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Step dad is a total dick..
M/17
My mom was 16 when she had me. My dad didn't think it was his so he moved and only comes by on occasion. But my mom met a guy 3 years later at a party and has been with him ever since. I was quite a brat when I was younger so he broke up with my mom because of me a few times. But after a while the only way he disciplined me was by beating me. Since I was still young I figured that everyone got beat like I did. So once I started getting older and into school, I started going into school with a new bruise on my face, I had to blame it on this sport...wrestling. This sport has ruined my life. I have no social life, barely any other life than this. My life revolves around this sport. When I was a young wrestler, my mom would video tape the matches. When we got home he would make me watch them, and every bad mistake I made.... Was another blow to the face. This continued for the longest time. I began to hate this sport. Until about my sixth year I finally got good enough to start winning all the time. But now he just punishes me by making me lose weight all the time. He still hits me. I've had so many concussions in my life, idk if it was from wrestling or him. But now he says that all those beating when I was younger made me into a decent man.....I believe he only made me into a man that is afraid of life. It's gotten to the point to when he tries being nice to me and hugging me...I end up flinching instead. He jokes about it all the time. I just can't wait to move out. I'm never allowed out with my friends. He won't let me get a job. He says "wrestling is my job" well I absolutely hate this job. I want to quit, but I'm afraid of him hitting me again. I just have no clue what to do. My mom just sits back and watches and she even knows that he has cheated on her before. But I don't know what to do. I've gone into drugs, cutting myself, thoughts of suicide all the time. I just can't find anything to help me...
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dont do drugs and stop cutting. those are two problems which may fix the other ones. whenever you want to cut snap a rubber band on your wrist and stay srtong and stop doing drugs. tell someone besides this site about him beating and punishing you. tell the authorities or a trusted adult and hell probably get in trouble but mayby he deserves it for messing your life up like this. hope i helped
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Your step-dads discipline is not discipline it is child abuse. No one not even a parent let alone a step parent is allowed to hit a child on the head or shoulders. Neither can the a parent discipline a child in such a manner that it leaves them bruised or scared.
Children who are abused in this manner usually lie and explain the bruises in a manner they feel another adult will accept. Such as you saying they happened in a wrestling match. This is something that is understood should you wish to tell the truth about how your step-father has been treating you.
Just for the record a parent may use corporal punishment to discipline a child. In general corporal punishment is meant to mean a hand spanking. One that does not leave bruising. Using a belt or hair brush or other such instrument crosses the line into child abuse. Corporal punishment does not mean your step-dad can punch you in the face or can even say he is teaching you how to box or wrestle. If he were to be teaching you either of those sports he would be expected to pull his punches or ease up on his holds and throws as to not injure you.
There is no statute of limitations on child abuse. If you want; you are old enough to go directly to the police and report his abuse. If you do not wish to do so yourself you can talk with a trusted teacher or school principal. Preferably someone who has seen the bruising caused by your step-dad. There are rules and procedures in place for them to follow to help you with this.
There is one other thing you can do. There is an organization called RAINN. RAINN stands for; Rape, Abuse, Incest National Network. The operate a 24/7 hour hotline you can call for help. They will find you the proper people in your own neighborhood or home town that can help you.
I'm sorry you have had to live like this, no child deserves to be treated like this. You are old enough now to make things right for yourself and bring closure to this part of your life. To get the proper help to put it behind you. RAINN can help you with all of this. Pleas call them. The hotline number is 1-800-656-HOPE.
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You need to tell this to a school counselor, for starters. He or she will be able to refer you to resources for help. In fact, if you live in the US, they will be legally obligated to report this abuse (and that is abuse, nothing less) to the authorities. Drugs and cutting, as you have discovered, do not help. Suicide will not solve the problem. You need to get help from those who are trained in dealing with these types of situations. That doesn't mean that everything will instantly get better, but it will start you on the road to recovery and a more hopeful future.
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