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Ok so i just received a letter in the mail today about my new doctor and it's a girl. She going to do a check up on my private parts. I have had sex a lot with my boyfriend and I just did it today. How do I tell my doctor that I didn't have sex and could they found out if I had it? I would like them not to tell my parents or else I'll be in big trouble. I'm really scared about this. What can i do? someone help me!!!!! (link)
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Well generally when you go to the doctors for a check up such as this it is always best to tell your doctor the truth in case there is something wrong. If you didn't tell her she really couldn't find out with out some extensive medical examinations. If you do choose to tell her (which you should) doctors appointments are confidential. The doctors don't really tell your parents much unless they are in the examination room with you. Going to the doctors is nothing to be nervous about.
I really hope this helps
Thanks for the question!
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what should i get my boyfriend for valentines day? I know he loves basketball, loves singing, loves dancing. He also loves romantic dates. He deserves something other than a card so what should I give him? (link)
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You can make him a book about why you love him.
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okay ive had my paragard in for about five days now and i get slight pains now and again, ive also havent been able to orgasm with my partner or be myself and on top of that i cant feel the strings im really scared if something went wrong because i really dont want it taken out i went threw so much pain to get it just to have it taken out, please help (link)
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I also have an IUD. If you can't feel the strings after only five days of having it you might not be feeling in the right spot. they should be pushed over to the side and also may have started to curl up. Mine did the same thing, they are curled and up to the side and i can't feel them either. I went to the doctor and she said that i was fine. I didn't personaly start having sex so soon after getting mine in but you are supposed to wait at least two weeks before you have intercourse. Try not having sex for a week or so. If you keep having the pains i would recommend going to the doctor and getting it checked out.
I hope this helps and Best of luck to you!
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Well ... I was in a relationship with a cute girl and now I dumbed her , but the problem is I still love her :( even though I'm the one who stopped our relationship , I want to just forget her(by the meaning of not really forget her , i want to stop loving her) so what do I do to stop loving a girl I see everyday in school!???
P.S: She is with me in the same class and same school!:( (link)
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Its a hard ordeal to through something as to stop loving them. I have a question for you, if you don't mind. If you love her then why do you want to break up with her and stop loving her? Maybe since you broke up with her it means that it wasn't really love to begin with. Which would make this a little easier. When people are young they tend to misuse the word love. This might be what your problem is. If you evaluate your situation with this girl and you see that you have already broken up with her which means that you can live without her, or you still love her which means that you shouldn't have broken up with her after all because it is real love. If you can find that you are able to live without her and you don't need to think about her even when you do see her on a daily bases, i presume, then you will see that you do not actually love her after all. In my opinion there is no way to actually stop loving a person that you are truely in love with. You might think that you love her, but you might not.
I know this is a round about answer, but I was hoping to give you something to think about.
I really hope that it helps you in some way,
Thank you for the question.
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Alright, I am having my Sweet Sixteen next month. I am not the kind of person that goes to parties a lot nor has them, haha, I'm in the marching band.. yea.. geek. So this is why I am stressing, I want my party to be spectacular. I am planning to put a chocolate fountain on the table with the food and the blender to make smoothies and virgin pina coladas. I also want to have a paint fight. I will tell everyone to bring something white, an old shirt or something and we're gonna fill up water balloons with paint and just go wild. If you ever had a paint fight before, PLEASE tell me how it went! I'm also gonna bring out my Ipod and speakers and blare my music. Also, at around 10ish pm we are going to play manhunt.
My question is, would you come to my party, if you know, you were invited? Does it seem fun to you? If it doesn't sound fun to you, what can I do to make it more fun and interesting? Thanks for your input! (link)
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I would definatly come! sounds like a blast! :)
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my best friend who is now my boyfriend wants to lose his virginity to me. not any time soon and hes not pushing it, just saying in general. he had a girlfriend of 9 months before and they never had sex cause she wasnt ready to. i know he was close to being in love with her.. but anyway weve been each others lives since the beginning of the last school year (late 09) and its mid '10, and weve been together for a few months romantically. he wants to lose it to me, the best friend hes ever had, & a girl hes liked since he met.
if he did lose it to me (im not a virgin, he wouldnt be my first so im REALLY concerned about his virginity), do you think itd be a mistake? that he shouldve waited for.... somebody else?
i just dont want to be a mistake because i was for somebody else once before. hes my best friend & i dont want him to regret me. (link)
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Well first, it depends on why he is wanted to lose his verginity to you. If it is for the sake of him saying that he lost it and is no longer a virgin or if it is because he loves you and wants to share this beautiful moment with you. Since you guys are best friend and in a relationship, i suggest sitting down and talking to him about it. See why he wants it to be you. If he gives you reason that you think is good, and to where you both won't end up regretting it. Then you can consider it but be safe :)
Talking can sometimes solve everything in realtionships ♥
I hope this helps :)
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i know this is kinda long but if you help me out thank you soo much.
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so me and my ex broke up about 2 months ago (we dated 3 months). he just blew up at me and made me feel like shit so i said i don't need this and ended things with him. a few weeks later he messeged me telling me that he can't stop thinking about me and cried over me and really wants to get back with me and blahblah. i won't get back with him for a few reasons: 1. i can't forget the reason why we broke up and how miserable he made me feel. 2. he doesn't drive and he doesn't have a job so he never can afford to take me anywhere, i don't even think we've been on an actually date. and i have to drive EVERYWHERE 3. he's a year younger than me (i know this is a bad reason but i just feel that the maturity level is different) 4. i have a bad past about giving second chances to guys. i told him that i wouldn't get back with him because i rushed into a relationship with him too soon that i wasn't ready for. however, we've still been talking and hooking up, he's been alot better since we broke up, but i have a feeling he's the kind of guy that wants what he can't have. i like hooking up with him, like he's really cute and everything but i can't picture myself with him.
now i just met this guy at my friends party. he is everything i want in a relationship. he has a job, a license, a car, an amazing personality, athletic, he knows how to have a good time and i just think everything about him is attractive. i really want to date him but what do i tell my ex? i can always just stop talking to my ex but i like him as a friend and i wanna stay good friends so i don't wanna go down that path. soo any advice about this whole situation? thanks soo much (link)
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I think you should go out with the guy you met at your friends party. You are young and there is no sense in getting tied down if you are not ready to. Take some time to just live a little :) as for your other guy, just put him in the "friends zone". tell him that you just view him as a friend at the moment. haha i know guys don't like being there, but hey you gave him his chance and he blew it right?
Why not give someone new a chance, right? Just be a teen, have some fun, and don't worry. Things will work out no matter what! :)
Hope this helps! :)
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You can love in a lot of ways. you can be with someone so amazing and say you love them; the next, and scariest step, if youre serious enough, can be saying youre in love with them.
(lets make sure we know the difference between loving someone & being in love with someone. i always believed you can only be in love so many times.)
For example, my story.. i met this guy in the beginning of sophomore year. we began to talk but we didnt get close until early 2010. we were best friends for months & then he admitted to liking me. I began to like him back and weve been together officially for nearly two months.
when someone's your best friend, is it faster to fall in love? how do you know? what's the differnece between loving someone & being in love with them?
i know they say youll know when you know. but maybe there are some little factors that everybody catches on.
thank you!
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Not one person can really tell you what love is. The meaning of love is different to every person on the planet believe it or not. It is possible that you could fall in love faster once you have been friends for a while. like some say, the base of a great love is a strong friendship and i hold this to be very true.
The only person that can tell you if you are in love with this young man is you. And let me tell you, you are never to young to be in love.
The way I personally see love is when you are with someone that you can't stand to be away from. When you see changes in them, you can accept them easily because you love them. And when you are miles and miles apart you will fight your hardest to go to see them. Love to ME is when you can take a bullet (hypothetically speaking that is) for them with out even taking a moment to think about it.
This is only my shortened definition, it might be different for you and others as well.
I really hope this helped you :)
Best of luck. :)
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There is this boy at my church that I like. I initiated everything, the phone calls, the notes, the eye contact. Which is why I never initiated an actual conversation, that was his job. He never did, though. He could not work up the nerve to talk to me. Ever! He writes me these cute notes, saying I'm his only one, that he gets a huge knot in his stomach when he tries to talk to me. He's on the church worship team and every time he would sing, he would look right at me, like he was singing to me. He had since gotten a girlfriend, talked to her and just asked her out, no problem. Why couldn't he talk to me and ask me out that easily? (link)
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Maybe he sees you as the type of girl that is so amazing that he doesn't want to screw up when he talks to you. I think he is scared because he likes you so much and maybe doesn't want things to come out all wrong. My advice to you is since you already know that he likes you because of the phone calls and notes, just go up and YOU be the one to start the conversation with him. :) although you've started everything else, don't be scared to start a conversation either :)
Best if luck to you!
i hope this helps! :)
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I've been with this guy for three years. If his heart stopped beating right now I would give him mine. When he asked me to marry him all I could think of was yes. We're both young, but I love him so much and I just couldn't picture myself with anyone else. I started college a couple months ago and I met this other guy. I've noticed signs that he likes me. He's said that he wishes I was single. He helps me with my homework. He walks me to my car when it's dark. I appreciate this especially because my fiance isn't there to do these things. He goes to a different college. There are so many days that I wonder what it would be like to be with this other guy. I know that I can't because (1) I'm engaged! (2)This other guy is a temporary research student and next week he will go back to his college... which is across the country! Still so many nights I have bad dreams and fantasies. I can't get good sleep. My fiance used to be the first man I thought of when I woke up and I feel horrible because he isn't now. I've talked with him about this and he is trying to do everything he can to make me happy and it does help. But, these wandering thoughts are still inside my head. And, I don't wanna marry someone if I'm not 100 percent sure anymore. What should I do??? (link)
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You are in love it seems to me, don't give up on him. You say that you would give him your heart, so do it. Not physically, but emotionally. don't worry about this other guy, sure he is here for now but i'm sure he can't compare to your fiance and plus he is leaving soon. I don't think that it is worth giving up on something that you love for something you just like. You are thinking about this guy more than your fiance now because you get to hang out with him a whole lot more, just because you think of him so much doesn't meant that you aren't still in love with your fiance.
Right now you are young, not too young for anything that you want to do, i'm just saying that you don't have to rush anything. There is nothing wrong with a long term engagement, plus this will give you time to get back to the basics with your fiance with you really seem to love.
Just don't worry about this other guy, he will be leaving soon and then he'll be no more. You might have a few calls or texts but i don't think that it would add up to how you feel about your fiance.
Don't give up on love for like
I hope this helps you.
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so i have this facebook friend that i requested cause we have alot of friends in common and i see him around sometimes, so i was like sure why not. i think he's gorgeous. and i'm not the type of girl to really obsess over a guy at all. not to be conceited but i'm a pretty good looking girl. i sent him a message saying that i've seen him around and stuff and i wasn't just requesting him for no reason, but he didn't say anything back:/ i don't know if he got it or just didn't know what to say and then forgot about it or what. a mutual friend says she'll hook me up but i really want to talk to him:/ but i definetly don't want to seem desperate to him. i'm not at all. i just think hes so goodlooking:) what should i do? (link)
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Don't take the facebook approach. you say that you see him around, so just go up to him. Let your confident self show and talk to him. I'm sure that he will like it that you have the courage to come and speak to him face to face and not hide behind the computer. The worst that will happen is he will just want to be friends, but what a great start that is. the base of any good relationship is a strong friendship :)
So just talk to him in person :)
I hope this helps some!
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I have this problem where I live, there is no good guys here they are all rude, and mean and so on. Maybe its their maturity or something but I don't want anything to do with it. First off I know Im young and no I don't use the word love or throw it around nor am I joking, to me it's really serious. I have really good friends on the internet and we have talked for a while and we go on cam and laugh and what I find is I like guys who don't live here but far away. I really like this guy who lives in Ontario but I live in British Columbia.. Is it worth even talking to them, having a long distance relationship even ? Help, please.
-Katelynn xx 15 f (link)
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You will never know if something is actually worth it unless you try it. Speaking from experience, long distance relationships can be very hard and certainly no walk in the park. It is something that you have to be willing to commit to. but you can definatly make them work :)My advice, just keep talking to him. You may not want to get overly involved because as of right now you have just a simple internet relationship, but you never know; maybe if you keep talking to him, you will soon find yourself going to meet him and start an actual relationship.
Best of luck to you, i hope this helps :)
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mmkay... so theres this guy that Ive been talking to a lot lately, and he says that Im cute and really nice to talk to. He said that nothing would probably happen anytime soon, considering our age difference, and considering he lives in another state. I know what you're thinking, nothing would ever happen, and this girl should date/like someone her own age. I've tried. I just cant stop thinking about him. Just talking to him puts a smile on my face. He said that in the future, we'll never know what might happen. We might be together. I told him that he didnt have to say that stuff just because I like him. I told him to say exactly what he was thinking. Then he said that he thinks I'm amazing. He's a really sweet guy, and he says that he's gonna wait till he gets married to have sex. (dont ask how that came up) But... I dont know what to do. Obviously, nothing's going to happen anytime soon, but is there any hope for me at all? (link)
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Online boys are never the best. You can't really tell who someone is or how they act until you really meet them in person. On the fact of the five year age difference, that is just unlikely. You are fourteen, you should be out just being a teenager, staying up too late, hanging out with your friends until you can't stand them any more, and playing way too many video games. You aren't going to find your true love at this point in your life, especially not through the internet, bad idea. You should worry about boys your own age because they are around the same maturaty level as you and plus you can see them everyday at school and around town. If this guys is bringing up not having sex until he is married, then surly he is thinking about it and may be thinking about doing something with you. Focus on you and being a teenager while you are at this age not older guys and falling in love too quickly.
I hope this helps :)
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do guys like it when girls are lightweights, or dont have to drink much to get drunk? or would they prefer them to be able to drink well (link)
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Honestly, you shouldn't worry about if a guy likes it if you are a drinker or even what type of drinker you are, if you are. Drinking isn't good, not to throw out the Motherly advice. anyways, if you do drink, don't do it because you want a guy to notice you. there are plenty of other ways to get a guy to notice you. you can just go up and talk to him. guys like it when a girl has confidence, things like drinking to get a guy to notice you is not a very confident approach to the whole situation.
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This guy asked me out last week and I didn't really know what to say. I DO want to go out with him but does that mean I should say, "YES," or what? I don't want to sound stupid or like a total dork when it comes to this. I fumbled around until we just laughed it off and I think I gave him the wrong impression because he hasn't called since. The next time something like this happens and a guy says, "Hey, you want to go out this weekend or some time?" what do I say back?! (link)
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Just be yourself. If it is a guy that you like and would like to go out with him, say YES! You don't nessicarily have to use yes as your answer there are many other synonyms that you can use depending one what type of person you are. But one thing is for sure, if you like him say something positive to let him know that you are interested and would like to take him up on his offer :)
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