Hi my name is spike flowers.
I specialize in love.
I may be young, but I am more than educated on love and relationships.
I have been giving out advice since I was 15 years of age. In the past = I have given out advice that has worked out for everyone and their existing relationship, old relationships, new relationships, and even with people who dont exactly know what to do to start one because they may seem to scared to approach the other person. I have been through a lot in my past and I have learned from my mistakes and my accomplishments. Don't let the age fool you because it is not about how old you are but what you believe in and what you are more than capable of doing. It is about what you put into what your wanting to do and how much effort you give it. It is about risks and chances. But it is mostly about trust. Ask me what is on your mind. I am more than glad to answer anything about love and relationships.
Gender: Male
Location: Florida
Occupation: navy
Age: 17
AIM: spikesmith1992@aol.com
Yahoo: spikeflowers1992@yahoo.com
Member Since: July 26, 2010
Answers: 10
Last Update: August 11, 2010
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I just wanted to say thx spike for the advice! XD and its weird but now we are engaged XD not very many ppl know yet and I DONT wanna tell my parents yet becuase they will think I am insane lol. But yea We are think to go public about our engagement on valentine's day or on one of our birthdays! I just wanna say thanks again for the advice and reasuring me that I am prefectly sane for feeling this way! (link)
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your welcome... May I ask you who you might be? if you know me just message me on my personal email
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Okay so there's this guy i dated during spring break and i also dated him last yeah but i kind of screwed that up. He is kind of dense when it comes to flirting and hints when a girl likes him but i have tried coming out and being like "DUDE!! I LIKE YOU!" but he just seems to like, ignore me or avoid it completely with a different subject, its kind of annoying and hurtful. I know i am still in love with him but I'm not sure how he feels about me, what should i do??? (link)
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well, Honestly if he is ignoring all of your approaches, then you should just pretty much forget about it. But giving a guy hints is like giving meat to a vegitarian. It isnt going to work. even if you make these hints so obviouse he will not notice. You just have to come streaight out with it with guys sometimes. Just ask him the next time you talk to him. Dont beat around the bush, just get to the point.
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okay I like this guy and he wasnts to have sex but not commit wtf??? (link)
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There really is not much to say there. He is plainly not worth it at all. Sex is more than just a physical thing. Sex is something that should be held so dearly to you and is very valuable. Find someone who can respect that.
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Ok me and my boyfriend have been dating for a month and I already know everything there is to know about him and vis versa. I am in really good with his family and friends although I have never met his friends yet, but I do talk to them all the time. He and I feel like we have know each other our whole lifes and everyone that knows the two of us all say that we are perfect for each other and that we balance each other out. I can't go through the day without talking to him and if he was here I know that I would have to see him everyday as well. I have turned my life around since I have been with him and I didn't even know I did it until a friends mom told me I was. I always keep myself out of trouble since I have been with him. I better myself since I have been with him. Is it sane to feel like he is the one that for me? I mean I am head over heals for him and IDK why or how in such short notice. (link)
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Wow, I can honestly say that I am more than happy for you. It seems like you two are hitting it off really well in every aspect. The family loves you and the friends love you. What more could you ask for? and as for you two, as long as you keep up the good work, everything will work out perfectly. If you believe in fate.. where there is living proof right there. You two are pretty much made for eachother. Things can happen very fast. It could happen with the first touch of the hand or the first glance into eachothers eyes. You are pretty sane to be thinking that. It is acctualy good that you think that way. Keep up the amazing work and great things will come out of what you two have.
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So Ive kinda been with this guy for a long time and we seemed perfect for each other and we had our whole lifes planned out and then we went through a rough patch and he dumped me for a girl hed gotten close with and after a while i got a bf again then i dumped him because we werent over each other then we started to talk again while he still had his gf and he asked me out so we could be together but be a secret so when we were together and he was with her i kissed me ex, now that hes not with her and were kinda together shoudl i feel bad about not trusting him or kissing my ex? (link)
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Honestly, I think that he is not worth your time. If he is willing to have you both at the same time, How do you know that he is going to break up with this other girl? You can honestly do alot better than him. If he felt the same way about you the way that you do about him, then he wouldnt want to keep the other girl and have you be the "secret" girlfriend. He is one of thoes guys that make me hate being in the same catagory as them. Take a little bit and think about your options and your future. He doesnt have to be apart of it. Just open your eyes and see all of which you are not seeing.
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so im falling for this guy more and more everyday,but the problem is that im leaving real soon and won't be seeing him for awhile...he wants his future in the navy and i totally support it,but i don't know how i would stay sane without at least hearing his voice here and there... (link)
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You say that you are falling for this boy. Does he know this? I mean if he doesnt, you should prob. let him know. As for him going to the navy, You could prob. still be apart of his future if it was possible. I am going to the navy myself and That is one of my problems also. But let him know all of how you feel about him and what you want to do, then You and him will be able to make a plan for the future with eachother. Communication is the key to every relationship. As long as you communicate, everything will go great.
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I'm a female and senior in high school. I met a guy last year august. i didnt like him like that back then and he was too pushy and it was just annoying me so I was rude to him and ignored all his txts calls and messages and cmmnts and stuff hoping he would leave me alone. I was a complete biyoch to him. but i saw him again at an event on memorial weekend. and i fell in love with him right away. he gave me a second chance and we were happier than ever. but the problem is he lives 5 hours away. so we're tryin to make it work.but it feels like i am wayyyy more into the relationship than him and he takes everything wayyy too lightly and doesnt seem to care about my feelings or how i feel, ever. I don't know if I'm overreacting or if I'm taking things way too seriously. What should I do? You're a guy do you think he doesn't care or is he just trying not to look desperate. (link)
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You are going through a tough sittuation. I have not been in a long distance relationship before, so I will try my best. All guys are diffrent in many ways. But if he was like me. He would be trying to be storng for you. He may not want you to know that it is hurting alot on the inside. He may miss you alot. Try having a seriouse conversation with him. Try to figure some things out. Tell him what is bothering you, or just simply show him how much you miss him. If he didnt care at all, he would not be with you right now. Just look at the positive things for right now.
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Well I love my girlfriend a lot....She loves me too She's been having doubts...And she doesn't know what do...I told her if she doesn't leave me I will just leave she said NO! cause she loves me and it will hurt....but she has a feeling in her stomach that we wont work out...So she has told me to give her time...but my biggest fear is that..She may leave me...cause I really love her a lot..but something inside of me thinks that since she's having doubts she will never love me the way she did again...Maybe I'm just being insecure and I should just give her time...I know I could trust her And I know she loves me and she DOES want to be with me...It's just the doubts...So i don't know what to do...Should I just let her go 4 get about her to make the pain fade quickly...or should i give her time hoping she will comeback to me...but still knowing there is a chance she may not want me...anymore...:/ (link)
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well here is the thing. You love her and she loves you. You never want to leave someone when the time isnt right and you dont want to, because then it will hurt alot worse than just waiting on a time when it is time for you two to leave eachother on good terms. You do not want to feel insecure and you dont want to doubt anything. You especialy do not want her to know any of that. Do not show that kind of stuff. Show her that you love her and show her that you will be there for her no matter what. If she says that she loves you then she will stay. Dont push her away by giving her these ultimatums. be confidant and keep your head up high. Dont look at things that are in the dark. look at them in the light. Just always remember this... she is always with you. She never left. So how are you going to lose something that never went away?
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I was in a long and difficult relationship, and it finally ended. He left me, but wanted me to take him back, and I couldn't. I'm with someone new now, but my ex still lurks somewhere in the back of my mind. I can't get back with him because he will only ever break my heart, but I can't let go of the good times. How do I tell myself I did the right thing when I still hurt? (link)
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haha wow, I am loving these questions. I just went through something similar not too long ago also. I am going to tell you what I learned and feel through this sittuation. I think you need to do what you think is right acctualy. I honestly wish that I never would have lost this girl. I did alot that hurt her and it was all a mistake. I have learned from all of what I did. She is also with someone new. Someone that I do not like at all at this point. But things just kind of happen. Everything always happenes for a reason. Sometimes good things can come out of bad sittuations. The only thing to do is just talk to this guy again and smooth things over. If it has been a while since you two have been together, then I think it is time to talk. But if he is like me, all he wants you to do is be happy. He wouldnt want you to hurt. If he is like me, he is sorry for all the things that he did and still dwells on it from time to time. If he is like me, then he has accepted the fact and wishes you alot of luck. Just be happy. You will be able to have more good times in the future with someone els. Maybe in the future you will meet back up. But only if you believe in fate. I hope that helps
Part two. I didnt answer a question from this section of yours. You say that you cannot get back with him because he will only ever break your heart? How do you know he will break it again? You really cant look at the past... although the past does build the future. But sometimes the one person that messed up in the past can control what could happen in the future. If they really love you and vise versa, then he will do anything to prevent anything from happening in the future that he did in the past.
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Okay so I have this best friend right but he used to be a boyfriend. He now hates me and refuses to talk to me. What do I do? Please don't tell me to just forget about him because I've tried and it is impossible. I keep seeing him everywhere but it turns out to not be him most of the time. Last night I thought I saw him but I turned away when he looked at me because well I dont know why... it's kind of like looking at the sun, you can't look directly at it or you might get hurt... (link)
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It is always hard when you lose a best friend or a loved one. They are the ones you always go to when things get bad. But when they are gone, who do you go to? I understand what you are going through. There really is not much you can do in this sittuation, but I dont want to tell you that you cant do anything at all. for right now, just keep your head up high and keep a positive attitude. if you are putting this much effort into this, then later on he will notice everything that you are doing for yourself and for him and he will come around. But do not invest all of your time because your time is precious, You do not want to waste it all.
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