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What should I do?
*Ok,Iam going out with thiz 15 years old guy and I'am 13...He's a good guy ,he respects me and with him I have 10monthz going out with him...But the thing is that my dad doesn't trust him a lot...Jst because he doesn't know him a lot .Should I stay with him?Should I allowed my bf to demostrate my dad tht he respects me or should I brake up with him?*
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He probably is a really good guy, but obviously your dad doesn't trust him because he doesn't really know him. Plus, the age difference is big for being your age. I think the two year age difference isn't as weird until it's like 16 and 18 or 17 and 19.
Anyways, if your boyfriend is actually a really good guy who isn't using you or trying to get more than he should then just let your boyfriend talk with your dad and make sure you both respect your dads rules.
13 is really young to be dating but if your dad is ok with it, then go ahead but if he doesn't want you to date or doesn't like the guy you are dating, break it off. There will be more time for dating later anyways.
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Speaking as a dad and a granddad. Fathers of daughters will never fully trust his daughters boyfriends or their husbands. What is hard to understand is the fact that a boy will eventually become a man. But a daughter is always daddy's little girl even when she is all grown up and has a family of her own. This is just the way it is, part of the double standard you hear so much about.
Part of this is a man is the one who will eventually be sleeping with his daughter. A man is the one who can hurt his daughter. So fathers have an in grown distrust of men or boys who date their daughters. For you see your dad was once a boy and knows what this boy is after.
There is also the fact that at your age this boy is a little old for you to be dating him. While a 2 year age difference does not seem like a big difference, when your older it won;t be. At this time he is much more mature that you in many social ways. This is what your dad is concerned with. His biggest question is why is this boy dating a 13 year old and not someone his own age. If he was 20 and you 18 dad would not be so concerned with the age difference.
I wish I had some advice to give you, in this instance I do not. If your BF has not on his own come around to meet your parents and let them get to know him then that is another strike against him in dads book. Getting to know a girls parents is a learned social grace that your boyfriend may not have learned yet. Getting to know your dad and family at this point in your relationship, at your urging, may be an up hill battle for him. One he is unwilling to make.
The only advice I can give you is this. Being my age I'm a little old fashioned. I think teenagers your age should not be exclusively dating. You should be going out in group dates to malls, bowling, skating and such with kids your own age. This is a very important part of learning the socializing skills you need fro when you are older and can handle exclusive dating. Had you gone through this stage of socializing you would have known how important it was to your dad and family to meet the boys your dating before your started to date them.
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