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i know this is kinda long but if you help me out thank you soo much.
18/f
so me and my ex broke up about 2 months ago (we dated 3 months). he just blew up at me and made me feel like shit so i said i don't need this and ended things with him. a few weeks later he messeged me telling me that he can't stop thinking about me and cried over me and really wants to get back with me and blahblah. i won't get back with him for a few reasons: 1. i can't forget the reason why we broke up and how miserable he made me feel. 2. he doesn't drive and he doesn't have a job so he never can afford to take me anywhere, i don't even think we've been on an actually date. and i have to drive EVERYWHERE 3. he's a year younger than me (i know this is a bad reason but i just feel that the maturity level is different) 4. i have a bad past about giving second chances to guys. i told him that i wouldn't get back with him because i rushed into a relationship with him too soon that i wasn't ready for. however, we've still been talking and hooking up, he's been alot better since we broke up, but i have a feeling he's the kind of guy that wants what he can't have. i like hooking up with him, like he's really cute and everything but i can't picture myself with him.
now i just met this guy at my friends party. he is everything i want in a relationship. he has a job, a license, a car, an amazing personality, athletic, he knows how to have a good time and i just think everything about him is attractive. i really want to date him but what do i tell my ex? i can always just stop talking to my ex but i like him as a friend and i wanna stay good friends so i don't wanna go down that path. soo any advice about this whole situation? thanks soo much<3
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If you can't picture forever with your ex, he isn't worth it. If you ever decide to get back with him, you will never forget the things he said and did to you. You may be able to try and push them out of your mind but they will always be there.
This guy you met sounds like a good guy. I would try it out with him.
Tell your ex that you would just want to be friends. Don't rush right into a friendship, since he isn't over you, it's going to be way harder for him. So don't be too surprised if he doesn't want to talk with you so much for awhile. Tell him just friends. If he can't take that, then let him be and let him get over it.
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If you can't imagine yourself being with your ex in the future, then don't bother involving yourself in a romantic relationship with him anymore. Go ahead and give yourself a chance with the other guy, if he seems to be what you're looking for.
The only thing you have to tell your ex is that you want him in your life, but as a friend and nothing more.
You don't have to tell him that you met another guy to see what he would think, because that's like asking your ex for permission to move on, and you don't have to do that. Your life is yours and no one owns you.
If your ex does not want to have you as a friend then it's his loss, because you're ready to move on.
Hope My Advice Helps :)
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I wouldn't stop talking to your ex completely seeing
as that could hurt him more then he already is i would just tell him that you like him as a friend and you want to continue to be friends with him tell him the truth you'd be giving him a explaination which he deserves i think you should
choose the boy who you met at the party seeing as
you seem confident about him and your ex you seem
unsure and not comfortable with him you've got to do
what makes you happy that's the main thing that counts in the end is your happiness also who you can
see yourself with and who you'd get along with better and have more in common with do what's right
for you(:
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I think you should go out with the guy you met at your friends party. You are young and there is no sense in getting tied down if you are not ready to. Take some time to just live a little :) as for your other guy, just put him in the "friends zone". tell him that you just view him as a friend at the moment. haha i know guys don't like being there, but hey you gave him his chance and he blew it right?
Why not give someone new a chance, right? Just be a teen, have some fun, and don't worry. Things will work out no matter what! :)
Hope this helps! :)
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