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Hi, I'm 20 and my boyfriend has a sex drive so much higher than mine. He really tries to retain himself and I appreciate it loads and I try to convince myself to be in the mood but in all honesty I very rarely think "I need sex." -In fact I never think that.
I mean, I enjoy sex when it's happening but I can't seem to get myself ready, maybe because it always hurts me at the start (I'm not a virgin and we have done plenty of foreplay but it always seems to have a bit of a sting regardless, after a few seconds it feels much better though). I don't want this to ruin my relationship as I love him greatly so is there anyway I can increase my sex drive for him? so I'm ready whenever he is??
If you are on a birth control pills, that may be part of the problem. The other part of the problem is fear of initial penetration and the pain you feel.
Both of these problem could be resolved with a visit to your gynecologist. A simple change in your birth control medication may allow you to increase your sex drive.
Then discuss with your doctor the pain you feel upon penetration. Not being a women I can't be certain if this is normal or not. So be prepared to discuss the size of your boyfriends penis, especially the head. Their is nothing to be embarrassed about in talking to your doctor about this or anything else effecting your sex life. I'm sure your doctor has heard it all before. The only way the doctor can help you is if you supply all the pertinent information.
Until you see your doctor you might try some KY jelly on the opening of your vagina or the head of his penis. This may make the initial penetration easier on you and less painful.
how do you do sex
Sex is something that comes naturally. When you are old enough to have a sex life you will know how to do it.
or not go to jail but still have your record in place?
would it be better for a 22 year old female to serve a four month sentence in county jail then have your record cleaned or not go to jail but have your criminal record in place? Both cases you have to pay restitution and probation. What is the better thing to do here? Is jail as bad as TV makes it look? Would four months in jail be worth it?
It is better not to have a criminal record if you can avoid t or have it expunged. With a criminal record there are a lot of doors that are closed to you. Jobs with security clearances, jobs that require bonding and you are required to put your criminal record on any application for any job. This could cause you to be disqualified even if you are the most qualified for the job.
Jails can be as bad as seen on TV or they can be better it depends on the Sheriff who is running the Jail. Jail is not prison. Jail is is generally run by a local Sheriff for people being detained before trial or for people with convictions for short sentences. A four month sentence may also not be a full four months due to jail over crowding. You should get time off your sentence for good behavior so your four month sentence could be three months or less.
mkay im a13yr old girl.i want a horse thats older and good with kids! but dad said no because we dont have the money! i dont know what to do i reaally want a horse
I'm sorry young lady but I must agree with Rachie. Owning a horse is not like owning a dog or a cat as a pet. The feed bill alone cost more in a month then what dad may spend for gas for his car to get to work in a year. Then you have grooming, boarding, vet bills, shoeing and other bills.
Like Razia said if you truly wish to a horse to care for and ride. Then if you live near a horse farm or stable talk with the owner ans see if you are old enough to help care for the horses. In return for helping with their care the owner may allow you to ride and to teach you how to ride properly.
If it is possible for you to help care for the horses. You will have all of the same responsibilities of owning a horse as well as the benefits without dad having the cost.
There is a lot of work that goes into caring for a horse. They need to be feed, groomed and exercised daily. Their stalls need to mucked out daily, a dirty job but it has to be done. This has to be done 7 days a week 365 days a year in the rain, snow or blazing heat. This has to be done on school days, holidays and summer vacations.
What I am saying is; horses are great animals. They can be very loving when properly cared for. They are fun to ride and can take you places that without them you might not get to on your own. What you have to give much thought to is this. Are you truly up to what it takes to care for a horse to get what you want in return?
Okay so long story short, my boyfriend of almost two years has been depressed for about a year. I helped him get into therapy and realize that his depression wasn't his fault, the whole chemical reaction in the brain thing, and hes been definitely making progress. The problem is, I think hes using his depression as an excuse to not do anything.
Part of it is he feels stuck in his current job, but he wont do anything about it. He calls me and tell me he feels depressed, wants more money, is worried about his future (hes only 21 and in college) etc etc but he wont do anything about it and no matter how much support/advice I give him it wont help. He is just afraid to fail I think. But what can I do to get him out of this funk? What can I say to him?
To certain degrees I agree with the first two columnists.
I too have suffered from depression. Two of the biggest factors of this type of depression is stress and enabling. By being overly sympathetic, which is hard not to be as your being his girlfriend want to be supportive, though being overly sympathetic is also enabling. It is a very fine line to walk as the depression he suffers also clouds how he perceives things.
Therapy alone may not be the only solution to his depression. Depression, at least in the case of clinical depression, is caused by an imbalance of or lack of one or two chemicals in the brain. These chemicals are replaced or balanced with drug therapy. Drugs that we call antidepressants.
These drugs can only be dispensed by a qualified MD. The best MD to dispense these drugs is a Board Certified physiatrist. Why a physiatrist? Because the drugs deal with chemicals tat are secreted into the brain. Family doctors are not trained to properly deal with this part of the body. A Board Certified physiatrist is. This does not mean your boyfriend is crazy, he's not. Just as a GYN is more capable of dealing with certain abdominal problems it would not mean your boyfriend was pregnant if he was treated by an OB/GYN.
If your boyfriend is not being seen by a physiatrist then I suggest you find him one. If he is being seen by one and on medication make sure the physiatrist is Board Certified in psychiatry if not find one that is.
If he is being seen by a Board Certified physiatrist then the problem may be the therapist. I went through three before I found one I was comfortable with. One I that I felt I could trust who worked at my pace and drew me out t a pace I was comfortable with. There are a lot of different was to practice psychology, it took me three attempts to find one that practiced at a level I was comfortable with.
It is not unusual to change therapists. If you are not progressing with one it is usually because of some type of discomfort with that therapist. A patient is only hurting themselves by staying with a therapist they are not comfortable working with. You may want to find him a new one.
One other thing you can do is ask to meet with his therapist yourself. In this meeting you will want to advise the therapists of your observations and ask what you can do to help. Do not expect the therapist to tell you anything that has gone on in a therapy session. They cannot that is totally confidential. What they can do is help you be supportive but not be enabling.
Living with or being supportive of someone who is suffering from depression can be very trying on their loved ones. After many years of undiagnosed depression I know realize how hard this was on my family. I now work very hard to make it up to them.
What I suggest to you is to make sure you make time for yourself to decompress and to not allow his depression to totally consume you or you will suffer too. There is nothing you can do or say to get him out of his funk. That is for the doctors. What you can best do for him is be loving and supportive but not enabling.
I hope I have helped.
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My mom was 16 when she had me. My dad didn't think it was his so he moved and only comes by on occasion. But my mom met a guy 3 years later at a party and has been with him ever since. I was quite a brat when I was younger so he broke up with my mom because of me a few times. But after a while the only way he disciplined me was by beating me. Since I was still young I figured that everyone got beat like I did. So once I started getting older and into school, I started going into school with a new bruise on my face, I had to blame it on this sport...wrestling. This sport has ruined my life. I have no social life, barely any other life than this. My life revolves around this sport. When I was a young wrestler, my mom would video tape the matches. When we got home he would make me watch them, and every bad mistake I made.... Was another blow to the face. This continued for the longest time. I began to hate this sport. Until about my sixth year I finally got good enough to start winning all the time. But now he just punishes me by making me lose weight all the time. He still hits me. I've had so many concussions in my life, idk if it was from wrestling or him. But now he says that all those beating when I was younger made me into a decent man.....I believe he only made me into a man that is afraid of life. It's gotten to the point to when he tries being nice to me and hugging me...I end up flinching instead. He jokes about it all the time. I just can't wait to move out. I'm never allowed out with my friends. He won't let me get a job. He says "wrestling is my job" well I absolutely hate this job. I want to quit, but I'm afraid of him hitting me again. I just have no clue what to do. My mom just sits back and watches and she even knows that he has cheated on her before. But I don't know what to do. I've gone into drugs, cutting myself, thoughts of suicide all the time. I just can't find anything to help me...
Your step-dads discipline is not discipline it is child abuse. No one not even a parent let alone a step parent is allowed to hit a child on the head or shoulders. Neither can the a parent discipline a child in such a manner that it leaves them bruised or scared.
Children who are abused in this manner usually lie and explain the bruises in a manner they feel another adult will accept. Such as you saying they happened in a wrestling match. This is something that is understood should you wish to tell the truth about how your step-father has been treating you.
Just for the record a parent may use corporal punishment to discipline a child. In general corporal punishment is meant to mean a hand spanking. One that does not leave bruising. Using a belt or hair brush or other such instrument crosses the line into child abuse. Corporal punishment does not mean your step-dad can punch you in the face or can even say he is teaching you how to box or wrestle. If he were to be teaching you either of those sports he would be expected to pull his punches or ease up on his holds and throws as to not injure you.
There is no statute of limitations on child abuse. If you want; you are old enough to go directly to the police and report his abuse. If you do not wish to do so yourself you can talk with a trusted teacher or school principal. Preferably someone who has seen the bruising caused by your step-dad. There are rules and procedures in place for them to follow to help you with this.
There is one other thing you can do. There is an organization called RAINN. RAINN stands for; Rape, Abuse, Incest National Network. The operate a 24/7 hour hotline you can call for help. They will find you the proper people in your own neighborhood or home town that can help you.
I'm sorry you have had to live like this, no child deserves to be treated like this. You are old enough now to make things right for yourself and bring closure to this part of your life. To get the proper help to put it behind you. RAINN can help you with all of this. Pleas call them. The hotline number is 1-800-656-HOPE.
I am 21 and finally got a job in a toystore after 18 months. I had been working there just over a month when with no warning my area manager dismissed me.
Prior to this I was given 5 full days off with no explanation and on my last day after the 5 days my sign on sheet vanished and I wasn't on the following week's rota.
The area manager called me into the office and said that I had clearly struggled and not settled in and she couldn't keep me on because I wasn't enthusiastic despite research into certain brands of toys.
I feel like I have been stitched up. What can I do?
From how you write I would have to conclude you are not from the USA. This leaves me with little knowledge of how to or what to offer in the way of help.
Here in the USA you would be called an "At Will Employee." Meaning your job is at the will of the employer and you can be dismissed at any time for any reason. There is also the fact that you were also most likely a probationary employee having worked their such a short time. In both of these circumstances an employee can be dismissed without reason at anytime.
If there is a wages and hours board to complain to you might have an avenue of complaint with them. Especially for the 5 day suspension without cause or reason. That is the best advise I can offer without more information as to where you are working. Such as country or state.
So I have this guy friend and he has asked me if I could sleep over his house, we are best friends but my mom always says " Absolutely not!". Why is she not letting me. I really want to sleep over his house but my mom is like WAY OVER PROTECTIVE. Any way I can convince her to let me stay the night. ANYTHING WILL DO! Please like HELP ME!
The two writers before me pretty much have the answers. To put it simply raging hormones plus simple biology with close proximity equals SEX.
Even if your guy friends parents are home they will eventually go to bed themselves. As the saying goes when the mouse is a sleep the mice will play. This is the time that has mom concerned.
Short of allowing mom to have you wear a chastity belt I doubt their is much you can do to change her mind. As long as you are under age and living under her roof there is little you can do to change her mind.
Im 12 years old my boyfriend proposed to me hes 17 we are inlove can I get engaged at my age ?
Short answer: NO!!!!
I cannot think of any state or civilized country will allow you two to marry. Worse is the fact that the age difference between you is illegal in most states for the two of you to even be dating. Do your parents know about you two and how old he is?
In the eyes of the law this boy is a pedophile. Someone who takes advantage of young children. You are not even a teenager yet. You may think your in love him. I think your in love with the fact that a much older boy is interested in you romantically.
You are not mature enough to understand the reasoning behind his interest in you. This is what pedophile count on and take advantage of. You are being set up to be hurt in ways I will not attempt to explain to you. I will let your parents explain once you tell them which you need to do now, today.
I know you don't want to hear this; you cannot see this boy anymore. You need to call the police and report him. You have done nothing wrong. You are a victim. If you don't report him and don't stop seeing him you will not only be hurt you will be a statistic in the crime figures. Then he will move on to another young girl. You can keep other young girls from being victims and crime statistics by telling your parents and calling the police.
Recently, I was qutie ill. I ended up in the hospital where they told me because of the massive bowel infection my heart had been attacked. My first thought was good, it is finally coming to an end.
Sometimes death if far more preferable to living in a society where:
My governmetn condones and encourages large MV Vessels loaded with crude to come down the inside passage of BC
Where a fool can go into a barber shop for a haircut and then goes to Human rights because a practicing Muslim will not touch a woman outside his family
Where dogs, kids, old people, etc are tortured on a daily basis and their torturers pay a big time lawyer who knows nothing about justice to get them out of jail.
It is your time now. I have had mine. I have refused meds and am patiently waiting for it all to be over. I just can't do this anymore.
So who is right and who is wrong?
You are in a sense mixing apples and oranges here and not making a fruit salad. What governments allow and don't allow are not always right for what appears to be the wrong reasons. At times though what seems to be wrong is right in the bigger picture that may benefit more than it harms.
When it comes to religion your country and mine try very hard not not mix church and state. For many reasons this is not always successful.
When it comes to suicide both are countries agree it is wrong and both countries agree it is against the law. There is a weird law, still on the books in the state of New York, that has suicide is punishable by death. That one does not seem to make any sense to me.
By refusing medication that could cure you or extend your life you are in a sense committing medically approved suicide. If you are a practicing Catholic then you can not have the last rights of the Church because suicide is a sin. All religions consider suicide to be a sin.
Now I am not a very religious man. Basically I am an agnostic. Which means I believe in a higher power. We will call that power a god. My belief in your case is if god wanted you to die or your time was up as you put it. Then god would not provide the means to extend your life. God would not provide the doctors with the medicine or the knowledge to save you.
The other things you speak about are wrong. Just remember one thing though. As wrong as they may be god gave us all free will. God gave the people the will to make the choices they make. In our two counties we have the free will to make changes to force changes to these wrongs. If you chose to wait for death then you have chosen to do nothing to correct what you feel is wrong. This too is wrong. If you chose to let the doctors minister to you as needed. Then you have the free will to do what is needed to correct what you and I see as wrongs by others.
So the answer remains the choice is still yours. I've given you another prospective on your views. You have the free will to view them as you please. I would hope my prospective will help you make the right choice and chose to live.
My nephew had been with a company for the last 5 years and was vested in both the companies 401k plan and profit share plan. (100%) He was let go in February of 2011. The profit share plan paid out to the employees two months later in April 2011 for the employees 2010 profit share contribution. My nephew worked all of 2010, but did not get the profit share contribution for 2010 because it was paid out after he was let go, April 2011. Should he of gotten his contribution, since he worked all of 2010?
This is a hard question to answer as it is a legal question the answer to which is based on how the plan is organized. You nephew needs to have a copy of the profit sharing plan and contact a lawyer to see if he was entitled to any share of the plan upon being discharged.
In many cases profit sharing and 401K plans are alike in that the employee takes their share with them on termination of employment. Only a lawyer can say for sure what your nephew is entitled to after reading the papers on the plans organization.
I will say this. If the company is no longer a functioning company it will be very hard to collect from a fund that no longer is funded.
*Ok,Iam going out with thiz 15 years old guy and I'am 13...He's a good guy ,he respects me and with him I have 10monthz going out with him...But the thing is that my dad doesn't trust him a lot...Jst because he doesn't know him a lot .Should I stay with him?Should I allowed my bf to demostrate my dad tht he respects me or should I brake up with him?*
Speaking as a dad and a granddad. Fathers of daughters will never fully trust his daughters boyfriends or their husbands. What is hard to understand is the fact that a boy will eventually become a man. But a daughter is always daddy's little girl even when she is all grown up and has a family of her own. This is just the way it is, part of the double standard you hear so much about.
Part of this is a man is the one who will eventually be sleeping with his daughter. A man is the one who can hurt his daughter. So fathers have an in grown distrust of men or boys who date their daughters. For you see your dad was once a boy and knows what this boy is after.
There is also the fact that at your age this boy is a little old for you to be dating him. While a 2 year age difference does not seem like a big difference, when your older it won;t be. At this time he is much more mature that you in many social ways. This is what your dad is concerned with. His biggest question is why is this boy dating a 13 year old and not someone his own age. If he was 20 and you 18 dad would not be so concerned with the age difference.
I wish I had some advice to give you, in this instance I do not. If your BF has not on his own come around to meet your parents and let them get to know him then that is another strike against him in dads book. Getting to know a girls parents is a learned social grace that your boyfriend may not have learned yet. Getting to know your dad and family at this point in your relationship, at your urging, may be an up hill battle for him. One he is unwilling to make.
The only advice I can give you is this. Being my age I'm a little old fashioned. I think teenagers your age should not be exclusively dating. You should be going out in group dates to malls, bowling, skating and such with kids your own age. This is a very important part of learning the socializing skills you need fro when you are older and can handle exclusive dating. Had you gone through this stage of socializing you would have known how important it was to your dad and family to meet the boys your dating before your started to date them.
Being 15 and worrying about school life and peer pressure, I often just go home and when its just me and my older sister at home I daydream or think about my life as an adult. I have it set out that im going to be a successful person and have money, I've looked at colleges and steps to get there. Then I start thinking of what it would be like to be a housewife someday after I've finished working. I just want to live the dream..don't we all? Sometimes I'll tune out or write songs about it, basically making sure it one day happens. I want it all but I'm afraid of the fall...I don't want to have struggles in life I want it to be perfect but I know that's definately not the case. Basically thinking like this, having pro crushes, and just dreaming keeps me calm when my life right now is really stressful and full of drama and anxiety...so am I crazy,ambitious,delusional, or it it all wishful thinking?
How about just being 15. There is nothing wrong with having dreams or being ambitious and wanting the American dream. Dreaming is part of what teenage life is all about. It is part of how you go about setting your goals in life. As long as you are able to know the difference between dreams and present reality you are not delusional or crazy.
While you are dreaming about what life will be like as an adult you can start making, written, notes in a diary or a note book of some of the things you really see yourself doing. Such as career choices.
At 15 it is almost time to start focusing in on some of the life choices you need to makes. Such as what careers you may want to have as an adult. What academics you need to have to in order to make these choices a reality. In high school you have an opportunity to take elective courses to prepare you for the colleges that offer the academic selections that will allow you to follow your career choice(s).
So no you are not crazy; you are a normal teenage girl doing what many of your peers are doing. Many of your friends are doing this though it is something not spoken about for the reason you wrote of. Fear of being seen as crazy.
This is also about the right time to start talking with your parents about your concerns for the future. Things such as what colleges they con afford to send you to. What they feel you need to do to get into a college of your choice. Remember colleges look for a well rounded individual. After school activities are just as important on your college application as your academic achievements. This is where your parents can be the most helpful to you in helping you get to your dream career.
how long does it take to die with internal bleeding to the head?
Head belleds do not always result in death. It depends on the type of bleed? How big the bleed is as a small bleed will sometimes stop on its own. What caused the bleed? Whether or not the doctors can operate to stop the bleed.
Bleeds caused by trauma are more problematic then say bleeds caused by a stroke as generally there are other systems hurt in the trauma as well. Not all strokes are fatal even if there is a head bleed. It all depends on the type of bleed and if any type of intervention can stop the bleed.
In many cases the bleed causes other problems and the patient remains in a coma for long periods of time or remains in a vegetative state. When death occurs it is from system failure and not directly the result of the bleed.
Death that is a direct result from a bleed can take anywhere from hours, days or even weeks.It all depends on the patients will to live and how hard the doctors fight to save the patient.
If you think you have a head bleed get to a hospital ER or call 911.
I need help deciding if I should move in with my dad. It hurt me physically and mentally here at my moms. But if I do move in with my dad it may hurt me too. Im really confused and I want to figure out before I go back too school Monday. Please help.
I would really like to help you but you have not supplied enough information for me to offer any advise. If it helps at all I am old enough to be your grandfather. You can also send any additional in=formation you would like to share in a private communication so only I can see it. Just select adviceman49 as your columnist and private message. Then only I and the site administrator can see what you write.
What I need to know is how your mother is physically and mentally hurting you. I also need to know how you think you could be hurt by living with your father. With this information I can then offer you advice on how or what is best for you to do.
idc i just want bigger boobs everyone says i need them so
Since you have not given your age I'll start with you must be at least 18 years of age, some doctors will ask you to wait until your in your 20"s before, they will surgically augment your breasts. The reason for this is Puberty can last into your early twenties. As long as you are going through puberty it is very possible your breasts will grow on their own. Other than surgical enhancement or using uplift or padded bra's their is no way to enhance your breast size.
Surgical augmentation is expensive. A good surgical lift will run upwards of $20,000. Anything less and you may look good in clothes but you won't like the way you look in a bikini or any two piece bathing suit. There will be a tell tail ring and hardness to your breasts from the inexpensive lifts. This is one of those things that you get what you pay for. The more you pay the better the outcome.
Should you decide that this is what you may want then you also want to chose a Board Certified Plastic Surgeon. Any Surgeon can perform the operation. A Board Certified Plastic Surgeon has taken the required course to receive certification in Plastics. This is very important in getting a good result.
You also want to see before and after pictures of previous patients. This is so you can judge their results for yourself.
On the subject of what other people say. It matters not what other people say. The only one you have to satisfy is you. In the future this could change if you want to satisfy your future husband. Frankly your future husband should be in love with you, the inner you and not just the physical you.
Do you really want to go through the pain of these surgeries to satisfy what others say or think. This is not a one time thing as the implants will have to be replaced after a time. The cost of these surgeries are not covered by insurance.
It may be the physical person that attracts someone. It is the inner person that has to keep that person for someday you wake up and you have to talk to each another. Sex and sex appeal only take a relationship so far. There have to be other factors in a relationship if it is to be a long term lifetime commitment. Just my thoughts on this.
Hi, ive just been to my doctor and had a pap smear he told me i have an ulcerated uterus. Could u tell me what this is? How it happens also what happens now, and what it means for me as im currently trying for a baby. Is it still possible to concieve. Im very confused as he just said he would send me to a gyno which could take months. Any information would be great help
When I did a search for "Ulcerated uterus" everything that was returned said it was another term for a "Prolapsed Uterus". In reading the different definitions and descriptions I found there are three different stages.
Given what little information you have provided. Not knowing how old you are? If you have ever had Children? How much you weigh? Based on what I read I would recommend you get a second opinion from an entirely different GYN, someone who has not seen you before.
My reasons for suggesting this is also based on what I read. From what I read it takes more than a simple pap smear to diagnose a prolapsed uterus except possibly in the acute stage.
As for whether or not you can get pregnant I agree with the previous writer. The doctors make educated guesses when it comes to this. Anything can happen if the factors are right even when the doctors say no.
I'm looking for a website that really helped me with my anxiety... but I forgot the name and I'm freaking out.
It was where anyone with any type of problem could go on and talk to someone one on one anonymously... The people who were giving advice would have to log on, but anyone who needed to talk to someone could just push the button and you'd be talking to someone within a few minutes through a one on one chat room...
I understand that I may not find the exact website, but does anyone know of a website like this? I have an anxiety disorder and it would be nice to just be able to talk to someone when a panic attack wakes me up in the middle of the night...
Not a group chat just... one on one with a person who cares.
Thank you.
I found the following websites. I'm not sure if any of the three I found are the ones you are looking for. I found them by typing; "anxiety website support" into a search engine.
http://www.anxietyzone.com/
http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/
http://supportforsocialanxiety.com/
hi i need some advice im a female who is 15and i want to try my best on not getting pregnant do you think i should get on birth control or not and if so, how should i convince my parents to get me on birth control
Short answer is: If you want birth control pill you can get them without parental permission. Keep reading and I will explain.
You parents are not going to like what I am about to inform you of. As an adult it is my feeling it is better you are informed then I try to control that which I might not have control over.
Several years ago Congress passed a law called HIPPA. HIPPA stands for Health Information Privacy Act. Within the law is a section covering teenagers 14 years of age and older and their reproductive health.
This section says that teenagers 14 years and older do not need parental permission to seek a doctors advice, examination or treatment concerning their reproductive health. That teenagers 14 and older do not need parental permission to see or make doctors appointments. That anything you say a doctor or discuss with the doctor is totally confidential. No matter what your doctor cannot discuss your visit with your parents or anyone else without your expressed written permission. Also your mother can no longer be in the exam room with you unless you invite her to be with you.
All you need to say to the doctor if your mother is with you is; I invoke my rights under HIPPA and the doctor or staff member will ask your mother to wait in the waiting room.
Congress did this is so young people such as you would go to the doctor to seek medical help when needed rather than be to embarrassed to ask a parent to take them to a doctor.
You can also ask your doctor to prescribe birth control pills or other form of birth control you and your doctor agree is proper for you. The doctor cannot refuse you under this law. The HIPPA law also covers the pharmacy who must fill your prescriptions in confidence meaning they cannot tell your parents about your prescriptions either.
The one exception to this law is any procedure where parental permission is required to perform. This does not include abortions. As I write this any state that has tried to invoke this has had that law ruled unconstitutional as state laws cannot override federal law.
So if you want birth control pills you do not need parental permission. This does not mean I agree that you are old enough to be having intercourse. I do not think you are old enough or that you and your body has matured enough to be having intercourse.
Yes I understand you are being pressured by boys to have sex and that your own hormones are at work making you want to have sex. Frankly you are just to young and there are many alternative ways to satisfy the urges you have without intercourse.
The one thing I will say in your favor is that your are trying to do one of the two things you need to do to protect yourself. The other is regardless of whether or not you are on the pill never, ever let a boy near you unless he is wearing a condom and wearing it correctly.
While the pill is the most effective at preventing pregnancy you can still become pregnant. Using a condom and birth control gives you the best protection against pregnancy. Plus the condom is good at protecting you against many of, but no all, STDS and the AIDS virus.
21 year old female. Ive gone through severe depression, to mild, to severe anxiety, to mild, but one thing over the years has gotten terrible and is having a huge effect on me this year. My self-esteem and confidence. It's so bad, i really don't know if it could get any worse. I dont feel like im an ugly person or anything, i mean i am like all other girls and would like to lose weight and what not, but its the person inside me that is suffering. I always think people hate me, or are mad at me, even my own mom. I always worry and think my boyfriend doesnt love me, my friends are annoyed of me. i've caught myself on facebook and twitter trying to put other people down, like a bunch of girls that are 18 getting pregnant, because yes i think they're being irresponsible and putting themselves first not their child, but i guess i try to prove im a good person. I never used to have to do that, or never used to talk badly about anyone. I used to be so social making tons and tons of friends but now i kinda sit inside and just associate with people i already know.
My self-esteem is so bad i cant even make a simple decision, and always always always ask others for their opinion, like for an outfit, how to react to a situation, if what someone said to me was mean or not, i just have no confidence in what i believe at all. Idk if this is from depression and anxiety, or years of holding in emotions and feeling like i didnt relate to others (my best friend commited suicide when i was 15, then i held in still to this day my dad is cheating on my mom, i had depression, and anxiety attacks, and felt like no one would relate and never talked about my problems to anyone.) I realize i am ruining my life and my negative thoughts are probably unrealistic like thinking people hate me. I can't control these thoughts because its like i fear that they're true and it causes anxiety. I need constant reassurance from everyone in my life.
I need advice on how i can improve my self esteem
and i would really like to know a good blog site where i can basicaly have a journal and talk about my day and have people comment.
thank you sooooo much for you help. i really appreciate it =)
I am not a doctor so I can not make a diagnoses. Though having suffered from depression myself I would say, judging from what you have written. You have not fully recovered from the depression you suffered.
I would suggest you find a Board Certified psychiatrist to be screened for depression and take any medication the doctor may offer while working with a qualified psychologist to get at the root cause of your depression.
Clinical depression, which is the most common type of depression, is generally caused by insufficient chemicals secreted into the brain. As such a Board Certified psychiatrist is the best doctor to prescribe for this condition. Seeing a psychiatrist for depression does not mean you are crazy. Depression is an illness not unlike say diabetes where you have to replace or supplement the missing chemicals. A family doctor could prescribe for this condition though they are really not trained to do so.
Then working with a therapist you are comfortable with, which is very important, you work to find out the root cause of your depression. It could be some recent stress in your life or a more deep seated problem form your past. It could also be a combination of both.
In therapy if you are open an work with the therapist you will find the cause of your problem. Once you find the cause the therapist will help you deal with it.