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What am i suppose to do ??
im goin out with sumone right now and have been for 3 months he askes me if im ready to have sex but i have no clue what to say because im scared and at a young age (14) my body feels like its ready but i dont know if i am he says hes ok with whatever my choice is!i want to but i dont know if its the right moment sometimes?what should i do go on with it and deal with everything or forget about it???please i need some advice?
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If he really likes you for real, then he would understand your choice. It's not a great idea 2 have sex at your age. Plus, there are side effects to sex. Desease? Pregnacy? Anything could happen! Stay as a virgin till you get married, that's the best i could say...
Always, Toffee
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first how old is he?? becuase young relationships tend to not work out in the end...do you really love him? i mean you're only 14 and guys know that young girls are naieve and will do anything for love but you really have to think what kinda guy he is and if this will mess up your reputation you know??
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Alrighty.
Follow your heart.
Im 14 too and was faced with the SAME question. And i didnt. Because even tho its rare things to happen..like the condom breaking..and 14 is a bit too young for me to be risking any of that. But just follow your heart!
And if he REALLY cares about you he wont dwell on it.
Hope i helped some.
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-*-Hanny-*-
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If your having these doubts, you shouldnt have sex. Just because you think your body is ready for sex, you shouldnt if your mind (i know it sounds corny) isnt ready for it. And 14 is a young age to be having sex, but thats just my opinion, follow your heart and things should be ok.
Jessy
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Just because your body is ready dosent mean your mind is. If your not sure then just say your not ready. If he cares about you he will respect you for it. If not then he wasnt worth it anyway.
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when you lose your virginity i think you should be older.. and most deff you should be in love with the person you have sex with.. im not sayin wait til you get married cause thats not what i believe in but i do believe in having love for the person and them being your everything.. also i dont think 3 months is very long for you to move on to sex theres other things to do in a relationship and sex isnt always the big thing to go on it a relationship.. and your relationship isnt a well stabel relationship.. you should probably be together a bit longer.. just wait til your completely ready.. and you should wait til the right moment and trust me you'll know when that is.. ♥ Dez
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Sweetie... 14 yrs old.. is to young to be having sex.... but... for you question... DONT DONT DONT have sex until your ready to have sex... When the right time comes around you'll know its the right time... and 3 months... you shouldnt even be having sex at 3 monthe into a relationship.... you need to wait away... see how things go with you 2 before you go having sex...
hope this helps... good luck
**Jackie**
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You don't sound ready one bit. So don't do it. Just say no. And your reasoning is because you're not ready.
Simple as that, dear.
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You need to wait for sure. You both are rushing into things and it sounds like that is really all he wants if he is going to ask that flat out to you. And it is only after 3 months so what if something were to fall through with you both and you broke up? I say there is too much risk involved and you shouldn't do it. Since he said he is OK with the choice you make then don't do it and try and stay out of it. I know your not going to want to hear this but sex is supposed to be saved for marriage, not 2 teenage kids who think their "ready for it" because they think they love the person and have pressure on them to have sex. My flat out and simplest advice is don't do it and save yourself for the night of your wedding, just like your supposed to.
Good luck and hope this helps.
-Ryan
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i know you prouble want to but i dont think you should your really young for that and what would happen if you got pregent? then you would prouble would have a abortion (sp?) so i dont think you should
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Well.. I answered a questioned like a few days ago sorta like this.. but sorta not. Like this girl and her boy friend where very religous and she had to be married to have sex. So they have dry sex. like with there clothes on having sex. But.. thats not you... if hes ok with whatever you want to do then thats good. Hes not presuring you. Umm i would say that if your ready you can.... but you would probley get pregnet... so.. its what you want your future to be. HAve it .. dont have it. or dry.
I hope i helped...
x0x3
Sam**!
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If your having doubts it means your not ready. You'll know your ready when you have no doubts at all and everything just feels right.
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Babe dont do it. You defenetlly are'nt ready so dont do it. Sex is something you do when you're ready && make sure you want to do it with someone that you are with for a long time and that you really care about him. Your body cant tell you if you are ready or not. Only your mind can. If I were you I would wait until you were a little older. Just tell him that you are'nt ready and that you would like to wait more. 3 months is a short period of time. Good luck!
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ok i think you should belive you instinct and wut it is telling you! If he is making you do something you dont want to do get up and walk away. you dont know if you are ready and you should tell your boyfriend that!
i hope i helped and please keep me posted!
<3333
kristin
p.s: if u need more specifics just tell me
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If you are not ready, then don't do it. You should never let a guy pressure you into doing something you don't want to do; it's your body. Don't just give into it because he wants it. You've only been with him for 3 months; you should get to know him better before anything else. Plus, you're only 14. You're probably not ready for any consquences that come with your actions. If you're feeling doubtful, it means you are not ready yet. Feel free to send me a message if you need someone to talk to.
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Well if your 14 and your thinking about fucking him but your not ready then dont do it!! But if you think your ready then i guess go ahead!! But i think if youve only been together 3 monthes maybe you should wait a little longer for this!! When you have sex it shouldnt be something you have to do cuz your boyfriend wants you too it should be when your ready too!! ok i hope i helped!! *~&MUAH*~*
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You're right. Your body is ready. Not only for sex, but for pregnancy.
Your mind, however, almost certainly ISN'T ready. Right now you're turning from a child into a woman. You'd be amazed at all the changes that your body and mind will go through in the next few years. For example, did you know that your brain is not finished growing? You'll be developing in all sorts of ways throughout your teen years.
So don't screw it up. You're really not ready for sex at this stage. Your boyfriend will pressure you for sex, but I can tell you this: giving him what he wants won't make him love you, or guarantee that you two will stay together. In fact, he'll be more likely to leave you and look for new girls to score with.
And if you get pregnant, you can be SURE that he won't be able to support you, either emotionally or financially. Even if he wanted to. The sad truth is, almost EVERY girl who gets pregnant at your age is ditched by the baby's father almost immediately.
Boys are awfully immature at 14-15. Girls tend to mature a little faster. So you need to be the smart one. Wait.
Believe me, if you wait it will be a lot better.
And if he isn't willing to wait for you both to grow up a bit more, he doesn't really love you enough. There are lots of boys out there who will value you for YOU, not just as a sex object.
I wish you a wonderful first time (in a few years), and a happy life.
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Nomatter what, 14 is really young. Make sure that you really want your first time to be with this guy before you worry about moments and timing, because once it happens you can't ever take it back. Also get put on Birth Control because if you're considering sex you need to be protected.
If it's the right moment, you'll just know. There won't be ANY doubts, so if you're feeling any at all, don't do it. If he really likes you, it shouldn't matter if you're ready or not.
<b>♥</b> Melissa
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I think you should wait. Plus you might look back on it in the future and regret it. Think about when you get married and you wanna be pure for your husband. You can't cuz you've already done it, and you'll wish you would've waited. Just because your body feels a certain way and your feelings say one thing doesn't mean you have to go along with it. If you wait it will be much better in the end.
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i say dont go through with it and have sex with him unless thats wat you really want and unless you kno you r ready. dont just have sex with him because you think thats wat he wants...if he really loves and respects you then he will respect watever your desicion is and if you say your not ready then he shud be fine with it and respect that if he really loves you.....it shouldnt matter to him because he should always want you to be comfortable....the relationship wont work out if your not happy and if you have regrets...and if your really this unsure i think you shud wait....hope this helped
~a.c.
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i think the answer here is pretty obvious what you need to do. you need to tell him that you are not ready because if you are at all having doubts(as you seem like you are)...then there's your answer for right now. you're not ready it seems, so be honest with him. don`t ever let anyone else influence you in a bad way and give up your body and your mind for someone else's pleasure. it seems as if he is a pretty cool guy because he said that whatever you say he will understand and respect right?? ...so then what's the rush??...there's no point in rushing anything in life, especially something as precious as this. take your time and wait until you are 100% ready. if he somehow can't accept that, then forget about him...he's not worth it anyways if that's the case. this falls under "respect" and how much respect he has for you. if he has enough respect for you to understand and not get mad about this, then that's great. but if he gets even a little bit angry, he's not worth it and he's definately not the type of guy you want to give your body to. well, good luck and take care...if you need anything else, get at me in my inbox.
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