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I have gone from younggrandma to just yg. Now,
I am using my real name.
I don't think anyone who knows me will have trouble figuring out who that is!


I have been gone a while dealing with things in my own life. I am back now to help once again. Do not expect answers from me that just tell you what you want to hear. Life is to short for nonsense. :)
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Today is me and my girls 2 month aniversary, and she's grounded so i cant call her or visit her, but she snuck a call to me yesterday, i told her she would get a suprse today, i was goiing to get a white rose sent to her house with a teddy bear and a card, but the probleam is now my dad's bei a hard ass about it and sayin we'll have to do it tommrow plus all of the floral shops in my area are closed today. Im not sure ifi'll be able to reach her today and im worried she'll be disappointed. (link)
I doubt she will be to disappointed. If you are really worried though, call her mom. Have her give your girl the message that you have a surprise for her birthday but you can't get it until tomorrow. She won't be to disappointed I'm sure. :)


Well my vagina has been itching a little latley and it hurts too and it hurts when i pee , do you think that is a sign of diabetes , or what is happening to me??? and i am so thirsty ALL THE TIME its crazy! HELP FAST!! (link)
You need to check with your doctor to be certain.
You probably know that though.

Urinary tract infections usually make it painful when you pee. It kind of burns. It also may seem like you just can't get finished and are going just a little bit at a time.

Yeast infections can also cause itching. They are common in diabetics.

You definitely have something going on so see your doctor. Have them test your blood sugar while you are there. It is a simple finger prick
and doesn't hurt. :)



well i tried to log onto yahoo messenger and it won't let me, i keep getting the message that says it was unable to, so i was told to change my connection settings and try the different proxy types. well that didn't work. so what should i do? how many proxies should it be on? (link)
Countriebabe is right. I am a member of several yahoo groups and word from yahoo is that they are having a problem and should be up and going sometime soon.

They are having problems sending mail as well. I have never had luck with yahoo. If you want a Gmail invite let me know. :)


nooo i NEED to loose 5 pounds please? (link)
You may be able to lose 5 pounds. Weight loss is a crazy thing. Step up the exercise if you can stand it. Drink lots of water so it fills you up before you sit down to eat. Get plenty of sleep. I have heard that not getting enough sleep contributes to weight gain.

Good luck. Hope you lose the 5 pounds! Get of the puter and get dancing around the room! :)


Hey, is it ok to knit on a plane if your just a teenage girl who shows no threat? (this is on continental going from jamaica to america non-stop) (link)
Oh wow! I don't fly myself but that's a good question. I'm gonna bet they won't allow them on the plane. They seem to be real touchy these days.

To be sure why don't you call the airline and ask them. I am sure they would be helpful. They may even have a web site you could go to for more information. :)


I would have sent in an abuse report of this but I'm not asking for my rating to be changed, just if it's right.


I was just wondering, should I have been given a 1 for this question:


http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=440075


I told her to find a biography because all you have to do is type in her name in Google and it'll tell you all about her.
(link)
I thought it was the best answer so far. I changed your rating and left you feedback!

The only way you might have done better would have been to provide a link. But I thought it was good. :)


OKAY what about only eating jello.. idk ill be happy with 5. =] ill do anything thanks but just not 2.5 at least (link)
You might be able to lose 2 or three just by eating normally, no pop, no candy, no big helpings and exercising.

Walk whenever you can. Take stairs, swim, dance around your room (fun and good exercise) those kinds of things.

Hope it works for you! Good luck. :)


how much can i loose on a liquid diet i know risky but important!!! (link)
Most of the sites are advertising 20 lbs a month.
Since it isn't healthy I don't advise you to try it. Still won't be a huge loss by the 29th. :)


OKAY.soo i wanna loose ALOt of weight by the 29. ill do anything THANKS!!! i meen ill do anything BUT RUN welll i can run around my tree in my backyard thts it and i dont have a bike thankss! i weigh 150 5'0 (link)
I'm sorry to say that there is no way to lose a LOT of weight by the 29th. A pound or 2 a week is about all you can lose.

Just watch the snacks and pop (all the good stuff) and exercise at least 30 minutes a day. :)


Hey. well i am 13, and last night i was at my boyrfriends house, with all his friends. my bf is 18, and all his friends were about 17-19. There were 10 of his friends. we were all drinking, and doing drugs, etc. we all got a little too drunk, and i ended up having sex with my b/f, and all 10 of his friends. it was really fun, and stress relieving. but anyways, now my bf is mad because i had sex with 11 guys that night. how can i explain to him i couldnt help it?
oh by the way.. i am 13. and a female...

HELP (link)
If this is true then he is a criminal and so are all his friends. They contributed to the delinquency of a minor. They all committed statutory rape.

He does not care what you did or who with. Sounds like you were the lone female at a party
for a bunch of thugs enjoyment. Some boyfriend he is.

What you should do is tell your parents and have all their butts thrown in jail. At they very least stay away from them in the future. You don't need to explain anything. Your pimp boyfriend should be explaining to the local police
department and your parents lawyer. :)



Well today I found out my friend Brian is bisexual and since my boyfriend Craig is bisexual I had him talk to my friend about it. Well Brian and Craig were talking and Brian is like a brother to me and told me he wouldn't do anything to hurt me like take him away. Well Craig and him sorta hit it off now Brian and him like eachother but he "loves" me and I was crying for a long time because he is my "first true love" blah blah. Well now everyone knows and I just feel like crap... I am the really emotional type. I don't open up to people and I opened up to craig.. now he basically cheated on my (he came on to Brian) and Brian didn't stop him and hes like its not my fault but I am still sad.. So i wanted that off my chest basically. Is there anything I could do to make this pain go away.. (link)
Cheating is cheating. Doesn't make a bit of difference who its with. Doesn't matter if he doesn't love them either.

I think you'd be better off finding another guy and just remaining friends with this one. Of course it is up to you but this one will probably
hurt you...even if not on purpose.

The best way to get over him is to find someone else. :)



ok so i just got my tetenus shot today and i know your arm is supposed to be soar, and mine is. its really tight feeling and stuff, and i was wondering if there was any way i can relieve some of the tightness or if i just have to wait it out (link)
Ibuprofen and cold compresses are about all you can do. Sorry, it will probably feel better tomorrow. :)


i'm fixing to chenk google in just a second, bit since it's not likely i'll find anything of use, could someone give me some sites or info on internet abuse, and what you should do about it? i appreciate anything you can tell me. (link)
Here is a site that has how to report abuse. It is broken down into catagories of what type of abuse you want to report. Then it gives you a bunch of links. I hope it is helpful.

http://www.google.com/Top/Computers/Internet/Abuse/


I just started working at office depot and I dont know crap about the register... I start tomorrow. My main question is about Checks. I know what to write on them (state, license, expiration date) but I dont know what information Im supposed to keep (besides the check itself). Any help would be soooooooo appreciated. Thanks guys :) (link)
Don't worry to much about it. They will train you on everythig you need to know. :)


15/f

since I was born, I have been friends with my best friend Ty. But when I was 13, he moved to another state, and it was heart breaking for me and my family because my family and his are best friends! Well, we still keep in touch now in present day, but he hasn't called in a while, so I called him today. For some reason he sounded like he didn't want to talk. I mean I know he is busy because he has a lot of friends, but he could have called me once in a while.

Well I told him about twice that I missed him, and all he said was "Oh, I know!" and it made me really upset. Usually he'll say I miss you too, but he didn't. So I thought that was just his way of saying "I know I miss you too", but I'm not sure. I did say he was my best friend, and he said I was his best friend too. I was really worried that our friendship would end, but I felt happy that he said that, but he still seems different. He use to be so hyper, now he is all calm, and it make me sad because together we were insanly hyper, and it was so much fun! But he's changed, and its really hard for me to accept it. I know that the move changed him, but did his feelings toward me change? I do have to say, I think I really like him more than a friend. But he said he had a girl friend, which makes me upset because we use to go out. I just want to know if he misses me, and is our friendship going to last forever? Thanks! (link)
Your friendship my last but it is going to be different. You don't see each other everyday and will both have new friends both male and female.

It makes no sense to expect to be boyfriend/ girlfriend at your age with so much distance between you. You can't go out on dates or to school dances etc. together. Neither one of you can just sit by and do nothing until you are old enough to make a move.

So, you stay friends. Email and message each other when you can. Someday maybe when you are older things will change to something else. For now though you need to accept that you will be distant friends. :)


alright, I"ve heard of tts, and if u sleep in a tampon you can get it. if you have it but dont know it, can it effect your chance of having children?
thanks! (link)
Here is a web site for you to check out. While there you might want to browse around because it has lots of good teen info! :)

http://www.coolnurse.com/tss.htm


what is Ex Lax and is it bad for you? (link)
Ex Lax is a laxative. It is not harmful if taken as directed. As with any drug, it becomes harmful if abused. :)


is all of this stuff free like asking the questions and submiting and if not can i delete my account? (link)
If you are talking about this web site, then yes it is free.

The only "cost" if you are kind enough to do so is that we do like for you to rate your answers and submit some feedback to your advisers.

Some spend a lot of time looking things up for people and answering their questions. A little feedback or at least a thank you is a pretty cheap price to pay. And is very much appreciated. :)


I am now living with a man I consider worthy. He is a divorced man of 18 years who discovered the internet when he had his heart attack 4 years ago. The internet provided "company" for him and he got involved with "cybering" with women. When I came into the picture a year and a half ago he was fighting with a women he was involved with ONLY thru the internet. He never met her in person but, fell in love with her on-line. Finally he realized how different a relationship was in person and he discontinued his on-line affair. He still cybered with women till I caught him one day. We had a discussion and I thought he quit. Now he says he just "chats" with women and swears there is no cybering, but I am leary because he sends his picture and receives pictures from women. I am going nuts! He says I accuse him and I do, but I am untrusting because he did this to me before and it upset me, so I question his love. The intimacy dwindled and he claims it's because of past issues that has nothing to do with me. I can't even bring it up because he clams up on me. He asked me to marry him and gave me a ring, but I said...I need ALOT more time as I fear of being controlled. I asked if that made a difference he said he understood and he still wants to be with me and for me to wear the ring. I need to find a way of talking to him gently, without malice, but each day I find pictures of women he talks to on AOL and I get more and more depressed.It just seems that I can't get him to make love to me. I told him to please be honest with me and tell me if I am unattractive to him, but he says he doesn't know what is wrong. I think he just doesn't want to hurt my feelings..but I would rather be told the truth than feel like he is cheating. (link)

If you can't get him to make love to you then don"t marry him. It isn't everything in a relationship but it is very important. Maybe he is afraid to since having his heart attack, but whatever it is he needs to seek some medical attention and get to the bottom of it.

The cybering may just be a habit. He should mention it to a doctor too and get it under control. You should be the number one lady in his life. It takes more than him just telling you
that you are. If you don't feel its true then you aren't.

Until he seeks some help I wouldn't marry him. You are already miserable and it wouldn't get better. Sounds like he needs to get out of the house and find something more to do than just sit in front of the computer. If he can't then you need to stop wasting your time on this one. :)


if youre with your boyfriend and youre making out and doing other thingsand then you stop and then 2 minuts later you wanna start again but he says hes not "lustful" or in the mood anymore does that mean you turned him off?? or do guys just change into more romantic and calm moods all the sudden? (link)
If you are a young teen, hes probably not "lustful" anymore because he probably has already got off. Yes, young boys are notorious
premature ejaculators. And yes, even if you weren't having sex.

So I doubt you have turned him off. Quite the opposite really.

Anyway, that is my guess. :)




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