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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.


I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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I'm currently reading the book Dizzy & Jimmy which in short, is about James Dean (before he was famous) meeting Liz Sheridan (author of the book) and falling in love. I NEED a picture of the two, I'm starting to think none exist because I've looked so much. Can ANYONE find one for me? If not, thanks for trying!!

If you can't find pictures of them on Google together, then search them seperately.

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hey. sorry if this is really long but I could def. use some advice if you have any. I had this group of best friends in fifth grade lets call them Rachel Jessey Jennie and Hannah. Anyway we were inseperable. Then in sixth grade Hannah moved to live with her mom and we threw her this big party with good luck gifts, cake, the whole thing. At first we kept in touch but once Hannah started making new friends she slowly stopped talking to us. Like especially me and Rachel we call her all the time and invite her places but she always has an excuse but then she can always hang out with her new friends. She blew off my birthday at the beginning of 7th grade year (this year) and at first when we started asking her what was up she was nice but today I found out she blew me off this weekend for one of her new friends Jaymie and she got WICKED mad at me for bringing it up and she kept saying oh I`m sorry I have a life and I made new friends blah blah blah and Rachel totally agrees with me and Hannah says that I`m the one that changed and that makes me really mad because I think I`m the only one that stayed exactly the same. What do you guys think. Any help would be great. ♥

When someone moves such as a friend, things are gonna change. There's no reversing it. There's no stopping it. It's gonna happen no matter what. They're going to make new friends, try new things, & eventually move on with life. It's a cycle, and you can't break it.

I understand you're upset but it's just something you're going to have to get over. She's made new friends & started a new life. It's always gonna be this way. When you go to college, you might not see your friend as much. You might be in a completely different state & never see them as much. You're gonna make new friends, and life's changing.

Just call her & ask her what's up with her, and if she continues to be an ass about it, then just forget about her. You had good times, and the friendship was good while it lasted. Just think of it as a chapter of life, and the chapter is over. Move on, make some new friends & try to grow up a bit.

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I know what foreplay is and all, I'm not immature or anything...but I dont understand the concept of it. It's supposed to get a guy going, and have him last longer during sex...but how long do you have to wait after fooling around before having sex? I know guys have that peroid after orgasming that they have to wait until they can again...does that have anything to do with it? And will it help at all if you finger or do oral on the girl as well?

For foreplay, this is the thing you should remember -- don't let him get to the point of an orgasm. Just start him out to getting horny, and then hop into sex. Yeah, it also helps to finger a girl especially if she's a virgin because it can make the sex less painful. Also, remember to use protection.

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I apologize in advance for this long question... I'm very confused right now.
Also, I am 15, and a female, if it is any help.

I think I am falling in love with this guy. But I'm not really sure. We have everything in common- even obscure things, like certain composers. And... he is just one of the most amazing individuals I've ever met.
Let's call him... Richard.

The thing is, Richard has been dating one of my very best friends- let's call her Sue- for over a year. They have the most amazing relationship. And I love Sue. She is one of my closest friends, and perhaps the person I respect the most in the world.

Sue and Richard have been having relationship problems for the past few months- they've been taking breaks, and Sue tells me she likes someone else also.

I'm not asking for ways of how to separate them- I don't want to destroy their relationship, as I love them both. However, I want to know when it's an appropriate time- once they eventually do separate (even if it's not for a while), for me to start flirting with him. Or, in case anything does happen, when it is appropriate for us to go out.

Thank you very much.

I think this is something you should talk over with your friend. Tell her that if she has feelings for someone else, then she needs to let go of Richard since she's doing nothing but leading him on. Although they've had a great relationship, it has to end because it's not fair to him if she likes someone else.

I would say that if she gets a new boyfriend, then that'd be a good time. But if she doesn't get one anytime soon, then make sure she's over him to before you start flirting just to steer clear of any unwanted drama & arguments.

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my life is so dull right now. i feel like everyday is for nothing. wake up go to school, learn crap i dont care about, laugh a few laughs, go to soccer, come home eat a little, hw, talk to a few friends, then bed. and same thing over and over. and i feel like whats life if i do the same thing everday. and i mean idk where my life is going its boring right now and idk what to do to "spice it up". and i'm not the greastes soccer player ever..i'd like to think i'm good. i'm not the thinnest person or beatuful..at least i don't think i am. and i havn't had a crush in like 3 months and my life is so dull right now. i want a speical guy in my life. i've been waiting for so long nothing. and my life is so dull right now...

i just don't understand? all i want is a better life and i've tired but it just isn't working. and the whole bf part its not like i'm searching or crushing on ever guy. he's just not there.

You don't need a guy to spice up your life. You need to try new things. Maybe try a different sport, or go out with your friends sometimes.

Also, don't search for a guy. Let the guys come to you. It's better off that way, and it's a whole lot easier.

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Ok well im like really great friends with this guy anthony & i kinda really like. Like, i can tell that I love this kid no matter what & please don't say I don't cuz if its a relationship love or a friendship love, either way, i love him. But anyways, he has a gf that he is in love with & i hafta get over him. What's a good way to get over a guy? & fast is probably best. thanks in advance.

Either find someone better, or let time handle it.

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okay so today i got a comment on myspace from this guy i went out with awhile ago... he said he missed me and he thought i should know.. then i told him 'i miss you too, but idk why you would miss me' (which is sort of something i say to him when he says he misses me because idk i just do..) i also asked how he was... ANYWAY he says back to me "uh how about because you're probably the most amazing person I've ever met.. it still stands too. and I'm alive.. how are you" this made me think he likes me again... the thing is i have a bf. i really dont want to hurt anyone.. i care for this guy but i dont want him to like me! i don't want to hurt him..... do you think he likes me? what should i do?

He might like you, and you need to talk to him about this. Let him know what's going on with you, and your life. I mean, don't rub your boyfriend in his face, but just tell him you have one.

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how can i relax whenim with a guy like i mean hooking up...i hve avoid every relationship becuase i dont know ow to make out !!! even kiss!!!

Kissing is a really natural thing. When you're with a guy, let things flow.

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Ok. You know how there are like these questionnaire stuff that you fill in about your name, age, fave singer, lalala, etc.? The ones that people usually put on myspace and stuff?

Some of the qu. were like:

Vanilla or chocolate?
Pepsi or coke?

That kinda stuff. Is there a website where there's different types of those profile things?

I hope this wasn't too confusing...

Thanks!

You can get them on Xanga & a ton of other websites.

I've used:

www.bzoink.com
www.ewsurveys.com
and
www.xanga.com/xsurveysxarexFUNx

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Can someone please give me the courge to tell her how i feel. i'm 20/F and i've been in luv with my friend Lara for a long time. she is my only friend i knew her from HS. and i dont know who to go to. Can someone tell me something to get my will to comfront her about my feelings.
please.

did this very happen to you or someone you know? explain if did.
And if yes did they like you back or not? were they still your friend?

Please and Thank you.

No one can give you courage. Only you can do that. You need to suck up your fears & be a big girl about it. Go up to her & tell her you like her. Tell her exactly how you feel & see what she has to say. It's better done face to face.

I'm not in this exact situation. I like a guy, but I'm not sure if he likes me back. I'm still working on the courage to ask him s. And if he doesn't feel anything for me, I can't make him, and I've gotta move on about it. And if he does like me back, then sweet. =)

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So this guy that I talked to in the summer now hates me because I spilled a secret to his best friend, and my two best friends. I hate myself now for it, and I tried talking to him today. He said he didn't like me, I scared him, and a lot of other things. I don't know what to do, and I feel like my life is worthless. I've never felt like this about any guy before, and I don't know what to do. I can't forget about him. That's what people have been telling me, but I can't. What should I do about him, and my life? I feel like my life has no meaning whatsoever.

This guy doesn't like you, and he made it clear. You need to move on & forget about him. He's not worth your time, you're not worth his, & you need to accept that. The faster you come to terms that he's not interested, the better it'll be for you. He doesn't like you, so you need to get over it & forget about him.

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I worrying so much, about love life, famliy, career, friends, will i be myself when i move away. i worrying what others think about me, i'm worryed right now! How do you stop worrying?

People are always gonna talk. You can't stop it. If someone doesn't like you, then to hell with them. If someone does, then great. When someone says something negative to you or about you, shrug it off. Don't let it bother you. Live your life to please you, NOT someone else. When you come to terms with that, then you'll stop worrying & things will get better.

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I cant except myself of whom i am, i reailzed i'm bi and i dont like it. the funny thing is i dont look at women sexual like i only compare myself with them. but i'm in love with my best friend and she knows. and she might like me back. but i dont want her to because i worry of what others think. but my sisters tell me that they except me of who i am. why cant I? did that ever happen to you? how did you finally except yourself?

Okay, you've come to realize your bi. There is absolutely NOTHING wrong with that. There's nothing with being bi, gay, lesbian, transexual, anything. So maybe you're just worrying of what people are gonna think.

It's good your sisters accept you though, that's the best thing. Family is the hardest to get to accept you because they just can't see a family member being a certain way that they find out of the norm.

If you love someone, & they like you back, what could possibly be wrong with that? There's nothing wrong with that. All you have to realize is that people are always gonna talk. They're never going to stop. People are always going to have an opinion, a thought, and something to say. If you just shrug something negative off, you're learning to deal with people, ignorance & how to accept things.

I used to hate myself. I thought I was ugly, fat, stupid, everything negative. I did a lot of dumb things to myself. Sometimes because of what I thought, sometimes because of what people said, what they did, and because of what I was going through. But I realized -- I can't please everyone. If someone doesn't like me the way I am, then to hell with them. They're not worth my time or energy anyways, so I just got over it. If people don't like me, then so be it. I still get my 8 hours of sleep a night. And if people do like me, then great. But I'm not gonna live my life trying to please people. I live my life pleasing myself.

Be happy with yourself. There's nothing wrong with being bi, and being liked. =)

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okay so i've liked this guy for a really long time and we've been friends... friends with benifits... we tried to start a relationship... and that's where the confusion started in. so he was really into me.. but he was really moody... and i'm not sure why but he stood me up... so i've been mad at him for like a week and i haven't said a word to him... but today i just... went up to him and hugged him... but it wasn't a pelvic hug like usual... it was a hug... and just that. i'm still kinda mad that he stood me up with no explanaintion and no call... but i want to be around him sooo bad *sigh* so i'm not sure what to do cuz our relationship was the best when we were "just friends" but i really want more then that... what should i do? please help! o 16/f and he's 17/m by the way. and thankyou in advance!

I get so mad when I see questions that include the words "friends with benefits" just because the smart, average person would know that they don't work.

They can go on for a while, but then one of the people falls for the other, and the other doesn't feel the same. Things get complicated, people get hurt, it just doesn't work. I wanna know when the hell people are going to learn this. FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS DOES NOT WORK. IT NEVER WILL.

With that said, talk to him about it. Just be like "Did you uh, forget that we had plans?" And see what he has to say. I'm gonna ask -- are you his official girlfriend? If not, don't get pissy with him because he's not your man, & he'd probably be like "wtf." If you are, then you can get a little upset, but don't let it completely piss you off because it'll just bring an argument up.

Talk to him about it calmly, ask him what happened, and never have friends with benefits again.

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I've been dating this guy for a month, and he's been really sweet - like he's just everything I'm looking for in a guy. Unfortunately, he's ALWAYS so busy with his fraternity, with college, & his job, that he never usually has time to see me. So, I only see him a like one/two days a week, and it's not that much because we live really close to each other. I've always been suspicious that he could have another girlfriend, and I've joked around, not thinking it could actually be the truth.

So, tonight we were on a date, and he was dropping me off at my house, and he was showing me a couple pictures of his cat on his phone and then all of a sudden he gets a call from someone called "Babe" with an area code of Austin, [we live in San Antonio.]

As soon as I saw it, I was like, OH BABE!? And he's like, "WHAT?" And I'm like, Ohh so you do have another girlfriend, and he's like, "ooh fuck this, you need to trust me."

Then finally when I got him to calm down he's like, "It's a guy, named Babe -- he's my friend."
& I'm like, oohhkay. I didn't believe it & I still don't. I called my best friend and she said he's probably playing me. Which makes me sorta sad.

Does it sound as if he's cheating, and if you think he is, how can I find out who this "BABE" person is?

Thank you. :]

If you haven't met his friends, you might wanna try that out to get a clue about who "Babe" is. If you never meet babe, take his phone when he's not looking & call the number.

He could be cheating on you, but you need to take it into consideration that he's also busy, and guys can have super weird names sometimes.

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me and my g/f act really close around eachother like she'll let me tickle her put my arm around her and stuff..but i never tried to do anything else.to me it seems like we both wanna go further.but how can we tell if the other one wants to too?

Just ask her. If you make a move, even though she's your girlfriend, she could possibly feel offended & be like "WTF." Just ask her, and if you guys are ready, then move on to the next step. If you happen to have sex, please use a condom.

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Ok, so I'm a 16, almost 17/m, and i'M ABOUT 5'9. I hate it. All of my friends are at least 6'. I really want to grow taller if i want to have a better chance at playing football in college. Are there any ways i can make myself grow taller, as crazy as it sounds?

No, you can't. You can't take growth pills simply because they don't work, and they're dumb. Just accept yourself as you are. You were made that way for a reason, and it's in your genes to be a certain height.

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ok so i am in jr. high now and there is this guy i kinda sit by..he doesnt have a g/f and wen he comes to my desk i guess you can call it flirting he gives me this look and he will lik pull my hair or flick me.....2day he asked me y i havent been on msn and i thought he was gonna ask me out on there and i jus said i have been...do you think all this stuff hes done means he likes me or jus a lil......should i go afta him PLEASE HELP thanx :D

Yeah, guys have the tendency to tease or mess with a girl when he likes her. Just keep talking to him & try to hang out. =) If he likes you, he'll ask you out.

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Why do people answer questions on here when they really don't know the answer? I just asked this -

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=487010

And got two completely wrong answers. There ARE purses of her, EVERYWHERE in Hollywood stores, in Pac Sun, Hot Topic, Wild About Music, Hobby Lobby, Target.. so why the hell would they say they don't make purses of her anymore because she's DEAD? I'm offended.

If you don't like their answers & believe they mislead you & gave you false information, then you need to report it. Handing out false information is just lying & giving someone bad advice.

Marilyn Monroe is still in, and always will be. You can find her purses basically anywhere. And if you knew where her purses were, why did you ask? Just report them if you don't like their answers or their false information, and go on about your life.

It's nothing to flip out over & display everywhere.

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i'm looking for a (big-ish) picture or painting to hang in my room. my walls are yellow and orange and theres pink in my room so i'm thinking that something black and white, or maybe a beach, because i want my room kind of tropical themed. or something to do with dance. so where can i get some good pictures? name stores not websites please

You can usually get pictures like that at Wal*Mart or Pier 1.

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