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What kind of girls to guys like?
So I'm a girl and I guess you could call me a nerd (I don't really like that word but I suppose it works....) I wear jeans and tshirts almost everyday (I'll wear something different on occasions, but my normal style is just easy), I'm really smart in school, I sit in the back of the class and draw or read, I watch scifi shows and the history channel. I just can't find anyone compatible with me and I've never had boyfriend. I know it's not good to change myself, but I kinda want to get some more interests that I can talk to people about, so what can I do to be less of a "dork"?
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First of all I don't think you're a "nerd" or a Dork." For the record I don't like those words either. You are you people can either like you or not. One thing to remember is that high school relationships last till graduation then you will all go your separate ways. Some will go off to college, some in to the military and others off to find jobs. Few if any relationships will be life long.
Yes I understand your lonely you would like to find someone or others to hang with. Reinventing yourself is not the answer as that will be seen as false and you will be even seen as more of an outcast.
What you need to do is find people who have similar interest as you do. Not other "dorks" as you put it, but people who like to do some other things you like to do.
For now the best way I know to make new friends is to find people that common interests with you. How you do that is actually very simple. You sit down with pen and paper and write down all the activities that you like to do. You say you like the Science fiction shows and the history channel. Maybe you like to knit, cook, go hiking, garden or anything else that you enjoy doing. Then you could also include volunteer activities you may want to do and your churches youth group activities.
Once you have this list number them in order of interest from high to low. Take the top 4 or 5 and look to see what activities there are in or out of school that you can join.
Once you find a club or activity that you enjoy doing this gives you a common interest with others. This gives you something other than school work to talk to others about. Once you are talking they get to know you and you them. Before you know it you have made a friend.
I'm sure there are other things you like to do other than sit home and watch TV. Try this; I have made this recommendation many times and have received back many replies that it works.
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I will turn that question on you to help answer it.
If you could wave a magic wand and have an instant boyfriend, what kind of guy would you be attracted to and like?
I am quite sure that you would not be attracted to every guy in school for the simple reason that none of them are a like in looks, personality, characteristics, their likes, beliefs, goals, etc...
The same with girls...they are all different and unique. Therefore, not every guy is going to be attracted to you. It stands to reason that you most likely be looking for a guy who likes to dress casual, is a good student, creative, likes sci-fi, fantasy, history. And a guy like that is going to be looking for a girl like you. The thing is, in middle school and high school, these types of guys just don;t have the courage to approach a girl yet. Even in college some still have trouble approaching the opposite sex. Give them time, eventually guys will start seeking you out. Or the option is to go after them first.
Which guys do you know who always get high grades that you have an attraction to? Which guys are into computers and tech stuff, into sci fi, show more an interest in history class or science class than in others? They are out there, theres lots of em. The preppy popular sort end up in time to be the smallest group of people. Everyone who was in between groups ends up in your group, which isn't dorky, but is the average type of personality with some differences in what our favorite hobbies, likes, pastimes are.
I do not advise you to attempt to act as something other than you are to appear less of a 'dork' as you call it. When people pretend to be someone they are not, the person they attract may be attracted only to their fake self, not who they really are inside and eventually that fails because the truth will come out. OR people don't know why but they pick up vibes that you are not being real, false in some way and they go out of their way to avoid you so in the end, not being yourself and pretending to be less yourself can push people away.
Its always best to be yourself.
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Honey,youre not a dork!! You sound cool!
You like Sci-Fi,drawing and reading! I was the same in school! Always drawing and doodling!
Don't ever change yourself! You are who you are dear one!!
All in unison! Headbands! Headbands look great with any outfit,like t-shirts? Head over to the thrift store and get awesome,cool graphic tees,even some that may intrest you like sci-fi ones and you can get them cheap! Have confidence in yourself! Check your library to see if they are any Sci-Fi groups or people with your kind of intrests! You will be able to meet people,and while your at it,maybe even get extra credit for school! Wheee!!
Always be you,and be true to yourself!
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