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Q: hey
my best mate introduced me to dean through msn. we have never met but we have kinda connected. we have been through the same kind of emotional problems and the other day he said we should meet up and talk about things properly. i really want to as i need to talk about my life. but im scared because i dont like the way i look. i am overweight. do you think that will matter.
i want to meet him because wen we speak to each other its like we know exactley what each other mean. he helped me to get over self harming and a broken heart and i helped him to get over his thoughts of suicide and depression so we are very close emotionally, we just have never met.
do you think it would be a good idea?
thanx
xx
*emz*

Yes i think it would be a GREAT idea!!
I had the same thing happen a few months ago and im not exactly thin either and i was very very nervous at first but when we met eachother it was like nothing mattered!! it was really awesome becuase it was comfortable and the conversation flowed evertlessly!!
If youve helped each other thru so much i think its a great idea to finaly meet him!!
And dont worry about how you look...it sounds like this guy wouldnt care at all.
Good luck and have fun!!
=)
-*-Hanny-*-

Q: hi. Ive got a boyfriend and i luv him to bits but should i be worried about the age gap? im 15 and he is 12. Do you think its wrong or what?
help
xxXxxX

I do not think that its wrong at all. The only thing that might be an issue is that he might start to be attracted to girls his age and you might start to be attracted to guys your age. But if you REALLY love eachtoer than nothing can come between you two!
SO no worries!
Hope i helped

Q: I know that to stop drinking soda is good if you want to lose weight. But is it okay to drink diet coke?

Well its not horrible but they replace the carbs in it with sugars and sugar is bad...so stick to naturaly sweetened things like...Fruit20...loads of good flavors...uhm...i dunno...lemonades...ice tea..that kind of stuff.
Hope i helped some!!
Good luck!

Q: my friend hooked up with this guy for the first time yesterday...he walked out of the room laughing 5 minutes after they went in and she locked herself in the bathroom...according to the guy...she didnt know how to french so he left her...is there anything i can tell her to make her feel better or any pointes i can give her...ive tried everything, but shes still devistated and i would like to know if theres anything else i can do....thanks!!!

If the guy ditched her for not being a great kisser..hes a dick and she deserves WAY better.
He must be a shallow SOB and tell her hes not worth her worries or tears.!!

Q: Over the summer I really splurged on sugars and sweets. Im average weight but I can see my summer splurging is coming back in my stomach and my thighs. I'm goin to stop drinking soda and eating sugars and hopefully find time to exercise. But I always think "Oh this wont hurt" or "Ill start tomorow" What can I do to remind myself to stay away from soda's and sugars and excersise everyday ? I'll rate high!!

I know what you mean
All you have to do is remind yourself of what you DONT wanna look or feel like. And when u catch urself heading for the soda or suger...ask yourself if you NEED it.
And drink water when youre hungry between meals.
Hope i helped.
-*-Hanny-*-

P.S. Keep me posted.

Q: there is this guy that i really like and he knows i like him. he even said we would go out when he broke up with his gurlfriend and they broke up a lon time ago. i call him all the time but we never talk for long because he always is doin sumthing. we even had plans to go to the movies twice. the first time he went out of town and the second time he said he went but i didnt see him and he didnt see me either so i dont know wut to believe. i dont know wut i should do!! should i sit around and wait for him or should i start to move on?? but i really really like him so i dont know wut to do!!

Hey.
I think that this guy is just a little shy..he might have chickened out for the movie thing and he might have blown you off. I think you should confront him about it. Email him or somthing...but if he seems like just a jerk..them i think you should try and move on.
You deserve soo much better.
I hope i helped some.
lyl
-*-Hanny-*-

P.S. If you ever need anything else just ask!!
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Q: Does anyone know where to get all the old green day cds? i cant find them anywhere

some are...
Dookie
39 smooth
Kerplunk
Insomniac

Thanks Bundles!

MEDIA PLAY!!!!
BESTEST BUY!!!
SAM GOODY
FRISBES
yayayayayayay

Q: I have to admit, I'm a huge wuss and I can't drink any hard alcohol straight. I always have to mix it with soda or something. Is there any way to make drinking alcohol straight easier or more tolerable?

Ok the reason drinking straight alchohol is so hard is becuase youre not supposed to do it. ITs not good to drink it with something but its not as bad as drinking it straight. So you dont really wanna try to get it more tolerable.
Hope i helped
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-*-Hanny-*-

Q: do u think my ex-boyfriend would get jealuse if I hag out with a guy that likes me and flrits with me in frount of him?

You shouldnt care what your ex boyfriend thinks. You broke up with him for a reason and he doesnt controll you. Dont worry about what he thinks and do what you want!!
Hope i helped.
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-*-Hanny-*-

Q: im goin out with sumone right now and have been for 3 months he askes me if im ready to have sex but i have no clue what to say because im scared and at a young age (14) my body feels like its ready but i dont know if i am he says hes ok with whatever my choice is!i want to but i dont know if its the right moment sometimes?what should i do go on with it and deal with everything or forget about it???please i need some advice?

Alrighty.
Follow your heart.
Im 14 too and was faced with the SAME question. And i didnt. Because even tho its rare things to happen..like the condom breaking..and 14 is a bit too young for me to be risking any of that. But just follow your heart!
And if he REALLY cares about you he wont dwell on it.

Hope i helped some.
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-*-Hanny-*-

Q: I have a light light light brown almost dirty blonde shade of hair. It comes to about an inch past my shoulders. I have bangs. Just like straight across my face. I want to do something cute to spice it up and make me look pretty. I will rate really high PLEASE this is like a fashion emergency!

Well i have hair of about the same length. So i have a few helpfull hints.
1) After you wash your hair dont blow dry it or straighten it. Let it dry naturally and it adds a bit of a wave to it.
2) Get a straightener with the krimper attatchment.
3)Grow your bangs out. It will mature your look a lot and add some spice to it.

Hope i helped some! And if you have any more questoins just drop one in the box!!

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-*-Hanny-*-

Q: I'm 16 and I first got my period when I was 9. Well, I know its normal for the first couple of years for it not to be regular but I've had mine for 7 years and its still not regular.
For some time I've been wanting to go on birth control to level out my hormones and make my period more regular.
I don't want to be on it for a long time becasue I'm not really sexually active and I know that being on it for a long time can be bad for you.
So my question is can I be on it for just a little while to regulate my period/hormones then get off and have everything stay regular?

Thats a very good questoin and for something like this i would talk to your parents (or mom) and have her set up a doctors apoointment..your doctor will gladly answer any and all questions and maybe theres a different solution out there.
Hope i helped some and good luck!
-*-Hanny-*-

Q: i make such a big deal out of little things with me and my boyfriend.. he thinks kristin from laguna beach is so hot so we fight wen he watches it.. its not my fault im jealous, but what can i do?

Tell him how you feel. Let him know that you dont care that he thinks shes hot or whatever but you do care when he makes a BIG deal out of her with little or no regard to hw you feel. And appologize for the fights.
=)
Hope i helped some.
-*-Hanny-*-

Q: My boyfriend and I have been having sex since late June. Last night he asked me if i got it yet ( i got it june 30th, after we first started to) and i said no but im not worried about it im going to wait a few days because my comes so randomly. and it never comes on the same date. he is yelling at me about he knows he asked girls, but i think i know mmy fuckin period and a bunch of girls periods come different times and late. he is really stressing me out, should i go to a clinic to see or buy a test now?

I think just to be SAFE you shoould deffinitly buy an at home test...so you can do it privatly..and about ur boyfriend...telll him what u just told us.
And get a test just to be safe.
hope i helped
-*-Hanny-*-

Q: is there anyway i can gain a little more wieght?? i dont wanna be over weight i'm just kinda sick of people commenting my on how skinny i am. i just wanna to be "average"

Eat More Food.
Carbs.
Good Stuff(junk food)
Hope i helped

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