually thin and fit. I couldn't take her to the vet since it was a Sunday and all the veterinary shops were closed. I need the most help i could get. thank you
Hi,
Sounds like a sting of some sort and benedryl should bring down the swelling.
Good Luck!
Rhonaxxx