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Could he be cheating?
I've been dating this guy for a month, and he's been really sweet - like he's just everything I'm looking for in a guy. Unfortunately, he's ALWAYS so busy with his fraternity, with college, & his job, that he never usually has time to see me. So, I only see him a like one/two days a week, and it's not that much because we live really close to each other. I've always been suspicious that he could have another girlfriend, and I've joked around, not thinking it could actually be the truth.
So, tonight we were on a date, and he was dropping me off at my house, and he was showing me a couple pictures of his cat on his phone and then all of a sudden he gets a call from someone called "Babe" with an area code of Austin, [we live in San Antonio.]
As soon as I saw it, I was like, OH BABE!? And he's like, "WHAT?" And I'm like, Ohh so you do have another girlfriend, and he's like, "ooh fuck this, you need to trust me."
Then finally when I got him to calm down he's like, "It's a guy, named Babe -- he's my friend."
& I'm like, oohhkay. I didn't believe it & I still don't. I called my best friend and she said he's probably playing me. Which makes me sorta sad.
Does it sound as if he's cheating, and if you think he is, how can I find out who this "BABE" person is?
Thank you. :]
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You have only been with this guy a month, and how long have you been suspicious? This is pretty bad, if you have trust issues this early in. He has a pretty full life without you in it, but has still been making time for you. If it is not enough for you, then either ask for more time with him or break up. Keep being suspicious for no reason and it will drive him away, maybe into another girl's arms. Ever hear of self-fulfilling prophecy?
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Okay, so when me & my boyfriend first started talking to each other, I looked through is phone. I forget why but as I was scrolling through the phone book, I saw "baby." My body started to get hot & mad I was but I didn't say anything because we weren't really even together. After that I kept my eye on him but one night his friends were coming over to drink & watch boxing with us & come to find out, one of his friends is called baby. And that's no bullshit because were years into our relationship & everyone still calls him baby.
Point is, yeah, it sounds like bullshit but he may be telling the truth. If I would have cursed him out about "baby" in his phone book & he told me it was his bul, I wouldn't have believed him one bit.
I think the only way for you to really find out is to ask around. Or tell him to call "babe" in your face right that second on speaker phone & say that if he is telling the truth than he'd do it. Matter of fact you take the phone & you press call so that he doesn't try any tricks. & if he brings up trust, just say "well I'm sorry, you can be telling me the truth but if you were in my shoes I bet you'd feel the exact same way." Try it out. If he doesn't let you call, he's playin you.
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Like the advisers before me said, you need to get to know his friends if you haven't. It could be a nickname.
And like your boyfriend says, you need to trust him unless he gives you proof that he can't be trusted.
A healthy relationship needs to have trust and honesty.
Don't jump the gun with him because of a worry. It may be a needless worry, and if it is, you are only going to hurt your relationship by your mistrust.
College, job, and fraternity DO take up a lot of time, so he may be just busy.
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If you haven't met his friends, you might wanna try that out to get a clue about who "Babe" is. If you never meet babe, take his phone when he's not looking & call the number.
He could be cheating on you, but you need to take it into consideration that he's also busy, and guys can have super weird names sometimes.
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Although you both have not been dating all that long have you met any of his friends at all? Because if you have that might be one way of finding out who his friend babe is. Simply asking one of them should be enough but I have to admit a guy called babe seems very strange and odd.
Other than that I can't really suggest any way to find out other than doing so behind his back by looking the number up on his phone, taking a note of it and then calling it from a different phone (hiding your number first) and then seeing who answers. If a girl picks up then just ask for Babe. If she act like you sound crazy then obviously there is no-one called babe over there and he was lying the whole time.
That's really the only way to be certain but other than that if you suspect he is not trustworthy and trust has become an issue it willbe very hard to maintain a relationship when you can't trust him. You will eventually need to do something to get to the bottom of it. Good luck and Ihope for his sake that he was telling the truth.
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