slinky's

advice column

about

advice

This is from:if you knew me.

I told her How i felt about her 2 years ago.
i remember it like yesterday. i only remember how i said it and her reaction was shocked. we're still great friends till this day.
lately i've been ignoring my feelings but i see her flirting with me. she walks close to me, talk with a teasing soft voice, leans on my shoulder and calls me cute funny animal nicknames.
dose she like me?
dose she remember the talk? do people forget about it?
i'm afriad to ask again.


thats why i ask that question, cause i dont know how to comfront her again cause now i'm being clumsy when she is around. i cant think too, its hard to ask again. and i dont want to do it face to face again cause i'm a wuss.
how do i know if she is being friendly to me or trying to let me know she does like me?

Hello again.

The only reason why somebody would act the way she is is because she's trying to get a point across. Find out what it is by telling her you like her, not with words but with actions.

Whenever she's talking to you in her teasing voice, smile and answer in the same way. Let your body respond whenever she's walking close to you,touch her hand "inadvertedly". Be clumsy and even dorky around her, there's no better way to show someone you like them. Look at her whenever she's doing something, and when she realizes you're observing her just smile or quickly look away. You know, things like that.

This might lead to two responses. She will either continue on flirting with you (cause to me it does look like it), or she might step back and freak out. If this happens, stop, but do not apologize... remember you are doing this "naturally".

Don't try to force it though, if it's meant to be it will happen.

Good luck.

[view]

I'm a stranger to myself. I don't know why I do the things I do. I don't know who I am. I don't know who I want to be. I don't know what I like. And I don't know when I'm pretending to like something. I really don't know anything about myself. I change from week to week. Last week I hated rock and emo , had big earings, curly hair and hip-hop clothes. This week I'm all about emo, dark clothes, lots of eye-liner. Everyone's calling me a poser and a fake. And I guess I am. That's ok, I don't care what they think. I just want to find the real me, but how? How do I know when I'm pretending and when it's actually THE REAL me?

I'm almost 18, shouldn't I know by know?

As long as you don't go on a killing spree like some retards do because "they didn't know who they really were", everything is perfectly fine with you :)

[view]

Can someone please give me the courge to tell her how i feel. i'm 20/F and i've been in luv with my friend Lara for a long time. she is my only friend i knew her from HS. and i dont know who to go to. Can someone tell me something to get my will to comfront her about my feelings.
please.

did this very happen to you or someone you know? explain if did.
And if yes did they like you back or not? were they still your friend?

Please and Thank you.

I was in your same situation back when I was 15 (I'm 20 now). I was in love with my best friend, but I never even considered the idea of letting her know.
I "came out" when I was 16 and I finally decided to talk to her about my feelings in a coward way -via e-mail. The next hours were torture until I got a phone call from her. She was kinda shocked at first, but we spent a couple hours together talking about it, until we decided we were going to give it a shot and started dating.
Let me tell you, we had an AMAZING relationship for 2 years.
From personal experience I think that if it's really in you, you should definitely tell her.
The best of luck.

[view]