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im nineteen when I was fourteen my mother made me get on a pregnancy shot because she thought I was sexually active well I wasn't anyways when I turned 18 I no longer had madicaid so I stop taking the shot I am almost 20 and still havnt had even a spot of blood im so scared I wont be able to have kids I don't have money to go to a doctor can someone please tell me whats wronge with me

I am not a doctor so I can't say why your period hasn't started after 2 years off the shot. I know that women coming off birth control wanting to become pregnant find often that their body doesnt immediately go back to a normal cycle meaning they have difficulty becoming pregnant. It sounds like a long time to me but I can't say for sure.
Even though you cant afford medical care, you should be able to find some way to get a female check up to be sure everything is still okay.
You can check in your town or county if there is a free clinic for women or check out Obama care to see if you can afford that. You could also contact your closest Planned Pregnancy office and tell them of your circumstance and ask them what they recommend for you...perhaps they know of where you can go for a checkup and can recommend.

I'm a 14 year old girl. I've stopped shaving, started wearing more masculine clothes. Thinking about cutting off my hair, etc. because I feel like a boy. I've always been a tomboy but now I want to be a full out boy, that's just how I feel. I think like a guy, act like one, I just don't want to be a girl anymore. I've been thinking about this for a while but I've been holding it in because my mom would accept it but my father would hate it. He'd probably yell at me and force me to stay a girl. But my main problem is I'm 14. I've hit puberty. B-cup boobs, hair down there, menstruation, etc. So I was wondering, is there anything I can do. Is there any like "breast removal surgery" so to speak. And how to I start transitioning and talk to my parents?

I know from reading many stories of transgender children and teens how difficult it is. So many stories out there of parents who recognized that their son or daughter as a young child was more comfortable and drawn to things typically worn by and acting also more like the opposite sex. And those parents gave their support. The children were happy until they reached the years of puberty. Their feelings never changed as they grew into teens and young adults so now their bodies were showing as one sex while they felt like the other and that cause emotional turmoil.

I followed the stories of how supportive parents kept in close contact with doctors about the childs issues and in all cases, it seems that the medical community is not willing to interfere and do sex change treatments such as administering hormone therapy, breast removal and such until the child reaches a certain age, at the least, out of puberty. For all I know, it may differ depending what state you're in or what country.
But yes, there is breast removal surgery and if you haven't seen this couple in swimsuits after both being transgender switched their bodies sex and as you will see, the male does look like he's always been male, no sign that he ever had breasts. Here's that link:

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2374296/Transgender-teen-lovebirds-pose-swimsuit-shoot-having-gender-reassignment-surgery.html

They both had to endure lots of bullying and such and met through a transgender teen support group. That would be helpful support to you right now. Perhaps there you could get better idea's of how to handle coming out to dad and hopefully get his support from others who may have successfully had parents come to support them.

Here's a site that seems to have a listing by ABCnews of lots of transgender support websites, with a listing for parents of transgender teens and others for the teens themselves. I didnt check to see if all the links are still valid but hopefully most still are.

http://abcnews.go.com/2020/story?id=3089992&page=1

Good luck dear.

6 years ago I was in a relationship with a girl(I was 16-17 and she was 15-16). We had our ups and downs, but our relationship was what I would call emotionally intense and turbulent at times. I have never loved someone, and am extremely certain will never love someone the way I loved her. Its to the point where I

She moved away, and long distance didn't work out, so we took a "break". Since then we have occasionally talked, but its very hard to not get extremely jealous when she subtly brings up boyfriends or whatever, so we usually stop talking after drama builds up between us.

She called me yesterday after not speaking for 3 years. She is 20 now and goes to Harvard University, and has an overall great and successful life. I however, am 22 and go to community college. Needless to say our lives took us down different paths. But even after all this time, and having multiple girlfriends since, I still have intense feelings for her, despite me trying to forget and move on from her, sometimes in destructive ways. Its been 6 years since we were together and still somehow nothing has changed. I could be 43 and married with kids and she would still be there in the back of my mind.

My question, especially to the girls out there, is why would you call an ex boyfriend after so many years? We talked awkwardly for a bit and caught up and she said that she wanted to mail me a book she got signed for me 4 years ago since she was cleaning out her apartment. Is it really that simple? She has never been open about her feelings, and takes every chance she can get to misdirect you from her true intentions. And yet still every few years she calls me. What are all the different reasons a girl would do that?

I have always felt that I loved her more than she could ever loved me, so I know I am prone to be overly hopeful. But maybe I'm completely wrong and she has loved me all along, and has had just as much difficulty over the years letting go of me. Or maybe she really is just sending me a book and I'm reading into it too much, pun intended.

I can only go based on what you shared. So I don't know what exactly was going on in the past for the relationship to not be 100% ideal, but a good chance is that much of your troubles was due to your age. No matter how mature you both thought you were, both of you were attempting to have a successful relationship at an age when your brain wasn't completely done growing and maturing. The prefrontal lobe isnt done growing until mid twenties so more like 25, 26 at which point people will have grown in character, changed some or changed alot and make much more mature decisions.

Just because the feelings you have are still there does not mean it could be an ideal relationship at this point in time. So don't get your hopes up because she contacted you.

Every female is unique, My reasons for keeping in touch with an ex boyfriend may be very different from hers. So guessing on my part or yours is going to be useless.

This line here stands out to me: I have always felt that I loved her more than she could ever loved me.
I don't know if either of you ever brought up this possibility in a question to each other,
but is it possible that she truly loves you as a friend but the chemistry for a romantic love as well, is missing on her part. You feel it but she doesnt.
If this is the case, then this explains her behavior pretty clearly to me.
She could have been so afraid of losing you as her best friend, and realizing she didn't feel the romantic chemistry toward you as you did toward her, was afraid to make that part clear, thinking that as soon as she made her feelings or lack of same feelings clear, that you might cut her out of your life. This is a big dilemna for singles. Or she may have not been clear about how she felt because she was afraid of hurting your feelings. And no one wants to hurt the feelings of a best friend.

Then again, as you hopefully suppose, perhaps she has loved you all along and just had trouble expressing it. Maybe sending the book is an innocent thing that came up or she was looking for a reason to contact you and keep in touch.

The only way to clarify this is by calling her back and of course put it in your own words but say something like, "Your call yesterday after so many years really surprised me. I have been wondering since the call, whether way back when we dated, if you saw me as only your best friend, or if you saw me as a best friend and was also romantically attracted but uncomfortable sharing that. I am asking this now because we both are older, more mature and self confident. So did you ever have those kinds of love feelings back then and if so, do you still feel them? She shouldn't feel any pressure answering that. But if she hesitates and you are willing to be just a close friend to her but continue on looking for a mate, then let her know you are willing to be just a close non romantic friend if she still wants that.

You see, people have not just the sexual needs but the emotional needs to be met. Some people dont find both in the same person. She may just need you as the emotional support friend just as she would as close girl friend. I can think of several people right now, that I know, where both sexes need the emotional support from someone of the opposite sex and the ages vary from young to those my age range ---in the fifties.

Since the real reason the two of you didn't stay together was the distance, the only way to even consider pursuing a relationship with her at this point if she felt the same as you do, would be if the two of you lived close enough to each other to do so. Otherwise it would be unfair to each other to try to pick up the relationship if there is no time for each other cus relationships need the time together put in or it won't work.

Most women don't purposely misdirect a guy from how they truly feel. Women are for the most part, all emotionally based. Perhaps she grew up in a family that was not into showing and confessing their love. No hugs, no kisses either. I've known a couple. It's possible.
So my advice would be to call and bring up the subject. She is older now and likely more sure of herself but still feeling awkward as to how to bring up the subject.
You said she means so much to you that in years to come, even married with kids, you'd always be wondering.
I have read enough stories and seen enough movies where the two never confirmed their feelings, married others and in their older years as divorced or widowed folk, come across each other and find they still both felt strong love for each other and regret all those years they could have spent to together is now lost.

So don't continue with your life until you get an answer to that question in your mind,and know whether or not there is a great love for you in her heart as more than just as friend. Marriages are better if the mate is your best friend first.
Otherwise you will be always wondering and your heart never able to settle and heal.

One last thing, people do have their own love language. There was a famous book written by a Gary Chapman, although a Christian author, what he writes about applies to every living human on the planet, it has nothing to do with Christianity. You can find alot on the web about the different ways people recognize that a person loves them, that we tend to show our love to others in the same way we like to be shown love, but how they need to be shown is not the same love language you are speaking.
So for example, if giving gifts is her love language with a close second of 'quality time together' but your way of wanting to have love confirmed is 'words of affirmation' (including being told what she appreciates about you and she loves you) and physical touch, such as hugs, snuggling, kisses, shoulder rubs, playing with her hair, you will give those love hints to her but she may not pick up on it because what she is looking for is gifts given by you as a sign of your love, along with spending the day at the beach (quality time) So often that can be the problem with a couple not recognizing the love of both for each other. The trick is to show love in the way they need to see it, not the way you need to receive it. Here's one link to the love languages and you should be able to find more including tests you can take online to determine what your love language is.

http://marriage.about.com/cs/communicationkeys/a/lovelanguage.htm

Good luck!

So I'm 15 and yes I know that I have not experienced real love yet with a boyfriend. When I'm in a relationship I never say I love you first because frankly I don't know how to tell if I even love them, so when they say I love you I just say it back. Which I know isn't right and I should be upfront about my feelings, I just rather not break someone's heart. When do you finally realize what love is and how do you know if you truly actually love someone ? Any advice is welcomed, thank you for anyone who answers my question.

First I want to commend you for being so mature...and also for asking a good question...one that a good majority of people also never figure out themselves but instead of asking around and taking notes, they bumble on and experience much pain or awkward experiences.

This is going to be long because you deserve a full complete answer and that can't be done in short form

Second, I want to address what a person means when they say I love you. More often for the female, we know there have to be feelings there to feel love. To a female, love isn't trivial in a relationship. You don't love a guy for example, the same way you love a favorite food, favorite rock group, etc... The word love is being used to state how strong your interest is in particular item. A human being is more complex than an object. There can be many things to love about a person and also some things to not love. Girls seem to get that so if they really like a guys sense of humor for example, they usually don't say I love you but I love your sense of humor. You can always make me laugh. Here, love was used but the female differentiates if it is an object or thing she loves. Guys don't always use the word in the same way. So guys fail to clarify and girls often make the mistake of assuming he meant loving the whole girl, not one aspect.
So heres what you say when you have a guy say he loves you.
If a man said he loved me, I responded with "What is it about me that you love?" This will get you a good clarification real quickly. If he mentions a couple of your traits or talents he loves...thank him for noticing. And thats it, you dont need to say anything more unless you want to tell him aspects of him that you love too. Either you like the thing about him, but it's okay if he didn't have it. Or, the aspect you are commenting on is something that you must have in a guy, need/want it so when you comment, it is much more important to you so you describe it as love rather than like.

Now if when asked what he loves about you, a guy says everything. You can chuckle and say, That's quite a broad statement. You dont have to give examples of it all at once but I would be interested to hear what some of those things are as you recall them. Put on the spot, a persons mind can go blank. If he describes things he sees in you that are things equally important to you, observe him closely to see if he has those things in his makeup too, if so, then he will make a good close friend. If feelings develop, a chemistry, romantic attraction, then he is a good prospect for a dating partner or depending on ones age, a marriage partner.

Questioning a guy as I gave example of is not going to break his heart. If he is that insecure really, it is not a good idea to have him as anything other than a friend and not go the dating route. If a guy again professes to love you, and you don't have the same feelings, then say so. "I dont have the same feelings for you. I like you much as a friend but the romance/chemistry part is missing. This happens with people at any age, from teens into the golden years. One person develops deep feelings and the other doesnt. You cant go along with, pretending just to not hurt feelings because its not fair to him and not to you either. He may be elated for a short while but as time goes on and you never respond romantically, a person can tell. One example, its the difference between kissing the girl and her accepting the kiss, or him kissing her and her responding back.

Thirdly, I will now answer what are the signs to look for, a tangible way to recognize when you love someone or they love you.

I found the following test from a male relationship expert, a test to know if a guy loves you. He was intending it for older women in long term relationship or marriage but it also works for young people. It also applies just as much to the female, who should be exhibiting the same signs that she loves the guy.

Point number 4 is about sex. So if as a teen you are not sexually active yet, the way you know a guy is not thinking only about himself, is that he is not pressuring you to have sex with him but you can clearly see signs that he does get aroused by you, and there is both tenderness and passion in kisses, but he also is leaving the control of anything sexual between you in your hands to proceed as you are ready. He is able to control himself when offering a neck or back rub and it doesnt proceed to something more because his intent foremost is clearly to help you work some stress knots out because he loves you and is not going to ask for anything more if he becomes aroused from touching you.

I will post the test I reworded with my own examples. At the end I will add one more thing I know shows a true love for another.

7 Questions to know if he really loves you

1. Does he say I love you. For some, it's a hard thing to say but they show it to you in other ways. When he says “I love you”, he is viewing that as a commitment to you. It is not a flippant phrase.
Saying I love you too early like during first couple dates is a warning about the guy. Its a very good chance he is needy and wanting a woman to be his mom. Other phrases from a guy count too, like you're awesome, I adore you. You're the woman I always dreamed of.
2. Does he make you a priority in his life? Guys have more than one priority...things very important to him but you should be one of top 3.
What he does for you or how he acts can't be faked easily because it's hard to lie with your body. Things he does without having to be asked, making dinner, picking up something for a collection you have, making time for you, even if it's a walk or a long phone chat. If the guy likes you, he'll make time for you at least a quarter of the time.
3 Does he tell friends about you and like to show you off? Have you been introduced to his family and friends? If he keeps you separate, he's hiding something or ashamed or fearful of something
4. Does he care about your pleasure during sex? Is he only into seeking his own pleasure or your's too. Does he open his eyes and want to have both your eyes connect while making love?
5. Does he respect and encourage you? Respect means, does he value your opinion, do you share decisions and treats you as a partner. Are you encouraged by him to have your own friends and hobbies outside the relationship and encourage you to seek your dreams and uphold you in that.
Jealousy is not love, it's control. It's okay to be protective, but jealousy shouldn't be what prompts the protectiveness
6. Do your friends and family like how he treats you? Others make a great gauge for judging a guys character.
7. Does he look at you with lust and passion in his eyes, with a hunger and thirst for you? Does he give you admiring looks, does he still want to sneak peeks down your shirt. What he sees is Very important since guys are visually stimulated. If he isn't looking anymore, he has lost his interest. All men because of this natural trait, will also view other women but do so discreetly, without being an ass about it. Don't expect a man to look at only you. If he doesn't look at other women at all, it may be a sign that he is gay. You do want a man who is visually stimulated by women.

How many points are true for you with your guy?
7 true He treats you as a Queen and he is an exceptional man
5-6 true He loves you. Just don't focus on what is lacking.
3-4 true He loves you enough to make the relationship work for him. If it's enough for you, then be content. If you feel like you're settling for less, let him go and look for something better.
1-2 true He's a douche-bag, a user or controller. Leave immediately.

With my husband,we both rate a 7 with each other. This is my 2nd husband. the first was a douche-bag.
Here is something else we both feel and experience with each other that I believe shows how much we love each other:
Whatever we are doing, whether something mundane like chores or whatever, we both find that even the normally boring, tedious, or just ordinary daily things feel more special if we are sharing the experience together. In other words, the world is a happier rosier place just because I am in his life and him in mine doing everything together. Even if running out for a couple items at the grocery, neither of us prefer to go by ourselves but wish to go with each other. Not that we won't go ourselves if we have to, but given a chance, we are always together.

So if a guy can't stay away from you for long and is always trying to find more time to be in your presence, even if its a chore/like going grocery shopping with you and your mom, if a guy wants to be around you for the simple ordinary times in life as well as the special events, then its a good sign he is in love with you, not just loves you but in love. This is the lasting kind of love.

So I was taking a walk with my boyfriend in the woods about a week ago. I was wearing sneakers and black tights.
I never sat down and I don't recall walking on grass. I was just squating at one point because I was watching a snail.
The thing is that I suddenly felt a sharp pain on my leg. I didn't think much of it and just figured that some insect bit/stung me, but I wasn't worried.
Then, a day later, it started to itch and get red. It looked similar to a tick bite (a red/blueish circle around the bite) but the thing is that I am really sensitive. I had a mosquito bite a few weeks ago and it looked awful. So I'm really not sure if this is a tick bite. The redness went away and now I just have a small dot where the insect bit/stung me. I read that you usually don't feel tick bites so I'm confused because this looked really similar to one. It's almost gone now and it only itches if I touch it. Should I be worried or could this have been another insect?

The Center for Disease Control has a website that covers info regarding Lyme disease that can come with a tick bite. I will attach the website. If you do not have any of the symptoms they list of Lyme disease, then you have nothing to worry about. Not all ticks carry the disease so a bite from non carriers will look like and react much like a mosquito bite. If you do get symptoms, see a doctor immediately for treatment.

http://www.cdc.gov/lyme/signs_symptoms/index.html

I have 3 dogs(Poodle/Shitzu mix, Miniature Schnauzer, and Yorkie), 3 cats, and recently got a rabbit(Flemish Giant).

I have brick house, including a main floor, upstairs, attic and a basement, built in 1905. We know factual story's of Murders and have heard other things such as odd or even supernatural happenings in the house and have experienced some ourselves.

The Cats tend to have no problem with any locations within the house, But the dogs refuse to go in the basement.

They are fine in any other location of the house (though they hesitate to go in the attic, they will go up there), but the basement. Brittney (The mix)follows my Mom everywhere, but the basement.

The Yorkie wont go down unless you carry him and then immediately runs back up.

The Schnauzer refuses to go down there at all and if you carry/drag him down, he immediately runs back up like the Yorkie, only he only goes up the top few steps backwards. Always has and he wont any other way.

The rabbits pen is in the attic, where my sisters room is, but we let him on the main floor during the day. And he freaks out whenever you carry him near the attic steps, and if he escapes from his pen he always runs down the stairs away from the attic.

I'm not sure why this is, I guess it could be supernatural, but doubt it. I would like to know if there are any other reasons someone could think of.

I am confused by their behavior, and it would be great if someone could tell me anything, even if it's just a theory.

Thanks

Cant say if it is supernatural in essence, but I do know that animals are able to pick up on these sorts of things.Perhaps there is just a negative energy left behind.

In support of there being something that humans are unable to pick up on:
I can see one dog afraid/a phobia of stairs and another with a fear of dark places if the basement is dark, but all of them with the same issues?

Also, if it were just a fear of stairs, then the dogs should be happy anywhere once you have carried them there, but that is not the case, they take to the stairs themselves to flee.
Perhaps the animals are all copying each others behavior of acting out their natural fears until all of them exihibit the same behavior.
If all the steps in the home are very narrow, not able to take a full human foot or higher difference between steps than a standard staircase, that could cause them to have fears.

If the dogs for example grew up in this house, they should be used to what is residing there that has always been there, cus that they will see being part of the place. If this is a recent move to this home with dogs that didn't have this problem elsewhere but all of a sudden do with the new home, then something is up.
I do happen to believe that there is such a thing as negative residual energy that can be left behind and a person sensitive can pick up on it and perhaps their mood even affected by it since they are empaths in nature.
I do believe that there is such a thing as ghosts which I believe to be earth bound souls who for some reason never went into the light. In many case, a soul could have met with such unexpected death that they don't know they are dead so their soul continues to live in the house they were in and some will live peaceably with humans and others won't and resent your presence at which point they do things to irritate you enough to get you to leave and of course, any souls while still living who were the hateful, negative people who lived to steal, kill and destroy may be too afraid of Gods judgement so they do not go into the light and continue on earth as very negative souls bent on really trying to scare people.
If the incidences the people in the house have experienced are not a problem and not harmful to the family, then dont worry. Your pets know who family is so maybe they see these others they pick up on as strangers in the house and therefore have a fear.
Your pets are just not going to have a happy life in that home. So it really depends how into your pets you are whether you are extremely concerned about their mental welfare or not.
I would think the thing to do, whether you really believe it or not is to contact any groups in your area that deal with the supernatural, searching for presences in homes who are able to see, feel and talk to the earth bound souls if any. One group does it with equipment and you have seen shows about such groups like ghost hunters. They are more science bound, able to prove something but not able to help the situation any. I have a close friend who has giftings to see what the human eye cant, like your pets, she can see my angels, and she can see hers and anyones loved ones souls who have passed on and she can see ghosts. She is called upon at times to come check out a place to determine what the situation is there and talk to the spirit/soul and help them go to the light, to God/Heaven. This is the basic premise of that show Ghost Whisperer. Just because there is such a show doesnt mean such an event has no base in reality. Many shows were created because of idea's that sprouted from real life situations.
If it becomes an issue for the family as well as the pets, robbed of your peace of mind, always edgy, stressed, frightened out of ones wits, then you may have to seriously search for someone who can help. I am talking of a person with psychic abilitys. nOt all are quacks. Check the person out, to see if others have been helped and will talk to you. Dont just go with someone who claims they can help. Same as you would check out a doctor specialist.
Right now, it doesnt sound like you have to do anything. If you love your pets, you may consider not forcing them to go near the basement or attic. Stress over time will bring illnesses to animals as easily as it does to humans. And I am sure you don;t want that for your pets.

what is the difference between non polariazed and polarized glasses? i really don't know what that means and if it makes any difference? help?

I put in a search with the words of your title. Got one on polarized vs non polarized but not a test done on oakley sunglasses. However whatever brand names, the same pros and cons should apply for each type. Here is the website:

http://www.shadesdaddyblog.com/polarized-vs-non-polarized-lenses-myths-and-truths/

ok so last school year one of my friends told me that she heard this girl and my friends ex(bf at the time) say that he was thinking of making out with someone and he said i like her last name and that was my last name and then the girl said well she has a boyfriend and he will kick your ass and plus her and your gf are friends and he said ya i know and im scared that since he didnt do it last year he will do it this year and school starts in like a week also i kinda want him to do it so i can get revenge on my friend cuz she stole my ex bf twice (same guy too) so what should i do

If your heart is bent on revenge, I can not help you. If you want to look at other options of ways to view this situation, and how to respond, that you may not have thought of, then I'd be glad to try. Please read on:

One thing to realize is that pretty much all women will act territorial towards a situation that involves a guy they like or are dating, regardless if that guy really likes them back or not.
So you will feel it and so will your girlfriends.
The problem is we tend to sometimes put a claim of 'ownership' on a person (he belongs to me) and therefore get angry when it seems someone 'stole' that person away. We really can't own rights to another person and yet throughout society we see people reinforcing this belief. We have all sorts of rules and vows to protect our hearts because when 'ownership' is involved on people instead of objects, in this situation jealousy becomes involved.
If a guy were truly interested in you and develops feelings for you, (other than lust of raging hormones and wanting to make out, have sex) then that guys interest in you would remain as long as the two of you have things in common, have similar tastes, beliefs, hopes and dreams, etc and both treat each other like a best friend with added benefits of romance, then that guy can not be stolen away to begin dating another girl.
This principle works from the teen years on, through out our lives, at any age.

Since you can't own him, that means he has a right to change his mind and do something different. This is the only unfortunate thing in dating. One had interest and the other did not. After a divorce in later years, I can say this stuff still happens. The girls who tend to get upset with guy or the girls who they began to date instead, develop a reputation for being clingy, demanding, controlling, drama queens with no self confidence and THAT will turn a guy off about you SO fast it would make your head spin. It will turn off potential new boyfriends.

Guys want a woman who understands that she does not own him... but is secure in who she is, knows what she wants and doesnt want in a guy and therefore would not be hanging out trying to date a guy who doesnt know how to keep a commitment, doesnt know how to be a man of his word, isn't afraid of showing his feelings and affection, is good at communicating, etc... all the good stuff. If a girl choose a guy who is all the good stuff, AND they have alot in common and she knows from how he treats her and what he tells her that he loves her personality, her smile, laugh, humor, her hair, eyes, everything...then she would not have to live in worry for the day that some other girl will steal him away.
In teen years, we date for fun and social reasons, but the best way to look at dating is as it being a way for girls and guys to form an opinion of what they like and what they won't tolerate in a guy. Many males are too immature to handle dating from that point of view yet because they are led more by their sexual urges. If all you want as a girl is to take care of those urges in you too, then thats all your' getting, a sex partner, not a boyfriend. Also in dating, a relationship does not last forever because it is a learning process and you can't make comparisons to see what you like for a future long term partner or marriage partner. Yes, it starts now.

You mentioned being scared. You don't have to be scared if you can know for sure why you are dating and what you are looking for and what to do if the guy isn't right for you. So I will now explain the fundamentals of the dating process....listen close cus this part will help you for the rest of your life, starting now.

Dating is for determining if there is interest beyond basic attraction, discovering more about the other to determine if you like and can handle their personality traits, and whether there's enough in common, or evidence of destructive habits or tendencies in the other that would harm you emotionally and/or physically and kill the relationship. Depending on what you discover, you either continue dating the person and take it to the committed couple level or you break up.

Dating is more about learning what you do and don't like in a guys character and the same for him. Its a time of making comparisons. Seeing what is lacking in a current partner that you would like to have, or something that they do, or ways they treat you that are disrespectful or hurtful emotionally or physically as in being abusive or violent. When you come up against things like that, you need to decide if you will settle for less or move on to the next dating partner, hopefully always shooting for someone a step better in some area. Make a list of the qualities you like and remind yourself with another list of the qualities you dont like or must avoid because they are harmful to your well being. Review it and update it often through out the years.

If you break up, you look for the next dating partner, always trying to find someone a step better than the last partner, basing your choices for the new person on traits you discovered in the last person that you liked enough to look for in the next person, while at the same time avoiding the other things that you won't tolerate.
If all is going well and you develop some serious feelings for each other, you take the relationship from just dating to the committed couple level. At this level, depending on your age, you are dating each other exclusively or if adults, moving in together or getting married.
If you find you keep having the same issues, no matter which guy you date, either you never learned from the past relationship, or perhaps more of the issues are with you and you need to be honest with yourself as to what issues you need to work on within yourself before you can make a good dating partner. I can't begin to stress how helpful having a list of what I liked and wanted and needed in a guy was to me in finding my 2nd husband. It should work just as well at any age, including high school dating too.

hi, i have a friend...and she's ugly

All you did is state your opinion in a statement but you did not ask a question. If you actually had a question, please try again.

My grandma bought me a bunch of nail polish and I don't really know how to do it I was wondering if anyone has some tips?

My only tip is in regards to the problem when painting with your non writing hand. I don't have as fine skills on that hand and get polish on the skin a little around the edges. So I use a q-tip dipped in nail polish remover to slowly remove any polish that went over the edges onto the cuticle where I didn't intend. Give each coating plenty of time to dry. The older a nail polish is, the longer it takes to dry and can go on too thick. Even a bottle you just bought can be already old. So if you have those problems too often with one bottle, toss it and get another. Always have fresh new polish to work with. And it just takes practice. I have used undercoats and over coats on nail polish and never noticed any difference.

So about two days ago my friend Olivia asked me to prank text her friend Brandon. She sent me the prank message and I sent it to him. I got in trouble, she got in trouble, we apologized to Brandon. It was stupid on my end and I shouldn't have done it and I feel bad. Olivia got her phone taken away because of it but before her mom took her phone she posted a screenshot of the message on Instagram with this caption: getting my phone taken away for six weeks because me and Laura (I'm Laura by the way) decided to prank a guy who scares too easily... Idiot...." Why would she post that?! I'm so mad because now the entire school knows what we did. I feel so sad and embarrassed about it too because we really scared the boy we texted. She doesn't care though because according to her mother this isn't the first time she's persuaded a friend to do something like this. I can't text/call her about it because she doesn't have her phone. Can't go to her house either, I don't know where she lives. How do I get her to take the post down???? I'm a good girl, I usually don't do things like this and I've only gone to this school for about a months I this is sort of people's first impression of me so now anyone who saw the post will think I'm an asshole! What do I do? And after this is all over should I sot talking to Olivia???

Your 1st question is the title, Is she bad for you?
Maybe. Teens don't always make the best choices and hardly ever think of the consequences of any decision or action they take. Lots of that is due to the fact that the pre frontal cortex of the brain doesn't complete growing until people hit age 25 or so. So we all do things we later regret. In most case this just 'comes with the territory' so to speak of being a teen. However you did say that her mom says she has done this sort of thing before. So perhaps, its not dumb choices, but willful disobediance since mom knows and most likely has told her not to and taken the phone away as punishment...the consequences to her actions.

Your next question...why would she post that. If she were embarassed or felt bad about her actions and had a conscience, she most likely wouldn't post for all to see. My guess is she doesn't care who see's or knows or what they think, perhaps she see's life as just a game to play, or perhaps she is showing off, bragging for all to know she did something bad enough to get her phone taken away. Any of those possibilities spell out the fact that she would not be the best option for a friend.
How do you get her to take the post down? You can't. You spelled out all the reasons why you're unable to contact her and the fact that she doesnt have her phone means she doesnt have a way to take the post down.
Apparently, the consequence for you of participating in the prank is total humiliation and embarassment.
The fact that you have written us and told of what you did and feel bad for it, tells me you'll think twice before doing something even remotely similar, that you have a conscience, you truly do care, you're sorry for your actions, that you learned from it, and like you said, that you are a good girl.

I can understand the worry of what impression you are making on the students especially since you are new there, thinking the worst, that they'll think you're an asshole and not want to associate with you. I can't say how all the kids will think.
But the best way I know to diffuse embarassment, is to be honest to the event, own up to it...and assure others you wont do that again.
You could post a message of your own on Instagram.

Something like: Hey everyone, it's me the new girl. I don't want you to get the wrong idea about me so I want to say something to make things clear. The post from "your friends name here" that says she and I did that prank...well it's true and I so wish I could go back in time cus this time I would not do it. I just want badly to make new friends and didn't really think it through so I just did what she asked and now feel badly about it. So I want to publicly apologize to 'the boys name' and assure you that if you decide to give me a chance as a friend, that I will not ever treat you like that cus I learned my lesson."

Of course it can be way shorter, and should be in your own words but admitting what you did and that usually you're a great person and this is your only big offense toward another student should help.
One thing that can happen is the other kids will think you're pretty brave to fess up. Denying it or trying to cover up by having the post removed won't help you look any better to others.
It'll soon blow over and everyone will forget the event and life will go on.
Good luck dear.

Hi! I'm 13 and my boobs have developed, I have tits but no nipples. My nipples pop out only sometimes, but not all the time and when they do pop out its usually the left side.

Is this bad!!! Should I see a doctor!! Is this normal!! When will I get nipples!!! Please help!

Don't worry, you're normal. Just as there are many size's and shapes or boobs, there are many sizes and shapes of nipples.

And yes, some can be flat or inverted, meaning, they stay buried inside and don't pop out.

Also, it is also quite normal for one nipple or breast to develop differently than the other.

My youngest daughter has one breast that is noticeably smaller than her other and she is now early 20's so thats what she'll have forever. And no...it doesnt prevent a girl from ever finding a boyfriend. Her boyfriend doesnt mind.

I have a website for you to check out. It contains photos of what is considered normal breasts and the photos are submitted by mostly teens and young women tho there are some by nursing moms and it proves that there is a wide variety to what is considered normal differences in breast and nipples. Each female who submitted a photos tells a little of their story. Even the ones who did not have two exactly the same, or were almost flat, each said they had boyfriends or husbands who loved their breasts just as they are, no complaints.
Here is the website:

www.007b.com/breast_gallery.php

Ok um a virgin my bf cam outside my virgina can i still be pregnet ?? But he dident put it in me :(

Depends on how close to the opening on the outside the cum was. Sperm doesn't live long outside the mans or the womans body. But it doesnt take much effort to travel a short distance and get inside where it had a chance of surviving and can travel across the skin in any wetness, his or yours.

So yes, a girl can be pregnant, even if there is no penis in vagina sex. All it takes is your scenerio, or ejaculate of his hand/fingers or on yours being transfered to the vagina by fingers.
So if you plan to be having sex pretty consistantly, you see now that a condom doesnt cover all possibilities. Best plan is to go to Planned Parenthood and get on birth control to make sure you dont get pregnant.

So I'm a girl and I guess you could call me a nerd (I don't really like that word but I suppose it works....) I wear jeans and tshirts almost everyday (I'll wear something different on occasions, but my normal style is just easy), I'm really smart in school, I sit in the back of the class and draw or read, I watch scifi shows and the history channel. I just can't find anyone compatible with me and I've never had boyfriend. I know it's not good to change myself, but I kinda want to get some more interests that I can talk to people about, so what can I do to be less of a "dork"?

I will turn that question on you to help answer it.

If you could wave a magic wand and have an instant boyfriend, what kind of guy would you be attracted to and like?

I am quite sure that you would not be attracted to every guy in school for the simple reason that none of them are a like in looks, personality, characteristics, their likes, beliefs, goals, etc...

The same with girls...they are all different and unique. Therefore, not every guy is going to be attracted to you. It stands to reason that you most likely be looking for a guy who likes to dress casual, is a good student, creative, likes sci-fi, fantasy, history. And a guy like that is going to be looking for a girl like you. The thing is, in middle school and high school, these types of guys just don;t have the courage to approach a girl yet. Even in college some still have trouble approaching the opposite sex. Give them time, eventually guys will start seeking you out. Or the option is to go after them first.
Which guys do you know who always get high grades that you have an attraction to? Which guys are into computers and tech stuff, into sci fi, show more an interest in history class or science class than in others? They are out there, theres lots of em. The preppy popular sort end up in time to be the smallest group of people. Everyone who was in between groups ends up in your group, which isn't dorky, but is the average type of personality with some differences in what our favorite hobbies, likes, pastimes are.

I do not advise you to attempt to act as something other than you are to appear less of a 'dork' as you call it. When people pretend to be someone they are not, the person they attract may be attracted only to their fake self, not who they really are inside and eventually that fails because the truth will come out. OR people don't know why but they pick up vibes that you are not being real, false in some way and they go out of their way to avoid you so in the end, not being yourself and pretending to be less yourself can push people away.
Its always best to be yourself.

Lately, I have been having a gut feeling that my husband may be big curious or even gay. In the very beginning of our relationship (been married almost three years together almost 4yrs.) He admitted that when he was younger a friend and him were playing around and the friend ended up giving him a Blow***. I asked him then if he was gay or if he would do it again. He said no. Keep that in mind. A few months back my husband his friend and I started going to the gym. My husband is a man who is in and out of the shower, 7 minutes top! Every time the two went in there they would take ATLEAST 30 mins. I take long showers I would take one myself in the girls room and would still have to wait. I have asked my husband and he said he would just wait for him. Now his friend on the other hand, let's just say if you met him you would think he had sugar in his tank. I live in a small country town and my female friend said her husband had sex with a man before. People in this town including his family say he may be gay or curious as well. For a week now my husband and I are not talking, because I feel like I am being lied too when I ask him if he is gay or bisexual. I can work with bisexual, I just want to know so we can both have safe sex. He still says NO. I don't want to think that I am over thinking everything but I don't want to end up like my husbands mother, lied to and turn out that my husband is bisexual or gay. IDC what he is, I just want to know. I have told him how I felt and how its okay to like other men. I just don't know anymore. I won't let my husband touch me nor look at me because I feel like I am being lied too. I even talked to his friend and asked in a mature matter. I was not disrespectful nor did I just pop the question are you gay? Or what's going on with my husband and you. I explained my reasons first then asked. His friend says he's not gay.

Ask yourself this:
In your 4 yrs together, has he ever said or done anything to break your trust and show that he is not a man of his word, that he lies or skirts the truth?
If so, then this could be where your feeling he is lying comes from. When trust has been broken, it's very hard to re build and takes longer than the first time.
If he has never done anything to indicate he cant be trusted when he answers a question from you or anyone else, then perhaps it's not a matter of trust issues at all.

Another question to ask your self: Is the sexual orientation the only area that I don't trust himin, or do I also not trust him in other area's?
The reason for this question is to discover why if he is untrustworthy in other areas, that of all the area's you can't trust him in, why is this the only one you are writing to us about?
Is it really a matter of him being a liar, or perhaps you are not as Okay as you are trying to convince us and yourself that you are about him possibly being bi sexual.
I am sorry to have to put that in here. Not trying to accuse you of anything, just have to cover every possible angle to help you get to the bottom of this. We are living in a society where bias's are frowned upon, where we are expected to be open minded and friendly and accepting of all different lifestyles, sexual orientations and religions. That can add pressure on us to have to speak and act as if we are okay with it, inclusive of all, even if we are just not quite there yet.
People can pick up vibes, the invisible energy coming from others so that even if reassured, we are okay with their lifestyle and choices, our vibes and energys say otherwise. Perhaps the husband is picking up on negative vibes from you being the cause of him not speaking to you now. Or the not speaking could come from not having your trust and constant questioning.
That can easily kill a person's interest in another and eventually kill their love just as easily as verbal abuse does because if he is telling the truth, then talking to him as if you are still suspicious of him, can cause his love for you to start dying.

I did pick up something in what you wrote. You often used the words I feel... not I know, or I believe. If you had solid proof, you'd have said I know. If you came across instances and occurances that seemed suspicious to you (such as the examples you gave) then your mind could have formed a 'belief' that it was happening. You did your homework and checked with his friend also.
However instead you used the word feel, I feel... several times which has me guessing that it may be nothing more than a feeling which can come from emotions and emotions are stored and come from our subconscious minds. And herein is where your problem may lie. Your conscious mind is okay with bi curious or bi sexual. Your subconscious mind being emotional is always going to be in a mode of protecting your heart and your feelings. It took in the memory and facts of what happened to your mother in law and there fore is on constant alert, trying to prevent yourself from being hurt. A counselor may be able to work with you and help you if he is innocent and it is just your subconscious mind fearing the worst and there fore in a constant state of distrust.
You can try giving your subconscious mind pep talks. Right now it is at war with your conscious mind and in its attempt to defend you from a perceived threat, to protect your heart, may in the end, actually end up breaking your heart by the marriage breaking up eventually. All because of a subconscious mind running crazy, like a little child out of control. Believe me, its more common to people than you would think. The goal is to have the two minds working together peacefully towards a common goal and sometimes that means the subconscious mind with all its feelings need to take a back seat to the leading of the conscious mind.

Here's another way to look at it in a more pessimistic way:
If there is a chance that he will later confess to being bi sexual and break your heart with the lies, or if there is a chance he is innocent and decides to leave you because the marriage isn't unified cus of your distrust and doubt in him, then your heart will be broken in that case too.

So if your heart can be broken both ways, doesnt it make sense to give him the benefit of trusting him, apologizing for how you've acted and taking the chance that he is straight, not lying and in love with just you, so that your marriage can continue on in bliss? Any other choice will take you down to a path of broken heart and life for sure.
I wish you the best dear.

Hey guys. By just the subject, you already know what this is about. And I know there are a lot of stuff I can find on the internet, but I personally want to ask here because I was once helped by people here regarding this relationship.

I got back with him, but then I felt like it was a bad decision. We've had great times, but this last situation really pit a dent in our relationship. Well, he wasn't all patient with me being cautious with other girls around him, so he just maybe snapped and decided to "be done" with me. I made a letter for him because I've been thinking of breaking up with him sooner because I don't want to hurt him even more and that it's what my heart and my brain says. The tone of the letter was supposed to be about a good break up, but since he's probably annoyed with all my jealousy stuff (but it's actually being worried he might replace me, not exactly jealousy), it'll be different. But I still asked him to read it, so he knows what my feelings are.

But, what I'm getting at is, what do I do now? How do I move on? I mean, you guys might say "he's just from the internet, you'll get over him easily." I'm afraid not. Because I really loved him even if we have never met. I've had relationships before, but he's different and I don't know what to do now, how to move on, or even where to start. I hope you guys can help me.

I'm a 21-year old girl, btw.

Just to clarify things, jealousy is like an indicator light on a cars dashboard saying something is wrong and needs help. So jealousy isn't something to feel terrible for feeling. But once felt, you must go introspective and be honest with yourself, no lying to yourself allowed or you won't go successfully through the process of taking care of the original issues inside you that caused it. Lots of times, it has to do with correcting the way we are thinking by understanding better what dating is about and what it's not etc...
You stated (but it's actually being worried he might replace me, not exactly jealousy)

I can understand if there isn't a particular girl with a face and name that you are jealous of, but that doesnt mean you are not feeling jealous of the woman he and you don't know that may end up meeting him and causing him to choose them over you. Jealous is a fear of loss. You are fearing losing him. I am not saying that however you behave when with him is totally inappropriate cus I really don't know. You sound pretty mature in understanding you may not be perfect at times and that is a good place to start from. I also dont know the guy. He may not understand females at all and the differences of females from males may be something that just irritates him and causes him to withdraw. I understand having worry when I don't hear from someone. And since he says this is the Real issue, lets look at that.

I know that not all guys are alike. You may see many using iphones, but the truth is, for real communication, most guys don't like texting or reading facebook messages. Phone calls are better cus it doesnt involve typing and lots of guys don't even like typing, have no patience to sit and type. I know this for a fact from personal experience with many many men. I was using a dating site which helped me find my 2nd husband. But I got so many messages in my inbox. We're talking older guys now who should know better but still haven't a clue.
Nine out of ten would barely say anything, just a one liner like, "Hi, how are you doing?" or "You're really hot looking, did you know that?" I was like, Oh comeon, how am I supposed to find interest in someone who can't converse with me and share anything of real value with me so I get to know you better. My husbands 1st and only message to me was 2 pages long. He was polite, intelligent and at the end said If I am not interested in the slightest, I need not do anything. If he doesnt hear from me, he back away and become as if he never was.
Guys don't always understand females. Some are too quick to blame the female when it is communication problems on both sides, Its never a one sided thing...cus as I said, if a guy won't even talk, (one just shrugged and nodded and hardly said a word face to face!) then I wouldnt take the time of day to even consider meeting up and dating to find out more about him.
In person, the guys who are seriously trying to understand and interact in conversation with females, use face to face talk for the added help of hearing her tone of voice, watching her facial expressions and body language and picking up the vibes. It helps them to understand better or at least to venture intelligent questions and not make any assumptions. My guess is there's a chance your guy is not willing to put in the effort that some guys do to communicate and not even giving a thought to being considerate of your feelings, your worry or concern. Not hearing anything will drive anyone crazy.
If he's in such a hurry to end things, he probably never cared as deeply about you as you did him. For relationships to work, things should be fairly equal in how attracted both are, how committed both are, how much emotional attachment there is, and both need to put the same maximum effort into making it work. If it can't work in dating, it wont work magically either in marriage.

My guess is that you ran into a guy who on the outside had some things that initially attracted you. Then next step after attraction is to hang together lots, date to discover more about each other to determine if he and her can become each others best friend. If your bestest girl friends wouldn't treat you a certain way, don't hang around to accept it from a guy. It's even more important to treat each other well and get along like best of friends but with the romance and love and sexual attraction and desire to please each other. When you can find all that, you will have found the right guy for you.
Its hard to walk away when your heart made emotional connections to him. The heart eventually heals. Your conscious mind may realize this breakup is for the best. But the subconscious mind where all our emotions are stored and arise from, doesn't forget so easily or let go just because of logic. And so you will still dream at night of him, think of him, the good times and the feelings will still be strong. Give it time, and eventually your subconscious mind will catch up with the situation and be ready to love and trust again.

I have sex like 3 weeks ago in this month almost a week and I didn't have my period what am I to do the condom did not break rip or tear and he did not pre cum what am I to do I had my period last month at the beginning of this month it was irregular then it was regular that was my first time having sex am I pregnant. Help I don't want any kids now I'm to young.

I can't say if you are pregnant or not but if its as you say with the condom, then there's no chance you are pregnant.
This is more likely a case of irregular periods which are actually quite common with young teen girls When puberty hits...its actually a process the body begins to go thru so it's hit and miss for a while until it gets used to the routine. So periods can come too close together, too far apart, or not for a couple of months. The flow can be regular, heavy or just lots of spotting. I had the same problems as a teen. As long as you are taking precautions and there are no accidents, you'll be fine. If you decide to be quite regularly having sex, then you may want to consider getting on birth control. You didn't give an age but Planned Pregnancy does work with teens and it will be private info just as with any doctor. Under the hippa law, they cant give out info. on you, even to your parents so they dont need to know.

Hi, you answered my question about the guy who ignored me and I caught talking with his ex. Well last night, he texted me out of the blue saying that he missed me And he was sorry. He said he needed time To think about if this is really what he wants because he has heard from Several people that I want long term Commitment and he wasn't sure if he was ready for that, but after a few days of thinking he knows he wants it. Well, today he is back acting shady. He told me he had to go out of town for work for a week, and I asked if we could talk in person as adults before he left and he once again gave me the run around as to why he couldn't meet up with me, but would love to meet up when he got back to Try to mend things. (We live 2.2 miles away from each other; a four Minute drive.) I told him he was going to regret that because when he gets back I won't be here waiting anymore. He could either meet up before he left or be without me when he got back- and I haven't heard from him since. I just read your advice, and you made it so much more clear that ending things Permanently is the greatest choice I can make. Thank you!

Thank you for the feedback. Yes, even I give someone a second chance if they sound really sincere. But as you saw, it didn't take long to see he didn't really mean it. Good luck to you on finding Mr. Right.

21/f

I was dating a guy for 4 months and I asked him whether or not if we were exclusive. He finally admitted that he saw us as a fling and that he liked what we had and would rather continue to it even though he did not see a potential relationship in the future. I sent him a long message (for closure for my own benefit), it was everything. Everything that we had difficulty communicating and all of my thoughts, I also told him at the end that I was not willing to be a side until he found what he wanted.

Since that day, he kept trying to talk to me as if nothing happened. I barely responded to him and I was wondering if he didn't understand the point of it all. Three days ago, he messaged me telling me that he missed me and to "not convince myself that he doesn't care about me." I read it and went to sleep.

The day after he messaged me at work as if everything was normal and he tried working out the issues with me that I sent in my "closure message." I honestly did not see a point in trying to work things out and he asked me why I always had a wall up when I was with him, and I told him my story and why my wall was up. He told me that he used to feel distant from me because of it. I told him that one day, I hope to see or find someone who's worth putting my wall down for. And he told me that he wanted to stay around regardless of my wall being up, even though it made things difficult at times.

Today, he told me that he wanted to see me and he asked if I wanted to see him and I got a bit frustrated. I told him that I have told him before that I was not going to be on the side and that I had more respect for myself than that. I told him that I obviously do, but I'm not comfortable with the idea of seeing him. He said he understood and that he'll wait until I ask to see him. I told him that if he was expecting me to act the way I was a few weeks ago, I'm not going to. And that I'll see him after I've completely moved on and that if he was expecting my wall to come down for him, it's not going to because he's messed up his chance. And he told me, "okay, I care for you." And sent me a kissy face.

I'm so confused. I thought I clarified it to him already. What is he doing?

I can see that he either has no idea what he is looking for in a woman or he is just a user,looking to work a girl into giving him sex. Some gals give off vibes of having no backbone, being too meek, low self confidence, whether they truly are or not and that can be one reason he keeps trying.
The other as has been said is that you answer his messages which gives him hope. The moment you stop answering and the more days that go by without hearing from you, the more sure he will be that you meant what you said.
When he said he had another girl but "that he liked what you had and would rather continue to it even though he did not see a potential relationship in the future, I saw that as an answer of a person who has no clue what dating is for. You date long enough after intial attraction to see if you like them enough to become close friends first...like your bestie girl friend...someone close who really cares about you, really knows and understands you and would never want to hurt you, they love practically everything about you and have lots in common with you...you know...those kinds of friends. It shouldnt just apply to girlfriends, but its even more important that those standards of a best friend apply to the person you decide to date exclusively. Anthing before that is just the exploratory period.

Dating is for determining if there is interest beyond basic attraction, discovering more about the other to determine if you like and can handle their personality traits, and whether there's enough in common, or evidence of destructive habits or tendencies in the other that would harm you emotionally and/or physically and kill the relationship. Depending on what you discover, you either continue dating the person and take it to the committed couple level or you break up.

Dating is more about learning what you do and don't like in a guys character
and the same for him!!!
Its a time of making comparisons. Seeing what is lacking in a current partner that you would like to have, or something that they do, or ways they treat you that are disrespectful or hurtful emotionally or physically as in being abusive or violent. When you come up against things like that, you need to decide if you will settle for less or move on to the next dating partner, hopefully always shooting for someone a step better in some area. Make a list of the qualities you like and remind yourself with another list of the qualities you dont like or must avoid because they are harmful to your well being. Review it and update it often through out the years.
If this guy isnt a user out for sex, then This guy likely isn't trying to find one girl with all the qualities he likes, he is trying to string a whole necklace of them together where each one has 1 or 2 traits he likes that the others don't have.
He is settling for less by not moving on until he finds the person who is just right for him. In doing what he is doing, he is not fair to all the girls. He may genuinely like something about you but he doesnt find he is attracted to everything about you. Not that you are doing something wrong, just that its a matter of personal tastes, beliefs goals and such that are not the same. It is okay for couples to have some things uniquely their own separate hobbies and likes but a good majority better be in common or its a waste of your time and his.
Make the list of what you are looking for in a guy and use this to help you with the next guy you come across. On an average, when dating before I met my 2nd husband, it took anywhere from 3 dates, to seeing a guy for a week before I knew if he was going to work out for me or not. And if not, I'd politely say, I had to be sure, but I know now that I have nothing in common with you, or you can say 'there is no chemistry'. And no matter what he says or does...cut off contact with the guy forever.
Good luck dear.

I feel weird calling my boyfriend baby or babe. It just doesn't flow right. I can call him baby/babe over text with no problem but in person or over the phone it makes me cringe. I know this is petty but with my other boyfriends it came so easy and I would even forget that they had real names cause I was just always calling them baby. Does this mean anything? Or am I just reading too much into it? I'm 24 btw and I've only been dating this guy for 6 months. I dated my last boyfriend for over 2 years before he ended it in April

So since you already know what it feels like to call others by a pet name or by baby, think about whether there is anything different about the others compared to him, in looks, character, how they treat you, things in common, etc.

It may be something that misses catching your attention like being attracted to his looks but not his character. Or it may be one little thing.
I know with first husband, the calling of hon or babe faded away as he continued to treat me disrespectfully and be verbally abusive. Just a one liner like, God is that all you can come up with? or I didn't ask for your opinion so be quiet! What are you, an imbecile?
6 months should be enough time to know if there is some real chemistry between you two. If on a scale of zero or 1 to 5 he is a zero, one or two as far as having chemistry with you, that may explain why its not feeling natural to call him babe. If its 3,4 or 5, then there should be some chemistry there. If you know for sure there is, but you still dont feel like calling him that and there are no character flaws in him that could be affecting it, then dont worry about it and just enjoy him.

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