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:.Hey x3
My name is Emily and blah blah blah.


:.I have a lot of personal, family, and friend issues of my own so a lot of times, I can probably relate to you a lot of times if you have personal, family, and/or friend issues.


:.I can offer a lot of information, help, and advice on family and friend relationships, love lives, depression, stretching/flexibility, weight loss, violin, being organized, dog training, forensics (public speaking), keeping up with school/extracurricular activities, eating disorders, writing (stories and poems), and probably a lot of other random stuff like what to drink when you eat something spicy and why.


:.Although I can help a lot of you guys on the above subjects, I don't tend to take my own advice so it can become quite an awkward/ironic/contradicting situation for me or make myself sound like a complete and utter hypocrite.


:.Hannah Whitall Smith once said, "The true secret of giving advice is, after you have honestly given it, to be perfectly indifferent whether it is taken or not, and never persist in trying to set people right." I agree 100% of it. Advice is advice and it is given when asked for. I give it and I leave it at that. It's up to the questioner/advice seeker to take it.


:.That point leads onto my philosophies in advice giving:
1. Advice is given when asked and no time else, unless your friend is about to irritate a black bear, then you should definitely advice your friend to back away and run for his or her life.
2. Advice is not critical, not judgmental, and definitely not biased. Advice is advice and should remain neutral.
3. Advice is to help, not to get 5s on every answer. As a result, my advice ends up being quite blunt and frank with a hint of rambling mixed in.

If you have general questions on the topics I can be a lot of help in (as listed above), most likely, they will be in my FORUM

If it is not, you can inbox me to request me to put it up.

:.If you want to ask me a question directly...
a)if it is not urgent and can wait a week or so, inbox me.
b)if it is an urgent question such as "I'm being eaten by a shark! What do I do???" first of all, I'm quite amazed that you can type while being eaten and second of all, e-mail me at cancel.life@gmail.com. I will answer you by midnight of that day (or if it's 11:55PM, probably by 3PM the following day).

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when you masterbate can you get pregant off of it and what happens when you on your period and you masterbate at the same time.

Well, first of all you cannot get pregnant from masturbating. You need a male's sperms and a females eggs in order for a person to be pregnant and I'm sure all people don't have sperms and eggs in their bodies simultaneously from birth. So you can NOT get pregnant from masturbating.

Second, nothing really happens if your masturbate on your period. Except it's pretty disgusting and unsanitary. Your periods are ways for your body to get rid of excess waste...

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Hi i'm 5'3 (iunno if i did that right, 5 feet, 3 inches) and I weigh 137 lbs.

I want to healthily lose atleast 17 to 22 lbs by either the end of July or summer.

I walk/jog 30 minutes atleast 3 times a week, and am planning to take dance during the summer.

So is it possible? including if i exclude dance.

You might want to take that walk/jog up to a run sometimes. Do yoga, pilates, aerobics, etc at least 2 times a week and switch it up.

Also, you MUST eat healthily. Limit junk food, mayo, peanut butter, and sodas [even if they're diet]. Stick to low fat milk and water as your source of drink. Eat lots of veggies and water to keep you filled up too.

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I had unprotected sex (I know, I know..stupid me) about 1 day after my period...Well I did it twice, the day after my period, and the day after that. My boyfriend didn't actually ejaculate inside me, we pulled out long before hand, but I know the risks of precum. However, since it was so close AFTER my period, was it possible really that I was ovulating? Some insight is needed!!

Unprotected sex = chance of pregnancy.

No matter when--you're still gonna risk the chances of getting pregnant.

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what are good exercises other than push-ups to build your arm muscles? (15/f)

Pull ups
Use barbells and dumbells and lift weight.
Move furniture around [ask your parents first]
Carry around your txtbooks at school instead of puting them in the bag.

And you can also do wall push ups. It's like push ups except you're standing and your palms are on the wall =)

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f/15

Well as you notice the summer is so close
I got a new boyfriend at the end of June last year
We are still together
Last summer i wansnt really comfortable with him
Until maybe November 2006
So we've never seen each other in bathing suits
But we've seen each other naked
Now im super self conscious about my tummy
Its not huge!
But its not super tiny either
He loves my stomach and doesn't think im fat
And people always tell me im not
But i always suck in my tummy
So it looks smaller
But i can't really do that with a bathing suit
Cuz its looks gross
Now i cant wear shirts or a bathing suit that covers my tummy
Because my boyfriends a pain in the ass
It has to look really good
Its not huge its not even that big
I'm 5'6 weigh 153 i believe or 160
I work out
By doing sit ups
I do 10 then stopp then 10 more
I do that about 5 times
I need something else
I have till the end of june around the 25th
Anyone have anything
No pills and i can't join a gym
Im not running
Or trying out for sports teams
Anything???


Sorry it was so longg :|

If you're not going to run, you have a problem there. If you want to flatten your stomach, you must do something other than specific/target work outs. You need to run, ride bikes, aerobics, and do work outs that are targeting various parts of your body at once. Running is the best thing and if you're not going to do it, you're not going to see much results. Running burns fat from various parts of your body so it will help you lose the excess fat. Then you should work on target workouts such as crunches and curl ups to start and get the belly in shape and tone it.

Also, you need to eat healthy. Limit junk food and fatty foods. Drink water and low fat milk and avoid sodas and energy drinks. Pick healthy foods, eat moderately, and exercise.

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14/f
i recently switched school, because of my group of friends. i came home every single day crying. it was horrible. they were known as the 'mean/plastic girls in school' i liked them, intill, they would start fighting with me. because i was hanging out with other people then the other 5 girls in our group. they then would stop inviting me places, like they didnt invite me anywhere. and i was friends with these girls since 2nd grade!!!

anyways, once i switched schools it was great, i made tons of new ones, i only stayed friends with one from my old school, and we were like BEST friends. but then all of a sudden, shes turning into one of them. her and all of them keep calling me. and saying i said things that i didnt!! and they usually always have done that since i switched, but i didnt care, i just didnt answer.

im so confused! what should i do?

Well, you should definitely ignore these girls. If they call, hang up on them or block their numbers. Block their screen names/make a new one. etc. Just disassociate yourself form them completely. As for your bff, try and keep a good connection with her. tell her that you're the best friend that you're thankful for and that you don't want to lose her to them.

If she turns on you too, don't give her any second chances and move on because she's not your bff if she does turn on you

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Not sure if this is in the right category but whatever. I'm getting my bellybutton pierced in a couple of weeks and I need to know the risks involved. Please only answer if you've actually gotten it pierced. Also what's the pain like compared to getting your ear pierced. Thanks.

I haven't gotten it pierced and I will not until I'm 18 and can get it pierced professionally. But I know one too many things about piercings so here goes:

If you get it professionally pierced, you're going to have to find a renown place with very sanitary conditions involved.

If you're going to pierce it yourself or by a friend who isn't licensed...do NOT use a safety pin, sewing needle, earring back, etc. You MUST use a hollow needle, known as the piercing stud. Safety pins and sewing needles and such are not hollow needles. While they may get the job done, here are few things:
They are not the best quality metals/not the best sort of metals to use to pierce/on new piercings.
They will only PUSH the skin around and NOT cut through the skin and WILL result in terrible scarring.

Also, if you're getting it pierced unprofessionally, you must, must, must make sure everything is uber sanitary. Do not burn the stud. It doesn't get rid of many germs. Get alcohol from CVS or Food Lion and dunk it in there. Make sure you've cleaned your belly area and clean the area with the alcohol. Wash your hands very thoroghly and rub it with alcohol also.

Anyways, my point is that everything has to be VERY sterile because in addition to belly button piercings 95% of the time getting infected, if the equipment used is not sanitary, you're gonna have some major problems there.

Some risks are:
Painful and potentially serious infection of the abdomen and blood poisoning, improperly sterilised equipment can spread infections.
An amateur body piercer can also cause nerve damage or scarring, infection can still occur even when properly sterilised equipment is used. Infections occur very often with belly piercings so make sure you treat it when it becomes infected.

An infected piercing hurts, looks red and swollen, can weep and may feel hot to the touch. If your piercing looks infected, see a medical professional or body piercer for treatment.

Also, you need to keep it clean as if it was an infection bomb ready to explode. You should definitely take some Iboprufen ahead of time to minimize pain and swelling. To speed up the healing process, soak the piercing in salt/water solution--mix it up in a cup and flip it upside down and hold it on your piercing for a while. Wearing loose clothing and stay as least active as possible to reduce chances of injury there.

The pain--hmm, according to my friend who has gotten her belly pierced--it hurts more than a ear piercing. The actual process should hurt moderately but after that [and a week later] the pain should be gone along with the swelling.

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1.)does anyone know deep life questions?
ex.People say everyone deserves a second chance, but what if you never had a first chance?

2.)does anyone know deep love questions or any websites that has a deep love questions?

ex.Could you date someone who has been only your friend for a long time?

3.)any deep questions about friendship?


thank you so much

1)What is the purpose of our being in life?
Why is it that people are discriminated against just for what they believe, think, or look like?
Why are some people so lucky while some are starving to death?
Do you think there is life after this life?
Reincarnation?
Do people deserve second chances and do they really get second chances in real life?
Is life fair or unfair? Are things meant to happen for a reason?
2)What/How do you describe love? Is it real?
Do you think that there is such a thing as a soul mate?
Do you think that there is more than one person that you're suppose to be with for the rest of your life?
How do you know if you're in love and if it will last?
3)How do you know if someone is your real friend?
How important is friendship?
Define friend/friendship
Why do you think friends are so important?
How do you know if you can trust a friend?
Why is it so hard to find that one, true, loyal person that will remain honest and supportive for you throughout life?

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okay i have this friend named kimberly
ever since she has been going out with this guy that i USE to like
she has been acting so stuck up
she is only in FIFTH GRADE for crying out loud
we don't need boyfriends
anyway
she only chases and tortures her boyfriend
and that is what she calls flirting
ew
weird
anywayy
i told her today at recess i dun wanna be her friend anymore
why?
because i dun like friends that forget all about their girlfriends
for a guy
so until she starts acting right
we can't be friends
she might call me this after noon
what should i say?

Um, are you even old enough to be on this site?
Don't listen to the columnist below. It will just get things to get worse.

Face it, girls are guy crazy and when we get boyfriends, that who we think about one second too much. From what I've read, I think you're a little jealous. When she calls, just calmly dimiss her. Tell her that you are not in the mood to talk right now and that you have to go. Tell her that you're upset with this whole thing because you don't feel like you're her friend anymore.

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As of Today, I'm becoming a vegetarian. So far its been good. The only problem I will probably is the fact that I've been so used to eating chicken and turkey. Everyday at Lunch, I would normally eat a wrap with Turkey in it. and then sometimes I would get a healthy choice or lean cousine, and that would ALWAYS have some sort of meat in it. wither its meat sauce, chicken, etc.
What kind of foods can I eat instead of what i normally eat? What foods have enough protein? I'm also trying to loose weight, if that helps. but its not the reason i'm becoming vegetarian.
Oh, I'm 16/f. if that helps.

Sorry if that was long. and Thank you in advance.

I'm a vegetarian so I can help =]

Milk, yogurt, whole grain, soy products, protein bars--they have a pretty good amount of protein in there. And the good thing is that most, you can get at school.

The hard thing about becoming a vegetarian is that since you'r so used to eating meat, your body gets hungry easily without the meat in there all of a sudden. Then it causes you to choose the wrong food and over indulge. So watch out and stay alert so you don't eat unhealthy food. So eat hardy things like whole wheat, 7 grain breads, lots of veggies, etc.

Packing your own lunch will help the most. Ask your mom to buy you whole grain/wheat bread and make a little egg salad sandwhich, jam of some sort, etc. But watch out for peanut butter--if you're going to use it, get low fat ones, because otherwise, it would be like slapping fat on the bread. Get some veggies in there too like carrots, broccoli, etc. Eggs--boiled--have good source of protein, too. Just make sure that you take out the yolk because that's where all the cholesterol is.

Things that I enjoy eating that is absolutly meat free:

Lima beans
Boiled eggs [without the yolk]
Fat free yogurt
Fruits and veggies
Veggie Bites [it's like chicken nuggest except there's no chicken in there. My mom buys them from Food Lion so check in your area]
Cheese ravioli
Mushroom soup
Veggie brugers [Although this isn't that healthy, they are delicious. I get mine from Burger King. Ask for a veggie burger without mayo unless you prefer mayo]
Veggie patties! [Costco will have a variety of them =)]
etc.

Some things you might want to know, though:
Watch out for foods with gelatin in it! It's made from fat from animal elbows. Pop tarts frostings has gelatin and so does Jello and a lot of other foods.

READ THE INGREDIENTS! Even if you don't think any meat or some sort will be in there, there will always be foods with chicken broth and things like that mixed in.

Eat healthy foods and stay away from junk/unhealthy foods. Eat healthy foods that you know will fill you up.

Get enough protein from milk, soy products, eggs, beans, and tofu.

Allrecipes.com has millions of recipes you can get for free and many recipes are dedicated to vegetarians =)

Good luck and if you have any more questions, inbox me =) I can probably help you because I converted into a vegetarian not too long ago and we're in similar situations =)

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i eat healthy so that is covered. but how can i get a really flat stomach? i do atleast 75-100 crunches a day and sometimes more. i know thats probably not enough but what else can i do? and i have this roll under my bell button that WONT go away. is it because (i heard) when woman have kids its for extra skin and stuff. is that true? what can i do to get a flat tummy, soon?

It would help if you told us your age but I'm guessing you're a teenager.

You CAN have a completely flat stomach but it depends on what exercises you do. You can't expect to do just crunches and get a flat stomach. You need to run often and do crunches with a combination of other exercises to LOSE the little fat there. THEN whne you start to do crunches, you will start to tone your stomach.

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how long will it take me to lose 20 lbs? i'm 140 right now ... 5'6"

You should be around 130lbs actually.

It really depends on you and other factors.
How well are you going to eat? What exercises? Are they vigorous or not? Are you doing them correctly? How often? Are you going to be dedicate?

If you stick to a healthy eating plan and exercise regularly with the right type of exercise AND do it correctly, you should lose 10 pounds in 2-4 months?

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I need your help deciding what the ideal menu for a public dinner would be.

Not knowing what would be the best dishes to serve is making this an impossible task.

If you will tell me your favorite foods, or point me to your favorite recipes, it would really help a lot.

You can list as many things as you like. They don't have to be fancy things at all. I am all about the comfort food baby! :)

This will be a mixed group of people so I would like to have something for everyone.

Cooking for a banquet is not as hard as trying to figure out WHAT to cook!

Everyone will receive feedback.

Thank you!

P.S. If all that was a lot to digest, pun intended, here is a summary: Please list all your favorite foods.

Well, I'm a vegetarian so I don't know if I can help with this but here goes:

Fruits likes grapes, apples, pineapples, oranges, etc.
Vegetables of any sort with a dressing on the side. Salads, too, of course.
Cheese!
Mac & Cheese
Hashbrowns/fries
Spanish rice
Quesadillas [sp?]
Omlettes
Stuffed mushroom caps
Cucumber sandwhiches
Scones, cakes, brownies, cookies, those goodies.
Grapes & cheese
Pudding

You should go to allrecipes.com and look for foods on there, too. But be sure to look at the ratings [stars] before you pick a recipe =)

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Ok, so I'm going on my first date ever this Saturday night. Exciting!! Well, I'm not assuming that on the first date I'm going to kiss this guy, but it doesn't hurt to be prepared, right?

I have never been told I have bad breath, but that's something I'm COMPLETELY paranoid about, all the time. I brush my teeth every day, of course, and I chew gum constantly, but I'm always worried about it.

We're going to dinner, so I know not to order garlic or any of that stuff, but is there anything I can do to make sure I'm minty fresh the entire date?

Sorry if this is a weird question. I worry about the most random things.

Don't worry
It's not a weird question.
Face it, it's the question that lingers on EVERY SINGLE pERSON'S MIND

Haha, first of all, brush your teeth really well. Use a tongue scraper is you have one and mouthwash. Do NOT chew gum. Believe it or not, it will amke your breath smell weird because you're producing all that saliva. Mint and those listerine strips should work fine. Erm, don't order food that has strong ssmell. You should be fine =)

Good luck and have fun!

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ok,so me and my bf are okay and stuff, but the thing is we have terrible phone and aim conversations, we're good when its in person but on phone/aim we're both wicked shy. and i have like nooo idea what to talk about! any idea to make things more interesting?

Start ranting about your day, bring up old vacations, play truth or dare...well, dare isn't an option. Talk about stupid stuff to break the ice. Once you hit a topic you both can talk about, it will open up other conversations in a snap =)

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my boyfriend and i have been together for almost 7 months.im very happy with him & hes very happy with me.
but we havent done anything more than makeout & feel up.
(btw were 14).
i need knew things to do (like sexual things).
i might let him finger me but im not sure.
i dont wanna go past that.
i want like games like "nervous" if u now what that is.
thanksss.

Strip poker? Play a game involving stripping.
Erm, go ahead with the fingering, hj, bj. Dry humping seems to be frequent nowadays.

You can't really plan these things because they just occur naturally. So the next time you guys make out, talk dirty to him and lead him on. But don't force yourself to do something you don't want to because you feel pressured to lead on.

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hey so tomorrow i have the classes, when i see this guy in the hallway cause its the day i always see him.

eh i dont like him but i want him to notice me

and i want my eyes to stand out
im part asian...
theres my eye underneath haha
http://i5.tinypic.com/62zcfvd.jpg
yeah how can i make my eyelashes look longer? and prettier?

thanks!

Well, I'm Asian too
Use a good brand mascara designed especially to make eyelashes appear fuller and longer. Then there's the fake lashes you can put on but those are weird and annoying.

I use blue eyeliner pencil on the bottom and dark eyeliner on the top. Use some unique color to bring your eyes out =)

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so this is a kinda weird question ... but i'm dieting and watermelon seems to fill me up really quickly. i don't think it can have too much sugar since it's a fruit, but why does it make me so full? i know it's mainly water, but how much water can it have... because drinking water doesn't flil me up that much

You're actually wrong. Fruits contain a lot of natural sugar in them so even though fruits may be healthy food, they're not good to overeat on.

And watermelons actually do contain a pretty nifty amount of water. Add to that the watermelon part and you're going to be full pretty quickly but that fullness will disappear pretty soon.

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how do you make a strawberry banana smoothie? like steps to make it and what makes it taste bette than jus ice, water, strawberries and bananas.

You should go to allrecipes.com

Type in strawberry banana smoothie and you should a gazillion recipes that are awesome =)

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um hi me nd my g/f have been d8in 4 a while now(7 months) nd nothing new iz happening nd i m really in love with this girl but itz gettin a little boaring i meen i dont wanna break up with her but i think sumtin new needs 2 happen

First of all, learn the English and its grammar components.

Just talk to her. Ask her if she's comfortable moving to the next step. But don't force her to do anything she doesn't want to. Give her time. And in the meanwhile, do something out of the ordinary...instead of the boring dinner and movie, go ice-skating, amusment parks, food fights, swimming, etc.

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