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Can someone please give me the courge to tell her how i feel. i'm 20/F and i've been in luv with my friend Lara for a long time. she is my only friend i knew her from HS. and i dont know who to go to. Can someone tell me something to get my will to comfront her about my feelings.
please.
did this very happen to you or someone you know? explain if did.
And if yes did they like you back or not? were they still your friend?
Please and Thank you.
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I was in your same situation back when I was 15 (I'm 20 now). I was in love with my best friend, but I never even considered the idea of letting her know.
I "came out" when I was 16 and I finally decided to talk to her about my feelings in a coward way -via e-mail. The next hours were torture until I got a phone call from her. She was kinda shocked at first, but we spent a couple hours together talking about it, until we decided we were going to give it a shot and started dating.
Let me tell you, we had an AMAZING relationship for 2 years.
From personal experience I think that if it's really in you, you should definitely tell her.
The best of luck.
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All I can say is, you have to tell her how you feel. Plan out what you are going to say, and just go for it. You only live once. You will not know if she likes you back until you ask her! Nothing will come of it if you dont speak up.
You will most likely regret the things you dont do, more than the things you do. Just build up that confidence and follow your gut.
I have a very close girlfriend too and I consider myself to be bisexual. But I have a boyfriend now and she knows that I am really close to her and she is ok with that. I'm sure if you and Lara are close enough, she will understand. She may be slightly weirded out at first, but she will overcome that soon enough.
Best of luck!
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No one can give you courage. Only you can do that. You need to suck up your fears & be a big girl about it. Go up to her & tell her you like her. Tell her exactly how you feel & see what she has to say. It's better done face to face.
I'm not in this exact situation. I like a guy, but I'm not sure if he likes me back. I'm still working on the courage to ask him s. And if he doesn't feel anything for me, I can't make him, and I've gotta move on about it. And if he does like me back, then sweet. =)
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I don't know from my own experience, or a friend's, but I will try to help.
I'm assuming that she isn't bi or a lesbian to your knowledge? You have known her for a long time- has she ever given you at least an inkling that she may be willing to have a relationship with another woman?
Since you have known her for years, do you honestly think, that she would be hurt or offended if you told her how you feel? By "think", I don't mean so much in thinking in your mind, but thinking in your heart, because your brain has a way of making up it's own negative scenarios.
My opinion on that is, if she is a real friend, her feelings for you as a friend won't change. If she is a real friend, she will listen, discuss, and try to understand your feelings. Weather her feelings end up being mutual, or not.
You could try to needle her for that kind of information; kinda feel her out, if you will. You may be able to get an idea that way.
Or, do you go to bars or clubs that are for gays and lesbians? Consider inviting her to go along for drinks, or dancing, or just to hang out. Watch her reactions while you're there.
But my personal opinion is that you should just be honest with her. Either she will like you back, or she won't. It's a 50/50 shot, and you will never know where your chance lies if you don't ask. And like I said, if she doesn't like you that way, and she is a REAL friend, she won't think any less of you, or let it have any bearing on your friendship.
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