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losing his virginity to me
my best friend who is now my boyfriend wants to lose his virginity to me. not any time soon and hes not pushing it, just saying in general. he had a girlfriend of 9 months before and they never had sex cause she wasnt ready to. i know he was close to being in love with her.. but anyway weve been each others lives since the beginning of the last school year (late 09) and its mid '10, and weve been together for a few months romantically. he wants to lose it to me, the best friend hes ever had, & a girl hes liked since he met.
if he did lose it to me (im not a virgin, he wouldnt be my first so im REALLY concerned about his virginity), do you think itd be a mistake? that he shouldve waited for.... somebody else?
i just dont want to be a mistake because i was for somebody else once before. hes my best friend & i dont want him to regret me.
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You should continue open dialogue with him about it and find out his reasons, what he expects, fears etc. etc. about it. Read books, fact sheets and other things with him and tell him your concerns about possible disappointment, not being ready or how it will affect things.
Let him know you're honored and if he demonstrates that he really wants to go through with it and you both feel comfortable and ready and consenting it's fine. That's how you avoid it being a mistake.
You may be more experienced than him but he has nothing to compare you to regardless. Also, it's a good thing as you can take your time, guide him and make him less nervous and you know what you're doing give or take and make it into a situation where he's not afraid.
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Well first, it depends on why he is wanted to lose his verginity to you. If it is for the sake of him saying that he lost it and is no longer a virgin or if it is because he loves you and wants to share this beautiful moment with you. Since you guys are best friend and in a relationship, i suggest sitting down and talking to him about it. See why he wants it to be you. If he gives you reason that you think is good, and to where you both won't end up regretting it. Then you can consider it but be safe :)
Talking can sometimes solve everything in realtionships ♥
I hope this helps :)
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