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how do you know youre old enough to have sex?
we already know kids / teens of all ages are having sex. but how do you know youre physically, emotionally, and mentally ready to have sex?
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I remember when I lost my virginity I was fifteen, I was with this guy I was sure I loved, I wasn't ready for sex. I knew I wasn't deep down. He told me it'd make him happy if I did. I thought I loved him so I did. The whole time all I thought was stop no I shouldn't I'm not ready. Deep down I knew that I wasn't ready. I paid the price, I was not physically or emotionally ready. I wasn't with the right guy either. Losing your virginity can be very painful in both ways. I thought he was the right guy. But a few months later I looked at the big picture, something I should've done before I let him take my virginity when I knew I wasn't ready. So take a step back before you do this, look at the big picture, decide if this is the right person to be losing it to. Because if it isn't you'll regret. I still regret it. I wish I could've lost it to the guy I have now. He lost his to me and I wish I could've shared it with him as well. You should save it. It's a very special thing, and when you find the right person, they'll feel so honored that you waited and saved yourself for the person you loved and felt deserved to take your virginity. It's not all about feeling good, it's something very deep and connects two people on a very strong emotional level. Make sure it's the right person, make sure you're ready. Think about it, for a long time, don't let anyone push you and if you have any doubt at all you're not ready. Take you're time, and when you are ready. Use protection.
I really hope this helps.
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no one can answer that but you trust anb believe you will just know
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There's a few ways you know.
1. You know you are. You don't feel unsure or doubt. You feel in your gut you're ready. The idea of having sex makes you feel excited and happy, not anxious and worried. If you're uneasy or still wondering if you're ready, you're not.
2. You know you've found the right person to have your first time with if you know you won't regret it. Even if the relationship ends someday, you'll always be glad it was him or her that you shared that moment in your life with.
3. You can talk openly about birth control options with your partner and you're prepared to acquire condoms or pills or whatever other method you've decided upon.
When these things have happened, you're probably ready.
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good question and the bottom line is, even adults struggle with this one. the problem for teens and younger people is that they do not have the metal billity to see the forrest for the trees; they see a night of passion, the tinkling of glasses of wine and the candels, but do not think of after math, nine months later...
physically at age twelve you are physically able to reproduce. so that is least of the problems.
mentally, that is the grey area where everyone gets hung up. You think you can be a parent but could you really? the financial responsibilites alone can wreck your dreams of being dad or mom of the year.
emotionally: do you know the old saying, anybody can be a father but it takes a man to be a dad? Are you ready to be that man?
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I am a great deal older than most of the advisers on this site, so my advice will be somewhat different from what you may have received and may continue to receive from others.
Are you ready for sex? This question is asked a lot in many different ways on this website. The following link will take you to a website I found that will help you answer that question. [Link](Mouse over link to see full location).
Everyone matures at a different rate. While your body may be able to physically have sex you may or may not have the maturity needed to handle the physical aspects and possible outcomes of sexual intercourse. Also the longer you wait to have sexual intercourse the more enjoyable it will be for you. For the teenage boy sexual intercourse is 90 % hormonal release and 10% notching his gun belt.
When I was young we use to make out in the back seat of the old man’s Chevy. I later found out from my wife this was not much fun for the girls. Those girls that did did so because they were pressured by their boyfriend to put out as it was called. Speaking for the boy the sex was mostly for the 10% side. The 90% side could have been satisfied with a hand job.
What I am trying to say here is you will know when you are ready. Do not let some boy who is only interested in getting his hormones satisfied push you into doing something you are not ready for. When you are ready make sure you are on some form of birth control and the boy uses a condom.
My hope is that you will not have sex with until you are emotionally old enough to handle it. I would also hope, and this is a big one, that you would sit down with your mother and talk with her about boys and sex. Yea I know it’s hard to think about talking to your mom about this stuff. But remember mom was once your age and had to go through what you are now going through. I would suggest you say to mom that you really need to have a girl/girl talk and could the two of you go someplace together away from the house. Believe me when mom hears that you need a girl/girl talk she will know what you want to talk about and I’m sure she will make the time.
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First of all how old are you? This is how I determine if one is ready for sex. Don't ever let a guy pressure you. Don't let a guy try to tell you that your ready. You are ready, when your heart, your mind and body tells you it is right. Think of it like a light bulb going off. When your with the right guy the right setting and the time is right, there is something that kinds of goes off and says this is it. This is the perfect time,I am ready. It was six years ago, when we were 13, my friend gave up her virginity to a guy who pressured her all the time. She wasn't ready. She was not physically, emotionally and mentally ready for sex. She told me that deep down every single fiber of her body was telling her that she was not ready. So my advice to you is listen to your heart. Don't give it up to a guy, until you are sure that is the guy you truly care about. You only have one virginity to give up. Loose it to a guy that you truly care about and who cares about you. trust me when your truly ready, you would have no doubts in your mind. When your ready, you will know. Hope it helps
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First of all how old are you ? And I think you realy need to search your heart you have all the time in the world to make that decision .don't rush it .you have to think about the what if's having sex should be special for the one person that you truly care for . Yes sex is a great thing only and I do say only if you plan on being with the person for a long time it something shared out of love not desier and if you do plan on it please use protection there are so many stds out there and you have to wory about pregnancy also don't give your verginity to just anyone make sure he or she is the right one .there are a lot of decisions to make . I can't make you decide only give you advice to the matter but take good care on making any decisions becase whatever you do you will live with it . I hope I have been some help
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