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Thank you:)
Thank you so much for responding to me:)
I am giving myself a little time away from the young lady. I think it is just best. I am confused, yes, we have all been there.
When my mother passed away, I was sixteen. It did not hit me until I was eighteen years old. My mother never played a major role in my life. I knew a time was coming, where it was all going to hit me at once and it did a little over a year ago. I really started realizing that my mother was no where to be found. When it hit me, I hit rock bottom. I stopped chasing my dreams and I stopped everything at that point of time.
Now, I am about to leave across United States and attend college, made the cheerleading team, and I received a full ride scholarship.
I am confused but at the same time, I need to understand that time will only tell. This is the time in my life where I need a mother most. Help me get ready for college and watch me leave the nest. But..No she is no where around. I am assuming this is the time where I take the world on by myself.
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Hi,
I wish I knew your name because I feel like I know you. Actually, I feel as though you're alot like me. Our situations are sort of similar, though I'm def not 19 anymore....but I was! And I had two parents in Chicago growing up; my mom mostly criticized and kept a close eye on me (she wasn't the best mom, sorry to say and did alot of damage to me-her oldest kid and only daughter). So they shipped me off mid-year from freezing Chicago to Central Florida to go to school; alone.
A month or so later I started getting phone calls from "home". my brother crying to me, saying Mom and Dad were getting a divorce (I tried to reassure him but..) then friends calling wanting to know why we had a FOR SALE sign in front of our family house. Talk about confused! It was true, though, I finally got my mother to tell me that my father just walked out on her and my two brothers, 17 and 12...he's fallen in love with someone else and moved downtown with her. It was devastating, blah, blah, and yet I was a college student; and college students want to have one thing: FUN! I could deny the truth by being a college kid, but when summer came, my mother had moved to CA with the boys and "I assumed that this was the time where I take the world on by myself."
But that wasn't exactly the truth. I knew I had to go through the motions and put one foot in front of the other, but I was deathly afraid for the semester to end: everyone would leave for the summer and I was going to have to find an apartment for myself in this tiny town; with nobody I knew. To make things worse (or better, as I discovered later), I'd fallen in love with Bradley- from Nassau, Bahamas. We were madly in love but he had a student visa and had to go home for the summer.
I REALLY CAME UNGLUED WHEN I REALIZED I WAS ALL ALONE; not just in that apartment, but my entire family had been shattered and I was so far away I was helpless. We were all so hurt that nobody could help the other person- it was so painful- and I can now officially tell you that it's only through pain that we LEARN OUR GREATEST LESSONS AND GAIN OUR GREATEST QUALITIES. I've learned that you either stay in pain, or you look for a way to make the pain worthwhile in your life.
So that's the story of MY 19 year old college experience, and I hope you can see that I MADE IT. I'm still here and sending my own children off to college; something I'm willing to do with you. Sounds a little crazy? Well, I'm a little crazy. Just ask my 19 yr. old William, or my 18 year old Paige! Last year I did the whole mother thing sending William 3 hours away to school and it was TYPICAL MOTHER BEHAVIOR. At home I cried and cried; then I got used to it. My daughter is going to be a nurse, so she got an apt. closeby and will attend a college here. Where's here? I'm in Sarasota, FL, and if you're moving across country, tell me: EAST OR WEST? (by the way, my Will got a full ride, too- good for you guys!!!!).
So tell me what school, etc.........you never know.
My email address is rhonapage@comcast.net. I'm an easy person to talk to, so TALK TO ME! You aren't alone girlfriend; you've got ME! And I'll be happier than happy to take on the role of your PC Mom......if you'll let me. We'll talk by email and then by phone; you're a smart one, so I'm not worried about you, but I think you have alot on your mind that you mind need to purge. Purge away, sweetie, that's what I'm best at: UNDERSTANDING AND BEING COMPASSIONATE. I have tons of faith; and I, too, am starting a new phase in my life (so hard!), but I accepted I was going to have to take on the world; but not by myself! More about that later.
For now; just write me and tell me about your school and stuff, if you want, and in the next couple of weeks before you leave, I can be there for you to help you have that 'special someone' to call whenever you feel blue. Truth? I think you'll be blue for about 20 minutes; then you'll be Homecoming Queen. Life moves fast; stay in the moment and be very aware of that one moment; it's all you have. Enjoy it.
xxx Rhona
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