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How do you except yourself of who you are?
I cant except myself of whom i am, i reailzed i'm bi and i dont like it. the funny thing is i dont look at women sexual like i only compare myself with them. but i'm in love with my best friend and she knows. and she might like me back. but i dont want her to because i worry of what others think. but my sisters tell me that they except me of who i am. why cant I? did that ever happen to you? how did you finally except yourself?
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hey theres nuthin wrong with wat you are. dont think bout wat other ppl think bout you i learned that teh hard way if you think bout wat they think then your just goin to b unhappy you whole life. you cant make yourself like who you are if you want to like yourself you will thats how i think it works if you wnat to change then you will but if you truely dont then you wont ok well i hope i helped and just be yoursefl and love yoursefl because im sure people like you ok well if you need anymore help write me in my inbox ok
~kate~
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Theres nothing wrong with being bi so its ok
but you cant really force your self for something else wont make you happy
to be honest i think you are happy but your just afraid of what people think and if you let them get in the way then thats not happiness just hold your head up high if your bestfriend liesk you back good enough you will be happy to be honest and im seriously honest lols i used to look in the mirror and cry ii even broke one cause i thoughti was so ugly and everyone hated me cause of my looks then ii told a few of my friends and they helped me out they were like stop juding your self they said weather ur fat ugly or hidious we will love you we dont judge you by the cover and im sure none will ever jusge you by who you are if your happy then smile dw bout others
tC hunn
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Okay, you've come to realize your bi. There is absolutely NOTHING wrong with that. There's nothing with being bi, gay, lesbian, transexual, anything. So maybe you're just worrying of what people are gonna think.
It's good your sisters accept you though, that's the best thing. Family is the hardest to get to accept you because they just can't see a family member being a certain way that they find out of the norm.
If you love someone, & they like you back, what could possibly be wrong with that? There's nothing wrong with that. All you have to realize is that people are always gonna talk. They're never going to stop. People are always going to have an opinion, a thought, and something to say. If you just shrug something negative off, you're learning to deal with people, ignorance & how to accept things.
I used to hate myself. I thought I was ugly, fat, stupid, everything negative. I did a lot of dumb things to myself. Sometimes because of what I thought, sometimes because of what people said, what they did, and because of what I was going through. But I realized -- I can't please everyone. If someone doesn't like me the way I am, then to hell with them. They're not worth my time or energy anyways, so I just got over it. If people don't like me, then so be it. I still get my 8 hours of sleep a night. And if people do like me, then great. But I'm not gonna live my life trying to please people. I live my life pleasing myself.
Be happy with yourself. There's nothing wrong with being bi, and being liked. =)
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** EDIT: Yes, I'm sorry. I meant that as an example. Sally is just a name I pulled out of my mental hat. :)**
I'm not bi, so I can't speak from experience on that part, but I will try to help you.
First off, part of accepting yourself and who you are is to stop worrying over what others think of you.
So you love your best friend, and the feeling is probably mutual. What's wrong with that? Nothing.
Yah, so there will be people who look down their nose about it. Guess what? There are just as many who will look down on you for not having what they think are top notch shoes on your feet. Meaning, there will always be people looking down on you for some reason or another.
You need to do what feels right for YOU in this life, and throw out the window what anyone else thinks about it.
If your only self-acceptance problem is that you are bi, then feel lucky. Many can't accept anything about themselves, and tend to lead sad, miserable lives because of that.
It's hard to stamp this into your way of thinking, but you need to just accept you, and like yourself for who you are without consideration of weather others are accepting you because of who you are, how you live life, or what your sexual preferences are. It's your life to lead. Why let the opinion of others dictate how you lead it if you're living in a manner that makes you truly happy?
If you worry that Sally down the road doesn't like you having a girlfriend, and you don't act on your wants because of that, how do you plan to lead a happy existence? You will be much happier to have a girlfriend and realize that if Sally doesn't like you anymore because of that, then she is shallow, and that is her own too bad.
At least you would be happy having a girlfriend, right?
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