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My name is Ryan. And I will answer most everything you want to ask to the best of my God given ability.But I will not sugar coat any answer and I will give MY advice. I don't care about my ratings, so don't think giving me a 1 for an answer you don't want to hear will scare me. And if you already know what you should do about a sitaution, don't come to us here at advicenators asking for a second opinion. And here below is a list of questions you should NOT ask on advicenators. Granted some of them may vary and be acceptable, but overall don't ask the below questions on Advicenators.
**Don't ask questions like "OMG i heard this song on the radio with "insert pointless pop lyrics here" and i wanna know what it is so what is it! Thanks!! I rate 5sssss! hearts". This question can be simply googled with the lyrics, or you need only ask a friend
**Don't ask "ok so there is the hott guy/gal in my class and he/she like got me a *insert gift or simple trinket here* do you think he/she likes me?" This is the most common question here on this website sadly. Unless it is vitally important and actually pertains to a feeling of true feelings, don't ask it. This is most asked by teens. And what teens need to learn is "love" is not thinking a guy/girl is sweet and hott and nice. I know love, and it is so far from all those things. Remember Cicero when he said "Out of all the emotions, love is the most violent. Love is madness."
**"Ok so me and my boyfriend had sex last night and we like used no protection omg he came in me do you think i am pregnant?" Ugh. Stupid teens and their hormones. IF YOU HAVE SEX YOU ALWAYS RUN THE RISK OF PREGNANCY, UNLESS YOUR STERILE. And if you don't know anything about sex, you shouldn't be doing it. Even if you "love" your partner, half the time this is a disallusion and you will end up hurt. Sex is for marriage.
**Or asking what's "in" for fashion, or what they should wear out tonight. Or what is "cute" and what looks good. Pick and choose for yourself what you like, think for yourself instead of trying to let other people do it for you. Stand up and be yourself.
These are the most common questions I have seen on Advicenators. Now there are a few questions that are very good questions and deserve the 3 rating and the best answer possible. But they are usually blocked out with the kinds of questions listed above. If you want to ask something, check the following off that I am listing.
1.Does the question pertain to anything important or trivial?
2.Is proper grammar used?
3.Is the question long and in one paragraph?
4.Is it a question that you yourself can answer?
5.Is there enough detail?
Following those 5 guidelines, you can write a good 3 point answer. That about wraps it up.
I spend alot of time online and here on advicenators, so if you ever need anything then just send something in my inbox or IM me. I'm not opposed to helping people at all, in fact I love doing it. I just want some people to wake up from asking a stupid question.
Thank you all for your time.
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Ok, well i have this friend named heather. and we both like eachother as a boyfriend and a girlfriend, but we live about 30 minuets apart.. so were just friends. And i'm over weight, and im really thinking about not going to see her because of it.. She says my appearence dosen't matter but, i've just been made fun of and stuff soo much i can't believe her until i see her reaction. Someone please help me.
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Hey dude she doesn't care about appearence. She obviously is alot smarter than everyone else because she is seeing the true you on the inside and not the shell that people call a body. You would be making a mistake if you decided to not see her because you don't believe her when she says she doesn't care about your appearance. When you see her be as you are and don't worry about your appearence because that's not what the important part of you is, it's the inside that's important, and she obviosuly see's that in you. Good luck with her and hope this helps.
Good luck again with this girl.
-Ryan
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im goin out with sumone right now and have been for 3 months he askes me if im ready to have sex but i have no clue what to say because im scared and at a young age (14) my body feels like its ready but i dont know if i am he says hes ok with whatever my choice is!i want to but i dont know if its the right moment sometimes?what should i do go on with it and deal with everything or forget about it???please i need some advice? (link)
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You need to wait for sure. You both are rushing into things and it sounds like that is really all he wants if he is going to ask that flat out to you. And it is only after 3 months so what if something were to fall through with you both and you broke up? I say there is too much risk involved and you shouldn't do it. Since he said he is OK with the choice you make then don't do it and try and stay out of it. I know your not going to want to hear this but sex is supposed to be saved for marriage, not 2 teenage kids who think their "ready for it" because they think they love the person and have pressure on them to have sex. My flat out and simplest advice is don't do it and save yourself for the night of your wedding, just like your supposed to.
Good luck and hope this helps.
-Ryan
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my mom is always saying im ugly. last sunday for church, i let my hair dry into natural curl/waves and she said it was ugly and i should brush it (badddd idea) and wear some makeup because my face looked "bad". i didnt wear earrings & she always says i look bad when i dont wear them. when i do wear makeup for other occasions she says i look like a prostitute. i dont know what to do anymore! i cant always be best dressed and miss cheerful like she was when she was my age. shes always telling me how thin she was and how everyone liked her figure just to rub it in my face that i have no womanly shape. my dad says i look ok because he sees what it does to my self esteem. everytime i get the slightest blemish, shes the first to point it out. i hate it! someone please help me! any advice will help! ill rate 5s... (link)
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Hey. I'm sorry about your mom saying that all about you. That is just terrible of her to say that. She must have no consideration for your feelings or self-esteem at all. Don't let her get to you, do what you like and what you think looks good on yourself and stick with it. Don't let her affect how you think you look or how you want to look. Be yourself and stand firm to who you are and don't take any crap from your mom because your mom is heartless to even try and bring you down like that. Best of luck to you and hope this helps.
I will pray for you.
-Ryan
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ok i had asked a question this morning buti have to say something else that i need advice on that happened tonight...
ok well i just gto home from a party and this guy tommy asked me to have sex with him and i said no and he called me a tesse and alot of other guys called me a tease b/c i wouldn't let them do ne nasty stuff to me the tommy took me into a room and put duck tape on my mouth and then un zipped his pants and mine...and then he took the rest of my cloths off and made me stand on the bed naked he was just lookin @ me...then he fingered me and raped me and he told me that if i told ne one that he would do it agian and kill me...there was no way for me to go b/c hes a football wresaler and really strong...by the way im 16 and he was 18...i don't want to tell neone because hes on of my moms ex boyfriends son and she treats him like a son and i would never think that he would do nething like that...HELP what should i do? (link)
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Tell your mom, a trusted adult, or a police officer about this. You need to tell either one of them what happened and get help for it A.S.A.P. Your only putting yourself in more danger by waiting to tell someone. If you havn't showered I suggest that you immediately go to the police because they may be able to recover physical evidence from this and then have solid proof againts him. If you havn't showered then you still need to tell someone and atleast bring allegations forward. If you can get allegations on him then the police will detain him (if only for a short while) but they provide you with protection from him. Also If your mom doesn't believe you, keep telling her and if she isn't going to believe you and believes he couldn't and didn't do that to you even though your repetedly told her then she has no place being called your mom. Please tell someone so you can get this guy and lock him away for a long time. That is the simplest advice I can give.
I will pray for you.
-Ryan
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AHHH I start high school tomorrow and I haven't been to public school since fourth grade. i'm really nervous :-/. 1stly, because i don't know ANYONE, and i'm afraid i'm not gonna make any friends. 2ndly, i'm gonna be terrible with finding classes, and with all the different teachers! so... HELP? thanks! i'll rate ya 5's:-)
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Don't worry, lol you shall do fine. It is actually good that you don't know anyone, that just makes it all the more easier to make friends. Be talkative to people, be cheerful and say hello to everyone, learn everyone's names if you can and be, speak up in class so you can get noticed, and just be kind and nice to everyone and you will have friends by the end of your first day
As for finding classes, don't worry about it as much. You are always given a passing period (varies from school to school in time) to get your stuff and head off to the next class so you should be good all around. You might try and get there a bit early as well just to have a look around the school, find your classes, talk to more people, etc.
Hope this helps and have a good first day!
-Ryan
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My mom and I fight alot,and when we do it's bad. She never wants me to have any style, she wants me to buy the cheap stuff. She doesn't understand that kids do tease you if your wearing a shirt with Barbie on it. I used to be known for my style at school but since my dads paycut she wont even let me get a haircut because "It Costs Money." I know it costs money, everything does, but there are something a girl needs like shaving cream and actual razors not like those crap disposable ones. It's not like we have no money whats so ever. We're just struggling, I buy all my own clothes and things. Its gettin to the point where she wont buy my the shampoo I need or the toothpaste I need. She always insists on the cheap stuff and I'm sick of it cause we always end up fighting about it. She thinks I need a job, but what job *besides babysitting* can a 13 year old do ?!?! PLEASE HELP ME. I know its long, but I'd greatly appreciate it. (link)
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First, understand that your family is having slight money problems. What were once convienances have now become luxuries for you and you probably need to realize that. My dad lost his job so nice stuff I used to get is gone now and we have to make due with the cheap stuff.Sure it is nice to have all that nice stuff and to have that style, but things changed and you have to change too. Be glad that you havn't lost everything and that you still have things to use like razors and shampoo and toothpaste, because believe it or not, not everyone has those things.
You can solve a lot of problems up front by stop arguing with your mom over this. Just because you cant have the stuff you want doesn't mean you need to gripe about it. Your mom is probably trying hard to save money so maybe you can have that nice stuff again, but yet you throw it back in her face because you don't have it right then. If you stop arguing with your mom and try and understand her point of view. Try putting yourself in her shoes, would you spend the money you had on nice things or would you try and conserve it so you can get more for your money? You decide.
As for your style and clothing, there are plenty of good clothes and apparel at the GoodWill store, the same stuff you would find in the mall only really cheep, create your own style and work with it, you will be surprised on how much people will like it.
Your job situation is something you can't control because you are only 13, most places require you be atleast 16 to work there because at 16 you will have transportation to work and are more readily available. And what's wrong with babysitting, it is good money earned easily. Take what job you can get because some money coming in is better than none.
Overall take my advice, you may not see it clearly but trust me it will help. Learn to value the things you got because alot of times you won't get what you want, you just have to make due with what you have.
Hope this helps and good luck with your mom, also your dad too, hope he gets a better paycheck.
-Ryan
P.S. Your needs are FAR overshadowed by your wants. Most of the time something you "need" is actually a "want".
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Now everyone is dating really young and having boyfriends when their 13. i'm 13 and have had a couple of boyfriends but guys are just plain jerks sometimes at that age. most girls are crazy about dating young but older girls that have waited say that it is worth it to wait to date until your older. does anyone have any opinions on the topic?
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When your 13 your usually don't care. In my opinion if your going to date then start doing it when your 15 or 16, because by then you have some age behind you and your much smarter than you were at 13. Also by then you will have alot more freedom to do what you want and have more control over your own life so you can make better decisions regarding your life and those in it. Hope the advice helps.
-Ryan
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where can you get the program bearshare?
thanx (link)
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www.bearshare.com is the offical website for bearshare.
www.download.com is also a good source for downloaded file sharing clients.
If you want to try another file sharing client, I would highly recommend limewire (www.limewire.com). It is fast and easy to use (once you get the hang of it).
A word of warning should be extended however, file sharing clients are prone to viruses and if your not careful you can get some seriously wicked stuff put on your comp. Not to mention concealed spyware, which can slow your computer drastically.
Hope this helps and good luck with whatever you download
-Ryan
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ok...well this is really bothering me..cuz my brother told me i was spoiled and and i told him i do work around the house for my mom...this is the convo...
ME: i help my mom around the house i wash the dishes i clear n set the table i clean my room and make my bed daily and i always put away the groceries
HIM: how much do you get for all that?
ME: i dont get money i earn the stuff i want by doing that.
HIM: you are definetly spoiled.
please tell me if you think i'm spoiled...this is just gonna bother me alot((he's a half sibling))
different moms (link)
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I don't think your spoiled, spoiled would be if you did no work and got stuff for doing nothing, or an excess of stuff that you really don't need.
You however work for what you get (and by the looks of it is a fair bit of work). I would say he is just a bit jealous or mad at you for some odd reason. Just what I think. Hope this eases your mind.
-Ryan
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ok well i have a bf that iv been gion out with for about 3 months,im not sure wether to stay with him or not,i mean all of my friends are telling me to brake up with him and try out some other gies,but i love him and sometimes i dont i have no clue what to do,pleasse help me!!! (link)
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Why would your friends want you to break up with him? Don't listen to your friends on this. You decide for yourself if you should break up with him or not, he is your boyfriend and so it is your decision. If you really care for him then tell your friends your staying with him and just ignore what they have to say about it. Good luck with it and hope this helps
-Ryan
P.S. Ever think that your friends might be trying to put a wedge between you two and try and cloud your judgement on it? Just a thought because unless if there is something majorly wrong with you two that you didn' mention then that seems like the only reason they would tell you to break up with him.
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do guys only go for skinny girls or do they go for average girls too? (link)
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Both, just depends on what the guy likes. Personally I don't really care if a girl is skinny or average, thats not what matters most to me. What matters most is how good the girl is on the inside. Hope this helped!
-Ryan
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whats the best way to find out if the guy you like is interested? guys - what kinds of things do you do when youre interested in a girl? (link)
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What I do is I get my friends to talk to her and see what she thinks about me (mind you it's discrete). Then at the same time I keep taking to her, getting to know her better and just talking with her before finally kinda letting on I like the her, then it kinda just goes from there, good or bad. Funny enough I am going through this right now, lol.
Hope that little bit of advice helps. If ya need anything else drop something in my inbox.
-Ryan
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I'm the same person who asked how i could persuade my parents to let me keep my brother's dog while he is forced to live in hawaii(military orders). My brother and I decided to talk to our parents(for the third time) and my dad was cool with it but my mom wasn't. Everything got out of control and my mom and my grandmother got into this violent argument and my mom was close to killing my grandmother. My mom saids that my brother deserves the pain of his problems just because my brother is taking a while to pay her back cuz he doesn't have much money rite now. To her money comes before family so itz her #1 priority. So my mom threatened to pack up and leave home forever if the dog moves in. I'm so upset and stressed out. what should I do? (link)
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All of this over a dog? To me that is just sad. It is also sad that your mother is putting more value on money than on the emotions of another human being and threatening to leave over a DOG moving in for only a while. You need to sit her down and tell her what she is doing to everyone, how she is hurting everyone over the stupidest of things and her own selfishness. If she isn't going to listen to you, then let her leave because she isn't going to help you anymore and I wouldn't trust her with the way you said she is acting up. And her almost killing your grandmother? That just proves she has anger issues and needs to get them solved, maybe if she solves the anger problem then she can work on everything else on a more clear headed level. If you want to try and help her, solve her anger first, because anger is the root of alot of other problems.
Hope everything goes ok for you and this advice I gave helped you. Also good luck to your brother.
-Ryan
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Hello. I am taking a poll for those who like Harry Potter Books.What do you think about book #6. And if they knew what Book # 7 is called.
I Rate. (link)
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I actually enjoy the Harry Potter books, I consider them a good reading expierence.
Book 6 was one of my favorite Harry Potter books. I liked it because some of the questions that have been presented during the course of the books are finally being answered and we (the readers) are finding more about Voldemort, his past, who he is, and why he is the way he is. Also the plot moved nice and fast and was a good read for me. The only part I really didn't care for was the end because of the uncertainty it left and the direction it set book 7 to go in *for those of you who have read it, you know what I mean* but other than that I thought it was a very good and well written book.
I don't know the name of book 7, but I imagine the name will be released fairly soon.
-Ryan
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OK...
My friend has been seeing her boyfriend for just over a month now. For two weeks they didn't even hold hands, they were so shy, but all of a sudden they kissed in the cinema and suddenly they are 'so in love' and on the same day as they kissed, they went to third base.
Last week, they had sex (in the WOODS!) and my friend is pretty sure she is pregnant. However, she is sayign she is 'bored' of her boyfriend and wants to 'move on'. I'm sorry but this is so stupid!! You don't sleep with someone you're 'bored' of and never really liked in the first place!!
She also wants an abortion.
First of all, I am angry at her for the whole 'oh I'm bored with you let's shag!' thing. I am also REALLY angry with her about the abortion because I am really against abortion in about 90% of cases, this one included. She wants to kill her own baby because she thinks she'll get 'bored' with it too, and because she made a mistake. She is 'making up' for that mistake with murder.
Now, I'm her friend and I am SUPPOSED to stand by her whatever, but this puts me in a HUGE dilemma because I do not agree with what she's done and what she is planning to do (split up with her boyfriend, have an abortion, not ever tell him she got pregnant). I'm really really angry at her right now and I can't talk to her, but I know she really needs my support at a time like this. How can I push my anger aside, how can I ignore my own stance on abortion and help her?
I need to stand by her...she needs all the love and support she can get, even though she doesn't deserve it. I was very tempted to slap her and run off when I found out but I realised that it's not my place to forgive or condone or accept or hate what she is doing, just to be there for her.
Please help...how can I get over my anger and resentment at what she is doing and be there for her? And don't just say 'talk to her' - if you have to, help me out on what to say!
Thanks for any help and sorry for the length. (link)
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You can still disagree with her (and let her know it) but you can also stand by her and be her friend. You need to still try and be her friend, even though your anger and feelings may tell you not too. What she did was wrong and if she has an abortion then it is just two wrongs. By being her friend you can maybe help her change out of this kind of behaviour and help her. Explain to her in the nicest way your opinion and tell her how frustrated and angry you are with her at it and tell her that she is your friend and you don't want anything bad to happen to her and you will be there. Hope this helps and I hope you have the best of luck talking to her and getting over your anger.
-Ryan
P.S. When I am really made at someone I pray and it helps everytime. Just something to consider.
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i went on my first date with my boyfriend last night and he was kinda selfish...during the movie i took out my last ten dollars and he grabbed it and stuff...i thought he'd give it back but he spent it on himself! he bought popcorn..i didnt want any tho. then we went to the dollar store and he bought a whole bunch of stuff for himself with my money! he didnt ask me or anything. i dont want to talk to him about it cuz i dont know why..i guess im shy...he doesnt have aim or anything so i cant IM him...if you guys help me i will rate you a 5!! also if you have AIM, please IM me at SummerSunset48. thanks (link)
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Yeah you need to get rid of him. I was brought up to always pay for the girl your on the date with and that is how it should be. Him taking your money and spending it on himself on your date shows he has no manners or any real respect for you. Sorry but in my honest opinion you got no business going out with him if he is going to be like that, no business at all. Hope this advice helps and you make a good decision on this!
-Ryan
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i like a lot of like "emo" bands. like My Chemical Romance, Fall Out Boy, The Used...etc. and i love rocking out to them and i really want to go to the warped tour but my parents wont take me b/c of the profanity and explicity. i'm only 13 (almost 14) and so it's not like i can go by myself and i don't really mind not going but i also get like totally obsessive like i can't help it! sounds weird yes but... like whenever i hear MCR i like blast it and start like screaming the lyrics and all and i LOVE all the band people so i like get soooo excited whenever i see pictures, merch, and all that good stuff i like start breathing fast and like my heart pumps extremely fast and i'm the kind of person that also has a song stuck in their head and it's always a my chemical romance song and i really like them even though they say f*ck a lot and talk about killing people and doing drugs and all that. but i still like their songs b/c it's just rock music and they have great voices and have awesome music and i know like all the lyrics. so any ways i can stop being so obsessive or anything? this is a hard question to understand! sorry (link)
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Well if you really want to stop yourself from being like that then maybe start listening to other kinds of music?
Personally if you like the music you listen too ( like you do) then I don't see any need to stop being that way at all. I am the same way when it comes to some of the music I listen too and there really isn't anything wrong with loving your music and being like that. Just do what you want to do and listen to what you want to listen too. If you like it then keep listening to it and get every bit of satisfaction out of it. If you wanna tone it down then just lay off listening the music for a little while. But like I said before there really isn't anything wrong with being that way with the music you like. I know I am that way.
Hope this helps and enjoy your music!
-Ryan
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I've been cutting for a while, and i have tried to kill myself before.And its all over a boy whos name is aaron and i think i'n in love with him. And the only time he notices me is when he wants something like sexual and then he goes to another girl when hes done with me and when hes done with the he comes back. And i wanted to know if you knew anything that might help me stop.Because everything i try doesnt work. (link)
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Maybe you should see some kind of professional help for this. If you do that they may be able to give you some kind of medication to help straiten you out a bit. Also it would help alot if you stopped seeing aaron altogether. He is just using you for his own gratification and from what I can tell from your statement, he doesn't care about you at all and only wants to use you for himself. Definately go seek some kind of professional help and maybe check into going to clinics to get better. Also if you havn't considered it, pray to God and ask for help because if you ask he will help you (even if you don't see it at the time). But please check into some kind of professional help for this and hopefully everything will get better for you.
I really hope this advice helps and everything gets better, your in my prayers.
-Ryan
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do you have an ideas for a site that i can use? (link)
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http://datgen.thesimsresource.com/programs/
This is a pretty good moder, got some good reviews.
All you would have to do is maybe type in "Sims 2 downloads" and you should get some websites with objects and sims 2 editors. Good luck to you on this and hope the website helps you.
-Ryan
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hey do any of you know how to make clothing on the sims? if so please tell me how (link)
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You need an editor to edit clothes on the Sims 2. Simply browsing around some sim 2 downloads sites should yield a editor. Good luck to you.
-Ryan
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