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Everyone thinks so.
Alright, I have one of those movie friendships. Everyone thinks my friend and I are going to fall in love, get together, get married one day and live happily ever after. I am a 16 year old girl as is he 16. We have been best friends for.. well, forever, since the first day of third grade. We had this little clique, me, him, and two boys that both had turned out to um, like boys. They had since moved away and it's just me and him left from that third grade class. We have our own friends but we are both close as well. Everyone thinks since we are so close, we're hiding a relationship, that we really like each other.
I just want to tell you a few things about our relationship and you can tell me if you believe everyone else or you think me and him are right in this.
My friend is really shy, he's an amazing guy and he would take a bullet for me but he doesn't talk a lot. Leading to low self esteem and hardly any confidence, I really have to watch what I say around him or I know he'll get kinda down about it but when he does I do whatever I can to make him happy, I give him little confidence boosts, I guess you could call them. On the off chance that I am having a bad day, he knows it and he asks, he won't make me tell him what's wrong, he won't push the subject (even though I always tell him anyway), I then apologize for dumping all of my problems on him and making him feel obligated to help me out and he always comes back with a remark similar to "you don't have to apologize, I want to know what's bothering you, I care." We talk all the time, we talk in school, at band practice, at fundraisers and when we aren't together, we text. We talk about a lot of random things and that's what I like about him, he can just be laid back, we don't have to talk about anything serious. We are both in the marching band at our school and everyday after practice, I give him crackers, the same kind everyday because he loves them. Every one said I'm like his mom. The first time I got silly bandz when the whole thing started at my school, I was talking to him about them and he said he doesn't like anything on his wrists, he likes nice and bare but when I put them on his desk and showed them to him, he picked one up and wore it until it broke a lot of months later. I have trouble in a class that he excels in so I text him and ask him if he can help me with the homework or the notes and he would ask me what exactly I needed and he would help me so much. His mom is quite fond of me, ever since we talked for a while at a band function. The last time I saw her, it was raining quite heavy and she told me to not get sick and stay bundled up. Lastly, my friend has such a passion for music, he writes songs and plays guitar. He plays his guitar for me when I'm sad but he doesn't sing for me. Ever. He said he can sing in front of his other friends and he sings at parties but he won't sing for me.
So, what do you think? Do you believe everyone else? I'd really appreciate your input. Thanks!
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just because you two are great friends dosent mean there has to be something else there.. does it? Maybe one day, yeah he will turn around and say he has feelings for you, but thats not likely to happen at the minute with him being so shy. carry on with what your doing boosting his confidence and being kind and making him feel good. Keep it simple though, plainly friends ship, if you tell him you like him it could ruin everything, ask him - what do you think it would be like if me and you ever got together?
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Hey there,
Well.. I am not so sure about the "getting married and living happily ever after" part.. but it is a possibility. It sounds as if you two have a very caring, helpful, loving, friendship. He sounds like a great guy and if you feel as if you would like to start a relationship, I would definately say "go for it!". He sounds like everything and more. I think that it is cute how you give him the crackers that he loves and it is nice how you do take care of him; and him for you. He obviously appreciates the things you do and the only reason that I can think of for why he would not sing while playing his guitar for you, is because he has feelings for you, but does not know how to fully express them. As in, he has these feelings built inside that probably want him to open up and sing for you, but there is a little part that is holding back.. and waiting for you to make your way in first.
I would tell him how great of a person he is. Tell him how much you appreciate him, the little things he does, and how he can play his guitar so wonderfully when you are down. When you two are alone and his guitar is sitting near.. ask him if he will sing for you. I am positive he will, but if he doesn't.. I guarantee a smile or grin that means he really wants to :)
As for what your friends say.. falling in love is definately the first step on your way to a very possible "Happily ever after"... trust your instincts ;)
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Matt: "Who do you believe? Who fucking cares."
Lady friend: "Why are you answering this? They probably will end up together."
Seriously though, silly bandz? My six year old campers love those. That's 16, without the 1.
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